Your Soul Food for Friday Oct 7 ’22: Do The Right Thing- It Will Gratify Some People and Astonish the Rest

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • What Can the Wisdom Traditions Teach Us About Winning and Losing?
  • Are We Civilized?
  • Kindness 101: Friendship
  • Why It’s Perfectly Normal to See Baby Puffins Thrown Off Cliffs in Iceland Each Year
  • Your “Before I Die List” with Robin Sharma
  • + Taking You Out With The Unbridled Joy Of Music (I Can’t Help Myself- It Always Cracks My Heart Open!)

In the past week, I had the privilege of speaking at the CIF Symposium where the focus was proper sportsmanship, not just by the student athletes, but by coaches and spectators too!

Thought you might value this perspective…

TOKYO, JAPAN – AUGUST 01: Gianmarco Tamberi of Italy celebrates sharing the gold medal with Muta Essa Barshim of Qatar in the High Jump on day nine of the Tokyo 2020 Olympic Games at Olympic Stadium on August 01, 2021 in Tokyo, Japan. (Photo by Ian MacNicol/Getty Images)

What Can the Wisdom Traditions Teach Us About Winning and Losing?

If we look at what have become an all too common cultural norm, be it in politics, business or personal life, it seems that winning at all costs has replaced the more humane and wise notion of winning- but doing so following the rules of the game and a moral imperative.

When we look the other way, ignoring fouls and other ethical violations, are we tacitly endorsing these behaviors at best, or enabling at worst, behaviors that are antithetical to our own betterment and survival not just as individuals but as a species?

In the wisdom traditions, using traditional martial arts as a proxy, we are trained to strive for personal excellence and the contest whether in the ring of competition on in the ring of life provides a “proving ground” to test ourselves not just versus another player or contestant but against our own best potential.

Here there are 4 levels of winning and losing, not just the binary winning and losing we have become all too familiar with today.

The highest level of achievement is an honorable win. Your win is supported by right conduct and if you know you did not win cleanly you self-report the foul or incident rather than hide it under the rug or play to the chorus of if it wasn’t seen, or can’t be proved, then it didn’t happen.

One level down from this is an honorable loss. If you lost but did your best and were beaten fair and square you honor both your opponent and yourself, and learn from the experience by being a gracious “loser”. Here winning still occurs through character development, investing in loss, and remaining focused on long term growth not just short term outcomes. Honorable losses build resiliency and forge a character of perseverance and grit.

Next comes a dishonorable win and obviously in last place comes the dishonorable loss where in spite of trying every dirty trick in the book you still get your clock cleaned!

Whether it is in Olympic competition against the best in the world, or a personal competition to better oneself, it would be useful to foster a climate/culture that underscores the importance of honor and humility in the “success calculus” or we find the win meaningless, transitory and ultimately not supportive of our individual or collective growth.

Daily Practice:

This can also play out in our day to day choices; doing the right thing for the right reason, the wrong thing for the right reason, the right thing for the wrong reason and the wrong thing for the wrong reason. I will leave it to you to discern the hierarchy and Faustian bargain this path takes us to when left to its ultimate conclusion.

Much is made of Alpha animals dominating their tribe and being willing to prevail over all contenders both inside and out.

Not as much is understood or appreciated about Alpha leaders, even in primates, modeling empathy and seeing their primary role as caring for and supporting their group not just terrorizing their peers and den members.

A real Alpha leader has the capacity to win at all costs but subordinates themselves.

I have heard altruism defined as “self-handicapping” for the greater good…

What kind of leader do you want to model, follow or create?

Let’s start now!

Love,

Neville

Are We Civilized?

Helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts!

“Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones.

But no. Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken and then healed. Mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt for food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal.

A broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. Helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts, Mead said.”

We are at our best when we serve others. Be civilized.

Kindness 101: Friendship
As part of the ongoing series “Kindness 101,” Steve Hartman and his kids are sharing stories built around themes of kindness and character and the people who’ve mastered both. His latest lesson is friendship.

Kindness 101: Students teach us all a lesson in friendship – CBS News

Why It’s Perfectly Normal to See Baby Puffins Thrown Off Cliffs in Iceland Each Year
Throwing thousands of baby puffins off a cliff is a yearly tradition for the people of Iceland’s Westman Islands. It’s part of what’s known as “puffing season” and is a crucial life-saving endeavor.

During puffling season, Icelanders save baby puffins by throwing them off cliffs : NPR

Your “Before I Die List” with Robin Sharma:

Sorry to bring up death in the title yet you and I both come with an expiration date.

Like it or not, we’ll all end up as dust. Soon or late.

Makes me think of Ted Leonsis. The tech titan, visionary leader and business disruptor.

He was on a plane when the pilot said it looked like they would crash. Just imagine. Actually, please don’t.

Face to face with the end, he reflected on the things that truly mattered. No accessories. Only priorities.

