Your Soul Food for May 27 2022: Wonder is the Beginning of Wisdom

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Wonder
  • Self-Care
  • Kid Care
  • Pet Care

Wonder

A Flying Dog?

This guy is amazing!

This Dog Goes Paragliding With His Owner And Loves it! | The Dodo Soulmates – YouTube

Self-Care

A Psychologist explains why negativity dominates your daily thoughts, and what to do about it:

Great practical advice

Why negativity dominates your daily thoughts and what to do about it (fastcompany.com)

Kid Care

The Kids are NOT Ok:

Conclusion. Good Science is not enough. We need Activism!

The kids are not ok. Today I went to give a climate talk at… | by Julia Steinberger | May, 2022 | Medium

Pet Care

2022 Walk for Animals:

Enjoy these cute pets and their caregivers!

We’re so proud to support the San Diego Humane Society’s Walk for Animals

Whose a good dog? You ALL are…

https://vimeo.com/simplerandsimpler/review/711836717/531dbe215b

Thanks this week go to Chris B, Paula C, & the Mission Fed Team.

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Wonder is the beginning of wisdom.”

– Greek Proverb

Your Soul Food for 4/8/’22: From the Great Resignation to the Great Rejuvenation!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Many of us have read the story about 3 people doing what looks like the same job, but when asked what they are doing:

  • One says they are laying bricks
  • The second says he is building a wall
  • And the third says he is creating a masterpiece!

Same identical work, but experienced so differently.

How can this be?

This story was made popular in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The story is actually not by Stephen Covey, but because he sold over 15 million copies of the book it is often attributed to him.

Proper attribution notwithstanding, it does draw attention to our relationship to our world of work and invites us to explore if we experience what we do; simply as a job, part of a career, or a purposeful calling?

When we are able to find meaning and purpose in our work, the mundane can become profound and we can turn the usual into extraordinary, often leaving a legacy that lives on well past our lifetime.

Many today are revisiting their relationship to work.

Perhaps we can learn from history…

The Basilica de la Sagrada Familia, designed by the world famous architect Antoni Gaudi is a UNESCO World Heritage Site and described as, “the most extraordinary personal interpretation of Gothic architecture since the Middle Ages.”

Construction on the Basilica began on March 19, 1882 which is almost exactly 140 years ago.

Less than 25% of the Basilica was finished during Gaudi’s lifetime, and they are still working on it- though it was scheduled to be completed this year but was delayed due to the pandemic.

I am sure those working on it over the century, also viewed themselves as brick layers, wall builders and masterpiece producers- and they were all right.

It is after all all a matter of your frame of reference and your perspective.

What is often missing in the story, is that everyone focuses on the bricks, but people forget the mortar, and the mortar is just as important as the bricks!

The mortar is the social capital or glue that binds us together, when we know we are working together for a common purpose, when we know others have got our backs, when trust and transparency and even vulnerability become critical ingredients in the mix. As Peter Drucker famously reminds us, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast”.

In a time when our relationship to our work is being seriously revisited, let’s take the time to both find meaning and purpose in our work, as well as, build our bench strength, grow our franchise value, and make sure we are playing together not playing each other by strengthening the glue that binds us.

Turns out the Great Resignation may be followed by the Great Regret as many employees that jumped ship, quickly realized that “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, the grass is greener where you water it!

So today, let’s all attend to our purpose, invest in our social capital and let’s keep serving our stakeholders with care and consideration.

Here is to the Great Rejuvenation

Live, Love, Learn, Laugh & Leave a Legacy!

Love All,

Neville

Enlightened Self Interest-

How to Handle Stress Situations Better Than Will Smith
Use the S.O.S. method when triggered for better outcomes.

How to Handle Stress Situations Better Than Will Smith | Inc.com

Etiquette expert says we’ve overlooked Lady Gaga’s great kindness toward Liza Minnelli
While Will Smith’s shocking slap of Chris Rock during the Oscars broadcast last Sunday has been big news, one etiquette expert says far too many people missed a beautiful gesture shown on stage that same night by Lady Gaga toward a visibly flustered Liza Minnelli.

