Ever wonder why watching your favorite sports be it basketball, baseball, soccer, hockey, or tennis makes you happy? Read on…
Why Watching Sports Makes People Happy
World Cup 2026: Why do Japan fans clean up the stadium?
Psychologists Say This Simple Habit Can Make You a Much Happier Person
Why Watching Sports Makes People Happy:
Some years ago, Helen Keyes was pushing her way through a World Cup crowd with her soccer-loving brother and father. “What is it about this sport or this event that you like?” she remembers asking them. “Is it the sport itself? Is it being around the other people? The sense of togetherness?” They were stumped, and replied that they’d never thought about it. “I thought, I’d really like to think about it,” remembers Keyes, who is a cognitive psychologist at Anglia Ruskin University in England.
Psychologists Say This Simple Habit Can Make You a Much Happier Person:
Before the overthinking kicks in, there’s usually a knowing. A job offer, a relationship, a move—the gut feels something almost immediately, and then the pro-con list buries it.
Pip: Nature as medicine, optimism as brain food, and art as the engine of democracy — Happy Soul Food Friday! is out here writing the prescription the rest of the internet forgot to fill.
Mara: Soul Food Friday covers a lot of ground this week — from the neuroscience of optimism and the world’s oldest doctor’s rules for living well, to the civic case for arts funding and what creativity actually looks like in practice. Let’s start with the wellness territory.
Nature, Optimism, and the Rules for Living Well
Mara: The thread running through this week’s wellness posts is deceptively simple: the things that keep us healthy — nature, optimism, purpose — are rarely what conventional medicine trains doctors to prescribe.
Pip: And on the nature side, the post leads with a WBUR story about Dr. Susan Abookire, who is trying to change exactly that. The post frames her work this way: “Doctors spend years becoming experts in how the body works, how it can break down and how to recognize and treat various illnesses. Their training rarely involves what’s known as nature-based medicine.”
Mara: So the upshot is that a whole dimension of preventive care is simply missing from medical education, and one doctor in Boston has made closing that gap her mission.
Pip: The optimism piece adds a striking data point — a Harvard study finding that optimism may lower dementia risk by fifteen percent. And the world’s oldest doctor, Howard Tucker, who practiced until 103, kept it even simpler: his three rules for a long, happy life are, by his own description, very simple.
Mara: Which is maybe the most useful thing any of these posts says — that the evidence keeps pointing back to the unglamorous basics. That hands us right to the bigger civic question: what happens when we defund the structures that support those basics?
Art Is the Engine, Not the Ornament
Pip: The civic arts post opens with a provocation — that budget decisions reveal not just fiscal priorities but values, imagination, and responsibility to future generations. The frame here is San Diego, but the argument is universal.
Mara: The post draws the historical line directly: “For centuries, societies have understood that arts, culture, and the humanities are not decorative luxuries but foundational civic infrastructure.” Ancient Greeks, Aztec empires, Renaissance cities — the post argues that every era of civic flourishing invested heavily in creative life.
Pip: And the consequence is concrete: San Diego’s arts organizations serve more than a million residents annually, providing after-school programs, mental health support, and economic activity. Defunding them isn’t a budget trim — it’s removing infrastructure.
Mara: The post pairs that civic argument with a piece on individual creativity — a researcher who spent forty years studying highly creative people and identified four phrases that stifle creative thinking cold. The implication is that creativity isn’t a talent reserved for artists; it’s a habit anyone can protect or accidentally kill.
Pip: There’s also an 18-year-old named Ayra Satheesh who just won the European Earth Prize for an invention tackling microplastics. Which is what imagination actually looks like when it isn’t being talked out of itself by the wrong four phrases.
Mara: The Einstein epigraph the post opens with earns its place by the end: logic gets you from A to B, but imagination — and the civic structures that nurture it — takes you somewhere worth going.
Pip: Nature, optimism, art, a 103-year-old doctor, and a teenage inventor — not a bad week for the soul.
Mara: The through-line is that the things we tend to treat as extras — green space, cultural funding, creative habits — keep showing up in the evidence as essentials. Something to carry into next week.
“I finally got eight hours of sleep. It took me three days but whatever.” — Unknown
This week is all about SLEEP!
As high achievers we privilege performance but don’t invest enough time understanding the importance of rest and recovery, leading to sleep hygiene issues for so many of us.