He considered all the things he didn’t do and the places he didn’t visit and the people he failed to meet.

He confronted his truest values and highest visions, reflecting on the busyness of life and how it causes even the best amongst us to stray from the mission.

Fortunately the aircraft landed safely.

In the terminal, Ted wrote out a list that would transform his life: a list of 101 things that he vowed to do before he died.

Within a few years most were done.

Yet here’s the opportunity for you to take a few pristine hours—hidden away from the world—to generate your list. Of 50 or 75 or 100 things you absolutely must get done before you pass into that great field of daisies in the sky.

It’ll help you identify what truly counts. So you can strip out the trivialities. And lead your most majestic life. Beginning (hopefully) today. Because now is a gorgeous time to start a better way.

Take You Out With The Unbridled Joy Of Music:

From 8 to 80, the love of music makes your heart sing

Salud!

Guantanamera | Playing For Change | Song Around The World – YouTube

Thanks this week go to CIF Leadership, Kurt C, and Robin S for some of this week’s contributions!

Please Pay it Forward with Purpose…

Love,

Neville

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“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world, indeed it is the only thing that ever has” – Margaret Mead

Your Soul Food for Friday Sept 30, ’22: Self Care Isn’t Selfish!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

I Am Feeling Overwhelmed:

I’m feeling overwhelmed!  We all hear that a lot.  I think we can see it too in our children, our peers, our friends when they get short with us or push us away.

So what can we do about it?  Here are 5 tips I got from an article that you can share with them or use yourself.

Everyone at one time or another, or many times, will feel overwhelmed. It’s natural.  It’s the way your mind tells you that you have too much going on and you need to slow down.  So let’s not fight it next time – let’s do something about it!

  1. List what is overwhelming you.  Sometimes you realize after writing the things overwhelming you down – hey! I can do this.  Sometimes that list is really long.  But you know what you’ve just done.  You put them down so now you can prioritize and start knocking those items off that list in an orderly, less chaotic manner. You may notice some things you can’t control on that list.  Know what you get to do with those? Take them off the list!  Cross those right off. And there may be things that others can help you with – let’s see what to do with those a little later in this list.
  2. Realize it’s a breakdown of thoughts, not life. I love this sentence from Braden Thompson, “When you feel overwhelmed, your life isn’t falling apart – your thoughts are.” Remember being overwhelmed isn’t a stated of being – it’s a FEELING.  We all have the ability to control our feelings. 
  3. Things can turn around quickly. Do you find yourself often feeling overwhelmed on Mondays and Tuesdays?  That’s when the week begins.  That feeling may dissipate as you work on things throughout the week.  So track when you start to have those feelings – does it always seem to be on the same day of the week?  Either way, don’t wallow in inaction, start doing and seeing the small progress chip away not only at that list you have to do, but also those feelings of being overwhelmed.
  4. You’ve felt this way before. It ended before, and it will end again.Just remember that.
  5. Your problems may not be as bad as you think.  Remember when you were in school and finals were so overwhelming (maybe that was just me?)!  Looking back now – what’s the worst that could have happened?  You have that perspective now. It’s wasn’t the end of the world issue I made it to be.  In fact – if only those were the problems I was facing now! Try to put things in perspective.  Still doesn’t help? Help out at a food shelter, or reach out to others who wish that they had your problems.  That really helps.  Furthermore, acts of kindness make this world a better place, help others, and help you feel better too!

Everyone feels overwhelmed at one point or another.  You are not alone. Remember – you control those feelings and what you do about them. 

You Don’t Have to Quit Your Job to Find More Meaning in Life:

Before giving notice, and going on a vision quest, consider this. Fulfillment doesn’t require big change. In fact, you can find more meaning even in a joy you don’t love.

You Don’t Have to Quit Your Job to Find More Meaning in Life – HBS Working Knowledge

Daily ‘breath training’ can work as well as medicine to reduce high blood pressure
Research finds five to 10 minutes daily of a type of strength training for muscles used in breathing can help anyone reduce or prevent high blood pressure. The training can also help elite athletes.

High blood pressure is significantly lowered with breath training : Shots – Health News : NPR

Support Hunger Awareness Month!

Help A Food Insufficient Child on a Path to Success with Food 4 Kids Backpack Program

Can you spare $7?

Help a child on a path to success with Food 4 Kids Backpack Program | cbs8.com

Facial Illusions That Will Make Your Head Spin!

Mimi Choi is a professional illusion-makeup artist in Vancouver, Canada, who has gone viral for her optical-illusion looks on her face and body. Choi has collaborated with stars like Ezra Miller for their 2019 Met Gala makeup, Shay Mitchell, and Jeff Goldblum. Choi paints directly on her face and adjusts as she goes rather than sketching out an idea ahead of time. The process takes an average of four to five hours to complete, and some looks have taken over eight hours. The key to creating the most realistic illusion is lighting, background, and camera and face angles. Her goal is to create expressive art that shocks her audience.

