Your Soul Food for Friday June 12, 2026: The Six Guardians of Health and Wellness- Keep Up The PACE!

If you can’t tell, each week I reflect and share something that I am personally working on or struggling with (like sleep hygiene) or noticing with alacrity  (like the importance of art and culture) in our world.

This week I dug into the oldies but goldies file and revisited something I curated many moons ago and updated it.

Hopefully, this week’s missive is still timely and resonates with you…

You are what you eat.

Both disease and energy come through food.

Unfortunately, most of us eat for the sake of eating not for the sake of health.

Our food, from a holistic perspective, serves two primary functions.

The first is to nourish and give us energy (assimilate).

The second is to clean out and detoxify (eliminate).

All foods eaten for health and not just to indulge the taste buds should aid in either or both these functions.

Typically, eating natural unrefined foods provides the optimum source of nutrition and energy.

Eating “food without faces” is often suggested for a long and healthy life.

Unless you have an eating disorder, one of the best things you can do for yourself is to eat less.

(Systematic under-eating)

For the average person in western cultures today, only one fourth of what we eat actually helps us.

The rest helps the doctor! (No offense my dear doctor friends, but a bonus for you below…)

Overeating simply overtaxes our system, wastes valuable natural resources, and creates other health problems down the road.

Do you know there are as many starving people in the world as there are overweight people?

Finally, it is not just what you eat or how much you eat, but HOW you eat that makes a big difference.

So many of us eat junk, eat too much and, if you are like me, eat too fast. Learn to take time to enjoy the process of eating.

Savor every mouthful.

Be grateful you are not one of the people on this planet today that is hungry, malnourished, or starving to death.

Half our planet is undernourished!

Mindful eating counts.

Don’t put another mouthful in until the previous mouthful has been completely swallowed.

Take time to make the process of eating a joyous, even meditative experience.

This conscious eating honors the food, appreciates the chef, embraces the life energy made available through the meal and ultimately provides more than calories, protein, carbs, fats, vitamins, minerals, antioxidants etc.-it provides life itself.

Try changing one thing about what, how and how much you eat today and notice the difference…

Usually, when we think of our living environment, we think of the place where you live.

Your living environment, however, includes the place and CONDITIONS under which you live.

It is not enough to have a clean, bright, airy home or apartment in outer harmony with nature in perfect feng shui alignment, if the inner environment is one of stress, tension, and discord.  

Creating an environment of support, comfort, and inner safety can do wonders for the health and well-being for all members of the household.

See if you can identify some things you can do to make your living environment a sanctuary from the stress and tension in and around you.

Commit to making your living environment the best you can!

All exercise is good, but not all exercise is good for all people!

Today, everyone seems to be touting the benefits of exercise for strengthening the body, relaxing the mind, reducing heart disease, and even offsetting depression.

Exercise can be broken down into vigorous, moderate, and gentle forms.

Recent studies have validated the dramatic benefits of even a little exercise on our health, with less dramatic advantages of intense exercise over longer periods.

If a little is good, a lot must be better, doesn’t hold true when it comes to exercise, although this varies from individual to individual.

The old adage of no pain, no gain is also vigorously disputed in the current literature, which validates what holistic practitioners have been saying for thousands of years:

Involve yourself in types of exercise you enjoy.

Enjoy the process of exercising not just the end result.

Exercising for admirable abs or bodacious buns is probably not worth it if you don’t enjoy the process.

In fact, it might be killing you!

So much for the killer workout… It might be doing just that!

It seems that certain types of exercise do suit most people.

These include-walking, swimming, yoga, and tai chi.

Yoga and tai chi emphasize the flow of life energy in the whole-body releasing toxins and creating a sense of wellbeing.

Maintaining flexibility and range of motion have long been key elements in developing total health-so stretch yourself every day!

Regardless of the form of exercise or cross-training regimen you select, make sure you learn, practice, and emphasize the proper breathing method.

The benefits of using the proper breathing method cannot be overstated and makes a tremendous difference in the process of exercising and the ensuring results.

Attend to ki, chi, prana, life force or whatever you choose to call it.

One of the most sorely neglected aspects of wellness, pun duly intended, is rest.

In today’s fast-paced society, most of us simply do not get enough rest. The right amount of rest is defined by your ability to recoup energy and repair damaged tissue.

Depending on your lifestyle and disposition, the amount of rest you need will vary. If you are involved in a lot of hard labor or intense exercise you will obviously need more rest than those whose lifestyles are more sedentary.

But… “rest should not turn into rust!”

