Your Soul Food for 3/18/22: Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Self Care, Ukraine, Spring Has Sprung, Daylight Savings and Cute Nat Geo Photos

Which Wolf Will You Feed?

An elderly Cherokee Brave was teaching his grandson about life.

He said, “A battle is raging inside me…it is a terrible fight between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The old man looked at the child with a firm stare. “This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute, and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The elderly Cherokee replied: “The one you feed.”

Make sure to feed the right wolf this week! 

Ukraine- No Bystanding!

Ready to Die? Why Most People Flunk the Zelenskyy Test.
Tyranny has triumphed in recent years because real courage is rare.

Ready to Die? Why Most People Flunk the Zelenskyy Test. – POLITICO

Opinion | Stop buying from these companies. They’re funding Putin’s war.
Ukraine’s Zelensky is right: Peace should matter more than profit.

Opinion | Koch, Halliburton, Subway, others fund Putin’s Ukraine war. Boycott them. – The Washington Post

“They’re lying to you”: Russian TV employee interrupts news broadcast
Marina Ovsyannikova ran on to the set of the Channel One transmission shouting: ‘Stop the war. No to war’

‘They’re lying to you’: Russian TV employee interrupts news broadcast | Russia | The Guardian

The Ukrainian girl who sang ‘Let It Go’ from a bomb shelter gave us all hope
Every person fighting for Ukraine, every family ripped apart by this war – they grieve because they love. This is the language we all speak.

Russia and Ukraine: Ukrainian girl sings ‘Let it Go’ for all of us (usatoday.com)

The power of the dog and how pets are helping Ukrainians cope with war
Hundreds of thousands of pets are estimated to have crossed into countries neighboring Ukraine since the war began.

Pets have provided Ukrainian owners with crucial emotional and physical support : NPR

Spring is Here & Daylight Savings-

Happy Newroz, Nawroz, Navroz!

Spring is Here So Soak Up the Sun

THIS WEEK: SOAK UP THE SUN – Every Monday Matters

Sleep experts say Senate has it wrong: Standard time, not daylight saving, should be permanent
The Senate voted unanimously Tuesday to make daylight saving time permanent, but many sleep experts argue that the U.S. should adopt year-round standard time.

Permanent standard time is better than daylight saving, sleep experts say – The Washington Post

Bonus!

28 tender photos from the Nat Geo archives that will bring a smile to your face
See a selection of some of the marvelous images stored in our historic photography collection.

28 tender photos from the Nat Geo archives that will bring a smile to your face (nationalgeographic.com)

Thanks this week go to Angelica G-W, Every Monday Matters, & Conscious Leaders that model courage, compassion, and wisdom everywhere!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it”- Rumi

Your Soul Food for 3/11/22: Green Lights, Strong Backs, Soft Fronts & Critical Foundations

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Did You Notice The Green Lights?

Whether it is the global pandemic, the war in Ukraine, or other challenges that seem to keep rearing their ugly heads, it sure seems tough to stay in a positive frame of mind.

I am telling you, if it’s not one thing, it’s another…

Now that traffic has picked up, have you noticed that if you are running late and trying to get to your destination on time, every red light can get in your head and make you stressed?

You feel your pulse racing, anxiety rising, frustration building…

Now replay the tape…

If you think back, how many of the green lights did you notice?

If you are like most of us, we have a form of attentional blindness to the green lights and seem to miss all of them, while we perseverate on all the red ones.

Humans brains seem to be wired to be velcro for the bad stuff and teflon for the good stuff.

Just recognizing this default setting, and choosing to attend to the green lights, both literally and figuratively can be a powerful tool in dealing with the day to day challenges we all face.

So here is a thought for the week:

Take some time everyday to focus on the green lights in your life.

When you find yourself thinking about all the things you don’t have, consider all the things you don’t have that you don’t want!

Focusing on the green lights is a form of practicing an attitude of gratitude.

It is hard to be hateful and grateful at the same time.

May you have a week filled with green lights both personally and professionally, and maybe share your evergreen attitude with others.

Joy shared is doubled. Misery shared is halved…

You’ve got this!

Love,

Neville

Celebrating International Women’s Day Week:

International Women’s Day is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural, and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating women’s equality.

“Imagine a gender equal world. A world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination. A world that is diverse, equitable, and inclusive. A world where difference is valued and celebrated. Together we can forge women’s equality. Collectively we can all #BreakTheBias.”