How Mimi Choi’s Facial Illusions Come Together – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Angelica G-W and Chris B for your contributions and to You for reading this far!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“There are only two things that will change your life: Either something new comes into your life, or something new comes out of you” – Brendon Burchard

Your Soul Food for the week of Sept 23, 2022: The Autumnal Equinox, World Gratitude Day, World Rhino Day & What Kind of Artist Are YOU?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

“The meaning of your life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”- Pablo Picasso

This week:

  • The Autumnal Equinox with Billy S
  • “The Earth is Now Our Only Shareholder. Instead Of Going Public You Could Say We’re Going Purpose”
  • Celebrate World Gratitude Day!
  • Gratitude to Roger Federer for Leaving A Legacy of Class!
  • Baby Southern White Rhino at the San Diego Zoo Safari Park Gets a Name: Neville
  • Which Type of Artist Are You?
    • People or Craft? Accomplishment or Accompaniment?

The Autumnal Equinox with Billy S:

Aloha Friends,

The Autumnal Equinox is Thursday, September 22, 2022 at 6:03 pm PDT.

It marks the start of autumn in the Northern Hemisphere.

The Equinox reminds us about the passage of time, the motion of the Earth, and the changing of the seasons.

Translated literally, equinox means “equal night”.

On the equinox, the length of day and night is nearly equal in all parts of the world, about twelve hours of each. This is because the sun is positioned above the equator.

On this day, the Sun rises directly in the East, and sets directly in the West.

At the moment of the Autumnal Equinox the Sun crosses the equator from north to south.

After the Autumnal equinox, the days become shorter and the air cooler.

Wishing you a special day, symbolic of balance in our life and with the environment.

Stay in tune with nature and wellness!

“The Earth is Now Our Only Shareholder. Instead Of Going Public You Could Say We’re Going Purpose”

Chouinard announces he is giving away all his shares in Patagonia to a trust that will use future profits to “help fight” the climate crisis.

Yvon Chouinard – the ‘existential dirtbag’ who founded and gifted Patagonia | Business | The Guardian

“Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence

and making sure that impact lasts in your absence”

Celebrate World Gratitude Day!

Here’s How You Can Celebrate World Gratitude Day at Your Workplace | Inc.com

Gratitude to Roger Federer for Leaving A Legacy of Class!

Speaking at His First Press Conference Since Announcing His Retirement, the Swiss Legend Opened Up on the Range of Emotions He’s Felt Over the Past Weeks:

Watch: Federer on bittersweet emotions in retiring, dream Laver Cup pairing with Nadal and more (scroll.in)

Baby Southern White Rhino at the San Diego Zoo Safari Park Gets a Name: Neville

Just in time for World Rhino Day…

Baby southern white rhino at San Diego Zoo Safari Park | cbs8.com

If you are local-

Which Type of Artist Are You?

People or Craft? Accomplishment or Accompaniment?

“Technical knowledge is not enough.

One must transcend technical knowledge until the art becomes an artless art, flowing from the subconscious”

– D Suzuki (Zen Master)

Greetings Live Music Lovers & Kindred Spirits!

I have been extremely blessed and jazzed to play live music all over the world, from busking on the streets of Europe with a single musician, to jamming at the beach resorts of Florida, to jumping in at the paladares in Cuba, or bars and restaurants in Hawaii, to music halls and concert gigs and charity events right here in Southern California.

In my experience there are two types of artists (including musicians of course).

The first are all about cultivating their technical chops.

The pride themselves on their well-honed skills and excellence, but with that bias comes a sharp inner critic and voice of judgement.

They focus on the craft over the people.

Their debrief is all about what was missing, and what they could have done better in their pursuit of technical excellence.

They privilege virtuosity, and take pride in their accomplishment.

The second group are all about creating an experience and disappearing in the flow of the art.

They take pride when they surrender themselves to the moment, listen well to each other, and transport their audience to another dimension.

Their focus is on people over craft.

Their debrief is all about what resonated, where magic happened, and how to repeat that flow experience in service of their audience.

They privilege virtuousness in service of the art, and take pride in accompaniment.

Same effort.

Different experience and outcome…

Here are two live music experiences that focus on the latter (which as you have probably figured out, is my jam!) and if you have been out to any of the shows know exactly what I am talking about:

Saturday Sept 24th Drivin’ The Bus is at the Carlsbad Landings (outdoors) from 6 to 9pm

2192 McClellan, Carlsbad, CA 92008

Righteous Classic Jam band playing all the crowd favs

All ages welcomed!

Carlsbad Landings (dtbband.com)

Thursday Sept 29th Strange Crew at Duck Foot Brewing Company in Mira Mesa (indoors) from 7 to 10p

8920 Kenamar Drive, Suite 210, San Diego CA

San Diego-based tribute/dedication band playing the music of Eric Clapton’s entire career

All ages and dogs welcomed!