Here are a few good articles on why good sleep matters, how to fall back to sleep when you wake up and can’t seem to fall back asleep, the military sleep method to fall asleep fast, and the sleep issue that often goes undiagnosed, but can adversely impact your health.
“Having peace, happiness, and healthiness is my definition of beauty.
And you can’t have any of that without sleep.”
— Beyoncé
Poor sleep may disrupt the brain’s nightly cleaning cycle – here’s why that matters Doctors have linked poor sleep to dementia for years. The advice hasn’t changed.
I fell back asleep fast at 3 a.m. using a brain researcher’s 5-minute trick — here’s why it works I went through a period of waking up at 3 a.m. most nights and it felt nearly impossible to fall asleep again. I tried everything from breath techniques designed to calm my nervous system, to getting out of bed and ‘pottering’ in another room, but nothing worked.
“People who say they sleep like a baby usually don’t have one.”
— Leo J. Burke
What Is the Military Sleep Method? The military sleep method utilizes breathing and relaxation techniques to help people fall asleep quickly. It combines elements of deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, biofeedback, and visualization.
And 3 Rules for a Happy Life from the World’s Oldest Doctor
In Boston, doctors try a dose of nature as medicine:
Doctors spend years becoming experts in how the body works, how it can break down and how to recognize and treat various illnesses. Their training rarely involves what’s known as “nature-based medicine.” Dr. Susan Abookire has made it her mission to change that.
New Harvard Study: How Optimism Helps Your Brain Stay Healthy:
I didn’t know I was doing exactly what Harvard researchers say makes your brain a lot healthier. May 4, 2026 Here’s some good news. A few years ago, when I was feeling a bit down, I started an experiment that turned into a weekly newsletter feature that I now call Big Optimism. The premise is simple: I look back in history and find days that seemed ordinary at the time — or even bad — that turned out to be the quiet starting point for remarkable things.
At 103 years old, I’m the ‘world’s oldest doctor’: My 3 rules for a long, happy life are simple:
Dr. Howard Tucker left behind an impressive legacy. At 103, he was named the oldest doctor in the world — and quite possibly the happiest. Shortly before passing away, he shared his rules for living a long, happy, and healthy life. They’re very simple, he says.
Today, global cities that lead in technology, science, and economic competitiveness are the same cities that invest deeply in cultural life:
Across the United States, cities are making budget decisions that reveal far more than their fiscal priorities. They reveal their values, their imagination, and their sense of responsibility to future generations.
For centuries, societies have understood that arts, culture, and the humanities are not decorative luxuries but foundational civic infrastructure. The ancient Greeks embedded theater, philosophy, and public art into the daily life of their cities because they believed that a healthy democracy required imagination, debate, and shared cultural rituals. Aztec empires and Renaissance cities invested heavily in artists and scholars because they recognized that creativity fuels innovation, economic vitality, and civic pride. Today, global cities that lead in technology, science, and economic competitiveness are the same cities that invest deeply in cultural life.
What does it say about a city’s leadership when it places zero value on the artistic and cultural contributions that shape civic identity? What does it say when we ignore decades of evidence that arts and culture are economic drivers, public health strategies, and youth development lifelines? What does it say when we invest more in law enforcement than in expression, more in reaction than in prevention?
San Diego’s arts and culture organizations from youth theaters and community festivals to cultural centers and museums serve more than a million residents annually. They provide after‑school programs, mental health support, intergenerational learning, and spaces for young people to explore identity and belonging. They anchor neighborhoods, attract tourism, and generate economic activity.
Imagine a world in which organizations are typified by selfishness, manipulation, secrecy, and a single-minded focus on winning.
Winning at all costs is the key indicator of success.
Imagine that members of such organizations are characterized by gaming the system, cheating is normalized, the end justifies the means as is treating people in the system as dispensable and replaceable, leading to distrust, anxiety, self-absorption, fear, burnout, and feelings of abuse.
For the sake of contrast, now imagine another world in which organizations are typified by the values they embody, character mattering, and winning honorably both on and off the field, through collaboration, virtuousness, vitality, and meaningfulness.
Human well-being and growing the whole person and team are key indicators of success.
Imagine that members of such organizations are characterized by trustworthiness, resilience, wisdom, humility, and high levels of positive energy. Social relationships and interactions are characterized by compassion, loyalty, honesty, respect, and forgiveness with theories of excellence exploring, transcendence, positive deviance, extraordinary performance, and positive spirals of flourishing.