Living in the urban jungle, we often lose our connection to nature. For countless generations, our ancestors lived in balance with nature, and recognized and celebrated the interconnectedness and interdependence with all of nature.

Reawakening our primal links to Mother Earth, Father Sky, Brother Sun and Sister Moon reminds us of one simple fact:

Nature is full of energy!

It is yours for the taking (Shakuraki is a term the Japanese use about how we can borrow energy from nature) and there is an abundance of it so take as much as you need!

Sunshine is a natural source of Vitamin D.

Sunshine is also a natural germicide and insecticide.

Fresh air purifies the organs and sharpens the senses.

We take in air through the lungs but also through the skin.

Pure water flushes us inside and out.

Drinking seven glasses of clean water a day is excellent for us.

Getting in cold water (hydrotherapy) causes the capillaries to shrink on the outside and forces the blood to be shunted to the heart, thereby cleansing and tonifying the circulatory system.

Spending time outdoors in communion with nature can do wonders for one’s state of mind.

Get out your calendar right now and block off some time in nature today, this week and this month.

 Heck the weather is wonderful…

It is well known that the mind governs the body and the body affects the mind. In western psychology, we talk about a psychophysiological isomorphism– a one-to-one relationship between body and mind.

In today’s society of negats and negaholics, one must put on the armor of one’s own positive thoughts. It takes practice to re-program ourselves toward positive thinking.

Sadly, according to scientists, we give ourselves thousands of negative messages each day.

Worrying is nothing but negative goal setting.

And 90% of the things we worry about-NEVER HAPPEN!

Positive autosuggestion takes practice.

We all get to choose whether we want to elevate or degrade our mental attitude.

Being grateful, practicing forgiveness, rewarding yourself daily, laughter and humor, play and recreation, meditation, and prayer, practicing self-love, using affirmations, developing your own self-healing script, and practicing positive self-talk are some powerful ways to change your attitude and keep the change.

As a Sensei of ours would say, a sense of pleasure, accomplishment, contentment, and enthusiasm for life (PACE) are some key indicators that you are on your way to cultivating and developing the right mental attitude.

Drill for skill.

Practice like you want to perform.

What you do-you become.

Repetition is the key to anchoring a new behavior, attitude, or skill.

With the six guardians mentioned above, you are well on your way to creating a healthy life.

sow a thought-reap an action

sow an action-reap a habit

sow a habit-reap a character

sow a character-reap a destiny!

And lastly a bonus after dissing my doc friends 😊

Doctor set out to find what helps people ‘defy disease’—here’s what she found

Be well and keep up the PACE. You’ve got this!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for June 5, 2026: This week is All About Sleep! “I finally got eight hours of sleep. It took me three days but whatever.”

As high achievers we privilege performance but don’t invest enough time understanding the importance of rest and recovery, leading to sleep hygiene issues for so many of us.

Here are a few good articles on why good sleep matters, how to fall back to sleep when you wake up and can’t seem to fall back asleep, the military sleep method to fall asleep fast, and the sleep issue that often goes undiagnosed, but can adversely impact your health.

Poor sleep may disrupt the brain’s nightly cleaning cycle – Earth.com

The brain’s night shift: How sleep, waste clearance and dementia may be linked

How to fall back asleep at 3 a.m.: A brain researcher’s 5-minute trick that works fast | Tom’s Guide

Military Sleep Method: Technique and Benefits

Millions Have This Sleep Issue — It’s Now Linked to Declining Muscle Quality
And up to 90% of cases go undiagnosed.

Millions Have This Sleep Issue — It’s Now Linked To Declining Muscle Quality

Rest Well!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for April 10th, 2026: Turning Your Stumbling Blocks into Steppingstones. A Story of Hope, Help and Healing!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/11tts5ZpS85zjpuw49Xxph?si=uZsbpwClS6OJ543lbnryZw

Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-spirit-of-joy-instrumental-in-leading/id1517680573?i=1000758146917

Register here before we fill up: https://joyjam.communalspaces.org

Are You Excited to Go to Work? Why Joy Is A Great Leadership Success Metric Most organizations run on a straight-line growth model. 

People do their work, achieve results, you make more money. Repeat. It’s logical, measurable – and especially reassuring to people who like dashboards.

The problem is that this model assumes that results and money will sustain motivation and maximize performance.  

Sometimes they do. When they don’t, the usual response is to double down on the same model and hope motivation catches up.  
The More Human Circular Model

There is another model that may look less efficient, but often works better in real life. Instead of chasing performance directly, you build a culture of joy that people actually enjoy being part of.  