(20+) Strange Crew | Facebook

Break up your week.

Crack open your heart.

Get out and connect…

Hope to see you there!

Thanks this week go to Bob C, Sarah G, Jeri C, Judy R, and the DTB and Strange Crew bands for sharing the unbounded joy of music!

Please pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

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“Ars longa, vita brevis”

Art is Long, Life is Short

So Live Well Today!

You Soul Food for Friday Aug 5 2022: Celebrating Human Potential- “Off The Hook”!!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Curated Content on Positive Deviants Bending the Curve and Holding Space for Our Better Selves

Strain Your Potential Until It Cries Out For Mercy!

On Social Justice and Speaking Truth to Power Through Art:

Chinese artist Badiucao: Drawing truth to power – 60 Minutes – CBS News

On Human Potential, Pushing Personal Limits and Serious Mind Power:

Alexey Molchanov on diving more than 39 stories deep while holding his breath for four and a half minutes – 60 Minutes – CBS News

Education Guru and Math Master Sir Ken Robinson Reframing the Script for the Power of Authentic Embodied Experience Being as Valuable as the Sciences:

Why dance is just as important as math in school | (ted.com)

Self-Compassion Makes You a Better Person. Here’s how to practice it.
Science shows that self-compassion isn’t about letting yourself off the hook — in fact, it’s the opposite.

How to practice self-compassion – Vox

Bonus-

The Power of Proximity Changes Adversity Into Connection:

Guy Catches Adorable Groundhog Eating His Veggie Garden | The Dodo Wild Hearts – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Vince R, Chris B, Paul B, Uncle Nate and all of you straining your potential ‘til it cries out for mercy

Please pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

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“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”Albert Einstein

Your Soul Food for Friday July 15 2022: A Heartfelt Gift to Give Your Mind a Lift

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Start the Day Right with G.R.A.C.E.
  • About Damn Time with Lizzo
  • Hymn for the Hurting by Amanda Gorman
  • Let It Go or Let It Be?
  • Teach Your Children (and Parents) Well

Look to this Day,
for it is Life – the very Life of Life.
In its brief course lie all the verities
and realities of your existence:
the Bliss of Growth,
the Glory of Action,
the Splendor of Beauty.


For yesterday is already a dream
and tomorrow is only a vision;
but today, well-lived,
makes every yesterday a dream of happiness
and every tomorrow a vision of hope.


Look well, therefore, to this Day.
Such is the salutation of the Dawn.

-Kalidasa

For 40 years, I have been practicing and teaching the wisdom traditions at UC San Diego.

“Practice Makes Permanent. Perfect Practice Makes Perfect” so still working at it…

During Covid, I have been doing this virtually every week at work as an act of service to support our mental wellbeing and practice self-care.

One helpful skill has been learning to quiet the mind and practice present moment mindfulness by going within, exploring inner space (Psycho-nauts instead of Astro-nauts), and connecting via intuition and inner knowing with our deepest and most authentic self.

Many of us when striving to sit quietly, find our time and space hijacked by our monkey mind, so we need a redirect that tames that pesky beast in order to go deeper.

“All’s Well That Begins Well”

Here is a sampler, if you could use a 15 minute tune up, to Start the Day Right. You can also just plug in some headphones, line down on your bed if you prefer, and set the intention for the day.

If you find this valuable, we can add a few more sessions, from progressive relaxations, to guided meditations, to energy center tune ups, to out of body visualizations to a YouTube channel and send you a link- just let me know.

G.R.A.C.E.

Start the Morning Right – G.R.A.C.E – YouTube

A 15 minute session to practice mindfulness and greet the new day with intention

PRIDE Month-

Lizzo- Amount Damn Time

You Be You!

Lizzo – About Damn Time [Official Video] – YouTube

Hymn for the Hurting

By Amanda Gorman

Everything hurts,

Our hearts shadowed and strange,

Minds made muddied and mute.

We carry tragedy, terrifying and true.

And yet none of it is new;

We knew it as home,

As horror,

As heritage.

Even our children

Cannot be children,

Cannot be.

Everything hurts.

It’s a hard time to be alive,

And even harder to stay that way.

We’re burdened to live out these days,

While at the same time, blessed to outlive them.

This alarm is how we know

We must be altered —

That we must differ or die,

That we must triumph or try.

Thus while hate cannot be terminated,

It can be transformed

Into a love that lets us live.

May we not just grieve, but give:

May we not just ache, but act;

May our signed right to bear arms

Never blind our sight from shared harm;

May we choose our children over chaos.

May another innocent never be lost.

Maybe everything hurts,

Our hearts shadowed & strange.

But only when everything hurts

May everything change.

Let It Go or Let It Be?

Which is the better mantra for calming the mind?