Strike the Pose!

IWD: IWD 2022 campaign theme: #BreakTheBias (internationalwomensday.com)

200 classical musicians join London orchestral flashmob in solidarity with Ukraine
Musicians took part in a flashmob in London’s Trafalgar Square, to show solidarity with Ukraine.

With no rehearsal time, the musicians gathered for an outdoor flashmob described as “spine-tingling” by spectators walking past the square.

200 classical musicians join for London orchestral flashmob in solidarity with… – Classic FM

Compassion IT-

We need to keep a “strong back and a soft front”

Yes pay attention to what is happening in Ukraine, but also pay attention to what is happening within you…

How can you ‘compassion it’ for Ukraine? (mailchi.mp)

5 Simple Acts Of Kindness Giving Ukrainians (And The World) Some Hope
The world is coming together to help Ukrainians – on the borders and at home.

5 Simple Acts Of Kindness Giving Ukrainians (And The World) Some Hope | HuffPost UK Life (huffingtonpost.co.uk)

CRITICAL FOUNDATIONS: The Thirty Questions Anyone Must Answer to Build a Meaningful Life:

 By Scott Schimmel

What are the step-by-step ingredients someone needs to build a meaningful life?
The current school system is a sprint to gain the knowledge necessary to pass tests and be ready for the academic challenges in college. There’s little room for reflection, integration, or building relevant self-awareness.

Through years of research and work with tens of thousands of students, educators, transitioning veterans, and parents, we’ve developed a keen perspective- a meaningful life has to be intentionally constructed. It doesn’t work to give answers—you have to ask questions. You have to create the circumstances for people to discover their own answers to life’s most critical questions.

In this book, Scott walks through each one of the thirty critical questions—why they’re so essential and how to go about answering them. With vulnerable storytelling, these foundational concepts become accessible and relatable to someone of any age. The second half of the book delves into common sense skills to help guide young people to find their answers to these critical questions.

Get the book on Amazon

Thanks this week go to Sara S, Scott S, Trailblazing, Game Changing Women everywhere, and You for being Soul-filled!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world;

indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”— Margaret Mead

Your Soul Food for Friday March 4 2022: Autocracy v. Democracy & Staying Sane Even As The World Seems Mad

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Autocracy v. Democracy & Staying Sane Even As The World Seems Mad

Different Perspectives on the World-

The Bad Guys Are Winning
If the 20th century was the story of slow, uneven progress toward the victory of liberal democracy over other ideologies—communism, fascism, virulent nationalism—the 21st century is, so far, a story of the reverse.

Autocracy Is Winning – The Atlantic

Opinion | Why Should Americans Care About Ukraine? It’s Not Complicated.
The Russia-Ukraine conflict is geographically distant, but the consequences of Putin’s aggression could have ripple effects beyond Eastern Europe.

Jeff McCausland: Why Putin and Russia’s Ukraine war should matter to America (nbcnews.com)

Putin Accidentally Revitalized the West’s Liberal Order
The Russian president thought he sensed an opportunity to take advantage of a disunited West. He has been proved wrong.

Putin Accidentally Revitalized the West’s Liberal Order – The Atlantic

Staying in the Positive-

3 Science-Backed Ways to Better Deal With Stress and Be More Focused, Productive, and Successful
Totally avoid stress? Impossible. Better deal with stress? Surprisingly simple.

3 Science-Backed Ways to Better Deal With Stress and Be More Focused, Productive, and Successful | Inc.com

The Secret to Happiness, According to This Harvard Professor: A Reverse Bucket List
If you want to be truly happy, don’t just think about what to add to your life, but about what to take away.

The Secret to Happiness, According to This Harvard Professor: A Reverse Bucket List | Inc.com

Study Finds Having Pets May Have Positive Impact on Brain Power
“Prior studies have suggested that the human-animal bond may have health benefits like decreasing blood pressure and stress,” Dr. Tiffany Braley of the University of Michigan Medical Center shared, adding that the “results suggest pet ownership may also be protective against cognitive decline.”

Study Finds Having Pets May Have Positive Impact on Brain Power | Complex

These Adorable Animal Pictures Will Bring a Smile to Your Face
Bored Panda has collected pictures from around the world to create this adorable gallery, featuring sweet animals who will bring a smile to your face.

