Your Soul Food for the Week of International Women’s Day 2025- Speak Up and Take a Stand for What Really Matters and Go Women!

Happy Soul Food Friday,

This week:

Heads Up!

The first part of this week’s missive is political and personal so if you don’t have the stomach for it, I completely understand, just skip to the second part which is a reminder to celebrate the women in our lives.

No bystanding!

Love,

Neville

As a peaceful warrior, I generally try to model discretion over valor, but this week I am done sitting on the sidelines, and if that means I am “offsides” and “offend” then so be it.

Divisiveness is not my aim, but unless you are a member of the 1st world nations you like me are an immigrant, and we are stronger because of our diversity not because of white supremacy or other narratives that are not reflective of this nation’s history and vibrancy.

Systemic racism, white colonialism and revisionist history will not save this country or planet, no matter how hard to try to hide in its cloaks and daggers.

The greater the hiding, the greater the self-revelation…

If you are torqued by this week’s Soul Food Friday missive, apologies as for more than 15 years, my goal, purpose and aim was to bring some positivity to what seemed like a environment that privileged sensationalism, negativity and polarization,  but if I freak you out today, I think it is best that you simply skip, so I don’t trigger you further.

You deserve statis and peace.

Regardless, at least you will know where I stand at this generational crisis which will inevitably have long term implications for those that follow including your kids and grandkids.

The Courage to be Disliked:

The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness: Kishimi, Ichiro, Koga, Fumitake: 9781501197277: Amazon.com: Books

More likes are definitely not my metric of success.

While tough to swallow, I am totally cool with being unliked if I am doing the right thing in support and service of others that can’t always be at the table for themselves. Being liked is a social crutch I would prefer to set aside and walk or hobble on my own two feet.

Likes and FOMO have completely messed up the entire “anxious generation” as we post all our bull$#!+ pics of our best selves, living our fabricated and often phony best lives -sometimes with the help of a professional photographer capturing the best shots of an idealized experience that simply does not exist- once we step into your living room and watch you interact with your friends and family.

Alternatively, if you are pumped, jacked, mobilized, emboldened, want to act but don’t know what to do, care deeply but are concerned about downstream consequences and threats, please don’t waste this crisis and let’s make sure your voice is heard.

Do hold space and grace by serving as an ally- no bystanding- human up!- for those who can’t raise their voices for fear of retaliation, targeting, or suffering indignities on top of immense suffering on an unlevel playing field, where social mobility is no longer available to all, and where purported “leaders” would rather kiss Nero’s ring than fess up to the reality that the US is burning and good people stand idly by while the rule of law is threatened, separation of powers is sidelined, the rich get richer on the backs of the poor and middle class, and power corrupts, while absolute power corrupts absolutely!.

Enough is enough…

Can you feel it?

My soul is stirred and meeting the moment this week means speaking truth to power, justice and mercy to cruelty, sanity to inanity, and being present with what is bereft due to social hypnosis, perseverating on risk of loss, or other rationalizations that keep us on the sideline while democracy devolves in front of our eyes.

But that is being nice…

I know that some of my relatives, friends, neighbors, co-workers, associates, and fellow Americans may unfriend me and that would be unfortunate, but I can’t stay quiet!

It is too important. 

This is where I stand. 

The 47th President, his power-hungry cronies taking positions of authority in his Cabinet and administration, and the majority of Republicans in Congress are a real and active threat to me, my way of life, and all or most of the people I love.

Some people are saying that we should give Trump a chance, that we should “work together” with him because he won the election, and he is “everyone’s president.” 

This is my response:

•I will not forget how badly he and so many others treated former President Barack Obama for 8 years…Lies about his legitimacy and hatred for his principles and his attempts to work within the system.

•I will not “work together” to privatize Medicare, cut Social Security and Medicaid.

•I will not “work together” to subvert the Constitution by illegitimately pushing unfit Cabinet nominees through on recess appointments without the advice and consent of the Senate.

•I will not “work together” to build a wall.

•I will not “work together” to persecute Muslims.

•I will not “work together” to shut out refugees from other countries.

•I will not “work together” to lower taxes on the 1% and increase taxes on the middle class and poor.

•I will not “work together” to help Trump use the Presidency to line his pockets and those of his family and cronies.

•I will not “work together” to weaken and demolish environmental protection.

•I will not “work together” to sell American lands, especially National Parks, to companies which then despoil those lands.

•I will not “work together” to enable the killing of whole species of animals just because they are predators, or inconvenient for a few, or because some people want to get their thrills killing them.

•I will not “work together” to remove civil rights from anyone.

•I will not “work together” to alienate countries that have been our allies for as long as I have been alive.

•I will not “work together” to slash funding for education.

•I will not “work together” to take basic assistance from people who are at the bottom of the socioeconomic ladder.

•I will not “work together” to get rid of common-sense regulations on guns.

•I will not “work together” to eliminate the minimum wage.

•I will not “work together” to support so-called “Right To Work” laws, or undermine, weaken or destroy Unions in any way.

•I will not “work together” to suppress scientific research, be it on climate change, fracking, or any other issue where a majority of scientists agree that Trump and his supporters are wrong on the facts.

•I will not “work together” to criminalize abortion or restrict health care for women.

