This week:

In an age of polarization, xenophobia, inequality, downward mobility, environmental devastation, and climate apocalypse, what are the implications of kindness, where does it come from and how can we promote it?

Animals Loving Humans: A delectable vid to kick off this issue
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9g2d2t1RMWE

 

America’s Epidemic of Unkindness: A new research institute at UCLA wants to start a virtuous cycle of generosity and do-gooding
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/11/how-be-kind/602488/?utm_source=digg&utm_medium=email

 

Irish School Replaces Homework with Acts of Kindness:
A primary school in County Cork has decided to do away with all homework for the entire month of December, replacing it instead with ‘acts of kindness’.
“Be the reason somebody smiles today”
https://www.irishpost.com/news/irish-school-replaces-homework-acts-kindness-reason-somebody-smiles-today-174728?fbclid=IwAR0ManxkJCjUlPmf4S4FwnvJL29oruxw-0inYgwIsiZc2j7-8YG0kS1ETR4

 

It’s Not Enough to Be Right—You Also Have to Be Kind: Takedowns and clever quips are easy, but empathy and persuasion are better!
https://forge.medium.com/its-not-enough-to-be-right-you-also-have-to-be-kind-b8814111fe1

 

Dogs Can’t Help Falling in Love: One researcher argues that a dog’s ability to bond has more to do with forming emotional attachments than being smart about what humans want…
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/11/22/science/dogs-love-evolution.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

 

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Sanya D, Shannon Mc.A, and all of you with a kind soul!
Please pay it forward
Love,
Neville

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“Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.”– King Solomon

This week, enter and exit Soul Food with some puppy love!

Friday Funnies:
This link with Harley and Loa is priceless and will reset your emotional state!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88XQcpU5Vuk

No Joke:
This is the week of World Aids Day & National Special Education Day, not just Black Friday, Cyber Monday & Giving Tuesday…
If you support a Diversity, Equity and Inclusion value system, that cares for all humans and our planet, then maybe we need to value neuro-diversity in the same way we attend to gender or racial diversity.

“You laugh cuz you think I am different. I laugh cuz you are all the same…”

 

Neuro-Diversity:
December 2^nd is the anniversary of the nation’s first federal special education law.
Before IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act) according to the U.S. Department of Education, many individuals with disabilities received little to no education.
Today, states and public agencies provide early intervention, special education, and related services to more than 6.5 million eligible infants, toddlers, children, and youth with disabilities.
If you think about it for a moment, we all have learning differences, learning styles and learning paces and it’s just a matter of degree, between you and me.
If normal is the “psychopathology of the average”, I don’t want to be normal! Don’t keep up with the Jones. The Jones are Nuts!

Deficit-based models are antiquated, injurious, demeaning and by extension limit the real potential of every person to manifest their gifts and destiny.
Industrial age educational models are defunct in the same way blood-letting is a thing of the past, and education is in dire need of reform, with innovation on the edges happening all around us, if we know where to look.

If you have kids in school, it is important you both know your rights and don’t fall prey to stigma.
Here is a great handout to help you navigate every student’s rights to accommodations and modifications so they can advocate for themselves (most don’t) and get the support they need (and is their legal right) to be successful.
This handout is thanks to Alex and Beacon College in Florida that is doing transformational work in the Ed Space!
November 2020 Newsletter – Accommodations and Modifications

 

If you prefer a strengths-based orientation, you will value The Power of Different:
In The Power of Different, psychiatrist and bestselling author Gail Saltz examines the latest scientific discoveries, profiles famous geniuses who have been diagnosed with all manner of brain “problems”—including learning disabilities, ADD, anxiety, Depression, Bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and Autism—and tells the stories of lay individuals to demonstrate how specific deficits in certain areas of the brain are directly associated with the potential for great talent.
Saltz shows how the very conditions that cause people to experience difficulty at school, in social situations, at home, or at work, are inextricably bound to creative, disciplinary, artistic, empathetic, and cognitive abilities.

Thinking Diversely About Consumption Culture:
Climate activists turn attention to Black Friday: ‘Shoppers cannot ignore the climate emergency’
Young activists worldwide held hundreds of demonstrations on Black Friday to protest overconsumption and draw attention to climate change.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2019/11/29/black-friday-climate-strikes-protest-consumerism/4330799002/

 

Racial Diversity:
“Rosa Parks: In Her Own Words”:
Rosa Parks, the civil rights icon made famous for her refusal to give up her seat to a white man on a city bus in Montgomery, Alabama, in December 1955, is often mischaracterized as a quiet seamstress, with little attention paid to her full life story.
A new Library of Congress exhibition, “Rosa Parks: In Her Own Words,” will reveal the real Rosa Parks was a seasoned activist with a militant spirit forged over decades of challenging inequality and injustice.
Here is how she came to be the person who stood up, by sitting down…
https://www.loc.gov/item/prn-19-107/rosa-parks-in-her-own-words-a-new-exhibition-offers-intimate-view-of-seminal-figures-life/2019-11-05/

9 charts to be thankful for this Thanksgiving Season:
For most Americans, these feel like bleak times. We have a president whom a majority of Americans want impeached.

Over, old-fashioned racism is publicly visible and powerful in a way it wasn’t only five years ago. Climate change is exacerbating wildfires and other natural disasters and making air in states like California nearly unbreathable.

This is all real, and truly alarming. But it would be a mistake to view that as the sum total of the world in 2019. Under the radar, some aspects of life on Earth are getting dramatically better.

But it’s not all bad news — life expectancy and literacy are up, and global poverty is down.

https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/2019/11/27/20984462/thanksgiving-poverty-health-crime-literacy-good-news

 

Back to the Lighter Side of Life…
Golden Retrievers are the Best Medicine:

Golden Retrievers are the Best Medicine

Golden retrievers are one of the most famous and loved dog breeds in the world. Originally used for hunting, these pooches were raised to retrieve game, but their loyalty and lovable nature won people over. These days, golden retrievers are part of the family, rather than working dogs, and as you can see in the following pictures, there are! good reasons for that.