Feeling Anxious? Say These 3 Words to Calm Down, According to Scientists and Zen Monks | Inc.com

Teach Your Children (and Your Parents) Well:

Crosby, Stills & Nash (Live) – Teach Your Children – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Jai L, Aysha S-B, Kurt C, & Chris B!

Please pay if forward!

Love,

Neville

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“Intuition will tell the thinking mind where to look next” – Dr. Jonas Salk

Your Soul Food Friday for 6/10/22: Humor, Optical Illusions, Celestial Wonder & The Power of Music

Happy Soul Food Friday!

If you find this blog valuable, please subscribe and share it, as many of us are not ok, and you never know whose life you are going to positively touch with a small act of kindness:

This week

Lightening things up with:

  • Humor and Technology
  • Fun with Optical Illusions
  • Celestial Wonder
  • The Timeless Power of Music

Humor and Technology-

Something to Put a Smile on Your Face:

Amazing what technology can do…

Les plaisirs de la technologie – YouTube

Mind Games and Cool Optical Illusions-

Optical Illusions: What Causes Them? Try Some Out!
Abigail Howell, a biomedical student at Arizona State University, explains that there are three different types of optical illusion, in which the brain incorrectly interprets what the eyes are seeing:

Optical Illusions: What Causes Them? Try Some Out! | Mind Matters

Only 1% Of People Can Spot Second Tiger In This Optical Illusion
Get your eyeballs around this trippy tiger picture, and prepare for your mind to start fizzing as you try to spot the hidden second tiger

Only 1% Of People Can Spot Second Tiger In This Viral Optical Illusion (ladbible.com)

Celestial Wonder You Won’t Want To Miss-

A rare, 5-planet alignment will take over the sky this month
Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter and Saturn will align in the month of June, with the waning crescent moon making a special appearance on June 24.

5 planets will align in the sky beginning this month – CNN

The Timeless Power of Music-

Watch Carlos Santana Re-Record ‘Oye Como Va’ With Musicians From Around The World
The Playing For Change video features Cindy Blackman Santana, Becky G, Tito Puente, Jr., Rubén Rada, and more than 20 others

Watch Carlos Santana Re-Record ‘Oye Como Va’ With Global Artists – Rolling Stone

Thanks this week goes to Bob C, technologists making life better, and musicians playing for joy and change!

Please pay it forward this week, as many of us are not ok, and you never know whose life you are going to positively touch with a small act of kindness…

Love,

Neville

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“The greatest good we can do for anyone is not to share our wealth with them, but rather to reveal their own wealth to them.”– Zig Ziglar:

Your Soul Food for 6/3/22 Gun Violence Awareness Day, Wear Orange Weekend & the Launch of Pride Month

Happy Soul Food Friday

This week:

  • Gun Violence Awareness Day and Wear Orange Weekend
  • Pride Month and Graduation Season
  • Why We Need to Keep Every Soul Safe, Alive and Thriving

Gun Violence Awareness Day and Wear Orange Weekend-

Wear Orange June 3-5

In the wake of multiple tragedies, the fight to end gun violence has never been more urgent.

During National Gun Violence Awareness Day and Wear Orange Weekend, we join together to demand a future free from gun violence once and for all.

Wear Orange is June 3-5 | Wear Orange

An Elementary Schooler Told This Child Psychologist Not To Worry About School Shootings, And The Reason Why Is Gut-Wrenching
“I just got done with a session with an elementary schooler who asked me if when I saw the news yesterday, I was sad like her mommy or if I was scared.”

Psychologist Shares How Kids Talk About Mass Shootings (buzzfeed.com)

How to Talk to Children About Violence

Reassure children that they are safe 

Make time to talk 

Keep your explanations developmentally appropriate

Review safety procedures 

Observe children’s emotional state 

Limit television viewing of these events 

Maintain a normal routine

Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers (nasponline.org)

Pope Francis and a cardinal say it’s time for the U.S. to act on guns
“It is time to say enough to the indiscriminate trafficking of arms,” Pope Francis said on Wednesday, as he sent condolences to families in Uvalde, Texas.

Uvalde shooting: Pope Francis says gun control is needed in the United States : NPR

‘The Onion’ has republished a grim headline about mass shootings 21 times since 2014
The satirical news site publishes modified versions of the article after major mass shootings, always with the same headline: “No Way To Prevent This,’ Says Only Nation Where This Regularly Happens.”

‘The Onion’ has reused this satire after more than 20 mass shootings since 2014 : NPR

An ER Doctor’s ‘Third Way’ Approach to the Gun Crisis
Why violence demands not just policy solutions, but public-health ones

An ER Doctor’s ‘Third Way’ Approach to the Gun Crisis – The Atlantic

Australia confiscated 650,000 guns. Murders and suicides plummeted.
It was one of the world’s largest mandatory gun buybacks — and it was a smashing success.