These adorable animal pictures will bring a smile to your face | Daily Mail Online

Thanks to those courageous souls who are willing to stand up for their values even in the most difficult of circumstances!

Please pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

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“To live is the rarest thing in the world.
Most people exist, that is all.”–
Oscar Wilde

Your Soul Food for Friday Feb 25 2022: Are You A “RAKtivist”?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:
Feb 17 was Random Acts of Kindness Day but we should practice this amazing heart-set all year long!

Kindness Pledge

The Health Benefits of a Random Act of Kindness
Random Acts of Kindness Day doesn’t have to be limited to one day a year. A simple act of kindness does much more than help the receiver, studies show, and any kindness you give to others is also a gift to yourself.

Random Acts of Kindness Day 2022: It’s good for your health – CNN

Random Acts of Kindness Day: 6 unique gestures of goodness
Everyday people around the world show how acts of kindness can change lives.

6 inspirational videos to mark Random Acts of Kindness Day (usatoday.com)

Dog Saves Dog After Lab Alerts Owner to Golden Retriever Trapped in Sinkhole for Nearly a Day
Wrigley, a chocolate Labrador retriever, located the other dog stuck inside a hole at Marilla Park on Saturday, according to Streator Animal Control

Labrador Alerts Owner to Golden Retriever Trapped in Sinkhole | PEOPLE.com

Birds are Remarkable and Beautiful Animals – and They’re Disappearing from Our World
In the past half century, North America has lost a fourth of its birds. Earth is now a coalmine, and every wild bird is a canary

Birds are remarkable and beautiful animals – and they’re disappearing from our world | Kim Heacox | The Guardian

Kindness by Mark Twain

Thanks this week go to RAKtivists Everywhere!

Please pay it forward…

Love,

Neville

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“Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.”

– King Solomon

Your Soul Food Friday for Feb 18, 2022: Lovers of Humanity Come in Many Flavors!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Lovers of Humanity Come in Many Flavors!

“I’m no longer interested in any forms of spirituality, self-mastery programs, success mentors, coaches, healers, spiritual thinkers,

or activists that don’t ultimately lead their communities back to responsible association to tending the Earth.

The never ending quest for self-realization, personal brand mastery, self-success “soul”-preneurship all strike me as bypasses

 that have only served to keep us disassociated from what’s actually going on here.

Which requires us to exit the cult of individual success, whether seen through foggy spiritualized goggles or not,

and get our hands dirty in the immediacy of our grounded environmental issues around us.

The world dies while we buy in to yet another charismatic voice telling us how to heal some yet unmastered part of ourselves even more deeply into narcissistic individual “success.”

The world dies while charismatics make millions on their self-help platforms.

Sure.. and for that matter, Please: do your personal healing.

But if my healing only keeps looping back to myself, and doesn’t ultimately lead to reassociation with the Earth and my work to be part Of It,

then I’m just a casualty of healing-themed consumerism.

And still contributing to the problems that are destroying the planet.”

– Adrianne Tamar

All Are One

This man’s dying words changed my life:
After he was stabbed and lay dying on a train, Taliesin Myrddin Namkai-Meche said, ‘tell everyone on this train I love them.’ I will never forget his words

‘Tell everyone on this train I love them’: the meaning of a hero’s final words | Maeve Higgins | The Guardian

Here’s the story behind Black History Month — and why it’s celebrated in February
Black History Month grew from a weeklong celebration that started nearly 100 years ago — and it’s not random that it’s in February.

The story behind Black History Month — and why it’s celebrated in February : NPR

Albert Cleage: Founder of The Shrine of the Black Madonna:

Albert Cleage: Founder The Shrine of The Black Madonna – Black Mail Blog (blackmail4u.com)

A Nazi officer’s housekeeper hid 12 Jews in the basement. All of them made it out alive.
“Without her, I wouldn’t be alive,” said Roman Haller, who was conceived while his parents were in hiding.

A Nazi officer’s housekeeper hid 12 Jews in the basement. All of them made it out alive. (nbcnews.com)

These vintage photos show the timeless allure of travel
Find inspiration for your next journey in these images from National Geographic’s archives.

These vintage photos show the timeless allure of travel (nationalgeographic.com)

Thanks this week go Kurt C, for the Adrianne Tamar quote, Manuelita B for the Albert Cleage link, and to lovers of humanity everywhere.

Please pay it forward with love!