1.. They have been known to fall asleep ANYWHERE

2. And ANYTIME

3. The simplest things can confuse them

4.. And they’re clumsy

5. But their smile brightens your day

6. Their playfulness captures your heart

7. Their sheer joy makes you alive

8. And their sense of humor is oddly cute

9. They get into the silliest trouble

10. Did I mention they confuse easily?

11. And clumsy?

12. They pretend they’re rugs

13. But will NEVER skip a meal

14. Well, if they can get it…

15. And they will always have your back

16. BYE!

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Alexander M-W and the dedicated team at Beacon College, and every one of you standing up for Equity, Diversity and Inclusion!

Pay it forward
Love,
Neville

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“Difference- The Only thing we have in Common”

“Reflect upon your present blessings–of which every man has many–not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” -Charles Dickens

This week:

Gratitude IS Happiness Doubled by Wonder!
Research shows that grateful people are happier and more likely to maintain good friendships.
A state of gratitude, according to research by the Institute of HeartMath, also improves the heart’s rhythmic functioning, which helps us to reduce stress, think more clearly under pressure and heal physically.
It’s actually physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time…

THE POWER OF THANK YOU

In the spirit of Thanksgiving this week I’d love to share with you the benefits and power of two simple words. THANK YOU.

They are two words that have the power to transform our health, happiness, athletic performance and success. Research shows that grateful people are happier and more likely to maintain good friendships. A state of gratitude, according to research by the Institute of HeartMath, also improves the heart’s rhythmic functioning, which helps us to reduce stress, think more clearly under pressure and heal physically. It’s actually physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. When you are grateful you flood your body and brain with emotions and endorphins that uplift and energize you rather than the stress hormones that drain you.

Gratitude and appreciation are also essential for a healthy work environment. In fact, the number one reason why people leave their jobs is because they don’t feel appreciated. A simple thank you and a show of appreciation can make all the difference.

Gratitude is like muscle. The more we do with it the stronger it gets. In this spirit here are 5 ways to practice Thanksgiving every day of the year.

1) Take a Daily Thank You Walk – I started this practice 15 years ago and it changed my life. Take a simple 10-30 minute walk each day and say out loud what you are thankful for. This will set you up for a positive day.

2) Meal Time Thank You’s – On Thanksgiving, or just at dinner with your friends and family, go around the table and have each person, including the kids at the little table, say what they are thankful for.

3) Gratitude Visit – Martin Seligman, Ph.D., the father of positive psychology, suggests that we write a letter expressing our gratitude to someone. Then we visit this person and read them the letter. His research shows that people who do this are measurably happier and less depressed a month later.

4) Say Thank You at Work – When Doug Conant was the CEO of Campbell Soup he wrote approximately 30,000 thank you notes to his employees and energized the company in the process. Energize and engage your co-workers and team by letting them know you are grateful for them and their work. Organizations spend billions of dollars collectively on recognition programs but the best and cheapest recognition program of all consists of a sincere THANK YOU. And of course don’t forget to say thank you to your clients and customers too.

5) Say Thank you and Goodnight – At bedtime reflect on your day, identify and share all that you are thankful for. If you have children you can read Thank You and Goodnight with them and add to it.

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Thank you for allowing me to share this newsletter with you. I’m thankful for YOU.

 

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“Reflect upon your present blessings–of which every man has many–not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” -Charles Dickens

I’ve Been Thinking…

I’ve been looking forward to Thanksgiving all year. In fact, I’ve been counting down to it every day since it happened last year. Why? Well, as anyone close to me knows, Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.

I love the days leading up to it. I love the atmosphere surrounding it. I love that it’s a holiday all about gathering around with family and friends for food, football, and faith. I love that it means my house is full of laughter, and that my table is full of people expressing gratitude for this moment in their lives. I love that friends find comfort and a sense of belonging and home at my family table on Thanksgiving each year.

I also love that Thanksgiving isn’t about going out and buying gifts (which I’ve come to realize just stresses everyone out, anyway). No, Thanksgiving is about celebrating the gifts that are within us. It’s a holiday that’s about honoring the gift of friendship. It’s about recognizing the gift of family. It’s about opening your heart and your mind to the larger picture of family. It’s about reaching out to those who might not have a family or a place to go and inviting them to the table.

I’ve written many times before about our collective need to belong, and how we all feel a need to be invited and included. Thanksgiving is an opportunity for all of us to recognize not just our own internal need for those things, but the need that our loved ones and neighbors have for it as well.

I know the holidays are stressful for many. (That’s why we asked Dr. Lori Gottlieb to give us some advice on handling holiday stress below). I know many people don’t feel welcomed home or like they have a place to go. That’s why I love that my church organizes a Thanksgiving feast every year for those in our larger community who have nowhere else to gather.

Every year, my family serves food at this gathering, and each time, it feels like there are more and more people who line up outside our church for food, clothing, toiletries, and life’s basic necessities. I try to reflect every year on those whom I am serving. I try to express deep gratitude not just for the food, but for the chance to invite them in and treat them with respect and dignity and love.

At the end of the day, that’s what this community gathering is about. It’s about sharing love, respect, and dignity with every person at every table. It’s why this Thanksgiving, I’m going to focus on treating everyone at my family table with respect as well.

I want everyone to feel like they belong. I want everyone to know that I am grateful that they are gathered with me. I’m going to try and make sure our conversations are loving and respectful, and that there is plenty of laughter and love in abundance. I’m going to let everyone at my table know how grateful I am for them, just like I’m grateful to all of you who read this Sunday Paper. I’m so grateful to each and every one of you for championing this newsletter, sharing it, and writing me and coming up to me in person to tell me how much you love it.

You have made The Sunday Paper a huge success by supporting it and spreading the word. Thank you. I find myself so humbled by its success. I’m also so grateful to everyone who supports the work and mission of my nonprofit, The Women’s Alzheimer’s Movement. The success of both of these endeavors depends on other people.