Australia confiscated 650,000 guns. Murders and suicides plummeted. – Vox

San Diego students walk out of class to protest gun violence after Texas school shooting
In the wake of the Robb Elementary School shooting in Uvalde, Texas, thousands of students from San Diego County and across the country walked out of their classrooms in protest of gun violence.

San Diego Students Participate in Walkouts to Protest Gun Violence After Texas School Shooting – NBC 7 San Diego (nbcsandiego.com)

Comfort dogs have been deployed to Uvalde, Texas, from near and far
At least five organizations in and beyond the state have sent dogs to Uvalde, where they are visiting hospitals, churches and schools. Many have responded to other mass shootings across the country.

Uvalde, Texas, school shooting: Comfort dogs offer support : NPR

Pride Month and Graduation Season-

A Florida class president couldn’t discuss being gay in high school graduation speech — so he talked about his curly hair
The class president at a Florida high school says he wasn’t allowed to share his experience as a gay student in his graduation speech or how the state’s so-called “Don’t Say Gay” law will affect students like him, so he talked about something else that makes him a little different from his classmates — his curly hair.

A Florida class president couldn’t discuss being gay in high school graduation speech — so he talked about his curly hair – CNN

3 books all recent college graduates should read, according to a career expert
There’s no manual for what to do after leaving school, but books can provide practical advice and inspiration on how to succeed in this next chapter.

Career expert: 3 books all recent college graduates should read (cnbc.com)

Why we need to keep every soul safe, alive and thriving-

5-year-old Italian piano prodigy plays astonishing Mozart for competition audience
The young pianist impressed the competition judges with instinctive talent, well beyond his years…

5-year-old Italian piano prodigy plays astonishing Mozart for competition audience – Classic FM

Here is to the prodigy in you!

Please pay it forward with purpose.

Love,

Neville

“Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime; therefore, we must be saved by hope.

Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone; therefore, we are saved by love.

No virtuous act is quite as virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as it is from our standpoint.

Therefore, we must be saved by the final form of love, which is forgiveness.”

Reinhold Niebuhr

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Your Soul Food for 5/13/’22: Striving to Be Our Best Selves with Compassion & Care

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Striving To Be My Best Self
  • Nature’s Wonder
  • Good Old-Fashioned Living
  • Pets
  • Art
  • Giving
  • Humor

Striving To Be My Best Self-

MYSELF By Edgar Guest

I have to live with myself, and so,

I want to be fit for myself to know;

I want to be able as days go by,

Always to look myself straight in the eye;

I don’t want to stand with the setting sun

And hate myself for the things I’ve done.

I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf

A lot of secrets about myself,

And fool myself as I come and go

Into thinking that nobody else will know

The kind of man I really am;

I don’t want to dress myself up in sham.

I want to deserve all men’s respect;

But here in this struggle for fame and pelf,

I want to be able to like myself.

I don’t want to think as I come and go

That I’m for bluster and bluff and empty show.

I never can hide myself from me,

I see what others may never see,

I know what others may never know,

I never can fool myself — and so,

Whatever happens, I want to be

Self-respecting and conscience free.

Nature’s Wonder-

Moment of Awwwwww!

Crazy cute photos of animal mom’s and their babies

Moment of Aw! (nationalgeographic.com)

Good Old-Fashioned Living-

The world’s oldest person is a French nun who enjoys chocolate and wine
A 118-year-old nun living in a nursing home in southern France has become the world’s oldest living person, according to the Guinness World Records.

The world’s oldest person is a French nun who enjoys chocolate and wine – CNN

Pets-

There’s a reason humans melt when they see ‘puppy dog eyes,’ new research reveals
Researchers compared facial movements among wolves and dogs, finding that the domestication and the desire to be chosen has shaped dogs’ muscles.

‘Puppy dog eyes’ are real, study says. Is your pet manipulating you? (usatoday.com)

Art-

Mission Fed ArtWalk Celebrates 14 Years!

There is no great civilization without great art and here is a fun 2 minute highlight reel of San Diegans and their pets loving art in Little Italy:

https://vimeo.com/simplerandsimpler/review/707959206/90c46b29d9

Giving-

Do UCare?

#Tritons. @UCSanDiego, ucare is finally here!

1,960 minutes to support UC San Diego student success, particularly during this crazy time.

Support what matters most to you, with a gift of any size on May 12- 13, 2022

Give to UC San Diego | Gift Details (ucsd.edu)

#UCSDCares

Humor-

HERE’S HOW BAD INFLATION IS:  

Inflation is so bad that…

My neighbor got a pre-declined credit card in the mail. 

CEO’s are now playing miniature golf.   

Exxon-Mobil laid off 25 Congressmen. 

I saw a Mormon with only one wife. 

McDonald’s is selling the 1/4 ouncer. 

Angelina Jolie adopted a child from America.   

Parents in Beverly Hills fired their nannies and learned their children’s names.   

A truckload of Americans was caught sneaking into Mexico. 

