Your Soul Food for 4/8/’22: From the Great Resignation to the Great Rejuvenation!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Many of us have read the story about 3 people doing what looks like the same job, but when asked what they are doing:

  • One says they are laying bricks
  • The second says he is building a wall
  • And the third says he is creating a masterpiece!

Same identical work, but experienced so differently.

How can this be?

This story was made popular in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The story is actually not by Stephen Covey, but because he sold over 15 million copies of the book it is often attributed to him.

Proper attribution notwithstanding, it does draw attention to our relationship to our world of work and invites us to explore if we experience what we do; simply as a job, part of a career, or a purposeful calling?

When we are able to find meaning and purpose in our work, the mundane can become profound and we can turn the usual into extraordinary, often leaving a legacy that lives on well past our lifetime.

Many today are revisiting their relationship to work.

Perhaps we can learn from history…

The Basilica de la Sagrada Familia, designed by the world famous architect Antoni Gaudi is a UNESCO World Heritage Site and described as, “the most extraordinary personal interpretation of Gothic architecture since the Middle Ages.”

Construction on the Basilica began on March 19, 1882 which is almost exactly 140 years ago.

Less than 25% of the Basilica was finished during Gaudi’s lifetime, and they are still working on it- though it was scheduled to be completed this year but was delayed due to the pandemic.

I am sure those working on it over the century, also viewed themselves as brick layers, wall builders and masterpiece producers- and they were all right.

It is after all all a matter of your frame of reference and your perspective.

What is often missing in the story, is that everyone focuses on the bricks, but people forget the mortar, and the mortar is just as important as the bricks!

The mortar is the social capital or glue that binds us together, when we know we are working together for a common purpose, when we know others have got our backs, when trust and transparency and even vulnerability become critical ingredients in the mix. As Peter Drucker famously reminds us, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast”.

In a time when our relationship to our work is being seriously revisited, let’s take the time to both find meaning and purpose in our work, as well as, build our bench strength, grow our franchise value, and make sure we are playing together not playing each other by strengthening the glue that binds us.

Turns out the Great Resignation may be followed by the Great Regret as many employees that jumped ship, quickly realized that “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, the grass is greener where you water it!

So today, let’s all attend to our purpose, invest in our social capital and let’s keep serving our stakeholders with care and consideration.

Here is to the Great Rejuvenation

Live, Love, Learn, Laugh & Leave a Legacy!

Love All,

Neville

Enlightened Self Interest-

How to Handle Stress Situations Better Than Will Smith
Use the S.O.S. method when triggered for better outcomes.

How to Handle Stress Situations Better Than Will Smith | Inc.com

Etiquette expert says we’ve overlooked Lady Gaga’s great kindness toward Liza Minnelli
While Will Smith’s shocking slap of Chris Rock during the Oscars broadcast last Sunday has been big news, one etiquette expert says far too many people missed a beautiful gesture shown on stage that same night by Lady Gaga toward a visibly flustered Liza Minnelli.

Etiquette expert says we’ve overlooked Lady Gaga’s great kindness toward Liza Minnelli | Fox News

Try Something New for 30 Days: (3 minutes)

Is there something you’ve always meant to do, wanted to do, but just … haven’t?

Matt Cutts suggests: Try it for 30 days.

This short, lighthearted talk offers a neat way to think about setting and achieving goals.

Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days | TED Talk

How Gratitude Rewires the Brain: (10 minutes)

When a psychologist who studies well-being ends up with a brain tumor, what happens when she puts her own research into practice? Christina Costa goes beyond the “fight” narrative of cancer — or any formidable personal journey — to highlight the brain benefits of an empowering alternative to fostering resilience in the face of unexpected challenges: gratitude.

Christina Costa: How gratitude rewires your brain | TED Talk

Protect Our Planet-

The deceptively simple plan to replenish California’s groundwater
The state pumps too much groundwater, especially during droughts. Now, it’s learning to refill the overdrawn bucket. “It’s the simplest math in the world,” says one scientist.