We all need others to help us with our work and our ideas. We all need others who can help us see ourselves, love ourselves, and find our way forward. We are all dependent, independent, and interdependent at the same time. None of us are an island, and yet way too many of us feel like we are alone.

So this holiday season, may we each try—in ways big and small—to step out of our comfort zone. May we reach across a political divide. May we notice someone who is struggling and offer them a hand. May we buy someone a coffee. May we thank someone for a gesture (even if it happened long ago).

We can all give thanks for where we are this year, and we should all know that we didn’t get to this day and this place alone. This Thanksgiving, remember that gratitude never goes out of style.

Love,

PRAYER OF THE WEEK

Dear God, may I give thanks this Thanksgiving for all your blessings. As I enter this holiday season, may I remember that the best gifts are those within that you have already given me. Amen.

Views Above the Noise

1. Anxious About the Holidays? Acclaimed Therapist Lori Gottlieb Shares Her Tips to Reduce Stress and Enjoy the Season

2. Afraid That Talking Politics Will Ruin Thanksgiving? Here’s How to Avoid Conflict So That Doesn’t Happen

3. Best-Selling Author Kelly Corrigan’s Thanksgiving Wish: ‘Focus on What’s Going Right’

4. Simple Ways to Find Gratitude Amidst the Holiday Hustle and Bustle from Rabbi Steve Leder

5. Hosting for the Holidays? Easy Steps to Create a Warm and Inviting Home from Lifestyle Expert Alexandra Gove

6. Looking For Meaningful Gifts? Here are 5 Must-Read Books About the Human Spirit from Our Partners at 1440 Multiversity

News Above the Noise

NEWS TO MAKE YOU SMART
Something Happens to Your Brain When You Feel Gratitude

We receive many positive benefits when feeling grateful. Now, a new study reveals that practicing gratitude over a three-month period physically changed brain activity.

NEWS YOU MAY HAVE MISSED
New Study Finds That Half of U.S. Men Are Uncomfortable With Women Political Leaders

After a banner week for American women (did you see the Democratic Debate on Wednesday?), a new study reveals that only 49% of American men would feel comfortable with a woman as head of government.

NEWS FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
What Stresses Americans the Most About the Holidays Might Surprise You

If fretting and worrying is your specialty this time of year, you’re not alone.
 The holidays are a stressful time of the year. People are losing sleep over how much they spend during the season on expenses like gift-giving, while others are stressed over travel expenses, and even hosting their in-laws.

NEWS YOU CAN USE
How to Have Closer Friendships (and Why You Need Them)

Even if you find it easy to make friends — and it’s not, for most people — getting truly close to people is still difficult. Here’s how to make it easier.

NEWS TO BRING YOU JOY
Our Yippee! Moment of the Week

We love this story of a wild turkey that’s been stalking a Wisconsin mail carrier along his route. Could it be love?  WATCH VIDEO

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Heart-y Chuckles to Carry You Through the Thanksgiving Weak End:

Thanks this week go to all of you who live, love, learn, love and leave a legacy with the positive spirit of gratitude!
Please pay it forward
Love,
Neville

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“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder”
-Gilbert K. Chesterton

“Not all of us can do great things.
But we can do small things with great love.”- Mother Teresa

This week:

Check this out…

LOVE, NOT FEAR, AT WORK: Op-Ed
Making LOVE part of an organization’s operating system

 “A business absolutely devoted to service will have only one worry about profits. They will be embarrassingly large!” Henry Ford

A seismic shift of positive proportions is already well underway in San Diego. In stark counterpoint to silent killers like heart disease, or silent scourges like depression, or not so silent dividers like polarizing political party affiliations, a stronger silent typography has emerged in America’s finest, kindest and most purpose-filled region. Like lotus blossoms that thrive in the murkiest of waters, running equally silent and equally deep, there is a steady emergence of heart-centered individuals, organizations and communities committed to a living from a deeper place of being, where love not fear is the prime driver, and elevating humanity is the goal, aim and purpose.

We have witnessed so many people in the workplace and community who have tired of the sordid spectacle of the 24-hour news cycle.  We have heard their yearning for real substance and significance, with a ravenous hunger for better ways to define success in life and business, as well as a deep thirst for authentic connection and belonging. We’re seeing more and more individuals and organizations saying enough is enough!

Business and community leaders in San Diego are bucking against the status quo; they are consciously choosing to put people whole-heartedly at the center of their organizations, and shifting mind sets, heart sets and skill sets toward a love-centered approach to work and life. These companies know empirically and intuitively that doing well by doing good generates significant positive implications for attracting today’s workforce, connecting more deeply with customers, and making a difference of consequence for our communities.

Employees who are passionate about the work that they do are more loyal, innovative, creative, and inspired, and that translates to great customer experience. They don’t serve others out of obligation, but because of a genuine desire to improve people’s lives.

Sally Hogshead, CEO of Fascinate® and New York Times bestselling author of “How the World Sees You” and “Fascinate,” says, “We all know what good business isn’t. It isn’t working your teams to death. Or prioritizing profits above all else. Or clueless hiring and ruthless firing. And it’s no longer enough to be liked, or respected, or even trusted. To succeed in any crowded and distracted market, you must be loved by customers and employees alike.”

While pockets of innovation are found everywhere, San Diego is helping to lead the way to encourage toward building and sustaining business and community cultures centered on love, not hate. Business is not akin to war.  We must stop talking and acting like it is. Deficit thinking is as dated and destructive as bloodletting. Companies that have the courage to lead with love, do better—often much better. Love is not only appropriate in the context of business, it’s at the very heart of great leadership, and, therefore, the very foundation of a thriving, competitive, sustainable enterprise. When love is intentionally part of an organization’s framework and operationalized in its culture, something transformative and great happens. That’s when you foster loyalty. That’s when you cultivate raving fans. That’s when people love you in return.  No one of us is as powerful as all of us and there is no time for by standing!

Steve Farber, best-selling author whose newest book “Love Is Just Damn Good Business”, was just released on September 27th.