Etiquette expert says we’ve overlooked Lady Gaga’s great kindness toward Liza Minnelli | Fox News

Try Something New for 30 Days: (3 minutes)

Is there something you’ve always meant to do, wanted to do, but just … haven’t?

Matt Cutts suggests: Try it for 30 days.

This short, lighthearted talk offers a neat way to think about setting and achieving goals.

Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days | TED Talk

How Gratitude Rewires the Brain: (10 minutes)

When a psychologist who studies well-being ends up with a brain tumor, what happens when she puts her own research into practice? Christina Costa goes beyond the “fight” narrative of cancer — or any formidable personal journey — to highlight the brain benefits of an empowering alternative to fostering resilience in the face of unexpected challenges: gratitude.

Christina Costa: How gratitude rewires your brain | TED Talk

Protect Our Planet-

The deceptively simple plan to replenish California’s groundwater
The state pumps too much groundwater, especially during droughts. Now, it’s learning to refill the overdrawn bucket. “It’s the simplest math in the world,” says one scientist.

The deceptively simple plan to replenish California’s groundwater (nationalgeographic.com)

1,000-year-old oaks used to create ‘super forest’
Could an experimental forest hold the answers to meeting the UK’s big tree planting ambitions?

1,000-year-old oaks used to create ‘super forest’ – BBC News

Eight Endangered Places We Can Still Save
Half a degree Celsius will make all the difference for these famous and far-flung destinations.

8 Endangered Places We Can Still Save From Climate Change | GQ

The Silver Years:

My doctor asked if anyone in my family suffered from mental illness and I said, “No, we all seem to enjoy it.”

Just once, I want a username and password prompt to say, “Close enough.”

Being an adult is the dumbest thing I have ever done.

I’m a multitasker. I can listen, ignore and forget all at the same time!

Retirement to do list: Wake up. -I Nailed it!

People who wonder if the glass is half empty or half full miss the point. The glass is refillable.

I don’t have grey hair. I have wisdom highlights.

Sometimes it takes me all day to get nothing done.

I don’t trip, I do random gravity checks.

One minute you’re young and fun. Next, you’re turning down the car stereo to see better.

I’d grow my own food if only I could find bacon seeds.

Some people are like clouds, once they disappear it’s a beautiful day.

Some people you’re glad to see coming; some people you’re glad to see going.

Common sense is not a gift. It’s a punishment because you have to deal with everyone who doesn’t have it.

I came. I saw. I forgot what I was doing. Retraced my steps. Got lost on the way back. Now I have no idea what’s going on.

If you can’t think of a word, say “I forgot the English word for it.” That way people will think you’re bilingual instead of an idiot.

I’m at a place in my life where errands are starting to count as going out.

I don’t always go the extra mile, but when I do it’s because I missed my exit.

I don’t mean to brag, but I finished my 14-day diet food supply in 3 hours and 20 minutes.

I may not be that funny or athletic or good looking or smart or talented. … I forgot where I was going with this.

Having plans sounds like a good idea until you have to put on clothes and leave the house.

It’s weird being the same age as old people.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be older… This is not what I expected.

Life is like a helicopter. I don’t know how to operate a helicopter either.

It’s probably my age that tricks people into thinking I’m an adult.

Never sing in the shower! Singing leads to dancing, dancing leads to slipping, and slipping leads to paramedics seeing you naked.  So, remember… don’t sing!

I see people my age mountain climbing. I feel good just getting my leg through my underwear without losing my balance.

We all get heavier as we get older, because there’s a lot more information in our heads. That’s my story anyway.

Thanks this week go to Alan D, Jack A and TedX SD, Marlaine C and Parenting 2.0, Larry H,  and Rejuvenators Everywhere!

Please Pay it Forward

Love,

Neville

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“Talent hits a target no one else can hit.

Genius hits a target no one else can see.”

–Arthur Schopenhauer

Your Soul Food for April 1st 2022: YOUR Purpose Is No Joke

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

T.H.I.N.K

Before we speak let your words pass through these 5 gates

Is it True?

Is it Helpful?

Is it Inspiring?

Is it Necessary?
Is it KIND?