A picture is now only worth 200 words.  

The Treasure Island casino in Las Vegas is now managed by Somali pirates. 

Called to get Blue Book Value on my car. They asked if gas tank was full or empty.   

And finally… 

I was so depressed last night thinking about the economy, wars, jobs, my savings, Social Security, retirement funds, etc., I called the Suicide Hotline. I got a call center in Afghanistan, and when I told them I was suicidal, they got all excited, and asked if I could drive a truck.

(Suicide is no joke. If you are struggling please call 800-273-8255.)

Gratitude-

Thanks this week go to Starla L,  UCSD Alumni everywhere, Bob C, & The Mission Fed ArtWalk Team with help from Simpler and Simpler

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Love,

Neville

“Art washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life”– Pablo Picasso

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Your Soul Food for 5/2/22: What’s YOUR Commitment to Protecting Our Planet Before We Run Out the Clock?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

What’s Your Commitment to Protecting Our Planet?

Global and local implications of looming climate catastrophe continue unabated. What will it take for us to attend to this perilous condition without denying reality on the one hand, or awfulizing it on the other?

Here are some powerful examples of what is happening that are worth our attention, and some positive responses both from indigenous traditions as well as from modern science…

Outside the Supreme Court, A Life of Purpose and Pain Ends in Flames:

Wynn Bruce, whose life was shaped by a devastating car accident and Buddhism, set himself on fire on Earth Day in what his father believes was a climate change protest. If the world ignores Bruce’s death and disregards the warnings from scientists about the actions needed to curb the world’s warming, they argued, millions more people will die by fire.

Why Wynn Bruce, climate activist, set himself on fire at Supreme Court – The Washington Post

“We See the Storm Coming”: U.S. Struggles to Contain a Deepening Global Food Crisis:
Biden officials are scrambling to limit the damage from fast-spreading food shortages sparked by Russia’s war in Ukraine, but they face an array of complex political and logistical challenges.

‘We see the storm coming’: U.S. struggles to contain a deepening global food crisis – POLITICO

Think Global-

An Ice Shelf the Size of Rome has Collapsed in Antarctica
Nasa scientist says complete collapse of Conger ice shelf during unusually high temperatures is ‘sign of what might be coming’

Satellite data shows entire Conger ice shelf has collapsed in Antarctica | Antarctica | The Guardian

It’s Also Local-

As Lake Powell hits landmark low, Arizona looks to a new agency, a $1 billion investment and Mexican seawater
Gov. Doug Ducey hopes to solve the state’s water woes during his last year in office as decades of drought strain water supplies from the Colorado River.

As Lake Powell Hits Landmark Low, Arizona Looks to a $1 Billion Investment and Mexican Seawater to Slake its Thirst – Inside Climate News

Lake Powell officials face an impossible choice in the West’s megadrought: water or electricity
Lake Powell, the country’s second-largest reservoir, is drying up.

Lake Powell water officials face an impossible choice amid the West’s megadrought – CNN


Birds are laying their eggs a month earlier than normal
Eggshell evidence points the finger at our changing climate.

Birds are laying their eggs a month earlier than normal – The Washington Post

An Ocean of Noise: How Sonic Pollution is Hurting Marine Life:
Today’s oceans are a tumult of engine roar, artificial sonar and seismic blasts that make it impossible for marine creatures to hunt or communicate. We could make it stop, so why don’t we?

An ocean of noise: how sonic pollution is hurting marine life | Whales | The Guardian

On a more positive note-

Whale Takes Tourists for Ride Near Mexico By Lifting Boat on Its Back and Swimming Away:
A passenger aboard the boat said the playful whale “gently” lifted the boat and swam with the vessel on their back “twice” before swimming away

Whale Takes Tourists for Ride By Lifting Their Boat on Its Back | PEOPLE.com

For the First Time, Wind Power Eclipsed Both Coal and Nuclear in the U.S.:
For a single day at the end of March, wind was the second-largest source of electricity generation, the Energy Information Administration says. Natural gas is still the nation’s largest power source.

For the first time, wind power eclipsed both coal and nuclear power in the U.S. : NPR

Learning From the Ingenious Wisdom of Our Ancestors-

Why Did the Ancient Maya Abandon Their Cities?

As we face an uncertain future of our own amid a climate crisis, are there any lessons we can learn from the Maya about how to live sustainably on this planet?

The ancient Maya flourished in modern day Mexico and Central America for millennia. They built incredible cities and they had sophisticated knowledge of astronomy, architecture and the natural world. But although Maya culture continues to exist today, around 900 AD, many of their great settlements collapsed, and today they lie in ruins. CrowdScience listener Michael wants to know – how did the Maya sustain their populations successfully for so long? And what happened 1000 years ago that led them to abandon their cities? To find out, presenter Melanie Brown travels to the forests of Western Belize. She visits the archaeological site of Xunantunich to learn about what life would have been like for the Maya living in what was once a prosperous city. She hears about the importance of water to the Maya way of life in this region, and their ingenious methods for capturing and storing rainfall. She meets archaeologists using lasers and drones to map Maya settlements that have lain hidden by jungle for centuries. And she discovers what material from the bottom of lakes can tell us about how the Maya faced a changing climate, which may have had huge consequences for their society. This episode was released on Earth Day 2022.