 Dr. Moshe Engelberg, Founder of ResearchWorks and author of “The Amare Wave: Uplifting Business by Putting Love to Work” was just released this month.

 Neville Billimoria, Chief Advocacy Officer & Senior Vice President, Mission Federal Credit Union

 

Quadruple bottom line thinking focuses on People, Planet, Profit and Purpose…
If We Don’t Care for Our Environment, Our Environment Won’t Care for Us!
Over 11,000 scientists around the world declare a ‘climate emergency’:
“Scientists have a moral obligation to warn humanity of any great threat…From the data we have, it is clear we are facing a climate emergency.”
https://apple.news/AydM1TkG2TmaoPR3H5H4gDg
Here is the complete article if you want access to the data
Scientists warning of climate emergency 2019

How Climate Change Is Clobbering Kids’ Health
Let’s pretend the 195 nations that signed the 2016 Paris Climate Accord really do take all of the steps necessary to reach the agreement’s key goal: limiting the increase in global temperature to 1.5°C above pre-industrial levels. In that world, any children born today would grow up to witness some happy milestones…
https://apple.news/AYv1c3VvdQtyuCv4VFVFVJg

And some kids are doing something about it…
107 Teens Awarded for Launching Their Own Projects to Save Our Oceans from Plastics Pollution:
https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/15-teens-awarded-for-each-launching-projects-to-protect-oceans-from-plastic/

 

When it Comes to Climate-Change Adaptation, As Goes California, So Goes…the World
Flames engulf a burning building during the Kincade fire in Healdsburg, California, U.S., on Oct. 27, 2019. It’s almost biblical: Apocalyptic images of fires sweeping through communities. The worst droughts in recorded history, followed by floods overwhelming dams and levees. Homeless encampments. Power outages for millions of people. Is this the “end of California as we know it” and the result of a “failure to live sustainably” as New York Times opinion writer Farhad Manjoo suggested?
https://apple.news/AaiHSU2toRDKreZg78E3haw

 

Fur Is Falling Out Of Fashion — Even For Queen Elizabeth II:
The Queen’s move to ditch animal fur mimics the average British consumer’s wishes, says Kitty Block, president and chief executive officer of the Humane Society of the United States, adding the country actually banned fur farming in 2000
https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2019/11/14/animal-fur-faux-clothing-bans

 

Speaking of Fur…

ENJOY THE LAUGH !!!!

 
An old Doberman   starts chasing rabbits and before long, discovers that he’s lost

Wandering about, he notices a lion heading rapidly in his direction with the intention of having lunch.

The old Doberman thinks, “Oh, oh! I’m in deep doodoo now!”

Noticing some bones on the ground close by, he immediately settles down to chew on the bones with his back to the approaching cat.

Just as the lion is about to leap, the old Doberman exclaims loudly,

“Boy, that was one delicious lion! I wonder, if there are any more around here?”

Hearing this, the young lion halts his attack in mid-stride, a look of terror comes over him and he slinks away into the trees.

“Whew!,” says the lion, “That was close! That old Doberman nearly had me!”

Meanwhile, a squirrel who had been watching the whole scene from a nearby tree, figures he can put this knowledge to good use and trade it for protection from the lion. So, off he goes.

The squirrel soon catches up with the lion, spills the beans and strikes a deal for himself with the lion.

The young lion is furious at being made a fool of and says, “Here, squirrel, hop on my back and see what’s going to happen to that conniving canine!”
Now, the old Doberman sees the lion coming with the squirrel on his back and thinks, “What am I going to do now?,” but instead of running, the dog  sits down with his back to his attackers, pretending he hasn’t seen them yet, and just when they get close enough to hear, the old Doberman says……..

“Where’s that squirrel? I sent him off an hour ago to bring me another lion!”

Moral of this story…

Don’t mess with the old dogs… Age and skill will always overcome youth and treachery!

BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.

If you don’t send this to two ‘old’ goats right away, there will be two fewer people laughing in the world.

Of course, I am in no way insinuating that you are old, just ‘youthfully challenged’.

You did notice the size of the print, didn’t you?

 

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Steve, Moshe and Larry K, and all of us serving as stewards for our tiny blue planet.

Please pay it forward!
Love,
Neville

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“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage”
Lao Tzu

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage”-Lao Tzu

Hope you thanked members of the Armed Service for their sacrifices on Veteran’s Day, as well as celebrated World Kindness Day on Wednesday Nov 13^th!

 

This week: Drive All Blames Into One
Teachings for Awakening the Heart in Everyday Life:

Pema Chodron’s Compassion Cards- Teachings for Awakening the Heart in Everyday Life are a fun and thought-provoking card deck drawing from the Root Text of the Seven Points of Training the Mind steeped in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition.
Today I pulled the “Drive All Blames Into One” card and here is the commentary for our collective reflection:

Drive All Blames Into One
This is advice on how to work with your fellow beings.
Everyone is looking for someone to blame and therefore aggression and neurosis keep expanding.
Instead, pause and look at what’s happening with you.
When you hold on so tightly to your view of what you did, you get hooked.
Your own self-righteousness causes you to get all worked up and to suffer.
So work on cooling that reactivity rather than escalating it. This approach reduces suffering – yours and everyone else’s…

Why the World is Being Dehumanized:

What Humanism Means to Me, and Why it’s Failing Around the Globe by Umair Haque
When you consider what our grandkids and their grandkids will say about this age, this era, what comes surging to your mind?
I’d say that the wise amongst them might say something like this: “Wow. They were in profound, terrible pain. They were being dehumanized, over and over again. They had to dehumanize one another, just to live.”
But that’s a deeply traumatic experience — to have your personhood, your selfhood, your dignity, purpose, truth, capacity for love, empathy, care, nurturing, taken away from you.
https://eand.co/why-the-world-is-being-dehumanized-ae18ca4c5d8c

 

The Challenge- Some unsavory examples of us dehumanizing each other from Immigration to Sexual Harassment, shared below to open our minds and hearts, and remind us of the severity and pervasiveness of our inhumanity to our fellow man