So, which definition of success do you think most of us are striving for?
How about you?
When it comes to activities outside of family, my first love is martial arts.
I have been practicing and teaching traditional martial arts focused on self-development through self-defense for the last 43 years teaching at UC San Diego. Here, I have worked on creating a community of practice, where the biggest opponent at the end of the day, is not out there, but in here.
It is yourself.
Those you train with are there to help you grow, and yes even the instructors are lifelong learners, honing their craft and developing themselves and others through the student/teacher relationship.
Winning the national championships in traditional karate several times and that “success” allowing me to compete and place in the top three in the world, representing the United States in two world championships and the Pan American games is interestingly not the high-water mark of my training.
It’s growing people who understand the importance of character.
Here there is an ascendancy of winning from best to worst:
Honorable Win
Honorable Loss
Dishonorable Win
Dishonorable Loss
An adage in martial arts is “On time is late”
Why?
When you are late you are prone to make an excuse or tell a small (white) lie to save face.
Telling a small lie is the gateway drug to telling a bigger lie which can make cheating feel justified and next thing you know you have normalized, “if you are not cheating, you are not trying!”
Sow a thought, reap an action.
Sow an action, reap a habit.
Sow a habit, reap a character.
Sow a character, reap a destiny.
Our self-talk is a powerful determinant of who we are and what we become.
Stories are powerful, and the most powerful stories are the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves.
Teach your children & parents well, do good work, and see you next week!
“Real happiness comes from a continuous effort to become the best possible version of yourself”- Aristotle
As we enter the first full week in May let’s practice some “enlightened self-interest” and invest in our mental health and wellbeing.
The Big 5:
Exercising
Socializing
Learning long into later life
Eating a healthy diet
Sleepingenough
This year’s theme — More Good Days, Together — encourages us all to reflect on what a “good” day looks like, both for ourselves, and for our communities. Together, we can use that insight to connect people to the right support at the right time, and shape advocacy, education, and community engagement to make more good days possible for all.
The Surprising Science Linking Your Heart & Mental Health A growing body of research shows the heart and mind are intrinsically connected, driving a new functional approach to longevity that builds resilience across both systems.
Harvard Research Says This Is the Secret to a Happy Life. Neuroscience Confirms It, After 25 Years Decades of data. One simple answer. Propose a toast, and maybe say a little prayer, for 77 elderly people who agreed to donate their brains to science after they died. Because they chose to do so might lead to real benefits for the rest of us. These 77 were part of a group of 290 people who have participated in the Northwestern University Super Aging Program since 2000 — a 25-year investigation.
“Love is the flower you’ve got to let grow.” – John Lennon
Spiritually speaking, today’s Flower Moon symbolizes abundance and celebration
After enduring a month of rain (April), we are now able to enjoy the gorgeous blooming flowers.
This full moon is all about reaping the benefits of your hard work—and releasing anything that might be preventing your own growth.
This week’s missive does just that
Join us for a communing that will catalyze our well-being on May 9th.
Commune with nature right here in San Diego County and enjoy the flowers!
May you flower and bloom this May Day!
Last Call for Joy Jam next Saturday May 9th in Encinitas!
I don’t know if you have noticed, but we are in dire need of the 51st state in the union, the state of Joy!
This will not be created by government for the people.
This will be created by our own actions as the people!
If you are like me and could use a bit more joy in your life and your community, I strongly encourage you to sign up for this one-of-a-kind family-friendly, pay what you want experience.
The antidote for Collective Heart Failure is our community gathering in presence with love, joy, and care. Chance may favor the prepared mind, but Joy favors the prepared heart.
Let’s give Father Profit a break and Mother Earth a chance as we recently celebrated Earth Day and now celebrate May Day!
We already have 200 joy-filled people signed up and are almost sold out, so if this vibe resonates, it’s now or never!
The Full Flower Moon in Scorpio Is Coming: Everything You Need to Know Today, May 1, we will experience the full moon in Scorpio. Also known as the Flower Moon, May’s first full moon will be both empowering and celebratory.
Here’s what you should know about this impactful spring full moon.
Here’s What Spending 20 Minutes Outside Every Morning Does to Your Brain The morning habit that costs nothing—and does more for your brain than you might think.
Speaking of last calls, only two weeks left and it does not require a trip to Europe, just to Carlsbad!