Jail Break Leadership:

Here is a recent podcast of me with my friend and colleague Jeff Blanton a pioneer and thought leader in the Conscious Capitalism space. Unlike the rest of us, when Jeff’s deep self-reflection recognized a “smoldering discontent” he decided to do something about it, changing his life and changing the world! If you are doing purpose work or need to operational it in your world of work, talk to Jeff!

The Soul of Business – Neville Billimoria – Jailbreak Leadership

Navigating Tradeoffs: How Purpose Becomes a Company’s ‘Lighthouse in the Storm’

Navigating Tradeoffs: How Purpose Becomes a Company’s ‘Lighthouse in the Storm’ – HBS Working Knowledge

Larry Fink’s Annual 2022 Letter to CEOs:

In today’s globally interconnected world, a company must create value for and be valued by its full range of stakeholders in order to deliver long-term value for its shareholders.

Larry Fink’s Annual 2022 Letter to CEOs | BlackRock

4 Principles of Purpose-Driven Board Leadership:

The Four Principles of Purpose-Driven Board Leadership (ssir.org)

On a lighter note-

Watch as the crowd reacts when a blind basketball player makes a free throw
High school junior Jules Hoogland wowed the crowd at a home game this week.

Watch as the crowd reacts when a blind basketball player makes a free throw | GMA (goodmorningamerica.com)

WATCH: Paraplegic Golfer Sinks Hole-In-One For the Ages at Torrey Pines
Most golf fans would say Tiger Woods’ playoff-clinching putt on the 72nd hole of the 2008 U.S. Open is the greatest shot of all time at Torrey Pines Golf Course. That’s because they haven’t seen this one-armed ace from Abdul Nevarez.

Paraplegic Golfer Sinks Hole-In-One For the Ages at Torrey Pines – NBC 7 San Diego (nbcsandiego.com)

Limbo Roller-Skating??

Check out the unbelievable strength of these limbo roller skaters. I’m quite surprised this is humanly possible…

 (Click here to view

Thanks this week go to Chris B for the limbo skaters vid, to all you Kind and Conscious Leaders Everywhere!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Talent hits a target no one else can hit.

Genius hits a target no one else can see.”

–Arthur Schopenhauer

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

You Are Resilient:

Wow did I have a BBBAAADDDD Monday.  Another cloudy day, my weight went up, some calls didn’t go well, I spent the day telling myself what a terrible leader I am, got slammed by an e-mail where I felt someone was questioning my ability to do my job, and that ended with a friend of mine letting me know that she got COVID and is very afraid.  What a day!  Ever had one like that?  

I woke up this morning thinking – how the heck am I going to be positive for others when I didn’t sleep, I don’t feel like anyone cares or sees how hard I am trying, I can’t do anything to help my friends, and the world is in such a bad place (in other words – pity party in full swing – really more than full swing, kind of like – took over Disneyland, had Beyoncé sing in person, and had a cocktail named after me, kind of over the top pity party).     

Then this showed up in my feed…

 When I saw this, I remembered the story of the Farmer and the Donkey.  Thought that maybe some of you may be going through a rough patch as well.  If you are, you may benefit from this as well.  If you’ve heard it before, well, I know it helped me to read it again. Maybe keep it handy for a time when you feel like you are heading out to your own pity party, or we can have a party together (socially distanced with masks on) and read it to each other.  😊  

 The Farmer and the Donkey

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway-it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all of his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement, he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

A MacDonald’s Employee Jumped Through a Window and Saved a Customer. Here’s What Every Leader Can Learn:
Sydney Raley, a 15-year-old with autism, likely saved the woman’s life.

A McDonald’s Employee Jumped Through a Window to Save a Customer. Here’s What Every Leader Can Learn | Inc.com

The Boldest Design Proposals of 2021:
Robot forest rangers, floating houses and other fascinating ways to look at the future… 

Boldest design proposals of 2021: How architects, designers and entrepreneurs are envisioning the future – CNN Style

5 Lessons on Spirituality, Activism and Humility I Learned From George Harrison
George Harrison stood as an example of modesty and humility, and his legacy is one that I think we can all learn from.

Lessons on Spirituality, Activism and Humility From George Harrison – Rolling Stone

“An unhealed person can find offense in pretty much anything someone does.