How Immigration Raids In August Have Changed A Small Town In Mississippi:
The community of Morton, Miss., is still dealing with the biggest single-state work site immigration raid in U.S. history. Seven chicken plants were raided and 680 people arrested.
https://www.npr.org/2019/11/12/778632550/how-immigration-raids-in-august-have-changed-a-small-town-in-mississippi

McDonald’s Is Sued Over ‘Systemic Sexual Harassment’ Of Female Workers:
The lawsuit against McDonald’s and its Michigan franchise is the latest allegation of rampant abuse and harassment of female employees at the fast-food chain.
Lawyers representing workers say more than 50 claims and charges of harassment of female employees are pending against McDonald’s in courts and at the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.
https://www.npr.org/2019/11/12/778530312/mcdonalds-is-sued-over-systemic-sexual-harassment-of-female-workers

The Opportunity-Some Ways to Redress these Inequities and Indignities- Development Economics, Cultural Intelligence, and Teaching Kids Empathy

Dr. Topher McDougal shares some thoughts on the recent Nobel Prize given to three development economists:
Development economics is the branch of economics that deals with how countries go from being poor to being rich. It is broadly characterized by a belief that, for a number of distinct reasons, economies in the poorest countries may behave differently from those in rich countries – most fundamentally by yielding negative returns on investment, leading to the so-called “poverty trap.” By the turn of the millennium, the field had long been dominated by big theoretical debates: Does development aid break cycles of poverty in poor countries? If so, which sectors should be spurred by bilateral and multilateral grants and lending? Or does development aid generate dependency? Is it a form of neo-Colonial exploitation?
https://globaledleadership.org/2019/11/06/dr-topher-mcdougal-shares-some-thoughts-on-the-recent-nobel-prize-given-to-three-development-economists/

 

The Importance of Developing Cultural Intelligence:
Cultivating globally mobile, culturally agile citizens now that’s a novel idea
https://www.universityworldnews.com/post.php?story=20191017135800899

 

Teaching kids empathy: In Danish schools, it’s … well, it’s a piece of cake:
While researching our book “The Danish Way of Parenting; What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids,” the co-authors interviewed numerous teachers and students across Denmark to learn how they incorporate empathy in schools and at home. Notably, in the Danish education system empathy is considered as important as teaching math and literature, and it is woven into the school’s curriculum from pre-school through high school.
https://www.salon.com/2016/08/09/teaching-kids-empathy-in-danish-schools-its-well-its-a-piece-of-cake/

On a Lighter Note…

PAY ATTENTION!

AN OLD WOMAN WALKED UP AND TIED HER OLD MULE TO THE HITCHING POST.
AS SHE STOOD THERE, BRUSHING SOME OF THE DUST FROM HER FACE AND CLOTHES, A YOUNG GUNSLINGER STEPPED OUT OF THE SALOON WITH A GUN IN ONE HAND AND A BOTTLE OF WHISKEY IN THE OTHER. THE YOUNG GUNSLINGER LOOKED AT THE OLD WOMAN AND LAUGHED, “HEY OLD WOMAN, HAVE YOU EVER DANCED?”
THE OLD WOMAN LOOKED UP AT THE GUNSLINGER AND SAID, “NO,… I NEVER DID DANCE… NEVER REALLY WANTED TO.”
A CROWD HAD GATHERED AS THE GUNSLINGER GRINNED AND SAID “WELL, YOU OLD BAG, YOU’RE GONNA DANCE NOW,” AND STARTED SHOOTING AT THE OLD WOMAN’S FEET.
THE OLD WOMAN PROSPECTOR — NOT WANTING TO GET HER TOE BLOWN OFF –STARTED HOPPING AROUND. EVERYBODY WAS LAUGHING.

WHEN HIS LAST BULLET HAD BEEN FIRED, THE YOUNG GUNSLINGER, STILL LAUGHING, HOLSTERED HIS GUN AND TURNED AROUND TO GO BACK INTO THE SALOON.
THE OLD WOMAN TURNED TO HER PACK MULE, PULLED OUT A DOUBLE-BARRELED SHOTGUN, AND COCKED BOTH HAMMERS.
THE LOUD CLICKS CARRIED CLEARLY THROUGH THE DESERT AIR, AND THE CROWD STOPPED LAUGHING IMMEDIATELY.
THE YOUNG GUNSLINGER HEARD THE SOUNDS, TOO, AND HE TURNED AROUND VERY SLOWLY. THE SILENCE WAS ALMOST DEAFENING. THE CROWD WATCHED AS THE YOUNG GUNMAN STARED AT THE OLD WOMAN AND THE LARGE GAPING HOLES OF THOSE TWIN BARRELS.
THE BARRELS OF THE SHOTGUN NEVER WAVERED IN THE OLD WOMAN’S HANDS, AS SHE QUIETLY SAID, “SON, HAVE YOU EVER KISSED A MULE’S ASS?”
THE GUNSLINGER SWALLOWED HARD AND SAID, “NO M’AM… BUT I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO.

THERE ARE FIVE LESSONS HERE FOR ALL OF US:

1 – Never be arrogant.
2 – Don’t waste ammunition.
3 – Whiskey makes you think you’re smarter than you are.
4 – Always make sure you know who has the power.
5 – Don’t mess with old people; they didn’t get old by being stupid.

 

Thanks this week go to the beloved Pema C, Umair H, Paula C, Jason P, Larry H and the power of National Public Radio.
Please Pay it Forward!
Love,
Neville

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“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds.
Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world.
Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and
you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.”
— Patanjali

This week:

At a recent Live Well San Diego Advance attended by over 1,200 stakeholders from public, private and the social sector , in a workshop on diversity, inclusion and equity, I was exposed to an excerpt from this powerful Ted talk- The Gardener’s Tale– by Dr. Camara Jones.

Allegories on Race and Racism with Dr. Camara Jones:
Dr. Camara Jones shares four allegories on “race” and racism. She hopes that these “telling stories” empower you to do something different, and that you will remember them and pass them on.