Love,

Neville

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“Love is misunderstood to be an emotion;
actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of
being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.”

–Dr. David Hawkins

Your Soul Food Friday for Feb 11 2022: Mind-blowing and Mesmerizing – Choose Joy!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Triple Rainbow at Cardiff Beach

All Alone in the Night – Time-lapse Footage of the Earth as Seen from the International Space Station:

Mind-blowing!

All Alone in the Night – Time-lapse footage of the Earth as seen from the ISS – YouTube

Our Solar System in True Color Is Really Something Else:
Venus is white. So is the sun. They’re beautiful anyway.

The Planets Aren’t the Color You Probably Think They Are – The Atlantic

The Incredible Winners of the 2021 International Landscape Photographer of the Year Competition:

Misty valleys and magical woods win prestigious photo contest
The judges chose from 4,504 entries, with photographers from the U.S and Turkey claiming medals. Here are the winning shots and shortlist favorites.

Misty valleys and magical woods revealed as prestigious photo contest winners | Daily Mail Online

This Is The Wildlife Photo of the Year as Chosen by the Public:

An image of a frozen lake and the reflection of willow branches above the water’s icy surface has claimed the top prize in the Wildlife Photographer of the Year People’s Choice Award 2021.

Wildlife Photographer of the Year People’s Choice Award 2021 winner | CNN Travel

‘I Didn’t Even Know This Was Humanly Possible’: The Woman Who Can Descend Into the Sea On One Breath:
Scientists once thought humans could swim to a maximum depth of 30m on a single breath.

Amber Bourke has gone deeper than 70m and physiology alone can’t explain why…

‘I didn’t even know this was humanly possible’: the woman who can descend into the sea on one breath | Society | The Guardian

Celebrating the 50th Anniversary of a Song that Transcends Time and Space:

Playing for Change- Song Around The World

“The Weight,” features Ringo Starr and The Band’s original member Robbie Robertson, along with musicians across 5 continents. Great songs can travel everywhere bridging what divides us and inspiring us to see how easily we all get along when the music plays. Take a load off and turn it up!!

The Weight | Featuring Ringo Starr and Robbie Robertson | Playing For Change | Song Around The World – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Chris B, Lovers of Nature, Stewards of Our Tiny Blue Planet & Artists of Life Everywhere!

Please pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

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“The ship of my life may or may not be sailing on calm and amiable seas. 

The challenging days of my existence may or may not be bright and promising. 

Stormy or sunny days, glorious or lonely nights, I maintain an attitude of gratitude. 

If I insist on being pessimistic, there is always tomorrow. 

Today I am blessed.”  –  Maya Angelou

Your Soul Food for the week of Lunar New Year 2022: Connecting with Our Lunar Nature

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Happy Lunar New Year 2022!

How the 1,000-year-old lion dance has moved with the times:
Innovations from Chinese communities across the world have created ever-more daring performances, enthralling audiences.

How the 1,000-year-old lion dance has moved with the times | Arts and Culture News | Al Jazeera

I Stole the Moon!

Great Photography…

(20+) Cris Froese Pics – Posts | Facebook

Brother Sun, Sister Moon:

Brother Sun, Sister Moon (with lyrics) – YouTube

What an Astronaut Could See from Space that Changed Him for Good:
This week, gain an astronaut’s perspective of our changing world, spot hybrid camels in ancient artwork, uncover more about the Tonga volcano explosion, spy a beaming celestial lighthouse, and more.

What an astronaut could see from space that changed him for good – CNN

When Is The Next Full Moon? Your Ultimate Guide To 2022’s Full Moons, ‘Super Moons,’ New Moons And ‘Black Moons’
Here’s everything you need to know about our Moon in 2022—from its phases to the dates of full Moons, New Moons, super moons and even a couple of rare total lunar eclipse “blood moons.”

When Is The Next Full Moon? Your Ultimate Guide To 2022’s Full Moons, ‘Super Moons,’ New Moons And ‘Black Moons’ (forbes.com)

9 Must-see Stargazing Events to Watch in 2022
The year ahead offers many heavenly delights for sky-watchers, including two blood moons, a pair of partial solar eclipses, and multiple planetary meetings.

9 must-see stargazing events to watch in 2022 (nationalgeographic.com)

How the Earth’s 23.5-degree Tilt Gives Us Seasons:
When it’s winter in Idaho, it’s summer in Curaçao. Why?