The deceptively simple plan to replenish California’s groundwater (nationalgeographic.com)

1,000-year-old oaks used to create ‘super forest’
Could an experimental forest hold the answers to meeting the UK’s big tree planting ambitions?

1,000-year-old oaks used to create ‘super forest’ – BBC News

Eight Endangered Places We Can Still Save
Half a degree Celsius will make all the difference for these famous and far-flung destinations.

8 Endangered Places We Can Still Save From Climate Change | GQ

The Silver Years:

My doctor asked if anyone in my family suffered from mental illness and I said, “No, we all seem to enjoy it.”

Just once, I want a username and password prompt to say, “Close enough.”

Being an adult is the dumbest thing I have ever done.

I’m a multitasker. I can listen, ignore and forget all at the same time!

Retirement to do list: Wake up. -I Nailed it!

People who wonder if the glass is half empty or half full miss the point. The glass is refillable.

I don’t have grey hair. I have wisdom highlights.

Sometimes it takes me all day to get nothing done.

I don’t trip, I do random gravity checks.

One minute you’re young and fun. Next, you’re turning down the car stereo to see better.

I’d grow my own food if only I could find bacon seeds.

Some people are like clouds, once they disappear it’s a beautiful day.

Some people you’re glad to see coming; some people you’re glad to see going.

Common sense is not a gift. It’s a punishment because you have to deal with everyone who doesn’t have it.

I came. I saw. I forgot what I was doing. Retraced my steps. Got lost on the way back. Now I have no idea what’s going on.

If you can’t think of a word, say “I forgot the English word for it.” That way people will think you’re bilingual instead of an idiot.

I’m at a place in my life where errands are starting to count as going out.

I don’t always go the extra mile, but when I do it’s because I missed my exit.

I don’t mean to brag, but I finished my 14-day diet food supply in 3 hours and 20 minutes.

I may not be that funny or athletic or good looking or smart or talented. … I forgot where I was going with this.

Having plans sounds like a good idea until you have to put on clothes and leave the house.

It’s weird being the same age as old people.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be older… This is not what I expected.

Life is like a helicopter. I don’t know how to operate a helicopter either.

It’s probably my age that tricks people into thinking I’m an adult.

Never sing in the shower! Singing leads to dancing, dancing leads to slipping, and slipping leads to paramedics seeing you naked.  So, remember… don’t sing!

I see people my age mountain climbing. I feel good just getting my leg through my underwear without losing my balance.

We all get heavier as we get older, because there’s a lot more information in our heads. That’s my story anyway.

Thanks this week go to Alan D, Jack A and TedX SD, Marlaine C and Parenting 2.0, Larry H,  and Rejuvenators Everywhere!

Please Pay it Forward

Love,

Neville

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“Talent hits a target no one else can hit.

Genius hits a target no one else can see.”

–Arthur Schopenhauer

Your Soul Food for 3/11/22: Green Lights, Strong Backs, Soft Fronts & Critical Foundations

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Did You Notice The Green Lights?

Whether it is the global pandemic, the war in Ukraine, or other challenges that seem to keep rearing their ugly heads, it sure seems tough to stay in a positive frame of mind.

I am telling you, if it’s not one thing, it’s another…

Now that traffic has picked up, have you noticed that if you are running late and trying to get to your destination on time, every red light can get in your head and make you stressed?

You feel your pulse racing, anxiety rising, frustration building…

Now replay the tape…

If you think back, how many of the green lights did you notice?

If you are like most of us, we have a form of attentional blindness to the green lights and seem to miss all of them, while we perseverate on all the red ones.

Humans brains seem to be wired to be velcro for the bad stuff and teflon for the good stuff.

Just recognizing this default setting, and choosing to attend to the green lights, both literally and figuratively can be a powerful tool in dealing with the day to day challenges we all face.