Joy creates positive energy. Energy improves performance. Performance produces success. Success increases pride. Pride strengthens the culture of joy. And the cycle keeps feeding itself.  

It’s not linear. It’s circular.
LEARN TO LEAD FROM THE INSIDE OUT. The Amare Leadership Lab. Join a small, trusted circle of leaders who don’t pretend they have it all figured out. Five immersive, experimental lab sessions and a private breakthrough coaching session with Moshe. Show up fully, release what’s been holding you back, and create major shifts in you and your impact. Starts in early May, get more info now .
The Excitement Question Most Leaders Never Ask Richard Sheridan, founder of Menlo Innovations and author of Joy, Inc., built his company around a question most executives never think to put on a dashboard:

Are people excited to come to work?  

For Sheridan, excitement was the visible sign of joy, and joy was the sign the culture was working. He treated joy as the core measure of success. If the culture lacked joy, he assumed something in the system was wrong.
Window: 3 Examples Of Joy Fueling Success At Menlo Innovations, people work in pairs, talk constantly, and laugh more than you expect in a room full of programmers. The company has stayed profitable year after year in the volatile tech industry, in a workplace that looks nothing like the typical software company.  

Under Herb Kelleher, Southwest Airlines built a culture where humor, personality, and informality were not only allowed but expected. In an industry famous for bankruptcies and mergers, Southwest stayed profitable for decades while keeping employee loyalty and customer satisfaction near the top of the charts.

At Trader Joe’s, the difference is obvious the moment you walk into a store. Employees talk to customers, joke with each other, and seem unusually relaxed for retail. The company invests heavily in autonomy, internal promotion, and culture, and the result is some of the highest sales per square foot in the grocery business.
Experiential Amare Moment – Do This  Now Rate 1 to 10: How excited are you to go to work most days? Just notice your number. It’s a data point that may be more useful than the quarterly report.
Mirror – Three Questions To Reflect On When did work last feel genuinely energizing instead of just necessary? Do people around you seem alive at work, or just professionally responsible? What in our culture might be producing results but not producing joy? Different industries. Same loop.  

Joy produces positive energy, which leads to better performance,  which grows pride, resulting in more joy.

While the linear model tries to drive results and hopes joy follows, the circular model builds joy and lets results follow.
Research – Why Joy Improves Performance

Barbara Fredrickson’s
research shows that positive emotions such as joy expand thinking, creativity, and resilience, helping people perform better over time.  

Studies on positive affect at work have likewise found that employees who feel good while working show higher creativity, better decision-making, and stronger performance than those who do not. 

Bottom line? How people feel at work is not separate from results — it helps drive them. 
Door into Action: 5 Amare Steps To Bring Joy Back Into The System 1. Make progress visible and collaborative. Set up the workplace so people naturally show their work, get input, and help each other as they go.

2. Remove one daily irritation. Fix one process, rule, or habit that everyone complains about and nobody changes.

3. Bring personality to work. Encourage conversation, humor, and human interaction instead of treating professionalism like emotional restraint.

4. Track joy as a performance metric. Regularly ask how excited people feel about the work and share the results.

5. Make joy a leadership responsibility. Treat excitement about the work as something you and the leadership team are responsible for enabling.

Thanks, this week go to Shayna and Eric K for sharing their story, Drew and Charles for helping tell it, and to Moshe E for the Joy as a Success Metric article.

Please pay it forward with joy!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday January 16, 2026: Being Nicer, Pleasure for Self-Improvement, Silence YOUR Inner Critic and Art Could Save your Life!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • 8 Ways to Become a Nicer Person
  • Why Pleasure is the key to self-improvement
  • How to finally Silence your inner critic, according to psychologists
  • Art could Save your life! Five creative ways to make 2026 happier, healthier, and more hopeful

8 Ways to Become a Nicer Person:
Experts agree on a few easy tips for our modern times.

8 Ways to Become a Nicer Person | TIME

Why pleasure is the key to self-improvement:
Forget puritanical self-discipline – the way to really make a new habit stick is to lace it with instant gratification

Why pleasure is the key to self-improvement | Psychology | The Guardian

How to finally silence your inner critic, according to psychologists:
The criticism coming from your inner voice isn’t always the most constructive. But psychologists are working on ways to help your negative self-talk. January 10, 2026 I am lazy. I’m a slob. I’m [something that can’t be printed]. These are the thoughts that pop into my head when I’m scrolling senselessly on the sofa, or after finding another bag of withered salad in my fridge, forgotten thanks to the takeaways I chose to have instead of preparing my own healthier options.