Why do we have seasons? | Popular Science (popsci.com)

Connections by Mission Fed Newsletter:

Let’s all make a difference of consequence in our community…

Connections by Mission Fed Newsletter | Mission Federal Credit Union, San Diego

Thanks this week go to Kurt C, and the Mission Fed Family!

Please pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

“What happens to the hole when the cheese is gone” –Bertolt Brecht

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Your Soul Food for Friday Jan 28 2022: The Doomsday Clock & The Antidote

Happy Soul Food Friday

This week:

The Challenge-

The Doomsday Clock Reveals How Close We Are To…Doom
The clock isn’t designed to definitively measure existential threats, but rather to spark conversations about difficult scientific topics such as climate change, according to the Bulletin of Atomic Scientists, which created the clock in 1947.

The Doomsday Clock reveals how close we are to…doom – CNN

And

The Bad Guys Are Winning
If the 20th century was the story of slow, uneven progress toward the victory of liberal democracy over other ideologies—communism, fascism, virulent nationalism—the 21st century is, so far, a story of the reverse.

Autocracy Is Winning – The Atlantic

The Antidote-

The Power of Love, Interconnectedness & Nature

Honoring Thich Nhat Hanh and His Teachings:


Plum Village, France 10:30pm 21st January, 2022   Dear Beloved Community,   With a deep mindful breath, we announce the passing of our beloved teacher, Thay Nhat Hanh, at 00:00hrs on January 22, 2022 at Từ Hiếu Temple in Huế, Vietnam, at the age of 95.  
Thay has been the most extraordinary teacher, whose peace, tender compassion, and bright wisdom has touched the lives of millions. Whether we have encountered him on retreats, at public talks, or through his books and online teachings–or simply through the story of his incredible life–we can see that Thay has been a true bodhisattva, an immense force for peace and healing in the world.
Thay has been a revolutionary, a renewer of Buddhism, never diluting and always digging deep into the roots of Buddhism to bring out its authentic radiance.   Thay has opened up a beautiful path of Engaged and Applied Buddhism for all of us: the path of the Five Mindfulness Trainings and the Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings of the Order of Interbeing.

As Thay would say, “Because we have seen the path, we have nothing more to fear.” We know our direction in life, we know what to do, and what not to do to relieve suffering in ourselves, in others, and in the world; and we know the art of stopping, looking deeply, and generating true joy and happiness.   Now is a moment to come back to our mindful breathing and walking, to generate the energy of peace, compassion, and gratitude to offer our beloved Teacher.

It is a moment to take refuge in our spiritual friends, our local sanghas and community, and each other.   We invite you to join our global community online, as we commemorate Thay’s life and legacy with five days of practice and ceremonies broadcast LIVE from Hue, Vietnam and Plum Village, France, starting on Saturday January 22nd. Please see our website for more details coming shortly: www.plumvillage.org/memorial  

Let us each resolve to do our best over the coming days to generate the energy of mindfulness, peace, and compassion, to send to our beloved Teacher.   Over the coming hours on the Plum Village website, we will publish some inspirational chants, texts, and mindfulness practice resources, to support you to come together with your local sangha to generate a collective energy of mindfulness and compassion, and create your own ceremony or session in tribute to our Teacher.
As Thay has always taught, nothing is more important than brotherhood and sisterhood, and we all know the power of collective energy.

We invite you to share your messages of gratitude or personal transformation and healing on our website: plumvillage.org/gratitude-for-thich-nhat-hanh   With love, trust, and togetherness,   The Monks and Nuns of Plum Village.

 

The Thich Nhat Hanh Foundation | 2499 Melru Lane, Escondido, CA 92026  

  “This body is not me; I am not caught in this body, I am life without boundaries, I have never been born and I have never died. Over there the wide ocean and the sky with many galaxies, All manifests from the basis of consciousness. Since beginningless time I have always been free. Birth and death are only a door through which we go in and out. Birth and death are only a game of hide-and-seek. So smile to me and take my hand and wave good-bye. Tomorrow we shall meet again or even before. We shall always be meeting again at the true source, Always meeting again on the myriad paths of life.” – Thich Nhat Hanh




Learning Leadership from a Great Master Courtesy of Moshe E and the Amare Wave:

Last week, Thich Nhat Hanh died peacefully at 95 years old. Thầy, as he was known, was a Zen Master, global spiritual leader, and peace activist, renowned for his powerful teachings on engaged Buddhism and bestselling writings on mindfulness and peace.