So here is a thought for the week:

Take some time everyday to focus on the green lights in your life.

When you find yourself thinking about all the things you don’t have, consider all the things you don’t have that you don’t want!

Focusing on the green lights is a form of practicing an attitude of gratitude.

It is hard to be hateful and grateful at the same time.

May you have a week filled with green lights both personally and professionally, and maybe share your evergreen attitude with others.

Joy shared is doubled. Misery shared is halved…

You’ve got this!

Love,

Neville

Celebrating International Women’s Day Week:

International Women’s Day is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural, and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating women’s equality.

“Imagine a gender equal world. A world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination. A world that is diverse, equitable, and inclusive. A world where difference is valued and celebrated. Together we can forge women’s equality. Collectively we can all #BreakTheBias.”

Strike the Pose!

IWD: IWD 2022 campaign theme: #BreakTheBias (internationalwomensday.com)

200 classical musicians join London orchestral flashmob in solidarity with Ukraine
Musicians took part in a flashmob in London’s Trafalgar Square, to show solidarity with Ukraine.

With no rehearsal time, the musicians gathered for an outdoor flashmob described as “spine-tingling” by spectators walking past the square.

200 classical musicians join for London orchestral flashmob in solidarity with… – Classic FM

Compassion IT-

We need to keep a “strong back and a soft front”

Yes pay attention to what is happening in Ukraine, but also pay attention to what is happening within you…

How can you ‘compassion it’ for Ukraine? (mailchi.mp)

5 Simple Acts Of Kindness Giving Ukrainians (And The World) Some Hope
The world is coming together to help Ukrainians – on the borders and at home.

5 Simple Acts Of Kindness Giving Ukrainians (And The World) Some Hope | HuffPost UK Life (huffingtonpost.co.uk)

CRITICAL FOUNDATIONS: The Thirty Questions Anyone Must Answer to Build a Meaningful Life:

 By Scott Schimmel

What are the step-by-step ingredients someone needs to build a meaningful life?
The current school system is a sprint to gain the knowledge necessary to pass tests and be ready for the academic challenges in college. There’s little room for reflection, integration, or building relevant self-awareness.

Through years of research and work with tens of thousands of students, educators, transitioning veterans, and parents, we’ve developed a keen perspective- a meaningful life has to be intentionally constructed. It doesn’t work to give answers—you have to ask questions. You have to create the circumstances for people to discover their own answers to life’s most critical questions.

In this book, Scott walks through each one of the thirty critical questions—why they’re so essential and how to go about answering them. With vulnerable storytelling, these foundational concepts become accessible and relatable to someone of any age. The second half of the book delves into common sense skills to help guide young people to find their answers to these critical questions.

Get the book on Amazon

Thanks this week go to Sara S, Scott S, Trailblazing, Game Changing Women everywhere, and You for being Soul-filled!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world;

indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”— Margaret Mead

Your Soul Food Friday for Feb 18, 2022: Lovers of Humanity Come in Many Flavors!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Lovers of Humanity Come in Many Flavors!

“I’m no longer interested in any forms of spirituality, self-mastery programs, success mentors, coaches, healers, spiritual thinkers,

or activists that don’t ultimately lead their communities back to responsible association to tending the Earth.

The never ending quest for self-realization, personal brand mastery, self-success “soul”-preneurship all strike me as bypasses

 that have only served to keep us disassociated from what’s actually going on here.

Which requires us to exit the cult of individual success, whether seen through foggy spiritualized goggles or not,

and get our hands dirty in the immediacy of our grounded environmental issues around us.

The world dies while we buy in to yet another charismatic voice telling us how to heal some yet unmastered part of ourselves even more deeply into narcissistic individual “success.”

The world dies while charismatics make millions on their self-help platforms.

Sure.. and for that matter, Please: do your personal healing.