How to finally silence your inner critic, according to psychologists | BBC Science Focus Magazine

Art could save your life! Five creative ways to make 2026 happier, healthier, and more hopeful:
Engaging in creativity can reduce depression, improve immunity and delay ageing – all while you’re having fun

Art could save your life! Five creative ways to make 2026 happier, healthier and more hopeful | Health & wellbeing | The Guardian

Please pay it forward with purpose!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Thanksgiving Week 2025: An Attitude of Gratitude and a Live Aid Type Event this Friday at The Observatory

Happy Soul Food for Thanksgiving Week!

This week:

The Power of Thank You and If You are Local- a Live Aid type event this Friday

THE POWER OF THANK YOU
 
Thank You, two words that have the power to transform our health, happiness, athletic performance, and success.
Research shows that grateful people are happier and more likely to maintain good friendships.
A state of gratitude, according to research by the Institute of HeartMath, also improves the heart’s rhythmic functioning, which helps us to reduce stress, think more clearly under pressure and heal physically.
It’s physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. When you are grateful you flood your body and brain with emotions and endorphins that uplift and energize you rather than the stress hormones that drain you.  

Gratitude and appreciation are also essential for a healthy work environment. In fact, the number one reason why people leave their jobs is because they don’t feel appreciated. A simple thank you and a show of appreciation can make all the difference.   Gratitude is like muscle. The more we do with it the stronger it gets.

In this spirit here are 5 ways to practice Thanksgiving every day of the year.
  1) Take a Daily Thank You Walk – Take a simple 10-30 minute walk each day and say out loud what you are thankful for. This will set you up for a positive day.
  2) Mealtime Thank You’s – On Thanksgiving, or just at dinner go around the table and have each person, including the kids, say what they are thankful for.  
3) Gratitude Visit – Martin Seligman, Ph.D., the father of positive psychology, suggests that we write a letter expressing our gratitude to someone. Then we visit this person and read them the letter. His research shows that people who do this are measurably happier and less depressed a month later.
  4) Say Thank You at Work – When Doug Conant was the CEO of Campbell Soup, he wrote approximately 30,000 thank you notes to his employees and energized the company in the process. Energize and engage your co-workers and team by letting them know you are grateful for them and their work. Organizations spend billions of dollars collectively on recognition programs but the best and cheapest recognition program of all consists of a sincere THANK YOU. And of course, don’t forget to say thank you to your clients and customers too. 

  5) Say Thank you and Goodnight – At bedtime reflect on your day, identify, and share all that you are thankful for.    




If You are Local-
Gig Alert for this Friday Nov 28: Strange Crew is Opening this Live Aid Band Aid Style Event at The Observatory in North Park San Diego at 6:30pm SHARP!

Hi Live Music Mavens!    

Are you going to need to work off your Thanksgiving meal and spread a little joy?
This Friday, Strange Crew will represent the Clapton Era at this all-age tribute band and holiday food drive experience at The Observatory!

The Observatory North Park Tickets & Schedule | San Diego Concert Venue  

We are opening for Rolling Stones, U2 and Queen tribute bands with a Live Aid themed event to foster generosity this holiday season.
Doors open at 6pm and we go on at 6:30 sharp, with a 45-minute set, so don’t be late!  

There is a food drive too so bring a can or two, for those less fortunate than us.
Tickets are $25, but if you let me know you are coming, how many tickets you need, and ideally the names of the attendees (helpful but not mission critical) I can get you in for FREE!
Please let me know ASAP and no later than Friday morning, so I can put you and yours on the guest list. Invite your friends too as the more the merrier and more food for our struggling neighbors.  
Love, Neville    

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”      

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone and thanks Bob C for the Thanksgiving Pups Pic!
Love,
Neville      

Your Soul Food for the Beginning of Kindness Week Worldwide 2025

This weekend begins Kindness Week Worldwide.

Simple acts of kindness can make a big difference especially in times of uncertainty.

Don’t forget to be kind to yourself too!

  1. Elevation of dopamine levels in the brain, which makes us feel good.
  2. The feeling of emotional warmth, which leads to a healthier heart.
  3. Reduction in inflammation, which can slow the aging process.
  4. Reduction of emotional distance, which helps couples feel more bonded.
  5. Contagiousness that often sets off a pay-it-forward ripple effect.

Spread kindness all week-long during World Kindness Week. Each year during the week of November 13, stay positive, spread joy, and make the extra effort to be kind to everyone.