Thầy was also a model for modern day leadership, one who made love the center of his being and work. Love-centered leadership (the essence of The Amare Wave) believes, as Thầy did, in promoting nonviolent solutions to conflict and raising awareness of the interconnectedness of all beings.

His passing invites us to clarify our own guiding beliefs and principles.
What are your core leadership principles?
Are you willing to commit your company to total non-violence?
Will you integrate the fact of our interconnectedness into your business vision?

“True self is non-self, the awareness that the self is made only of non-self elements.

There’s no separation between self and other, and everything is interconnected.

Once you are aware of that you are no longer caught in the idea that you are a separate entity.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh

And-

The Profound Power of Nature:

Arizona Monsoons that will reset your state!

Thanks this week go to beloved Master Thay, Moshe E, Killu S, Nicole K, Catherine G and Bob C.

Consider paying it forward…

Love,

Neville

“We will be more successful in all our endeavors if we can let go of the habit of running all the time,

and take little pauses to relax and re-center ourselves.

And we’ll also have a lot more joy in living.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh

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Your Soul Food for Friday Jan 21 2022: The Power of Story, Poetry, Nature, Puns & Introducing Mentorship 2.0

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

How Do I Want to Show Up- A Story

A Carrot, An Egg, and a Cup of Coffee:

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?” “Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” the daughter replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity—boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter.

“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Here’s my hope for you:  May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything—they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Have a wonderful week! 

The Power of Poetry in the Spirit of MLK Week

Let America Be America Again by Langston Hughes:

Let America Be America Again by Langston Hughes – Poems | poets.org

Omicron Is In Retreat. What’s Next?

The Morning: Omicron is in retreat (nytimes.com)

Free Covid Tests for Your Family:

COVIDtests.gov – Free at-home COVID-19 tests

The Quickest Way To Change How You Feel Is To Change How You Think:

The Quickest Way To Change How You Feel Is To Change How You Think – The Best Brain Possible

Ode to Winter:

Wondrous!

Ode To Winter (ecco.com)

45 Puns That Make Me Laugh Uncontrollably No Matter How Many Times I’ve Seen Them
Go on, have some pun!

45 Puns That Make Me Laugh Uncontrollably No Matter How Many Times I’ve Seen Them (buzzfeed.com)

If you are local and an NCPC member…

Introducing Mentoring 2.0:

    As a business professional, your time and efforts are dedicated to the service of others. “Giving back” is your practice, and you often devote more time taking care of others than yourself. Given all that you have on your plate, you can feel depleted and overwhelmed, finding it challenging to operate at peak performance.   Isn’t it time to do something to enhance your life and well-being, which in effect will benefit those you serve?   North County Philanthropy Council (NCPC) believes in the importance of balancing self-care with care for others. That’s why we’re offering Mentorship 2.0, Fostering a Community of Practice, a new model of mentoring that brings together business professionals to guide, motivate and support each other.           Please Join Us Monday, Feb 8, 2022 9:00 to 10:30 am on Zoom for an informational session about Mentorship 2.0, Fostering a Community of Practice         Ken Druck, Ph.D Our information session will feature best-selling author and international expert in mentorship, executive coaching and compassionate self-care, Dr. Ken Druck. Ken will share his thoughts about the magic and power of mentorship, and how we become the best version of ourselves by bringing out the best in others.   ATTEND THE INFO SESSION           What is Mentorship 2.0?   With Mentorship 2.0, you’ll be part of a cohort of 4-7 individuals from our community to brainstorm ideas, identify business resources, develop their networks, explore career opportunities and provide emotional support to each other. Unlike the traditional mentorship model that pairs a more experienced “mentor” with a less experienced “mentee,” Mentorship 2.0, Fostering a Community of Practice, connects leaders at all levels who share a common concern, set of problems or interest in a topic and who come together to fulfill both individual and group goals. It recognizes that our unique experiences are valuable and that collaboration often yields innovative solutions.   As a cohort member, you’ll be making a 4-month commitment to the program (March through June 2022). Your group will be expected to meet at least four times during that period (virtual sessions until it is safe to connect in person). The logistics, where to meet and how often to meet – as well as how to measure success, will be decided by the cohort. A member of NCPC’s Mentorship Committee will serve as your group facilitator, providing conversation prompts and guidance, as needed. The relationships that develop and the benefits derived from the experience are entirely up to you and the other group members.     We hope you’ll take part in the launch of Mentorship 2.0, Fostering a Community of Practice.   REGISTER NOW   Attending on Feb 8 is not a commitment or required, but is strongly encouraged. Please register by Feb 1.     If you are interested in Mentorship 2.0 but unable to attend the information session, contact Sandra Alston at 760.729.6711 or sandra@ncphilanthropy.org.     All the best,   Alex Goodman Chair, NCPC Mentorship Committee     P.S. Do you have friends or co-workers who you feel will benefit from Mentorship 2.0, too? Feel free to forward this invitation to them. Participation in the Feb 8 meeting is limited to 100 people, so don’t delay.        
North County Philanthropy Council | 760-729-6711 | PO Box 1641, Carlsbad, CA 92018    