Dr. Jones is a family physician and epidemiologist whose work focuses on the impacts of racism on the health and well-being of the nation. She seeks to broaden the national health debate to include not only universal access to high quality health care, but also attention to the social determinants of health (including poverty) and the social determinants of equity (including racism).

As a teacher, her allegories on “race” and racism illuminate topics that are otherwise difficult for many Americans to understand or discuss. She hopes through her work to initiate a national conversation on racism that will eventually lead to a National Campaign Against Racism.

Dr. Jones was an Assistant Professor at the Harvard School of Public Health from 1994 to 2000, and a Medical Officer at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention from 2000 to 2013. She received her BA in Molecular Biology from Wellesley College, her MD from the Stanford University School of Medicine, and both her Master of Public Health and her PhD in Epidemiology from the Johns Hopkins School of Hygiene and Public Health. She also completed residency training in both General Preventive Medicine (Johns Hopkins School of Hygiene and Public Health) and Family Practice (Residency Program in Social Medicine at Montefiore Hospital).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GNhcY6fTyBM

Local?
Be the Change you Want to See in the World!

Reminder to please join us next Friday for Getting to the Heart of Business: Shift Happened! Business Love Part 2
Come join us on Friday, November 15 from 7-10 PM at Corporate Alliance of San Diego.
There’ll be food, mingling with kindred spirits (more than 50 people have already signed up) and contribute to the great collective energy.
Easy parking, live music and we’ll have other nourishment and sustenance for your heart and soul too.

Spread the love, mobilize your peeps, and click the Yes, No or Maybe button above so we can expect you and feed you.

Do share this event on Facebook and Twitter.

It is time to do what we love in the service of people who love what we do and grow the Amare Wave!

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/getting-to-the-heart-of-business-shift-happened-business-love-part-2-tickets-79233875655?aff=Neville1

 

 

MAYBE WE SHOULD READ THESE EVERY MORNING:

Thanks to all of you who choose to focus on love over fear, light over darkness, inclusion over division, and equity over injustice.

You know who you are…

Please pay it forward!
Love,
Neville

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“Difference- The Only thing we have in Common”

“You don’t have to be great at something to start, but you have to start to be great at something.”

This week:
It’s not enough to have values you hold near and dear but you have to behave into them

• Values are aspirational
• Mission is inspirational
• Values are perspirational!

Here are many opportunities to embody the world you wish to see, bringing love into your work and being human-centered, applying triple bottom line accounting to measure the right things, raising an aging parent and honoring our wise elders, supporting gun violence prevention and making society safer, or being kind to animals- one squirrel at a time…

Wherever we find ourselves we can do something small for one another. It all begins with a single step- taking a decision.
If you are local, I sure hope you invest the time and energy to be at any/all of these events that call your spirit.
See you there. Our world needs you!

 

Details below on-

Getting to the Heart of Business: Shift Happened! Business Love Part 2
November 15^th 7pm

BDO Annual Accounting Event and Triple Bottom Line:
November 14^th 1pm

Raising An Aging Parent: Guidelines For Families in the Second Half of Life
Wed., Nov. 6^th 10:30-1pm

San Diegans for Gun Violence Prevention 2019 Fundraiser
Sunday November 10^th 4-7pm

 

Found: A Little Squirrel

Soldiers in Belarus found a little squirrel and brought it to the Warrant officer.
The squirrel was very weak and about to die, so the officer took care of it, fed it like a baby every 4 hours.

3 months ago the guy left the army and now works as  a taxi driver – and the squirrel is always with him no matter where he goes!

“Rescuing  one animal may not change the world, but for this squirrel,  His world has changed forever!”

 

Getting to the Heart of Business:
Shift Happened! Business Love Part 2

UPDATED EVENT TIME from 4-7 to 7-10 pm on Nov 15^th  

 This is way more than just a launch party for Moshe’s new book; this is a sea change to an entirely new future for all of us.

Join us on Friday, 7-10 pm, November 15, for a truly remarkable celebration.

What’s up? A huge and positive wave of change is already well underway in San Diego. We aim to celebrate and grow it together, at our next big event on Friday November 15.

In stark counterpoint to all the greed, inauthenticity, and fear that is driving so many businesses today. a stronger wave of change is here in America’s finest, kindest and most purpose-filled region. There is a steady emergence of heart-centered individuals, organizations & communities committed to a living from a deeper place of being, where love – not fear – is the prime driver, and elevating humanity is the goal, aim and purpose.

This movement is for you – if you’re tired of the fighting nature of business, the ethical compromises it requires, the emptiness you feel at times, and the suffering it causes.

This movement is for you – if you are yearning for real substance and significance, with a ravenous hunger for better ways to define success in life and in business, as well as a deep thirst for authentic connection and belonging.

This movement is for you – if you know something is off, even if you don’t know what it is- and deep inside you wonder if there is a better way, with greater satisfaction and a different way to prosper.

You’re not alone. More and more of us – individuals and organizations – are saying enough is enough!

San Diego is helping lead the way to encourage the heart, exemplified with the latest work of two local authors, Moshe Engelberg and Steve Farber, and convened by local organizations including the Chamber of Purpose San Diego.

Dr. Moshe Engelberg’s book for The Amare Wave: Uplifting Business by Putting Love to Work is coming out November 12. Best-selling author Steve Farber’s newest book Love Is Just Damn Good Business, was just released last month. These thought leaders, along with many others, are propelling San Diego to a sea change that builds the amare wave and creates damn good business for all of us.

Business is not akin to war, so we need to stop talking and acting like it is. Companies that have the courage to lead with love, do better-often much better. It’s a different and much more rewarding way to prosper in business that you can adopt too. That’s the key idea of Dr. Moshe Engelberg’s upcoming book The Amare Wave: Uplifting Business by Putting Love to Work. In it, he shows how a mighty wave, growing in momentum and force every day is propelling good organizations away from the fear-based “business as war” fighting paradigm, and toward a fresh, love-centered approach that works better for business and society.

Love is not only appropriate in the context of business, it’s at the very heart of great leadership, and, therefore, the very foundation of a thriving, competitive, sustainable enterprise. When love is intentionally part of an organization’s framework and operationalized in its culture, that’s when something transformative and great happens. That’s when you foster loyalty. That’s when you cultivate raving fans. That’s when people love you in return. That’s the core message of San Diego author Steve Farber’s latest book, Love Is Just Damn Good Business and its creating a new paradigm in the business world with implications that spill into every aspect of our lives.

If you are tired of getting pounded in the white water and ready to get into the positive flow that you already know, you’re invited to the official San Diego book launch party for The Amare Wave: Uplifting Business by Putting Love to Work and the building of this new turning tide!

No one of us is as powerful as all of us and there is no bystanding! We’re inviting you to co-lead this momentous wave bringing the power of love to the forefront of successful business.

If we can change the expectation and experience of what it means to be in business, we change everything!

This is way more than just a launch party; this is a sea change to an entirely new future for all of us.

 Join us on Friday, November 15 from 7-10 PM at Corporate Alliance of San Diego. There’ll be food, mingling with kindred spirits and great collective energy. Easy parking too. And bonus- great live music from a surprise “Amare” band! And we’ll have other nourishment and sustenance for your heart and soul too.

Are you in?

Spread the love, mobilize your peeps, and register via the link below so we can expect you and feed you.

It is time to do what we love in the service of people who love what we do.

Love,
Neville and Moshe and Steve

Sponsored by the Chamber of Purpose

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/getting-to-the-heart-of-business-shift-happened-business-love-part-2-tickets-79233875655?aff=Neville1

 

BDO Annual Accounting Update and Triple Bottom Line:
If you are inclined, I will be on a panel at this event…

 

Raising An Aging Parent: Guidelines For Families in the Second Half of Life:
Dear Family, Friends and Colleagues,

Please let us know if you can join us next Wed., Nov. 6th, at the beautiful San Diego Oasis for the book launch of Raising An Aging Parent: Guidelines For Families in the Second Half of Life.

Oasis is located at 5500 Grossmont Center Dr. in La Mesa, CA 91942. Space is limited so please call them directly at (619) 881-6262 or e mail www.sandiegooasis.org to hold a spot in “class #576”.

Great news!  Raising an Aging Parent is already rising on the Amazon best-seller list in pre-sales, and is been endorsed by some of our nation’s top thought leaders as a “must read for families in the second half of life.” 

Copies are now available at https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Aging-Parent-Dr-Druck/dp/1947341812/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=Raising+An+Aging+Parent&qid=1572111880&s=books&sr=1-2 and the audiobook, produced by songwriter/Producer, Mark Spiro, will be out shortly.  

Although the book launch will go from 10:30-1 PM, I’ll be dedicating the book, giving a short talk and reading at 11 AM.

Lisette and I would be delighted to see you, sign copies of the book for you and your family and catch up on life as we all get ready for the holidays.

Thank you for your support in spreading the word about, Raising an Aging Parent: Guidelines for Families in the Second Half of Life.

Gratefully,

Ken

Ken Druck, Ph.D.
www.kendruck.com
(619) 823-3070

 

San Diegans for Gun Violence Prevention 2019 Fundraiser
Sunday November 10^th 4-7pm
Corah Workspace
374 N Coast Hwy 101,
Encinitas CA

https://www.paperlesspost.com/events/36035008-1e9b9fd5/replies/566459050-5f32556c?mkey=cm9uQGJyYW5kdml2by5jb20%3D&preconfirmed_token=94556799-f93bfd87&utm_campaign=rsvp_env&utm_medium=email&utm_source=event

SD4GVP Fundraiser 2019 From: San Diegans for Gun Violence Prevention

 

Take care of our animals!

 

Thanks this week go to  Cathy J, Moshe E, Steve F, Larry H, Lee D, Ken D & Bob C.
Get mobilized and pay it forward!
Love,
Neville

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“You don’t have to be great at something to start, but you have to start to be great at something.”

This week:

Facing it Together:
5 year old supporter Tempy and 38 year old beneficiary Si talk about what it is that makes the bond between Help for Heroes and its supporters so special…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5_EuMsn7_o

Notes from the Corporate Underground- A Different Perspective Besides Divisiveness:
Visiting Berlin with Stan S
A few years ago I visited Berlin for a business meeting.  First time to the city. I grew up during the Cold War, which was always threatening to heat up.  We hunkered under our wooden school desks to prepare for the blast wave of a thermonuclear attack.  Even at the age of 10, I recognized the lunacy of that act.

Over five decades later, I found myself wandering the streets of the city that epitomized the degree of divisiveness in the world at that time.  A city, and a whole country, cut in half.  The west represented the democratic allies from World War II, and the east represented the communist countries forming what was known as the Soviet Bloc. These two ideologies were mutually exclusive, alternate forms of government founded on alternate views of reality.  Like matter and antimatter, when they might come into contact they would annihilate each other.  Or threaten to…

http://www.stansewitch.com/

 

If you are local…

 SAVE THE DATE! 
Getting to the Heart of Business
THE AMARE WAVE IS HERE! Business Love Part 2

Join us on Friday, 7-10 pm, November 15, for a truly remarkable celebration. What’s up? A huge and positive wave of change is already well underway in San Diego. We aim to celebrate and grow it together, at our next big event on Friday evening November 15.

San Diego is helping lead the way to encourage the heart, exemplified with the latest work of two local authors, Moshe Engelberg and Steve Farber, and convened by local organizations including the Chamber of Purpose San Diego.

You’re invited to the official San Diego book launch party for The Amare Wave: Uplifting Business by Putting Love to Work  by our own Moshe Engelberg and the building of this new turning tide! No one of us is as powerful as all of us and there is no bystanding! We’re inviting you to co-lead this momentous wave bringing the power of love to the forefront of successful business. This is way more than just a launch party; this is a sea change to an entirely new future for all of us.