But if my healing only keeps looping back to myself, and doesn’t ultimately lead to reassociation with the Earth and my work to be part Of It,

then I’m just a casualty of healing-themed consumerism.

And still contributing to the problems that are destroying the planet.”

– Adrianne Tamar

All Are One

This man’s dying words changed my life:
After he was stabbed and lay dying on a train, Taliesin Myrddin Namkai-Meche said, ‘tell everyone on this train I love them.’ I will never forget his words

‘Tell everyone on this train I love them’: the meaning of a hero’s final words | Maeve Higgins | The Guardian

Here’s the story behind Black History Month — and why it’s celebrated in February
Black History Month grew from a weeklong celebration that started nearly 100 years ago — and it’s not random that it’s in February.

The story behind Black History Month — and why it’s celebrated in February : NPR

Albert Cleage: Founder of The Shrine of the Black Madonna:

Albert Cleage: Founder The Shrine of The Black Madonna – Black Mail Blog (blackmail4u.com)

A Nazi officer’s housekeeper hid 12 Jews in the basement. All of them made it out alive.
“Without her, I wouldn’t be alive,” said Roman Haller, who was conceived while his parents were in hiding.

A Nazi officer’s housekeeper hid 12 Jews in the basement. All of them made it out alive. (nbcnews.com)

These vintage photos show the timeless allure of travel
Find inspiration for your next journey in these images from National Geographic’s archives.

These vintage photos show the timeless allure of travel (nationalgeographic.com)

Thanks this week go Kurt C, for the Adrianne Tamar quote, Manuelita B for the Albert Cleage link, and to lovers of humanity everywhere.

Please pay it forward with love!

Love,

Neville

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“Love is misunderstood to be an emotion;
actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of
being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.”

–Dr. David Hawkins

Your Soul Food for the week of Lunar New Year 2022: Connecting with Our Lunar Nature

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Happy Lunar New Year 2022!

How the 1,000-year-old lion dance has moved with the times:
Innovations from Chinese communities across the world have created ever-more daring performances, enthralling audiences.

How the 1,000-year-old lion dance has moved with the times | Arts and Culture News | Al Jazeera

I Stole the Moon!

Great Photography…

(20+) Cris Froese Pics – Posts | Facebook

Brother Sun, Sister Moon:

Brother Sun, Sister Moon (with lyrics) – YouTube

What an Astronaut Could See from Space that Changed Him for Good:
This week, gain an astronaut’s perspective of our changing world, spot hybrid camels in ancient artwork, uncover more about the Tonga volcano explosion, spy a beaming celestial lighthouse, and more.

What an astronaut could see from space that changed him for good – CNN

When Is The Next Full Moon? Your Ultimate Guide To 2022’s Full Moons, ‘Super Moons,’ New Moons And ‘Black Moons’
Here’s everything you need to know about our Moon in 2022—from its phases to the dates of full Moons, New Moons, super moons and even a couple of rare total lunar eclipse “blood moons.”

When Is The Next Full Moon? Your Ultimate Guide To 2022’s Full Moons, ‘Super Moons,’ New Moons And ‘Black Moons’ (forbes.com)

9 Must-see Stargazing Events to Watch in 2022
The year ahead offers many heavenly delights for sky-watchers, including two blood moons, a pair of partial solar eclipses, and multiple planetary meetings.

9 must-see stargazing events to watch in 2022 (nationalgeographic.com)

How the Earth’s 23.5-degree Tilt Gives Us Seasons:
When it’s winter in Idaho, it’s summer in Curaçao. Why?

Why do we have seasons? | Popular Science (popsci.com)

Connections by Mission Fed Newsletter:

Let’s all make a difference of consequence in our community…

Connections by Mission Fed Newsletter | Mission Federal Credit Union, San Diego

Thanks this week go to Kurt C, and the Mission Fed Family!