18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium- Jan 27th, 2022:

Join us if you can…

18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium Tickets, Thu, Jan 27, 2022 at 8:00 AM | Eventbrite

Thanks this week go to Bob C, Angelica G-W, Manuelita B, Marlaine C, Wayne O, Ken D and the NCPC team.

Please pay it forward with purpose!

Love,

Neville

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“Everybody can be great, because anybody can serve.

You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love”

Dr. Martin Luther King

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

You Are Resilient:

Wow did I have a BBBAAADDDD Monday.  Another cloudy day, my weight went up, some calls didn’t go well, I spent the day telling myself what a terrible leader I am, got slammed by an e-mail where I felt someone was questioning my ability to do my job, and that ended with a friend of mine letting me know that she got COVID and is very afraid.  What a day!  Ever had one like that?  

I woke up this morning thinking – how the heck am I going to be positive for others when I didn’t sleep, I don’t feel like anyone cares or sees how hard I am trying, I can’t do anything to help my friends, and the world is in such a bad place (in other words – pity party in full swing – really more than full swing, kind of like – took over Disneyland, had Beyoncé sing in person, and had a cocktail named after me, kind of over the top pity party).     

Then this showed up in my feed…

 When I saw this, I remembered the story of the Farmer and the Donkey.  Thought that maybe some of you may be going through a rough patch as well.  If you are, you may benefit from this as well.  If you’ve heard it before, well, I know it helped me to read it again. Maybe keep it handy for a time when you feel like you are heading out to your own pity party, or we can have a party together (socially distanced with masks on) and read it to each other.  😊  

 The Farmer and the Donkey

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway-it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all of his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement, he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

A MacDonald’s Employee Jumped Through a Window and Saved a Customer. Here’s What Every Leader Can Learn:
Sydney Raley, a 15-year-old with autism, likely saved the woman’s life.

A McDonald’s Employee Jumped Through a Window to Save a Customer. Here’s What Every Leader Can Learn | Inc.com

The Boldest Design Proposals of 2021:
Robot forest rangers, floating houses and other fascinating ways to look at the future… 

Boldest design proposals of 2021: How architects, designers and entrepreneurs are envisioning the future – CNN Style

5 Lessons on Spirituality, Activism and Humility I Learned From George Harrison
George Harrison stood as an example of modesty and humility, and his legacy is one that I think we can all learn from.

Lessons on Spirituality, Activism and Humility From George Harrison – Rolling Stone

“An unhealed person can find offense in pretty much anything someone does.

A healed person understands that the actions of others have nothing to do with them.

Each day you get to decide which one you will be.” – Unknown

18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium Jan 27th 2022 (Virtual):

Please join me at the 18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium on January 27th!

I will be presenting on Leading Consciously with Purpose- Especially During a Pandemic, alongside over 30 local and nationally recognized experts in nonprofit leadership, governance, and more!

Hope to see you there…

Website: 18th Annual Nonprofit Governance Symposium – School of Leadership and Education Sciences – University of San Diego

Register now! https://buff.ly/3DbidkS

Thanks this week go to Angelica G-W, Brad W, Chris B, Kurt C, and Sherry S.

Please pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

“We’re still living with the old paradigm of age as an arch. That’s the old metaphor:

You’re born, you peak at midlife and decline into decrepitude.

A more appropriate metaphor for aging is a staircase.

The upward ascension of the human spirit, bringing us into wisdom, wholeness, and authenticity.”

– Jane Fonda

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