•I will not “work together” to increase the number of nations that have nuclear weapons.

•I will not “work together” to put even more “big money” into politics.

•I will not “work together” to violate the Geneva Convention.

•I will not “work together” to give the Ku Klux Klan, the Nazi Party and white supremacists a seat at the table, or to normalize their hatred.

•I will not “work together” to deny health care to people who need it.

•I will not “work together” to deny medical coverage to people on the basis of a “pre-existing condition.”

•I will not “work together” to increase voter suppression.

•I will not “work together” to normalize tyranny.

•I will not “work together” to eliminate or reduce ethical oversight at any level of government.

•I will not “work together” with anyone who is, or admires, tyrants and dictators.

•I will not support anyone that thinks it’s OK to put a pipeline to transport oil on Sacred Ground for Native Americans. And, it would run under the Missouri River, which provides drinking water for millions of people. An accident waiting to happen.

•I will not “work together” to legitimize racism, sexism, and authoritarianism.

This is my line, and I am drawing it.

•I WILL stand for honesty, love, respect for all living beings, and for the beating heart that is the center of Life itself.

•I WILL use my voice and my hands, to reach out to the uninformed, and to anyone who will LISTEN:

That “winning”, “being great again”, “rich” or even “beautiful” is nothing… When others are sacrificed to glorify its existence.

I am joining my fellow Americans in this noble and honorable expression of conscience, conviction, justice, morality, faith, commitment, democracy, and informed patriotism.

Zero pressure, but if you agree, it is your turn. 

Copy, paste into your email and/or preferred social media platform, add your name to the top and launch a chain.

The Entire World Is Pissed at Trump-and It May Cost the U.S. Big Time
Donald Trump’s tariffs aren’t the only thing that will wreck the U.S. economy.

newrepublic.com/maz/post/192658/donald-trump-global-boycott-us-goods

Trump’s regime is fated to collapse:
Despite its chest-beating rhetoric, the Trump regime is actually brittle and fated to ineffectiveness, collapse or both.

Why Trump’s regime is fated to collapse

It’s Time to Ditch the Term DEI
We can’t debate its merits when we don’t agree on what it means. On President Donald Trump’s first day back in the White House, he issued an executive order ending diversity, equity, and inclusion in the federal government. Its sweeping language forbids DEI “mandates, policies, programs, preferences, and activities,” and orders the termination of all DEI positions—hundreds if not thousands of roles.

‘DEI’ Has Lost All Meaning – The Atlantic

Trump’s FBI Moves to Criminally Charge Major Climate Groups
The Trump administration is targeting climate organizations that received a Biden-era grant.

newrepublic.com/maz/post/192660/trump-fbi-charge-climate-organizations

Trump cuts to NOAA already felt in San Diego
Cuts to the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration affect research and sea monitoring partnerships between NOAA and Scripps Institution of Oceanography.

Trump cuts to NOAA already felt in San Diego | KPBS Public Media

Trump takes an ax to more than a dozen pollution rules in rapid-fire deregulation

Trump takes an ax to more than a dozen pollution rules in rapid-fire deregulation | CNN

Banned Articles?
Did you know that NOAA recently released a new Climate Literacy Guide? This incredible resource aims to help communicators and decision-makers develop their understanding of climate change—but it was recently scrubbed from their website, severely minimizing its impact and reach. You can at least learn about it here.

Read Banned Books and Articles!
Federal science agencies update the nation’s climate literacy guide | National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration

Trump’s Assault on Universities Is a Wake-Up Call
American higher education would be in a much stronger position today if it had made a proactive case to the public for its own importance—and taken steps to address its very real shortcomings.

Trump’s Assault on Universities Is a Wake-Up Call – The Atlantic

Chaos on campuses as schools warn Trump cuts could harm US ‘for decades’
President’s slashes to higher education institutions and research funding threaten US public health

Chaos on campuses as schools warn Trump cuts could harm US ‘for decades’ | Trump administration | The Guardian

Education Department to slash half its workforce
“Employees will not be permitted in any ED facility on Wednesday, March 12th, for any reason,” a message to agency staff Tuesday stated.

Education Department to slash half its workforce – POLITICO

“Science is under attack”: Hundreds rally at UC San Diego to protest DOGE cuts
From Social Security to the IRS, federal budget cuts under the Trump administration are being felt everywhere. On Friday, the focus turned to science—nationwide and at UC San Diego.

Hundreds gather at UC San Diego for the Stand Up for Science rally | KPBS Public Media

“It is unbelievably ironic to me that the desire to vilify noncriminal immigration for the purposes of expressing a policy of xenophobia and racism is going to come at the cost of prosecuting actual transborder violent crime, which one would assume would be of greater importance” – Ex-US Attorney Sheley Ex-U.S. Attorney: Immigration Order Is Diverting San Diego Feds from Fentanyl, Scam Fight – Times of San Diego

Want to Help Fight ICE Raids? There’s a Map for That.
This group has developed a new app to help keep everyone one step ahead of Donald Trump’s deportation schemes

newrepublic.com/maz/article/192619/donald-trump-ice-raids-immigration-map-tracker