Please pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

“What happens to the hole when the cheese is gone” –Bertolt Brecht

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Democratizing Nirvana-Stealing Fire and Hacking Non Ordinary States of Consciousness

“The day will come when, after harnessing space, the winds, the tides and gravitation, we shall harness for God the energies of love. And on that day, for the second time in the history of the world, we shall have discovered fire!”–Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

This week:

SFF 5-24 1

Galvanizing Our Democratic Privileges and Responsibilities & Standing Up for What We Believe
Please vote on June 5 and vote every day with your conscious choices June 1 is National Gun Violence Awareness Day. Santa Fe, We Will Stand Up With YOU! Wear orange June 1 and turn the ballot box orange on June 5!

If you are local:

VOTE!

June 5 is Election Day. Here is an online voter guide to make voting easier for you.
Just plug in your zip code and voila
VOTE! No excuses…
http://www.kpbs.org/news/election/voterguide/

Don’t Curse the Darkness, Light a Fire: Let’s Democratize Nirvana
As we raise consciousness both personally and societally be it through mindfulness training, meditation, yoga, martial arts, or even electronic dance music (EDM), burning man sojourns, base jumping, & micro-dosing psychedelics in Silicon Valley, some are making a cogent argument that striving for non-ordinary states of consciousness (NOSC) is a 4th drive akin to our innate drives for food, water and sex!

The risk reward ratios are different; meditation takes months or years to cultivate and the benefits can be shorter term with no side effects and counter-indications v. base jumping where the risk is imminent death but the “high” lasts for weeks!

Recognizing the neurobiology behind these endeavors, humans are trying to hack NOSCs, getting to states north of “happy” and the emergence of this trend is evident in popular culture with recent books and podcasts.

Are ecstasis & flow, mystical states of being accessible to you?

If you are striving for something beyond happy and seeking that flow state of wellbeing, connection and purpose, you might enjoy http://www.stealingfirebook.com/

The vid on this site sets the tone for STER:

  • Selflessness
  • Timelessness
  • Effortlessness &
  • (Information) Richness all consistent with the highest states of consciousness aspired to by seekers of every time, tradition and culture

Note: I am not proposing we all go out and micro-dose or base jump. I am suggesting we pay attention to how we are getting closer to our own promethean drive to expand our consciousness and contribution to humanity…

On the same day as the passing of Tom Wolfe last week
https://www.nbcnews.com/video/tom-wolfe-dead-at-88-the-right-stuff-bonfire-of-the-vanities-author-1234504259557?v=a

I heard Terry Gross interview Michael on NPR (Fresh Air)…
‘Reluctant Psychonaut’ Michael Pollan Embraces The ‘New Science’ Of Psychedelics:
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/05/15/611225541/reluctant-psychonaut-michael-pollan-embraces-the-new-science-of-psychedelics

His comments at the very end of the interview about enhancing the wellness of ALREADY well people struck a chord and might with some of you too…

If you found Michael’s experiences with the plants “out there” and you think plants don’t have feelings/spirit…IKEA Asks People To Bully This Plant For 30 Days To See What Happens, And Results Are Eye Opening
https://www.boredpanda.com/ikea-experiment-bully-a-plant-jessica-ones/

More on NOSCs…

The Blog of Tim Ferriss: Experiments in Lifestyle Design
Michael Pollan — Exploring The New Science of Psychedelics
His most recent book, How to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence, might be my favorite yet. This is the first podcast interview Michael has done about the book, the science and applications of psychedelics, his exploration, and his own experiences. It is a wild ride.

June 1 is National Gun Violence Awareness Day from Students Demand Action
Wear orange June 1 and turn the ballot box orange on June!

Thanks this week go to the conscious leaders collective band of brothers, mama Marlaine and Parenting 2.0, and KPBS San Diego for the Voting guide to galvanize our other democratic privilege and responsibility- voting!