CrowdScience – Why did the ancient Maya abandon their cities? – BBC Sounds

Spring Time: Why an Ancient Water System is Being Brought Back to Life in Spain:
A project to restore a 1,000-year-old network of water channels is helping farmers in the Sierra Nevada adapt to the effects of the climate crisis

Spring time: why an ancient water system is being brought back to life in Spain | Spain | The Guardian

MIT Engineers Created a Portable Device that Zaps Seawater to Make Drinking Water:
It’s the size of a suitcase—and could save your life.

MIT Engineers Created a Portable Device that Zaps Seawater to Make Drinking Water (thedailybeast.com)

The Surprising Afterlife of Used Hotel Soap:

Hotel guests leave behind millions of half-used bars of soap every day. A nonprofit is on a mission to repurpose them.

The surprising afterlife of used hotel soap (thehustle.co)

And some chuckles to take you out on-

If Cute Babies Competed in the Olympic Games:

Honestly, this may be one of the cutest, most hilarious 2-minute videos ever.

If Cute Babies Competed in the Olympic Games | Olympic Channel – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Graham B, Climate Stewards everywhere, and Chris B for the cute Baby Olympics vid!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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        When the Heart weeps for what it has lost, the Spirit rejoices for what it has found.’

– Sufi saying

Your Soul Food for April 28, 2022: The Most Important Story is the Story You Tell Yourself, About Yourself!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

The most important story is the story you tell yourself, about yourself!

Warning- Adult Content

This Poem was shared with me recently-

This Be the Verse by Philip Larkin:

While I appreciated the sentiment, I also felt a compelling urge to offer up a counter-narrative, and composed this alternative rejoinder in about 10 minutes:

This Be The OTHER Verse

(Philip Larkin In Reverse)

We all have a mum and dad.

You would not be here if they weren’t.

Generations survived when others died.

Paranoid, hoarders, but yes they thrived.

With their history comes some baggage.

It’s inevitable, like rotten cabbage.

That over time will surely decay.

But it’s what we make of it on the way.

Take the good. Improve the bad.

Pass it forward or pass it back.

Evolution means we change.

For the better- not victims of the deranged.

We all have a story, a script, and a state.

Change your story or own your fate.

Turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones

Warrior mind in ancient bones.

Women passes on life to all.

Each one special, large or small.

Make every moment count and matter.

For better pancakes use better batter!

Yes some will try to “fuck you up”.

Choose your mindset, say enough!

Then Philip Larkin will eat his words.

And cast his poem to the birds.

What is the story you tell yourself about yourself?

  • Your story is what happened- objectively
  • Your script is how you choose to interpret what happened to you- subjectively
  • Your state is what you are doing in this moment, to move you closer to your purpose or alternatively away from it

Manage your state in this moment, and if you don’t like the script that was written for you, rewrite it!

“Don’t Believe Everything You Think!”

Too much pleasure can lead to addiction. How to break the cycle and find balance:

Radical honesty promotes intimacy

Be it sugar, social media or sex, the response in our brain is the same: It produces the “feel-good” neurochemical called dopamine, which brings on feelings of pleasure and motivation. “It may be even more important for motivation than for actual pleasure,” says Dr. Anna Lembke, a Stanford Medical School psychiatrist, researcher and author of the new book, Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence.

Break the cycle of addiction with these strategies to keep dopamine in check : Life Kit : NPR

When Doing Right Feels Wrong:

Have you ever been in a position where you had to choose between someone you care about and a value that you hold dear? Maybe you had to decide whether to report a friend who was cheating on an exam, or a co-worker who was stealing from the tip jar. This week, we tell the story of a Detroit police officer who found himself in this sort of dilemma, forced to choose between people he loved and the oath he swore to serve his community. What happens in our minds when we have to decide what is right and what is wrong?

When Doing Right Feels Wrong | Hidden Brain Media

At 21 I Have No Regrets: I Just Got An Email From Myself, A Decade Ago…

‘At 21 I have no regrets’: I just got an email from myself, a decade ago | Life and style | The Guardian

Finally, Some Naturally Induced Zen:

WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE BENEATH A CRASHING WAVE – YouTube

Here is to you owning your story, script, and state to tell the greatest story ever told- YOURS!

Thanks this week go to Tom S,  Aysha S-B, Ron M, Matt N, Chris B, & Mehrad N. for contributing to this week’s content.

Please pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

“Preach the Gospel at all times. And if you must, use words if necessary.”

– St. Francis of Assisi

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