Forwarded this email? Subscribe here for more A Mind is a Terrible Thing to Lose Especially when you’re running a country Paul Krugman Mar 12               A note to subscribers: I’ve taken my weekend primer on Social Security out from behind the paywall, partly in response to popular demand but also because it’s relevant to today’s post. This will, I hope, be a fairly short post. That’s partly because my schedule is really tight at the moment and I don’t have time for detailed analysis. But it’s also because I don’t want too much analysis to clutter up a very simple point: The two most powerful men in America have gone stark raving mad. I don’t say this because I disagree with their ideologies or believe that they have very bad policy ideas. That’s been true for quite a few politicians over the years. But while I’ve always considered, say, Mitch McConnell a malign influence on America, while I described Paul Ryan as a flimflam man, I never questioned their sanity. And yes, I’m well aware of the dangers involved in questioning people’s mental stability from afar, especially in a political context. I personally have been the target of that sort of thing, back when people accused me of being unhinged for suggesting that the Bush administration was taking us to war on false pretenses. But I don’t see how you can look at recent statements by Donald Trump and Elon Musk without concluding that both men have lost their grip on reality. News reports still tend to sanewash what our leaders have been saying, and even selected quotations often make them sound more rational than they are. Fortunately, both are addicted to posting on social media, and you really have to read some of their posts to get a full sense of the madness. So here’s Trump, ranting against Canada: Leave aside the nonsensical claims that Canada is a high-tariff nation subsidized by the United States. When Trump first began talking about turning Canada into the 51st state, many people treated it as a joke. But Trump doesn’t appear to be in on the joke. He just keeps doubling down, even as the people of Canada grow ever more outraged. No sane leader would imagine that it’s a good idea to threaten a heretofore friendly but proudly patriotic neighbor and ally with annexation. But a sane leader is exactly what we don’t have. Then there’s Elon Musk. Surely almost everyone except Trump realizes that DOGE has been a bust; despite unprecedented and often illegal access to government agencies, it has yet to come up with any credible major examples of waste or fraud. Even Musk, I suspect, knows at some level that he’s failing. But like Trump on Canada, he just keeps doubling down. Consider Musk’s quickly and easily refuted claim that tens of millions of dead people are receiving Social Security checks. This was a deeply embarrassing error, one that would have killed most people’s political careers. Still, Musk might have been able to ride it out by admitting that his minions had failed to understand the Social Security Administration’s databases. But no. Musk has reiterated his claim that we’re making huge payments to dead people, and is now insisting that Social Security is a Ponzi scheme, showing that he hasn’t made any effort to understand how the bedrock of American retirement works. Musk’s obsession with supposed fraud in Social Security is looking a lot like Trump’s obsession with annexing Canada; apparently he simply can’t admit error, even to himself, and change course. And then there’s this: Of course, illegal immigrants don’t receive Social Security benefits, because they don’t have valid Social Security numbers. But that’s almost trivial compared with Musk’s open endorsement of the Great Replacement conspiracy theory, according to which liberals are deliberately luring nonwhite immigrants to America to tilt the electorate in their favor. This is the conspiracy theory that inspired torch-carrying marchers in Charlottesville to chant “Jews will not replace us.” And look beyond what Trump and Musk have said to the actions of the people they’ve chosen to oversee key public agencies. Robert F. Kennedy, the secretary of health and human services, refuses to respond to a measles outbreak with a clear call for vaccinations, instead suggesting that people take cod liver oil. The secretary of agriculture has suggested that Americans respond to high egg prices by raising their own chickens. How did the highest levels of U.S. government become infected by madness? Well, this is what you get when you give flawed people — people prone to grandiosity, vindictiveness and paranoia — so much power that nobody dares tell them when they’re going too far. Cowed Republicans and timid Democrats have effectively given Trump and Musk the freedom to become the worst versions of themselves. And the whole world will pay the price.  

7 ways to safeguard your money as the Trump administration weakens consumer protections:
7 ways to safeguard your money as the Trump administration weakens consumer protections  – MarketWatch

Now Imagine…

International Women’s Day 2025

Rights. Equality. Empowerment

On International Women’s Day (8 March), that is the bold call for action for all women and girls worldwide. 

There is much more work to be done…

International women’s day

Happy International Women’s Day. Here are the best female composers of all time
Our guide to the best female composers from history, many of whom have historically been wrongly excluded from the canon. Let’s put that right – get to know their music now!

Best female composers of all time: 15 women who left a huge mark on classical music | Classical Music

These are just evidentiary examples.

Let’s meet the moment, to our own selves be true, and be active agents of democracy and uplifting humanity, not passive victims of a system that serves the few on the backs of many.

It is time to show up. NOW!

Thanks this week to Ken D for the spark, Chris B for some links, Charles B for reminding me its ok to be disliked and you for speaking truth to power!

Love,

Neville

Soul Fueled Friday Musings for March 7, 2025: Small Things Often, The Power of Outstanding Leadership, Rational Animals and a Feel-Good Friday Woof!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Small Things Often
  • The Power Lever of Outstanding Leadership
  • Rational Animals
  • And a Feel-Good Friday Woof with Hugo the Opera Dog

8 ‘Micro-Habits’ That Are The Key To A More Fulfilled Life | HuffPost Life

What makes a leader outstanding?

Here are six characters that set the best apart:

The Six Characteristics of Outstanding Leaders – John Spence

Animals are more rational than you think | Popular Science

And a feel good…

Meet Hugo, the dog who loves to duet with Pavarotti | Classical Music

Keep the faith and follow the facts!

Love,

Neville

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Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”

– Mother Teresa

Your Soul Food for the Last Week of Feb 2025: Inosculation, One of the Best Leadership Videos I Have Seen, Micro Habits + Jaw Dropping Wildlife Photos to Inspire Awe and Wonder in the Here and Now

Happy Soul Food Friday!

These times call for some Inosculation:

Forsake fear and freezing.

Focus on facts and faith!

You Don’t Have to Go it Alone-

Leadership is not a position; it is a DECISION!

If you are committed to authentic, embodied leadership and know how critical that is right now, you will appreciate this vid.

Embedding the Capacity for Greatness in the People and Practices of an Organization, and Decoupling it from the Personality of the Leader

Greatness by David Marquet:

MindSpring Presents: “Greatness” by David Marquet – YouTube

Even the Heart Pumps Blood to Itself First, So Keep Self Care and Self Compassion an Integral Part of Your Practice-

Neuroscience Says 2 Minutes a Day Can Make You Less Stressed, More Focused, and Even Increase the Size of Your Brain
Entrepreneurs are typically torn in a lot of different directions. This type of (in)activity provides clear cognitive benefits.

Neuroscience Says 2 Minutes a Day Can Make You Less Stressed and More Focused, and Even Increase the Size of Your Brain

Wonder is the Beginning of Wisdom-

Simply jaw-dropping: The best 31 wildlife photos of 2025 (so far)
From playful polar bears to a kingfisher with a very cold bottom. February 24, 2025, The prestigious World Nature Photography Awards have revealed this year’s winners, with the top prize going to – drum roll, please – a breathtaking aerial photo of two deer running through a snow-covered vineyard. The photo below, taken by Slovenian photographer Maruša Puhek, won the top prize out of hundreds of entries from around the world.

Simply jaw-dropping: The best 31 wildlife photos of 2025 (so far) | BBC Science Focus Magazine

Thanks go to Tracey R for the vid, and for all of you fellow travelers on this journey.

Stay connected!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday February 21, 2025: Could Communication Save the World?

This week:

Given my penchant to say “yes” to the universe at my own peril, I get many queries about topics of import from all walks of life including from conscious business leaders, non-profit organizations, educators, influencers, wisdom traditionalists, students, neighbors and more…

In the last week, I got a real interesting set of questions with respect to communications specifically:

When working with leaders I talk about recognizing the difference between our assets and weapons.

As I see it, our two greatest assets as leaders are our (a) people and (b) self-reflection.

Our greatest weapon, however, is communication. 

So,

1. How would you create a culture of communication in your brand, businesses, or leadership? 

2. What would be significant communication hurdles you’d look to solve for by doing this?

Here is my response for the good or the order and, if appropriate, to disrupt the freakin’ disorder:

Note: Communications is my passion, discipline, and superpower so as Lynyrd Skynyrd would say, “I know a little ‘bout it, and baby I guess the rest” so please use what’s useful and discard the rest!

Welcome your thoughts too, Soul Food Community of several thousand strong, and got it going on…

Context (for me in the spirit of full transparency):

Even as a practicing lifetime peaceful warrior, steeped in the martial arts traditions for nearly 50 years, I am working hard to take the war language out of communications, as I don’t find it reflective of our current needs as individuals and as a culture, and unintentionally reinforces a command-and-control leadership/adversarial framework v. a collaborative/collective wisdom orientation.

There is a whole body of work around this that is way above my pay grade:

CNVC Founder – Center for Nonviolent Communication

Taking the War Out of Our Words:The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication: Ellison, Sharon: 9780972002103: Amazon.com: Books

  • Western Science and Eastern Wisdom Traditions, they work together
  • Strengths-Based Frameworks not a Deficit Model, we are not motivated by our deficits
  • Leadership is Inside Out not Outside In, its not performative, its authentic- own it!
  • We > Me Collective Wisdom not just Individual Achievement, no one of us is as smart as ALL of us
  • Cultural Competencies not just Success Strategies: “Culture eats Strategy for Breakfast” as Peter Drucker famously reminds us

Imagine a world in which almost all organizations are typified by greed, selfishness, manipulation, secrecy, and a single-minded focus on winning. Wealth creation is the key indicator of success. Imagine that members of such organizations are characterized by distrust, anxiety, self-absorption, fear, burnout, and feelings of abuse. Conflict, lawsuits, contract breaking, retribution, and disrespect characterize many interactions and social relationships. Imagine also that scholarly researchers investigating these organizations emphasize theories of problem solving, reciprocity and justice, managing uncertainty, overcoming resistance, achieving profitability, and competing successfully against others.

For the sake of contrast, now imagine another world in which almost all organizations are typified by appreciation, collaboration, virtuousness, vitality, and meaningfulness. Creating abundance and human well-being are key indicators of success. Imagine that members of such organizations are characterized by trustworthiness, resilience, wisdom, humility, high levels of positive energy. Social relationships and interactions are characterized by compassion, loyalty, honesty, respect, and forgiveness. Significant attention is given to what makes life worth living. Imagine that scholarly researchers emphasize theories of excellence, transcendence, positive deviance, extraordinary performance, and positive spirals of flourishing.

Positive Organizational Scholarship (POS) does not reject the value and significance of the phenomena of the first world view. Rather, it emphasizes the phenomena represented in the second world view. A focus on competition and profitability in the first world view, for example, is crucial for understanding organizational survival and success. The second world view merely calls attention to phenomena that represent positive deviance—phenomena that have received limited scholarly attention in organizational studies. Most organizational theories and empirical research have, heretofore, adopted assumptions and variables that are more typical of the first world view than the second.

That said, I love assets and consider communications a meta competency that transcends and informs other skills that are critical to conscious and authentic leadership.

I consider the trifecta of skill sets, mindset, and heart set to be the building blocks for leadership from within (intrapersonal) and communication a meta competency for connecting, engaging, and influencing others (interpersonal)

This might be all semantics to you, but language matters to me!

With that said here goes…

How would you create a culture of communication in your brand, businesses, or leadership? 

  1. Assess present state

              What is the climate/culture now?

What are the positive deviants already modeling and behaving into the future state?

Is the future state a compelling vision that everyone knows, owns, and is energized by?

Are those modeling the heart/mind/skill sets being affirmed and recognized?

  1. Define future state in the language of your tribe

              Having values like trust and integrity or competencies like communications and a service orientation are great but define them in the context of what these actually look like in your enterprise with actual examples.

  1. Make these values a critical component of evaluative and developmental opportunities such as annual reviews, organizational goals, brand stories, etc.

For example, your annual review could have 3 parts; goals, values, and discretionary effort (weighted differently) but all assessed with periodicity. (That’s what we do at Mission Fed…)

  1. Use the Positive Org Scholarship criteria above to continue to help the individuals and org behave into the future state.

If Leadership is a skill, then by definition it can be taught!

Lead each gathering, meeting, training, with a “mission story” that incorporates these elements and integral to your brand experience and differentiation

What would be significant communication hurdles you’d look to solve for by doing this?

  1. Tone at the Top- are senior leaders modeling these behaviors or just asking others to do it?   Am I doing it?
  1. Tolerance for Misalignment- tolerating poor communicators (typically a function of ego-myopia and self-interest v. collective interest) suggesting these are flexible criteria not sacrosanct
  1. Map against the 5 Dysfunctions of a Team (see below)

              For example, a low trust environment breeds negative conditions that preclude moving up the ladder to commitment, accountability, and results.

And then this hit my email box:

How Can You Recognize a Culture of Bad Leadership? Look for 5 Toxic Signs

Hope this provides some wind in your sails as YOU navigate turbulent seas, with your leadership chops at the helm,  communication skills as your rudder, and trust at your keel…

Thaks this week go to Kai H and Jeff H for the prompt, thought leaders Dr. Danny F, Eric K, and Dr. Alan D, as well as Dr. Herb S and Dr. Dan H. at UC San Diego’s Comm Dept.  for the foundational principles and practices in Communications.

Fair winds and Following Seas…

We do get by with a little help from our friends!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for the Week of February 10, 2025: “The U.S. Constitution doesn’t guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it.” – Ben Franklin

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

The Benefit of Doing Things You’re Bad at with Arthur C. Brooks:
To learn a difficult new skill means risking failure—but it’s also a path to greater happiness. January 30, 2025 Between my university lectures and outside speeches about the science of happiness, I do a lot of public speaking and am always looking for ways to do so with more clarity and fluency. To that end, I regularly give talks in two languages that are not my own—not random languages, of course, but rather those I learned as an adult: Spanish and Catalan…

The Benefit of Doing Things You’re Bad At – The Atlantic

It’s time to change your relationship with dopamine:
Going on a ‘dopamine detox’ probably isn’t going to boost your mood and focus. February 02, 2025 These days the internet is crowded with videos, articles and hacks promising the route to reset your brain’s reward system and rediscover the joy in life’s simple pleasures. One method, in particular, has gained traction and is being touted by influencers as a quick fix for restoring focus and lowering your level of stimulation. It’s called dopamine detoxing

It’s time to change your relationship with dopamine | BBC Science Focus Magazine

The trouble with ‘donating our dopamine’ to our phones, not our friends:
“Smartphones make our alone time feel more crowded than it used to be,” says journalist Derek Thompson. His article in The Atlantic is called “The Anti-Social Century.”

America’s loneliness problem has a cure: Leave your house, put down your phone : NPR

Neuroscience Says This Simple Habit Boosts Your Memory and Improves Cognitive Flexibility:
It’s promising advice for any busy business leader—and tasty, too.

Neuroscience Says This Simple Habit Boosts Your Memory and Improves Cognitive Flexibility

Don’t worry, be happy,

Smile with a little help from your friends,

And stay in the positive!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for the Start of February 2025: What Ever Happened to Peace, Love and Understanding?

This week:

What ever happened to peace, love and understanding?

ICYMI: Bishop Budde On Faith And Politics : 1A : NPR

What happens after you ask Trump to ‘have mercy’? Threats, praise and hope.
After her sermon went viral, Mariann Budde returns to Washington National Cathedral – The Washington Post

U.S. Surgeon General: This is ‘one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness’
“Whether we’re lonely or not has to to do with the quality of connections in our life, not the quantity,” Murthy said.

Surgeon General: This is ‘one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness’

This 1 thing is a ‘powerful source of joy,’ says U.S. Surgeon General
Increased loneliness can lead poor mental and physical health. One remedy, Murthy says, is to invest in relationships.

U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy: This is a ‘powerful source of joy’


The U.S. Surgeon General Has One Last Piece of Advice
As he prepares to end his second term in office, Dr. Vivek Murthy reflects on the nation’s biggest impediment to health.

The U.S. Surgeon General Has One Last Piece of Advice | TIME

Choose joy!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for the Last Week of January 2025 and Lunar New Year

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Want Good Luck this Year? Try these Lunar New Year traditions
  • Longevity Experts Reveal Their Non-negotiables for Aging as Slowly and Healthily as Possible
  • Is It Better to Be Kind or Nice?
  • And Something to Bust Your Heart Wide Open!

“Teachers can open the door, but you must enter it yourself.” – Chinese Proverb

Gung Hay Fat Choy!

Want Good Luck this Year? Try these Lunar New Year traditions:

Each culture celebrating the Lunar New Year has traditions passed down from generation to generation that are thought to bring good luck. Here are a few for you…

Want good luck this year? Try these Lunar New Year traditions from NPR readers : NPR

To your Wellbeing in the New Year-

Longevity Experts Reveal Their Non-negotiables for Aging as Slowly and Healthily as Possible:
Focus on heath span, not life span with these 5 easy tips!

The best ways to add years to your life are basically free.

How To Age Well: Longevity Doctors Share Tips For Longterm Health

Is It Better to Be Kind or Nice?
Ever heard the phrase, “New Yorkers are kind but not nice”?

It’s a common stereotype that those living in the Big Apple are rude and crass but kind.

You might be thinking: well, you can’t be kind if you’re not nice.

Read On…

Niceness vs. Kindness: What’s the Difference?

And Now, Something to Bust Your Heart Wide Open-

Kindness Matters!

If it’s easy to do, it’s easy not to do…

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Please enter today with grace and space for yourself and others and pay it forward with kindness.

Kindness costs nothing and means EVERYTHING!

Love,

Neville

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LOVE is our Soul Purpose”

Your Soul Food for MLK Week 2025: Killing My Ego, Embracing What is Unfolding as a Sign of Spiritual Growth, Leading from Where You are At and more…

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Killing My Ego
  • Embracing What Is Unfolding As a Sign of Spiritual Growth
  • Focusing on the Wrong $#!+
  • NPR Readers share wishes for 2025
  • Leading From Where You Are At

Embracing What Is Unfolding As a Sign of Spiritual Growth with Mehrad N:

Three Reminders

As we enter this new year, we find ourselves in an era marked by a heightened level of societal division and significant change. It’s no longer just about policy differences; fundamental social principles like truth, ethics, morality, and respect don’t seem to hold the same value as before.

The following three reminders can help us maintain our footing and let our spirit shine in this new year.

1

By Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

This reminds us that, at our core, nothing has changed. The essence of who we are remains intact. It is our humanness—the challenges of navigating social norms—that raises questions, leading us to the second reminder.

2

A Quote Often Attributed to Mother Teresa

“People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway.”

3

A Story from Swami Veda Bharati’s Book: Wholehearted

A Virbal Story

Let me share a story about the Mughal Emperor Akbar and his wise minister, Virbal. All the courtiers were jealous of Virbal because he was clearly the emperor’s favorite. They asked the emperor, “What does Virbal have that we do not?” The emperor promised to answer on another day.

One morning, as his courtiers gathered, the emperor presented a challenge. He drew a line on the board and asked them to “make the line shorter.” It seemed easy! One courtier rushed to erase part of the line.

The emperor stopped him, saying, “No, no. Shorten the line, but do not touch it!”

That was a real puzzle. Nobody could solve it. Finally, the emperor called on Virbal. Virbal got up, took a piece of chalk, and drew a longer, parallel line beneath the emperor’s line:

_________________ the emperor’s line

_______________________Virbal’s line

“Your line is shorter now, Your Majesty,” Virbal declared.

In doing this, there was no need to diminish the work of another or to compete. Virbal went deep within (this is meditation!) and focused on the task at hand. Whoever remains calm, centered, and self-controlled can act constructively and with humility. Whoever learns from the wise will surely achieve “success without competing.”

My fellow travelers,

remember who you truly are,

remember why you do what you do.

remember how to succeed without competing.

Love · Serve · Remember

NPR Readers share wishes for 2025: Be kind to each other and Earth! Learn from birds!
We asked our readers to make a wish for 2025. If even one of these wishes comes true, the world will definitely be a better place!

Readers share wishes for 2025: Be kind to each other and Earth. Watch birds! : Goats and Soda : NPR

Leading From Where You Are At:

As of January of 2025, I just became President of NCPC San Diego.

The North County Philanthropy Council brings nonprofit professionals, volunteers, donors, and businesses together for one purpose – to uplift our community. We know there is power in working together and by connecting and sharing knowledge, we strengthen our nonprofit leaders and professionals.   These connections are valuable and vital to enhancing philanthropic impact in our community.

Home – North County Philanthropy Council

We are fostering authentic connections, committed to growing emerging leaders and providing quality programs that drive value to our community.

Here are a few upcoming events if you are looking to upskill, connect and work collaboratively to make a difference in our region. Please join us if you feel inspired!

  • NCPC Oceanside Chamber of Commerce Networking Connector: Get to know fellow nonprofit peers, learn about what we can provide together, and promote your cause in a casual and fun environment:
  • NCPC Mentorship Program Info Session Webinar: If you are interested in a coaching and mentorship program, lead by some of the most experienced leaders in the sector that is focused on emerging leaders, so our ecosystem is more reflective and representative of our demography please join us.
  • NCPC Meet The Funders Panel Program: Join us as we hear from the Rancho Santa Fe Foundation, the Lucky Duck Foundation and the Jewish Community Foundation about the state of philanthropy locally. Gain valuable insights about the San Diego ecosystem and your part in it.

Grow baby grow!

Thanks this week go to Mehrad N, Eric K and all the Conscious Brothers, the NCPC board, staff and members and all of you standing up for others!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday January 17, 2025: How YOU Can Be a Better Leader, Yes YOU!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

Think about it for a second…

It’s not where you stand in the hierarchy, or on the org chart. Its how you show up and positively impact your world and others.

Authentic, embodied leadership is sorely needed in every aspect of society, and you are the person the world is waiting for.

  • How can you improve your leadership impact and get the most out of the leadership amplification effect?
  • Why do some leaders flounder in a crisis, and other’s deliver with calm and aplomb in super stressful circumstances?
  • Language matters. Science says using this 4-word phrase instead of ‘thank you’ will make you a better leader.
  • How does one balance the dualities of both hard and soft skills in fostering a high performance, high fulfillment culture?
  • How does effective coaching benefit leaders?
  • Does your self-talk shape your potential to be your best self and to be the best leader you can be?

This week you can listen, learn, and love the latent leadership potential with in you.

Rising to the Occasion- Wellness 2.0 on Hidden Brain:

From time to time, all of us are called upon to do hard or even seemingly impossible things. Do we rise to the occasion, or do we fall short? Today on the show, we examine the psychology of pushing through a crisis. We talk with psychologist Adam Galinsky about great leaders, and what they can teach us about being steadfast in the face of challenges.

Wellness 2.0: Rising to the Occasion | Hidden Brain Media

Science says using this 4-word phrase instead of ‘thank you’ will make you a better leader:

Science Says Using This 4-Word Phrase Instead of ‘Thank You’ Will Make You a Better Leader

The Hard and Soft of Great Leadership: Mastering Dualities in Business with Moshe E:

The Hard and Soft of Great Leadership: Mastering Dualities in Business  Years ago, I studied a form of Karate called Gōjū-ryū, which means “hard and soft.” This duality fascinated me. On one hand, the martial art was about sharp, decisive movements; on the other, fluid, adaptable ones. Strength and flexibility in perfect harmony. Learning how to deal with apparent opposites is a major growth edge for many top executives I coach. The fact is, leadership inherently means living in a land of dualities. Growth and stability. Innovation and tradition. Directing and empowering. Consider for yourself: What dualities are you currently navigating in your leadership? Are there areas where you’re leaning too far into one side at the expense of the other? If you lean too far into one side, the other can suffer. Go too “hard,” and you risk rigidity. Too much “soft,” and you might lack direction. True leadership embraces both.
How to Balance Dualities The trick? It’s not either/or. It’s both/and. Balancing dualities is where leadership magic happens. Here are three common examples: Here’s the truth: clarity builds trust and respect. When everyone knows what’s expected and when, it reduces uncertainty and fosters confidence in the process. Trust is the secret sauce that makes delegation work. Decisiveness and Patience: Great leaders know when to act decisively to seize opportunities and when to exercise patience to allow clarity to emerge. Balancing urgency with thoughtful timing creates impactful decisions. Structure and Creativity: Foster innovation by creating a framework that provides clear guidance and boundaries while leaving enough space for imagination and original ideas to thrive. Productivity and innovation can coexist. Confidence and Vulnerability: You can project self-confidence while also being willing to admit mistakes, ask for help, and show your human side. This balance allows leaders to connect deeply with their teams through a combination of strength and relatability.
5 Amare Action Steps to Master Dualities 1. Identify your hard and soft. Reflect on your leadership style. Where can you add strength without losing flexibility, and vice versa? 2. Reframe the opposites. Look at an apparent duality in your work (e.g., purpose vs. profit) and brainstorm ways to integrate them. 3. Practice balance. In your next decision, consciously consider both sides of the equation—movement and stillness, logic and intuition—and find the harmony. 4. Model both/and thinking. Encourage your team to see opportunities for integration rather than division. Reward solutions that embrace duality. 5. Embrace adaptability. Remember, what’s hard now may need to be soft later, and vice versa. Leadership is about flowing with the needs of the moment.
Leadership: A Hard and Soft Skill The beauty of dualities is they challenge us to grow. They ask us to be strong yet flexible, purposeful yet profitable, decisive yet patient. Leading the Amare Way, putting the power of love to work, means embracing both sides—the hard and the soft—with love and wisdom. As you reflect on your leadership for this year, think about your Gōjū-ryū moments. Where can you bring strength? Where can you add flexibility? And how can you embrace the art of both/and in everything you do? After all, true leadership isn’t about choosing sides. It’s about finding harmony—and sometimes, even a little humor—in the dance of dualities.

Three Selves in Coaching with Eric K:

I’m going to pull back the curtain on my coaching approach for those of you who are into coaching your direct reports. While we agree that coaching is aimed at improving the version of the leader I’m talking with, that’s only part of the story. Effective coaching taps three dimensions of the person you’re coaching: the present self, past self (those “inner ancestors” that shape your mindset), and future self (the version of you that’s calling to be realized).

Typical coaches pay a lot of attention to the present self – the one showing up, rolling up its sleeves, and navigating the challenges of leading today. This self deserves tons of respect. It’s managing teams, balancing the demands of a high-stakes role, and shouldering responsibility for the future of the organization. A good coach honors and supports the present self so it can perform better in real time. A coach can help this self sharpen focus, make decisions, and become more resilient to stress. But if we only deal with the present, we miss a huge opportunity.

Then, there’s the past self, or as I like to call it, your “inner ancestors”. These are the versions of you shaped by previous experiences – triumphs and setbacks. Some of your past selves are like wise old relatives: they’ve been through the wars and have valuable lessons to share. Others are more like the ghosts that haunt you – the ones that didn’t heal properly from old wounds or are still holding onto outdated beliefs. I help you access these inner ancestors, resource them, honor what they’ve been through, and integrate their wisdom. It’s about learning from your own history and untangling the knots that keep you from moving forward.

And that brings us to the future self, the emergent one. This is the you that’s calling for change – the part of you that senses there’s something more ahead. This future self often shows up as a subtle itch, a feeling of dissatisfaction, or an unshakable curiosity about what might be possible. It’s not just about setting goals and working toward them; it’s about clarifying what’s beckoning you forward. It’s about listening to that inner voice that says, “I am evolving and want to be different, bigger, more aligned with who I’m becoming.” My role here is to help you define and articulate what that emergent self looks like and how you can step into that version today.

So, my coaching isn’t just about fine-tuning your performance in the present. It’s about navigating your past to access hidden resources and letting go of unhelpful baggage. It’s about clarifying what is calling from your future and how to answer its call. 

Ultimately, my coaching isn’t engaging just one version of you – I work with all three. And when those three selves come into alignment, that’s where real transformation happens.

In the spirit of leading and learning.

Eric 

The Science Behind Talking To Yourself:

The Science Behind Talking To Yourself : 1A : NPR

Thanks this week go to Moshe E, Eric K and all the leaders that have and will transform our world!

Please lead with purpose and pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for the First Full Week of 2025: Closing Out 2024 and Soaring into a Meaningful and Healthy 2025 Without Resolutions

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

77 Facts That Blew Our Minds in 2024:
Chewing gum, space capsules, and minivans are just a few of the things we see differently after a year of reporting. December 28, 2024 Onions were used to treat wounds during the French and Indian War. The energy required to show a new Instagram post from Cristiano Ronaldo to each of his followers could power a house for several years. A group of butterflies flew across the Atlantic Ocean without stopping. It took them only about eight days and more…

77 Facts That Blew Our Minds in 2024 – The Atlantic

  1. Be so great, you can’t be ignored.
  2. Take care of the work and the work will take care of you.
  3. Growth is on the other side of discomfort.
  4. Failure teaches you everything you need to know to be successful.
  5. Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.
  6. There’s only one person you spend all your time with and that’s you, so do yourself a favor and be as fascinating as possible.
  7. I’d rather regret the things I did than the things I never tried. 

To succeed in 2025, a therapist says do 5 things: It works ‘any time of year’
To shift from ineffective resolutions to meaningful manifesting any time of year, says psychotherapist Chamin Ajjan, follow these practical tips.

To be successful in 2025, a therapist says do these 5 things

44 health-boosting habits to feel better in 2025:
A full night without waking is not the norm, and that’s OK. “Waking at night need not mean the end of sleep,” says Russell Foster, a professor of circadian neuroscience at Oxford University. “Some find it useful to leave the bed, keep the lights low and engage in a relaxing activity before returning when sleepy again.” It’s the biggest cliché in self-help, but how many of us do it? “Dare to be vulnerable enough to be all of yourself for most of the time,” the psychotherapist Philippa Perry says.

44 health-boosting habits to feel better in 2025

Feel Good Bonus-

What Happens To Their Brain Waves When Humans And Dogs Connect?
It turns out there’s a scientific explanation for our strong bond to our dogs. Here’s how your pup influences your brain’s activity.

What Happens To Their Brain Waves When Humans And Dogs Connect?

Thanks this week go to Sanya D for the 11 questions, Angelica G/W for the 7 Pieces of Advice and Ellie our yellow lab for her unconditional love.

Please pay it forward and make this a year to remember!

Love,

Neville

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