Peak bloom arrives at Carlsbad Flower Fields The Flower Fields at Carlsbad Ranch has reached peak bloom, with nearly 80 million Giant Tecolote Ranunculus flowers covering 55 acres of hillside, offering visitors a limited window to catch the fields at their most colorful from April 6 to April 20
Finally, if you prefer Desert Wildflowers, here is your link
An extraordinary number of flowers are brightening roadsides and trails right now, transforming the desert’s tawny browns and beiges into a vibrant tapestry of color.
It’s an ideal time to plan a trip to see lupine, desert lily, primrose, and poppies in bloom.
Let’s give Father Profit a break and Mother Earth a chance!
Bad News…
650-foot mega-tsunami sends seismic waves around the world for 9 days
Earth being ‘pushed beyond its limits’ as energy imbalance reaches record high
Nearly half of migratory species in decline as UN summit opens
28 Things that are actively destroying society and making everyone’s lives worse, but for some reason we don’t want to talk about
Good News…
Live long and prosper – in San Diego County, life expectancy outpaces California, US
Peak bloom arrives at Carlsbad Flower Fields
Groundbreaking study finds a natural way to fight climate change
An ancient Maya ‘codex’ keeps predicting future events with eerie accuracy
The best photos from NASA’s first moon mission in more than 50 years
+ Last chance to sign up for the Joy Jam on May 9th
650-foot mega-tsunami sends seismic waves around the world for 9 days
Local Yokels- Last chance to sign up for the Joy Jam:
If you are in town on May 9th and need some joy in your life and your community, I strongly encourage you to sign up for this one-of-a-kind family-friendly experience.
The antidote for Collective Heart Failure is our community gathering in presence with love, joy, and care. Chance may favor the prepared mind, but Joy favors the prepared heart.
Let’s give Father Profit a break and Mother Earth a chance!
Already sold over 100 tickets so if this resonates, please sign up asap as it will likely fill up…
Earth being ‘pushed beyond its limits’ as energy imbalance reaches record high: State of the Climate report finds Earth’s energy has moved dangerously out of balance, with oceans absorbing vast majority of trapped heat.
Nearly half of migratory species in decline as UN summit opens: A UN summit on migratory species opens in Brazil on Monday as scientists warn that the long journeys of whales, fish, birds and other animals are being disrupted by climate change and human activity – with risks for ecosystems, food supplies and coastal economies.
28 Things That Are Actively Destroying Society and Making Everyone’s Lives Worse, But for Some Reason We Don’t Want to Talk About:
And many of these are related to how we treat this tiny blue planet and all sentient beings! “The number of Americans who lack human empathy is growing significantly, and it’s being encouraged.”
Live long and prosper – in San Diego County, life expectancy outpaces California, US: A child born in San Diego in 2024 is expected to live into his or her 80s, but community and ethnicity have an impact too.
Peak bloom arrives at Carlsbad Flower Fields: The Flower Fields at Carlsbad Ranch has reached peak bloom, with nearly 80 million Giant Tecolote Ranunculus flowers covering 55 acres of hillside, offering visitors a limited window to catch the fields at their most colorful from April 6 to April 20.
Groundbreaking study finds a natural way to fight climate change: This first-of-its-kind study found beavers have a surprisingly efficient method of safely storing carbon dioxide.
An ancient Maya ‘codex’ keeps predicting future events with eerie accuracy: The Maya civilization is known for its art and architecture. But as we decipher their surviving cultural relics, we’re discovering Maya astronomy was even more advanced than we had imagined.
The best photos from NASA’s first moon mission in more than 50 years: The Artemis II astronauts concluded their record-breaking 10-day journey on Friday with a smooth splashdown in the Pacific Ocean.
For decades, I have been signing my emails, “love, Neville”
Periodically, I have got some flak for that.
Could this put you at risk for sexual harassment?
You might be signaling the wrong thing to someone, who doesn’t know you better!
You get the drill…
Alternatively, I am convinced that when we can make the shift from all “head”– smarts and wisdom, to incorporating “heart” – empathy, compassion, love, and kindness, we show up better and connect more authentically with everyone we meet!
Love at work is another level.
My longtime friend and colleague Steve Farber, bestselling author, coach, keynote speaker, fine musician and downright good guy, took this head on, many moons ago.
He has a new book coming out, The Radical Promise with the pioneering authors of one of the seminal book on leadership, The Leadership Challenge ( Barry Posner and James Kouzes) so be on the lookout for that: