Your Last Soul Food for 2022: Winter Solstice & Holiday Edition

Happy Soul Food Friday

This week:

  • Happy Holy Days with Eric K
  • Winter Solstice 2022 with Billy S
  • 7 Reasons Why Santa is a Positive Leader
  • Caring for Employees Through Self Care -The Culture Crush Business Podcast with Me

Happy Holy Days with Eric K:

This time of year, for those of us living in the wintery hemisphere, calls forth our implicit spirituality.

Ordinarily gentle and niggling, spiritual presence comes collectively alive during Hanukkah, winter solstice, Kwanzaa, Christmas, and Samhain celebrations. 

Winter traditions emphasize gratitude, compassion, benevolence, and caregiving – our gentler nature that gets subsumed by the business and activity of day-to-day hustle and drive.

Still, we are culturally called to pause amidst the cold and dark, appreciate being alive, connect with community, and extend our attention to the Cosmos and God. 

My fondest wish for you, as one spiritual being to another, is that you bask in this moment, be kind to yourself, be kind to others, and soak in as much of that Gentle Spirit as you can lovingly and courageously absorb.

Happy Holy Days and New Year. 

Winter Solstice 2022 with Billy S:

Aloha Friends,

The winter solstice was on Wednesday, December 21, 2022 at 1:48 pm PST

This begins the winter season.

It is a pivot point from which the light will grow stronger and brighter. 

The longest night and shortest day of the year are followed by a renewal of the sun as days get longer.

On this day the sun takes its lowest arc across the sky.

On this day the sun sets farthest south on the horizon.

Creating a meaningful winter solstice celebration can help us cultivate a deeper connection with nature, family, friends and community.

The winter solstice can be a beautiful reminder that our lives are part of a larger order that’s always changing and renewing.

A way to bring warmth, light and cheerfulness into the dark time of the year.

For many millenniums humans have marked this sacred time in the yearly cycle of life.

The winter solstice can serve as a touchstone to help us cultivate an attitude of receptiveness and appreciation that will carry us through the holiday season.

Reflect on the stillness of the day by cultivating stillness in yourself.

Spend more time listening, watching and honoring the slower, quieter rhythm of the season.

Darkness and night are times of rest, dreaming, healing and growth. 

Seeds must be put into the dark earth in order to send out roots and push up new shoots.

Native plants bloom now so that their seeds will be formed and fall to the ground early enough in spring to take advantage of the rains.

Plant a seed for a more intuitive, simpler and natural holiday season.

If you want to change something in your life or something about yourself the winter solstice is a good time to work on it.

This longest night can be a time of journeying deep into our inner dreamtime to bring forth a dream that can help us in the new year.

A new year with fresh possibilities reborn in us all.

The Winter Solstice is:
A chance to clean house, both inner and outer.

A time for reflection, rest and renewal.

A time for feeding the spirit and nurturing the soul.

Stay in tune with nature and wellness!

More on the Solstice:

First day of winter: Shortest day, longest night on December 21 solstice – The Washington Post

7 Reasons Why Santa is a Positive Leader
7 Reasons Why Santa Is a Positive Leader

Caring for Employees Through Self Care- The Culture Crush Business Podcast:

Here is a podcast I was interviewed on about cultures and self-care that might be useful as we reflect on our world of work over the holiday season

What CEOs think employees want is not what employees say they want…

Culture Matters!

Caring for Employees Through Self Care E30 – Culture Crush (

Thanks this week go to Billy S, Eric K, Larry H, & Kindra M.

Pay it forward and be good to yourself over the holidays!



“Even after all this time the sun never says to the earth,


Look what happens with a love like that,

It lights the whole world.” – Hafiz

Your Soul Food for Friday Dec 16, 2022: Transmuting Smoldering Discontent Both Individually and Environmentally into Sustainable Purpose

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Your Relationship to Work-

Transmuting Smoldering Discontent into Finding Your Purpose and Leaving a Legacy:

Enjoy this podcast with my friend and colleague Jeff Blanton as I turn the tables and interview him on his Conscious Curiosity show. Jeff shares some compelling ideas about our relationship to the world of work, and what we can do to find more meaning and fulfillment in this time of great resignations, great migrations, quiet quitting, and soul-searching. These are some great nuggets, as we all reflect on our various roles at the end of this year…

Anniversary Special – Flipping the Script with Jeff Blanton & Neville Billimoria – Jailbreak Leadership

Your Relationship to Play-

If you are local, join us for an evening of righteous live music with Strange Crew– this Saturday evening from 7 to 10pm at the conveniently located Duck Foot Brewing Company.

This venue is cool, dog and kid Friendly, and Strange Crew has put together a set list to die for.

From Cream, to the Yardbirds, to Derek and the Dominos, to Blind Faith to rock and blues legends Eric Clapton has collaborated with over the years, this is a tour de force evening covering one of the most successful and influential guitarists and bands in rock music!

Get off the couch and be sure to eat your Wheaties, because this promises to be a super fun high energy experience for you music lovers, and might be the last live show I get the privilege of playing for and with you in 2022.

Strange Crew – Clapton Tribute Night! – Duck Foot Brewing Co (

Here is a teaser to give you a flavor with a few special guests expected too:

For Your Love – End jam – YouTube

Hope to see you there!

For Your Love,


Your Relationship to Nature-

Restoring Gorongosa National Park After Decades of War:

Mozambique’s Gorongosa National Park was the envy of Africa. Wildlife drew tourists from around the world. But, beginning in the 1960’s, a manmade catastrophe slaughtered the animals until, it was said, there was nothing left but mosquitos and landmines. In 2008, we followed an American entrepreneur who dreamed of returning a wasteland to greatness. Now, 14 years later, Greg Carr has something to show the world. And we couldn’t resist a return to Gorongosa when Carr sends invitations like this!

Greg has done the impossible: brought it back to life with the full complement of African megafauna. And, he’s ingrained the eight surrounding villages with the common purpose of maintaining Gorongosa. It’s astonishing work at epic scale. 

Restoring Gorongosa National Park after decades of war – 60 Minutes – CBS News

Is Patagonia the End Game for Profits in a World of Climate Change?
Patagonia’s decision to donate profits to climate change is an evidentiary example of why private and family businesses often do more for the planet than the stock market.

Is Patagonia the end game for profits in a world of climate change? (

Make Ecocide an International Crime and Other Legal Ideas to Help Save the Planet
Here is a list of the five most promising legal steps we can take to help fight climate change

Make ecocide an international crime and other legal ideas to help save the planet | Steven Donziger | The Guardian

See Rare Photos of Chimpanzees Treating their Wounds with Insects
A photographer captured images of the great apes in Gabon applying an unknown species of insect to both themselves and their family members.

See rare photos of chimpanzees treating their wounds with insects (

Over 50 Species Previously thought to be Mute Make Sounds
If you listen closely, your pet turtle might just have something to say to you…

Over 50 species previously thought to be mute make sounds, new study finds | CNN

The 2022 Bird Life Australia Photography awards
A shy albatross, a skydiving kestrel and a curious galah are among the shortlisted and winning photos in this year’s bird photography prize

The 2022 BirdLife Australia photography awards – in pictures | Environment | The Guardian

Morning Has Broken by Cat Stevens/Yusuf Islam:

Enjoy the visuals that go with this iconic song

Morning Has Broken by Cat Stevens – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Strange Crew, Charles S, Larry H and all who have contributed to our wellbeing diet this year.

Stay joyous and pay it forward with purpose.



“The Greatest Threat to Our Planet is the Belief that Someone Else Will Save It”

Your Soul Food for Friday Dec 9 2022: Fight the Blues with Some Tunes!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: The Amazing Power of Music

Fight the Blues with Some Tunes:
These researchers found that within just a few weeks of starting lessons, subjects’ ability to process multisensory information – sight and sound – was enhanced.

Fight the blues with some tunes – study – The Jerusalem Post (

Heartwarming Animation to Lighten Your Load and Get You Smiling:

Polar Bear & Squirrel Dancing On Ice, Funny Horse – YouTube

‘Totally Uninhibited’ Dancing Guest Conductor Goes Viral:
Conductor gone wild. Watch the guy who won a raffle get to conduct an orchestra.

Boy is he having fun and his joy is infectious…

Video: Watch Chelsea Symphony’s guest conductor dance his way to internet fame | CNN

Drivin the Bus on KUSI TV with Yours Truly Playing Shakedown Street

Grateful Dead Shakedown Street cover to juice you up!

Local band “Drivin’ The Bus” performs on KUSI patio – YouTube

Keep Smiling!

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Vince H, and all you lovers of music

Please play it forward and stay in tune with your highest nature!



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“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi

Your Soul Food for Friday Dec 2, 2022: BeNevilleNce (Actually, Be Yourself!)

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: BeNevilleNce

Locals-Ready to Classic Jam Tonight?

Drivin The Bus is at The Kraken in Cardiff this Friday at 9pm

Here is a sampler from when we were featured on KUSI TV recently:

KUSI rocks out with local band Drivin’ The Bus – YouTube

Enjoy kicking it to Clapton?

Next Gig Saturday Dec 17th with Strange Crew at Duck Foot Brewing Company, 8920 Kenamar Dr. from 7 to 10pm

Good vibrations coming your way and yes I will be sitting in on percussion for both…

Pure Fun and Frivolity-

Sharing is Caring!

Check these two lovey kitties out…

Cats sharing food – YouTube

Need to Get the Rage Out?

Check out this ambidextrous prize fighter with lightning paws and Bruce Lee speed!

Cat really hates this tiger – YouTube

And You Think You Go Nuts Watching Your Favorite Team:

Dog Watching Soccer Game | Dog Reaction | – YouTube

Elton Might Have Just Concluded His Tour

Here comes the next virtuoso

Dog Plays Piano and Sings – YouTube

A Bit More Heady Stuff-

At Work

 What do I do when others around me, like my boss or coworkers, aren’t positive?”  

No matter how positive we may choose to be, we’re always going to encounter others who aren’t. Thankfully there are things that we can do to help overcome their negativity or redirect it in a way that helps them become more positive as well. Here are few suggestions…  

1. Make Your Bus Great – You may not be the leader of your organization. You may not be driving the “big bus,” but you can decide to make YOUR bus great. Every day just focus on being the best you can be and bring out the best in others while tuning out everything else. Tune out the negativity. Tune out the damaging comments. Tune out anything you can’t control. You can’t drive anyone else’s bus. Just drive your bus and make it a great ride.  

2. Your Positive Energy Must Be Greater than All of the Negativity – In the book Power vs Force, author David Hawkins, MD shares research that 80 percent of the population vibrates to a negative frequency. The fact is negativity is all around us. It’s not just your coworker or boss. It’s everywhere. You must remember that your positive energy must be greater than all the negativity. As country wisdom suggests, “Never wrestle with a pig because you’ll both get dirty, and the pig likes it.” Instead, stay above the fray. Positive energy is much more powerful than negative energy. If you stay positive, the negativity can’t touch you.

3. Be The Seed – When you plant yourself where you are, with a desire to serve and make a difference, you will create very positive conditions for your growth. You’ll be amazed at how others start treating you more positively when you approach your work with a service mindset. They will sense something different in you and they will change the way they behave towards you. I encourage you to read The Seed and let the growing process begin.

4. Invite Your Boss or Co-Workers on Your Bus – Give your boss or coworkers a book on positive leadership. It could be one of my books or a book from another author. There are many great books out there. I’ve received countless emails from leaders who received The Energy BusThe Power of Positive Leadership and The Carpenter from their employees and it changed the way they lead. Best of all, this change in leadership spreads throughout the organization. So don’t think you can’t change your situation or organization. You can. I’m convinced that very few people want to be negative. Most people are negative because of stress, busyness, and fear. Most people just need a wake-up call to break out of their rut. This is your opportunity to help someone else break free. Decide to be a beacon of light that shines on others. You’ll be amazed at what happens as a result.

5. If They Don’t Change, You Can – If all else fails you have a choice. You can decide to stay positive and outlast your boss or coworkers knowing that truth shines through and eventually a negative boss or coworkers won’t last, or you can decide to change your job. I’m not advocating simply giving up but if all else fails, you always have a choice. Remember, the best cultures that focus on positive leadership attract the best employees. Whatever you do, however, don’t allow a negative boss or coworker to get you down. With 80 percent of the population being negative, we need positive powerful people like you to offset the negativity.

So keep staying positive!  

In Relationships

The Growth Mindset Applied to Marriage:

No one will deny that marriage is hard. In fact, there’s evidence it’s getting even harder. Revisit a favorite episode from 2018 about the history of marriage and how it has evolved over time. Historian Stephanie Coontz and psychologist Eli Finkel explore ways we can improve our love lives — including by asking less of our partners.

Relationships 2.0: When Did Marriage Become So Hard? | Hidden Brain Media

Over Human History

Leaving A Mark

Only 32 signs across a 3,200-year timespan across an entire continent?

For millennia, humans have created artifacts of their lives — from art, to books, to music.

Explore ideas about capturing the ephemeral human experience for future generations to find.

Leaving A Mark : TED Radio Hour : NPR

Thanks this week go to Chris B and Larry H for your contributions!

Please pay it forward with purpose everyone




“Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Already Taken.”

– Oscar Wilde

Your Soul Food for Thanksgiving Week 2022: Feast on Gratitude & Snack on Joy!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Feast on Gratitude, Snack on Joy, Reset Your Nervous System and Learn From Nature


Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge, because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary, because it means you’ve made a difference.

It’s easy to be thankful for the good things.

A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

~~Author Unknown.

Feast on gratitude this holiday season:

It could be good for you mentally, physically
“Physiologically, when people are experiencing gratitude, or when they tend to be more grateful overall, they have lower blood pressure,” one expert notes.

Expressing gratitude could be good for you, mentally and physically – Chicago Sun-Times (

Want to feel happier?

Try snacking on joy.
Learning to find the joy in mundane experiences is a way to cultivate a more meaningful life.

Want to feel happier? Try savoring small moments and “snacking” on joy. – The Washington Post

Feeling stressed?

How to use the 5-senses method to reset your nervous system and achieve inner calm
Sure-fire ways to achieve inner calm when life gets hectic.

How to use the five senses method to achieve inner calm (

A New Study Shows That Young Bumblebees Like to Play with Toys Mirroring the Behavior of Young Mammals:

New research finds bumblebees like to play with toys : NPR

And Enjoy This Amazing Video That Will Touch Your Soul!

The beauty of pollination – YouTube (

Thankful this week for all soulful and kindred spirits making this world better for others!

Pay it forward with purpose…



“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” – JF Kennedy

Your Soul Food for Friday 11/17/22: The Spirit of Thanksgiving and Love Big!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

The Spirit of Thanksgiving and Love Big!

It is Hard to be Hateful and Grateful at the Same Time-

The Health Benefits of a Random Act of Kindness:
A simple act of kindness does much more than help the receiver, studies show, and any kindness you give to others is also a gift to yourself.

Health benefits of a random act of kindness | CNN

Love, Happiness, Peace and Purpose are Perennials Not Seasonal-

The Happiness Formula for Any Age:

The happiness we seek can require investing earlier than we think—and may help us align our expectations and reality at the end of life.

A New Formula for Happiness – The Atlantic

Small Habits Can Make a Big Difference-

If You Spend Your Day Staring at a Screen, Doing Just a Minute of ‘Eye Yoga’ Can Ease Neck, Jaw and Forehead Tension:

Try These 5 Eye Exercises for Tension Relief | Well+Good (

Making Ethical Food Choices-

Why Giving Up Meat Is So Hard? Try “Reduce- atarian-ism”:

Now more than ever, people are attempting to reduce their meat consumption for ethical and environmental reasons. But in 2020, the U.S. ate more beef than the rest of the world, consuming a whopping 27 billion pounds.

Why giving up meat is so hard — and recipes to make going vegetarian easier | Here & Now (

Stay in Tune-

Researchers played Lady Gaga for rats. They bopped their heads like humans.
The rats in the study listened to an array of music from Mozart, Lady Gaga, Michael Jackson, Queen and Maroon 5.

Lady Gaga, Queen played for study rats. The animals bopped their heads (

Thanks this week go to all of you.

Extending you and your loved ones much love, happiness, peace and purpose!

Please pay it forward and model that attitude of gratitude!



“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder”- Gilbert K. Chesterton

Your Soul Food for 11/11/22: Celebrating 40 Years of Teaching the Wisdom Traditions at UC San Diego

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Celebrating 40 Years of Teaching the Wisdom Traditions at UC San Diego

Where Did the Time Go?
40 Years of Teaching the Wisdom Traditions at UC San Diego:

If as a student at UC San Diego in the 80’s, you said that 40 years later I would still be teaching on campus, I would say you were nuckin’ futs!

Yet, this weekend, we find ourselves hosting a mini-camp, banquet and roast, celebrating 40 years of my teaching the wisdom traditions (martial arts, yoga and meditation) for the campus ecosystem and with the generations of students over the years, touching thousands of lives- now all over the world.

What started as a recreation club while a Muir college student in the dorms is the longest running contiguous program on campus, thanks to the help, support and loyalty of so many students, friends, and colleagues- many who are Sensei in their own right that have grown their own black belts and contributed to our community wellbeing.

Part of the prep work for camp includes some self-reflection, which is always in order as we tend to venerate action and vilify reflection in our human doing v. human being roles.

Here are a couple of examples I thought the Soul Food community would find beneficial so they are in this week’s missive for your wellbeing.

The first is the PERMAH Survey-

The PERMAH Survey is all about self-assessing your wellbeing, exploring the presence in our lives of Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning Accomplishment and Health.

This free, confidential, and fast survey can help you to gauge your current baseline with respect to your wellbeing, your functioning effectively, and your ability to flourish even in challenging times, particularly with the enhanced focused on self-care and mental health we are all experiencing nowadays

Check it out here:

The PERMAH Wellbeing Survey | Wellbeing | Michelle McQuaid

Strength to Strength-

Strength to Strength is a powerful presentation by Arthur C Brooks at Harvard, based on a book of the same name (that some of us read as part of a book club) and serves as a practical roadmap to finding success, happiness and deep purpose in the second half of life.

If you are seeking more love, happiness, peace and purpose it is worth a listen:

Live from Klarman Hall – 6/17/2022 – From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life – Video – Harvard Business School (

You can play this like a podcast in the background while driving, cooking or cleaning if time is limited, but I do strongly encourage you to check it out.

A Blast from the Past:

Here is a short vid of the Inaugural True Triton Award I was honored to receive many moons ago

It speaks to the importance of volunteering and community engagement beyond writing fat checks and how we can all make a difference of consequence:

True Triton—Neville Billimoria, ’82 – YouTube

Finally, to end on a joyous sonic note enjoy the Sultans of Swing in the prime of their lives!

Thanks Ron!

(Or go crank your favorite tunes)

Thanks this week go to Dr. Dan D and Awakening Conscious Leadership, Dr. Alan D professor extraordinaire at UC San Diego, Matt L and the men in the Conscious Leader Collective, and all the amazing members of our Aoinagi Karate community near and far that have stuck by me through thick and thin, especially my wife Barb!

Please pay it forward with purpose, bare it all, and stay in tune with your inner and outer nature!



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Your Soul Food for Friday Nov 4 2022: Kindness Matters!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Destigmatizing Homelessness and Doing Something About It:

Here is a short video I was able to help the San Diego Rescue Mission with on the topic of addressing homelessness, along with some local folks including Ken Blanchard, Mayor Sotelo-Solis of National City, Miles McPherson of The Rock Church, Steve Fisher former head basketball coach for SDSU, and others.

Thanks for caring about our most underestimated brothers and sisters…

Community Leaders Video

CPR On An Elephant!:

The Amazing Kindness of People Has No Bounds

Hero vets save mother elephant’s life with CPR and rescues baby from drain – YouTube

8-year-old boy becomes youngest person to climb California’s El Capitan
An 8-year-old boy became the youngest person to finish climbing El Capitan in California’s Yosemite National Park on Friday, according to his father, who has been by his side and cheering him on since the pair began their journey earlier this week.

8-year-old boy becomes youngest person to climb California’s El Capitan | CNN

Talking to strangers might make you happier, a study on ‘relational diversity’ finds
A study finds that we are happier the more we talk with different categories of people — colleagues, family, strangers — and the more evenly our conversations are spread out among those groups.

Talking to strangers may make you happier, study on ‘relational diversity’ finds : NPR

Thanks this week to all of you who lean out to help others.

Please pay it forward.



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“Lean out in your own way to make a difference in your community, so that others are inspired to stand up or go out on a limb for what matters” –Neville

Your Soul Food for Friday Oct 21 2022: How Do You Get People to Change Behavior?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

How Do You Get People to Change Behavior?
Quebec had one response to jaywalking and it is compelling!

Quebec put up this billboard in a bus stop to raise awarenes about jaywalking – YouTube

Positive Self Talk: The Magic of Mindset by Devin C.

Affirmations are like magic words. The words you most often repeat in your mind affect your life and your future, for good or for bad.

You were probably taught as a child to not talk to yourself — well, throw all that out the window. Developing a strong inner dialogue that you can use to get in the groove is something I’d strongly recommend for anyone. When you stoke yourself up on positive self-talk, you’re able to foster stronger feelings of happiness and optimism.

Positive self-talk is a crucial, effective strategy they can use to combat any time of discomfort. This is why you will often see athletes mumbling to themselves before a game. They’ve been taught how to get in the right headspace for the challenges ahead of them. The beauty of self-talk is that it isn’t just great for sports. Parents, employees — anyone, really, can use self-talk to bring themselves into a more solid and positive frame of mind.

By definition, self-talk can be private thoughts or external speech, and whether it is positive or negative guides a person’s emotional and behavioral responses to discomfort.

If self-talk is negative, reflecting back the criticism you feel from others, you will automatically impose self-limitations that may take years to overcome. On the contrary, if the self-talk is positive, you can create a piece of armor to rely on for defense; whether it’s a work event or speaking in front of the room or seeking help from a co-worker, making new friends or defending oneself against a horrible person (sic), self-talk is extremely powerful.

When I was eight, I started to struggle with reading and writing. Before I was diagnosed with dyslexia, I was pulled into a group of five kids with serious learning disabilities.

A special aide came to work with us twice a day, calling us from our seats to the back of the room, where an accordion wall slid over to reveal a small side area. The walk felt like a slow death march. Everyone could read the scarlet letters tattooed across the slow learners’ foreheads.

“Devin’s with the short bus kids,” one of my classmates snickered. The laughter and comments made me feel exposed and hurt, because there was a part of me that almost believed them. After all, I was in the special education group, so the kids were peeling the scab off a very real vulnerability.  That is why bullying is so damaging — it keys into deeply personal, truly embarrassing parts of a child’s psyche and seems to validate them. When a child utilizes self-talk as a response, he can shed the victim role and feel empowered instead.

In my case, rather than give in to the insecurity or tear my classmates down in return, I sat alone and breathed deeply. I could hear my father’s voice in my head: “People just don’t understand greatness,” he told me. “They don’t know what it looks like. You’ve just got to push through this.” I am, I can, I will, I thought fiercely. These people just don’t understand me. I will get through this. It was important to own that I was going through a difficult time, but believe I would get through it. Those positive affirmations helped deflect some of the bullets being fired at me.

Now, as an adult, I can see how they also demonstrate the power of a parent’s lessons in self-talk. In order for you to connect with others, you have to first be comfortable who you see in the mirror.


● Develop “trigger words” — a positive mantra you connect with and can repeat anytime that you need to self-soothe. Trigger words will help you feel empowered and may come from a favorite song or movie, as well as what parents and teachers instill in them. My trigger words came from my father: “I am, I can, I will.” Even as an adult, I turn to this reassuring phrase anytime I feel self-doubt, fear, or insecurity.

● Learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable. In other words, learn coping strategies for discomfort by placing yourself in situations (on purpose) where you must develop a skill you currently do not have. As a child, I thought the arts were unmanly — so my father made me play the bassoon. My confidence increased once I mastered the instrument, and I could refer to that experience in other times of discomfort.

There’s a Mental Health Crisis Among American Children. Why?

The Pandemic is not the only reason.

There’s a Mental-Health Crisis Among American Children. Why? – The New York Times (

Sleep doctor’s trick to fall asleep faster – and it can help if you wake up at 3am
A sleep doctor has shared her go-to trick to help relax your body and potentially fall asleep faster – and it could even come in handy if you’re prone to waking up in the middle of the night.

Sleep tip: Hummingbird breath trick to fall asleep faster, Doctor Carmel Harrington explains | Exclusive – 9Coach (

A horse ran away with wild mustangs. It just came home, 8 years later.
Eight years ago, Shane Adams’s beloved horse, Mongo, became one of about 86,000 wild mustangs roaming the West. But last week, he finally came home.

Horse returns to owner in Utah after roaming wild for eight years – The Washington Post

Alaska snow crab season canceled after an estimated 1 billion crabs disappear
An estimated 1 billion crabs have mysteriously disappeared from Alaskan waters in two years, officials said.

Alaska snow crab season canceled as officials investigate disappearance of an estimated 1 billion crabs – CBS News

Thanks this week go to Chris B, Angelica G-W, and you for living and loving with purpose.

Please pay it forward.



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Your Soul food For Friday Oct 14 ’22: Do We All Experience the World in the Same Way?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

“Difference- The Only thing we have in Common”

The big idea: do we all experience the world in the same way?
Every human brain is different – it’s time to embrace the diversity of our experiences

The big idea: do we all experience the world in the same way? | Books | The Guardian

“It doesn’t matter who you love, where you love, why you love, when you love, or how you love, it only matters THAT you love!”- John Lennon

‘My teenage hormones were raging!’: stars salute the Beatles’ Love Me Do at 60
It confused Gene Simmons, inspired Judy Collins and changed one pop star’s mum’s haircut. Here, musicians recall the impact of the Beatles’ debut single

‘My teenage hormones were raging!’: stars salute the Beatles’ Love Me Do at 60 | The Beatles | The Guardian

“If you have come to help me, you are

wasting your time. But if you have

come because your liberation is

bound up with mine, then let us walk


— Lila Watson, Australian Aboriginal woman, in response to

mission workers

An Indigenous tribe and a team of scientists help condors soar again
Once pushed to the brink of extinction, condors are soaring in Northern California skies again with the help of an Indigenous tribe and a team of scientists.

Nearly extinct, California condors return thanks to Yurok, scientists – Washington Post

Australia hands control of its newest national parks to Indigenous peoples
The landmark move includes tourism efforts highlighting 60,000 years of Native culture and is part of a push to reckon with the country’s colonial legacy.

Australia hands control of its newest national parks to Indigenous peoples (

“Let us therefore decide both upon the Goal and upon the Way, and not fail to find some experienced Guide who has explored the region towards which we are advancing, for the conditions of this Journey are different from those of most travel.” — Seneca

Just 2 minutes of walking after eating can help blood sugar, study says
Getting up and moving after you eat — even if it’s only for two minutes — can help control blood sugar levels, a new study says. If you can’t do that, try standing. It helps, too.

Blood sugar may be controlled with short walks after eating | CNN

“Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.”

-John W. Whitehead

How to raise kids who give back to the world
Optimism, not despair, is the way to inspire kids to help the future.

Parents can raise kids who are ready to make the world better – Vox

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The wicked leader is he whom the people despise.

The good leader is he whom the people revere.

The great leader is he of whom the people say, “We did it ourselves.”

–Lao Tsu