WORLD KINDNESS WEEK | Week of November 13 – National Day Calendar

“I’ll Never Forget That Kindness”: 34 Of The Nicest Things Strangers Have Done That They Still Remember Today
“That simple moment stuck with me. I genuinely believe she saved my life.”

34 People Share The Nicest Gestures From Strangers

If you are local-

If you want to connect with community, convive with kindred spirits, consume some live music, and fall into fall then see you Friday evening at Aquarius.

Aquarius Bar & Grille – Drivin’ The Bus

I might be a tad late due to a prior board commitment but hope to see you there!

Love and light.

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday August 29, 2025: “Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” + Free Self Care Webinar from Me c/o NCPC Sept 3 at Noon

Happy Soul Food Friday,

This week:

If you could use some Self Care- Take Care of Yourself and Take Care of Others!

On Wednesday September 3rd from Noon to 1pm with NCPC and San Diego Gives; I am running a self-care webinar.

Small Things Often: Micro Habits that Foster Macro Competencies

An authentic embodied great reset- in self-compassion and self-care- for conscious leaders and culture transformers

 Even the heart pumps blood to itself first. As leaders and practitioners, we often invest substantial energy in serving others, and as a result don’t always attend to our own needs. Here is an opportunity to provide you, and by extension those in your community, with simple and proven energetic techniques- supported by both western science and eastern wisdom traditions- that reduce chronic stress and upskill resilience and fortitude, particularly in times of challenge and uncertainty.  

What you may not know about Me:

The wellness of business. The business of wellness.

Neville who was born in India and has invested his lifetime in bridging the east/west divide and synergizing the best of both cultures, brings over 40 years of practicing and teaching the wisdom traditions, including traditional martial arts, yoga, and meditation to this session.

He has been applying these principles in the world of work with conscious leaders as well as deep purpose driven cultures that value all stakeholders in the ecosystem, and are committed to wellness, wholeness, and purpose not just profit. This includes leading and coaching businesses, nonprofit organizations, as well as K-12 and institutions of higher education, while serving in his executive role at Mission Fed. Additionally, he serves on a variety of boards and volunteers his time to uplift those furthest from opportunity in our San Diego community.

Neville, and NCPC are honored to bring these micro habits to the San Diego community with “Small things often!”

If you are interested, please register here and you can get the recording even if you can’t make the actual event and do share with your network please!

“DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN.”

The little boy came to our table of leather-clad bikers and slammed down a paper that said, “DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN.”

His tiny fingers were still stained with marker ink, and his Superman cape was on backwards. The diner went dead silent as fifteen members of the Iron Wolves MC stared at this kid who couldn’t have weighed forty pounds soaking wet.

“My mom said I can’t ask you,” he announced, his chin jutting out defiantly. “But she’s crying all the time and the mean boys at school said daddy won’t go to heaven without scary men to protect him.”

Big Tom, who’d done two tours in Afghanistan and had a skull tattooed on his neck, carefully picked up the paper. It was a child’s drawing of stick figures on motorcycles surrounding a coffin, with “PLEASE COME” written in backwards letters.

“Where’s your mom, little man?” Tom asked, his voice a low rumble that usually preceded a fight but was now impossibly gentle.

The boy pointed through the window to a beat-up Toyota where a young woman sat with her head in her hands. “She’s scared of you. Everyone’s scared of you. That’s why I need you.”

I’d seen Tom break a man’s jaw for disrespecting his bike. But his hands shook as he read what else was on that paper – a date, tomorrow, and an address for Riverside Cemetery.

“What was your daddy’s name?” someone asked from the back.

“Officer Marcus Rivera,” the boy said proudly. “He was a police officer. A bad man shot him.”

The silence in the diner got heavier, thick enough to choke on. Cops and bikers weren’t exactly natural allies. Most of us had been hassled, profiled, some even beaten by police. And now this cop’s kid was asking us to honor his fallen father.

Tom stood up slowly, his towering frame casting a shadow over the small table. “What’s your name, superman?”

“Miguel. Miguel Rivera.”

“Well, Miguel Rivera,” Tom said, kneeling so he was eye to eye with the boy, a giant meeting a sparrow. “You tell your mom that your daddy’s going to have the biggest, loudest, scariest escort to heaven any police officer ever had.”

The boy’s eyes went wide. “Really? You’ll come?”

“Brother,” Snake spoke up from the corner, and I could hear the conflict in his voice. “He was a cop.”

“He was a father,” Tom said firmly, his gaze never leaving Miguel’s. “And this little warrior just did the bravest thing I’ve seen all year. We ride.”

The next morning, I arrived at the cemetery two hours early. I thought I’d be the only one, a chance to get my head right before the awkwardness and the stares. But then my jaw dropped.

The narrow road leading to the cemetery entrance was already lined with bikes. Not just the fifteen of us from the diner, but our entire chapter. Forty men, standing quietly by their polished Harleys, the morning sun glinting off the chrome. But that wasn’t what stopped my heart. Further down the road, another group was pulling in. The Vipers. Our bitter rivals. And behind them, the Sons of Odin. Word had gotten out. A call had been made for scary men, and the entire goddamn scary underworld had answered.

When the funeral procession finally arrived, the hearse slowed to a stop. I saw Miguel in the car behind it, his small face pressed against the glass. His mother looked up, and her hand flew to her mouth, her expression of fear melting into stunned disbelief.

There were over a hundred of us. A silent army of leather and steel.

At some unseen signal from Tom, a hundred engines roared to life at the exact same instant. The sound was biblical. It wasn’t angry or aggressive; it was a deep, thundering proclamation. We are here. We formed a double line, a guard of honor for the hearse and the family and escorted them through the gates.

At the graveside, a small group of uniformed officers stood stiffly, their honor guard looking tense as we dismounted. They watched us, we watched them. But there was no trouble. We formed a wide, silent circle around the service, our backs to the family, facing outward. We were a wall, protecting their grief from the world.

After the service, as the last of the mourners were leaving, the police chief walked over to Big Tom. He was a hard-looking man I’d seen on the news a dozen times. He stopped, looked at Tom, then at the sea of bikers standing in silent respect.

“I… I don’t have the words,” the chief said, his voice rough. “Officer Rivera was a good man.”

Tom just gave a short, sharp nod. “He had a good son.”

That’s when I saw Miguel, holding his mother’s hand, walking purposefully toward us. He stopped in front of Tom, who immediately knelt again. Miguel wasn’t wearing his cape anymore. He was holding the folded American flag from his father’s coffin.

He held it out. “This is for you,” he said, his voice clear and steady.

Tom gently pushed it back. “No, little man. That’s yours. That’s your daddy’s.”

“My daddy was a hero,” Miguel said, pushing the flag firmly into Tom’s huge, tattooed hand. “He protected people. And today, you protected him.”

Tom stared at the flag in his hand, his jaw working, his whole-body trembling. The man I’d seen walk through a bar fight without flinching was completely undone by a forty-pound superhero. He couldn’t speak. He just nodded, his eyes shining with tears he refused to let fall.

We didn’t ride away with a roar. We left one by one, a quiet rumble that spoke of a respect that went deeper than clubs or colors or the badges on a uniform. We had come because a little boy asked for scary men. But we left knowing we’d just met the bravest one of all.

I’ve studied hundreds of highly successful kids—the No. 1 thing their parents teach early:
Parenting expert Jennifer Breheny Wallace has spent six years studying hundreds of high-achieving kids. Here’s why she says a “mattering mindset” is the secret to their success, and how parents can cultivate it from a young age.

I’ve studied hundreds of highly successful kids—the No. 1 thing their parents teach early

How 9 minutes of daily HIIT may improve kids’ brain function and learning, according to research
Researchers say nine minutes of exercise may be enough to boost children’s mood and cognitive skills.

How 9 minutes of daily HIIT may improve kids’ brain function and learning, according to research | Tom’s Guide

+ A feel good vid

Lion Seeks Forgiveness from Dog Best Friend in Heartwarming Gesture That Gains 30M Views
Friendships in the animal world can be full of surprises, especially when they involve a lion and a dog. While lions are often seen as fierce predators, sometimes they form bonds that defy all expectations.

Lion Seeks Forgiveness from Dog Best Friend in Heartwarming Gesture That Gains 30M Views

Please teach it forward on purpose!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for June 6, 2025: What if we could redefine leadership? What if kindness came first?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Jacinda Ardern reflects on a career focused on the power of kindness:

What if we could redefine leadership? What if kindness came first? 

New Zealand’s Jacinda Ardern broke the mold on leadership, motherhood and stepping down : NPR (short version 8 minutes)

Jacinda Ardern’s new memoir addresses motherhood, public office : NPR (longer version 30 minutes)

The book: Amazon.com: A Different Kind of Power: A Memoir: 9780593728697: Ardern, Jacinda: Books

Feeling Stressed? Here’s Why You Should Start Humming (Seriously)
Mindfulness practices, such as meditation, are often the antidote for dealing with stress—and for good reason: there are loads of studies about the benefits of being present. But for some, meditation can be a hard practice to develop.

Feeling Stressed? Here’s Why You Should Start Humming (Seriously)

Sinnerman-Nina Simone:

Something to take you out…

Nina Simone – Sinnerman (Audio)

Please pay it forward on purpose!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday May 9th, 2025: Mercy over Mayhem, Empathy over Ego, Kindness over Cruelty- Lessons in Real Leadership for Today from the Pope, Regular Peeps & Animals

This week:

“The thing the church needs most today is the ability to heal wounds and to warm the hearts of the faithful; it needs nearness, proximity.

 I see the church as a field hospital after battle.

 It is useless to ask a seriously injured person if he has high cholesterol and about the level of his blood sugars!

 You have to heal his wounds.

 Then we can talk about everything else.

Heal the wounds, heal the wounds. …

And you have to start from the ground up.”

-Pope Francis

I share his profound wisdom below:
 
“The walls of hospitals have heard more honest prayers than churches…
They have witnessed far more sincere kisses than those in airports…

It is in hospitals that you see a homophobe being saved by a gay doctor.

A privileged doctor saving the life of a beggar…

In intensive care, you see a Jew taking care of a racist…

A police officer and a prisoner in the same room receiving the same care…

A wealthy patient waiting for a liver transplant, ready to receive the organ from a poor donor…

It is in these moments, when the hospital touches the wounds of people, that different worlds intersect according to a divine design.

And in this communion of destinies, we realize that alone, we are nothing.

The absolute truth of people, most of the time, only reveals itself in moments of pain or in the real threat of an irreversible loss.

A hospital is a place where human beings remove their masks and show themselves as they truly are, in their purest essence.

This life will pass quickly, so do not waste it fighting with people.


Do not criticize your body too much.

Do not complain excessively.

Do not lose sleep over bills.

Make sure to hug your loved ones.

Do not worry too much about keeping the house spotless.


Material goods must be earned by each person—do not dedicate yourself to accumulating an inheritance.

You are waiting for too much: Christmas, Friday, next year, when you have money, when love arrives, when everything is perfect…


Listen, perfection does not exist.

A human being cannot attain it because we are simply not made to be fulfilled here.


Here, we are given an opportunity to learn.

So, make the most of this trial of life—and do it now.

Respect yourself, respect others. Walk your own path and let go of the path others have chosen for you.

Respect: do not comment, do not judge, do not interfere.

Love more, forgive more, embrace more, live more intensely!

And leave the rest in the hands of the Creator.”

—Pope Francis

My dear friend Dr. Ken Druck, a highly sought after Mental Health Expert and Mensch, shares his insights, with Drew and me on How to Survive Tragic Losses and How to Cultivate Hope, Meaning, Loving Kindness, Joy, and Compassion.

How We Go On – Dr. Ken Druck’s life’s work helping individuals, families, organizations, communities and nations find the path forward after a loss, change or setback.

  • What’s weighing most heavily on my heart?
  • What’s making my heart sing today?
  • What does today offer me the opportunity to let go of?
  • What can be so grateful for, that I could fall to my knees in gratitude?

“If only I can catch myself…”

Hear the uplifting podcast interview here:

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/25cozv1NAB4lfaRlNCj5x7?si=8acc2b97c5a24eec

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nationally-recognized-expert-in-mental-health-aging/id1517680573?i=1000704836411

More on Pope Francis’ Impact and Legacy-

Have a heart for those who suffer!

Pope Francis’ Greatest Achievement Was Emphasizing Mercy | TIME

Megaphone Hand, business concept with text Attention Please, vector illustration

Why Do We Dehumanize Ourselves by Being Tone Deaf to the Plight of the Needy and Those That Can’t Speak for Themselves?

The patron saint of animals and ecology brought together science, morality and faith and prompted people across the globe to pay attention to what is happening as the planet continues to heat up!

Why a transformative leader is a protector not an antagonist…

Pope Francis pushed for action on climate change : NPR

According to research, they’ve actually been making sounds this whole time, we’ve just been too hard of hearing to notice.

Plants ‘Scream’ When They’re Cut, We Just Couldn’t Hear It. Until Now.

Even wild animals circle the wagons to protect the vulnerable.

Elephants circle during earthquake at San Diego Zoo Safari Park – NBC 7 San Diego

18-second video from San Diego Zoo launched YouTube 20 years ago – NBC 7 San Diego

Golden nature, frozen artistry and the rhythm of tradition: Picture Award announces winners | Digital Camera World

Please pay attention, take action and preach and pay it forward with kindness, mercy, and grace.

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday April 18, 2025: Courage, Forgiveness, Life Satisfaction and the Wonder of Animals

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

A Weekly Dose of Courage with Ryan Berman:

It’s not Humanrude.

It’s not Humanharsh. 
 It’s not Humanevil.

It’s not Humancruel.

It’s not Humanmean.

It’s not Humanhoodwinking.

It’s called Humankind.

In these tricky, turbulent times…

Stay good.
Stay kind. 
Stay even. 
Stay you

Easy to suggest. Currently hard to act on.

Control your controllables. 

It doesn’t mean you should turn off the news — which I have a tendency to do. We should also stay informed.

Know what’s going; on but don’t let politics, the news or the current stock market sink your psyche. 

This doesn’t mean to be tone deaf or to turn the other cheek. 
It means stay even, stay civil, and shoot your shots if it’s aligned with your values. 

Want to protest? Do it. 
Want to use this teaching opportunity for your kids? Do it.
Want to reach out to someone on the other side to understand their POV? Do it. 

We all lose when we lose ourselves in the chaos. 
We all lose when we’re humanrude, humanharsh or humancruel. 

How will you show up?
Why will you show up?
Where will you show up?

If and when you do… 
stay humankind

Jason Mraz- My Kind:

This song will lift you up and bolster your spirits!

Jason Mraz – my kind (Lyrics)

The Rules of Forgiveness with Robin Sharma:

Confucius had it right when he advised “before you go off to seek revenge it’s best to dig two graves.”
Getting brilliant at forgiving those who have wronged and hurt you delivers these benefits to you as a leader, producer, and person:

—you avoid becoming a resentment collector, full of negativity and cynicism.

—you protect the energy needed to get big things done.

 —you live in the present and pursue a richer future rather than staying stuck in the past.

 —you free up a ton of creativity that would be consumed grumbling about what someone did to you.

 —you remain peaceful and helpful instead of obsessing about being mistreated.

 A few of the forgiveness rules that have been super useful to the clients I mentor:

1. Forgiveness isn’t condoning the behavior. No. It’s more about understanding that everyone does the best we can based on how we think. And, as Maya Angelou observed: “If they knew better, they would have done better.” How they behaved made sense to them at the time (read that twice), even if their actions were foolish and hurtful. So, practice the master skill of letting go.

 2. Let success be your confident reply. Staying bitter and stagnant is a violent defeat. What I suggest is to try and use what someone did to you as soil for your growth and fuel for your winning. Let any pain you suffer actually purify you by processing through it so that you become emotionally richer, internally stronger, and personally wiser. And, as best as you can, exploit this newfound clarity, creativity, and maturity to build glorious fortunes of success, beauty, and inner freedom. Let an even more beautiful life be your elegant response.

 3. What’s yours can’t be taken from you. Mom taught me this one and I wrote about the lesson in-depth in my latest book The Wealth Money Can’t Buy. What she taught me is that what’s meant for me can’t be taken from me and if something didn’t work out the way I wished it would have, it just wasn’t meant to be. Allow people to be on their own path and know that what unfolds for them is none of your business. Do your best and trust—with deep faith—that life has your back. And that what appears is always for your fortune, never for your failure.

 4. Keep Death Close [KDC]. Reflecting on how short life really is and the fact that in 100 years, everyone alive today will be dust will give you perspective. A mistreatment that seems so big will begin to look small. You’ll see the value of moving on and letting the hurter deal with their karma. And you’ll be energized to “stick to your knitting” by doing what you know to be right, making excellent daily progress and remembering that good things inevitably happen to people who do great things.

Pets increase life satisfaction as much as marriage or close friendships:
In a world where happiness often feels like a moving target, we constantly seek what brings true contentment.

People turn to careers, families, friendships, pets, and even meditation or travel in the hope of feeling joy and fulfillment in life.

Living with a pet brings more joy to everyday life – Earth.com

A crow’s math skills include geometry:
Crows in a lab were able to distinguish shapes that exhibited right angles, parallel lines, and symmetry, suggesting that, like humans, they have a special ability to perceive geometric regularity.

A crow’s math skills include geometry : NPR

Missing toddler who walked 7 miles through Arizona wilderness led to safety by a dog:
The rancher traced the boy’s steps and discovered that Buford, an Anatolian Pyrenees who normally patrols his land and wards off coyotes, had escorted the 2-year-old for at least a mile.

Missing toddler who walked 7 miles alone through Arizona wilderness led to safety by rancher’s dog

Thanks, this week go to Ryan B, Robin S, and all you kind souls modeling empathy and compassion!

May we all be the person our dog thinks we are…

Pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

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