A healed person understands that the actions of others have nothing to do with them.

Each day you get to decide which one you will be.” – Unknown

18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium Jan 27th 2022 (Virtual):

Please join me at the 18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium on January 27th!

I will be presenting on Leading Consciously with Purpose- Especially During a Pandemic, alongside over 30 local and nationally recognized experts in nonprofit leadership, governance, and more!

Hope to see you there…

Website: 18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium – School of Leadership and Education Sciences – University of San Diego

Register now! https://buff.ly/3DbidkS

Thanks this week go to Angelica G-W, Brad W, Chris B, Kurt C, and Sherry S.

Please pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

“We’re still living with the old paradigm of age as an arch. That’s the old metaphor:

You’re born, you peak at midlife and decline into decrepitude.

A more appropriate metaphor for aging is a staircase.

The upward ascension of the human spirit, bringing us into wisdom, wholeness, and authenticity.”

– Jane Fonda

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Soul Food for Friday Oct 21st 2011: Philosophy, Creativity, Thanks and some Words of Wisdom from the Dalai Lama

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week’s submissions include a Thought Piece on Life, a European commercial that rewards Bravery and models Creativity, an opportunity to extend your thanks and invites others to do the same and some insights from the Dalai Lama to round out the week. Click the links below to view the content.

Philosophy for Old Age: A Thought Piece on Life

European Marketing: Rewarding Bravery

The 4th Annual Thank a Teacher campaign has launched, and this year we’ve gone green—thank you notes can now be submitted online. Click the link below to view the email that Mission Fed members received as a reminder to show appreciation to the teachers that do so much in their mission to educate.

I’m Thankful for My Teacher Because…

To your Well-being…

Love,

Neville

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”– Albert Einstein

Soul Food for the last Friday in September 2011

Recently, as part of our Leadership development efforts we have
been taking a battery of evaluations—some that use different colors to
identify our traits, and others that use different letters as short-hand to
help us better understand our attributes. These can be quite insightful in
helping us to be more self-aware of our preferred learning/communication styles
as well as those of others, so we can both apply the Platinum Rule: “Do unto
others as others would have done unto them
and affirm the diversity
and differences that a well-rounded team can bring to bear in creating a high
performance, high accountability & high fulfillment culture.

Not surprisingly, the people part as contrasted with
attention to process or strictly delivering results is something
that is second nature for me.

In coming up with a motto to represent our group in one session,
we chose, “people don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you
care”.

This week’s soul food strikes
right at the heart of the matter…

*Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

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A four-year-old child, whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman, who  had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old Gentleman’s’ yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy just said, ‘Nothing, I just helped him cry.’

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Teacher Debbie Moon’s first graders were discussing a picture of a family. One little boy in the picture had a different hair color than the other members. One of her students suggested that he was adopted.

A little girl said, ‘I know all about adoption, I was adopted..’

‘What does it mean to be adopted?’, asked another child.

‘It means’, said the girl, ‘that you grew in your mommy’s heart instead of her tummy!’

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On my way home one day, I stopped to watch a Little League base ball game that was being played in a park near my home. As I sat down behind the bench on the
first-base line, I asked one of the boys what the score was.

‘We’re behind 14 to nothing,’ he answered with a smile.

‘Really,’ I said. ‘I have to say you don’t look very discouraged.’

‘Discouraged?’, the boy asked with a puzzled look on his face.

‘Why should we be discouraged? We haven’t been up to bat yet.’

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Whenever I’m disappointed with my spot in life, I stop and think about little Jamie Scott. Jamie was trying out for a part in the school play. His mother told me that he’d set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen.

On the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after school. Jamie rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement..  ‘Guess what,
Mom,’ he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson
to me….’I’ve been chosen to clap and cheer.’

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An eye witness account from New York City , on a cold day in December, some years ago: A little boy, about 10-years-old, was standing before a shoe store on the roadway, barefooted, peering through the window, and shivering with cold.

A lady approached the young boy and said, ‘My, but you’re in such deep thought staring in that window!’

‘I was asking God to give me a pair of shoes,’ was the boy’s reply.

The lady took him by the hand, went into the store, and asked the clerk to get half a dozen
pairs of socks for the boy. She then asked if he could give her a basin of
water and a towel. He quickly brought them to her.

She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and, removing her gloves, knelt down, washed his little feet, and dried them with the towel.

By this time, the clerk had returned with the socks.. Placing a pair upon the boy’s feet, she
purchased him a pair of shoes. She tied up the remaining pairs of socks and gave them to him.

She patted him on the head and said,
‘No doubt, you will be more comfortable now.’

As she turned to go, the astonished kid caught her by the hand, and looking up into her face, with tears in his eyes, asked her, ‘Are you God’s wife?’

Happy Soul Food Friday! – Friday, September 23, 2011.

The Autumnal Equinox is today Friday, September 23, 2011.

It’s one of only two times in a year that the day and night are of equal length. (Light and Dark in Balance)
The Equinox reminds us about the passage of time-change, the motion of the Earth-change, and the different seasons-change. (Change is certain, Growth is optional)

Along with the Winter and Summer Solstices they demarcate the four seasons.
Today marks the start of Autumn (Fall)  for us in the Northern Hemisphere.

For the Southern Hemisphere, it’s reversed. Spring has just begun… (North and South in Balance)
Today the Sun will begin to rise at the South Pole after six months of darkness (Keep moving into the Light)

Today when the Sun passes straight overhead, at the “zenith” for people on the equator, like in Kenya or Ecuador, there simply aren’t any shadows. (An opposite of Emerson’s Quote: “When it’s dark enough you can see the stars”, “When it’s fully light there ARE no shadows!”)
On this day, the Sun rises directly in the East, and sets directly in the West. (the Rest of the year this varies slightly…)
So on this naturally balanced day may you find your balance and center, in tune and in harmony with mother nature.
Note: Thanks Billy for your inspiration…

Here are some tender vittles to warm the cockles of your heart and inspire mastery in all of us.

The main course is a feel good story captures the importance of manifesting your dreams and achieving your success. ( A goal is a dream with a deadline)

It is never too late…

The  first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged  us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look  around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned  around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a  smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, ‘Hi  handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give  you a hug?’
I laughed and enthusiastically responded,  ‘Of course you may!’ and she gave me a giant  squeeze.. 


‘Why are you in college at such a young,  innocent age?’ I asked.
She jokingly replied, ‘I’m here  to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of  kids…’
‘No seriously,’ I asked. I was curious what  may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her  age.
‘I always dreamed of having a college education  and now I’m getting one!’ she told me. 


After class we  walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate  milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the  next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I  was always mesmerized listening to this ‘time machine’ as she shared  her wisdom and experience with me..
Over the course of  the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends  wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the  attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living  it up. 


At the end of the semester we invited Rose to  speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us.  She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to  deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on  the floor.
Frustrated  and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply  said, ‘I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this  whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let  me just tell you what I know.’ 


As we laughed she  cleared her throat and began, ‘ We do not stop playing because we  are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are  only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving  success. You have tolaugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to  have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We  have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know  it!
There is a huge difference between growing older  and growing up.
If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will  turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in  bed for a year and never do anything I will turn  eighty-eight.
Anybody! Can grow older. That doesn’t  take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding  opportunity in change.

Have no regrets.
The elderly  usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we  did not do. The only people who fear death are those with  regrets..’
She concluded her speech by courageously  singing ‘The Rose.’
She challenged each of us to study  the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year’s end  Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those months  ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in  her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended  her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example  that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly  be.

REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY.  GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get. We make a  Life by what we give.

The second dish is a musical interlude with the Andre Rieu Orchestra from Holland and a thirteen year old virtuoso Melissa Venema playing Taps in its entirety.

The Original version of Taps was called Last Post , and was written by Daniel Butterfield in 1801as you will hear in this clip. In 1862 it was shortened to 24 notes and re-named Taps.

http://www.flixxy.com/trumpet-solo-melissa-venema.htm

Finally, to see “be the ball” move from a mental concept of being in the flow experience to really happening, check out this video.

Note: Thanks Larry for sending this around…

May you be one with all that brings meaning, purpose, love and laughter to your life and keep the change!

Pay it forward…

Neville