Don’t Curse the Darkness, Light a Fire & Pay it Forward
Love,
Neville

“The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make
ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy.
The amount of work is the same.”–
Carlos Castaneda

 

Soul Food for Friday Oct 21st 2011: Philosophy, Creativity, Thanks and some Words of Wisdom from the Dalai Lama

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week’s submissions include a Thought Piece on Life, a European commercial that rewards Bravery and models Creativity, an opportunity to extend your thanks and invites others to do the same and some insights from the Dalai Lama to round out the week. Click the links below to view the content.

Philosophy for Old Age: A Thought Piece on Life

European Marketing: Rewarding Bravery

The 4th Annual Thank a Teacher campaign has launched, and this year we’ve gone green—thank you notes can now be submitted online. Click the link below to view the email that Mission Fed members received as a reminder to show appreciation to the teachers that do so much in their mission to educate.

I’m Thankful for My Teacher Because…

To your Well-being…

Love,

Neville

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”– Albert Einstein

Soul Food for the last Friday in September 2011

Recently, as part of our Leadership development efforts we have
been taking a battery of evaluations—some that use different colors to
identify our traits, and others that use different letters as short-hand to
help us better understand our attributes. These can be quite insightful in
helping us to be more self-aware of our preferred learning/communication styles
as well as those of others, so we can both apply the Platinum Rule: “Do unto
others as others would have done unto them
and affirm the diversity
and differences that a well-rounded team can bring to bear in creating a high
performance, high accountability & high fulfillment culture.

Not surprisingly, the people part as contrasted with
attention to process or strictly delivering results is something
that is second nature for me.

In coming up with a motto to represent our group in one session,
we chose, “people don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you
care”.

This week’s soul food strikes
right at the heart of the matter…

*Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

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A four-year-old child, whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman, who  had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old Gentleman’s’ yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy just said, ‘Nothing, I just helped him cry.’

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Teacher Debbie Moon’s first graders were discussing a picture of a family. One little boy in the picture had a different hair color than the other members. One of her students suggested that he was adopted.

A little girl said, ‘I know all about adoption, I was adopted..’

‘What does it mean to be adopted?’, asked another child.

‘It means’, said the girl, ‘that you grew in your mommy’s heart instead of her tummy!’

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On my way home one day, I stopped to watch a Little League base ball game that was being played in a park near my home. As I sat down behind the bench on the
first-base line, I asked one of the boys what the score was.

‘We’re behind 14 to nothing,’ he answered with a smile.

‘Really,’ I said. ‘I have to say you don’t look very discouraged.’

‘Discouraged?’, the boy asked with a puzzled look on his face.

‘Why should we be discouraged? We haven’t been up to bat yet.’

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Whenever I’m disappointed with my spot in life, I stop and think about little Jamie Scott. Jamie was trying out for a part in the school play. His mother told me that he’d set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen.

On the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after school. Jamie rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement..  ‘Guess what,
Mom,’ he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson
to me….’I’ve been chosen to clap and cheer.’

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An eye witness account from New York City , on a cold day in December, some years ago: A little boy, about 10-years-old, was standing before a shoe store on the roadway, barefooted, peering through the window, and shivering with cold.

A lady approached the young boy and said, ‘My, but you’re in such deep thought staring in that window!’

‘I was asking God to give me a pair of shoes,’ was the boy’s reply.

The lady took him by the hand, went into the store, and asked the clerk to get half a dozen
pairs of socks for the boy. She then asked if he could give her a basin of
water and a towel. He quickly brought them to her.

She took the little fellow to the back part of the store and, removing her gloves, knelt down, washed his little feet, and dried them with the towel.

By this time, the clerk had returned with the socks.. Placing a pair upon the boy’s feet, she
purchased him a pair of shoes. She tied up the remaining pairs of socks and gave them to him.

She patted him on the head and said,
‘No doubt, you will be more comfortable now.’

As she turned to go, the astonished kid caught her by the hand, and looking up into her face, with tears in his eyes, asked her, ‘Are you God’s wife?’