Join us on Friday, November 15 from 7-10 PM at Corporate Alliance of San Diego. There’ll be food, mingling with kindred spirits and great collective energy. Easy parking too. And bonus- great live music from a surprise “Amare” band! And we’ll have other nourishment and sustenance for your heart and soul too. Formal invitation forthcoming.

Love,
Neville and Moshe and Steve

“Work is love made visible.” 
–Kahlil Gibran

 

Join the Blue Ribbon Challenge and Help Honor One Billion People On Earth:

Uniting Humanity Through the Power of Love
1 Billion People Honored…1 Billion Dreams Coming True in 2020
Help Us “BRING the BING!”… the sound that makes dreams come true.™

Honor People During the Holiday’s and All Year-Long

 “The ‘Who I Am Makes A Difference’® Blue Ribbon Acknowledgment Ceremony is the antidote to anger, violence and self-destruction.”
Dr. Ken Druck – best-selling author “Raising An Aging Parent”, “Courageous Aging, and “The Real Rules of Life”

Clink link:  https://blueribbons.org/10-free-ribbons

1. View new 7-Minute Blue Ribbon movie.
   original story #1 for 10 weeks on YouTube in nonprofit category.

2. Receive 10 Free Blue Ribbons & 7-Step Acknowledgment Ceremony.
3. Honor others. Let them know how much they make a difference. Cheer them on for their dreams by giving them a BING!
4. Take pictures of those you honor wearing Blue Ribbons.
5. Post pictures and stories on social media adding
   #BlueRibbonBING! #WhoIAmMakesADifference #OneBillionDreams

Please pay it forward.

Creating Safe, Supportive and Empowering Communities
Where dreams really do come true

For More Information
www.BlueRibbonsWorldwide.org   Sparky@BlueRibbons.org

 Neville Billimoria – Sr. V.P. Mission Federal
“In a world typified by greed, selfishness, manipulation, disrespect, secrecy, and a single-minded focus on winning; imagine a community characterized by high levels of positive energy where appreciation, compassion, collaboration, trustworthiness, resilience, wisdom, loyalty, honesty and respect are the norm. The Blue Ribbon Culture is a powerful system where children and adults may live, dream and succeed knowing that who they are makes a difference.”

Steve Farber – Best-Selling Author “Love is Just Damn Good Business”  “The Radical Leap” “Greater Than Yourself”
“Love is the ultimate motivation of the Extreme Leader: love of something or someone, love of a cause, love of a principle, love of the people you work with and the customers you serve, love of the future you and yours can create together, love of the business you conduct together every day.
Blue Ribbons Worldwide gives people of all ages permission to grow, succeed and love. ”

 

New Connections by Mission Fed:

Connections by Mission Fed Newsletter

The NEW Connections by Mission Fed newsletter is a quarterly corporate update to all of our members on the latest Mission Fed news, member information and highlights from recent community events.

The community events in this newsletter are just some of the many ways that Mission Fed supports and gives back to the local San Diego community—your membership makes this possible!

Thank you for your membership and please enjoy the NEW Connections by Mission Fed newsletter!

 

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Stan S, Everyone riding the Amare Wave, Sparky Bridges, and the Mission Fed team committed to the betterment of San Diego!

Pay it forward
Love,
Neville

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“It’s not that you aimed your sights too high and failed,
it’s that you aimed your sights too low and succeeded!”

This week: Helping Society Live Our Values to Manifest Our Highest Selves
Human beings are consummate meaning seekers and meaning makers.
Understanding ourselves and others can be illuminating if you use the right constructs and filters.
I love Maslow’s framework for understanding human values and behavior. Recently, I facilitated a mentoring program, juxtaposing Maslow’s western psychology model and Lao Tsu’s eastern philosophic model to drive personal and professional growth and foster meaning and purpose in a values-centered life.

Living our values both personally and professionally enables a new definition of success that is not just about performance and achievement, but also about fulfillment and purpose, with implications for elevating ourselves, our family, our community and our work.

This week, I have included both personal content from remarks I delivered at the BBB Torch Awards for Ethics in San Diego and an excellent TED podcast on Maslow’s Human Needs

 

BBB Torch Awards for Ethics:
My Remarks on Behalf of Mission Fed as the Title Sponsor on Oct 9, San Diego CA

Thanks for this opportunity, with your help, and as part of a concerted effort for San Diego to stand up not just America’s Finest City but America’s Kindest, Most Purposeful and Most Ethical Region!
Special thanks and congratulations to all our student scholarship nominees.
You all leave us with great hope and promise for our future…

So…
You might wonder why Mission Fed decided to serve as the title sponsor for this event?
After having been honored as back to back two time BBB Ethics Torch award winners, Mission Fed wanted to loudly and proudly signal internally and externally; to ourselves, our members, our employees and to the hyper-local community we serve that ethics really matter in all aspects of life.
Because core or noble values are at the center point of every organizational culture, we could think of no better way to model and mentor a values-based business orientation than to partner with the BBB and serve as the title sponsor for the BBB Torch Awards for Ethics and amplify the good work all of you are doing, behaving into the change we wish to see in the world.

People have personalities and Organizations have cultures.
Cultural norms and values are what shape and drive organizational behaviors as well as business and societal outcomes.
Who we are speaks so loudly, that often others can’t hear what we say. We can definitely see how others behave, however.

The importance of values and culture cannot be over-stated.
Peter Drucker the business management guru and creator of Management by Objectives is famously quoted as saying, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast!”
I would add “and lunch and dinner too…”

Today more than ever, as business leaders, as parents, as community volunteers, as active citizens in one of the greatest democracies on earth, we need, without equivocation, to signal what is most important in our communities, in our classrooms and in our workplaces.

The antidote for divisiveness, greed, man’s inhumanity to his fellow man and outright self-indulgence is an ethical value system that is based on trust and transparency.

Mission Fed, the largest financial services organization exclusively serving San Diego and now serving over 250,000 members in San Diego, is in the trust business.
As we all know, trust is hard to earn and easy to lose. Unfair I know, but we must deal with it…
Transparency, as Supreme Court Justice Brandeis eloquently stated, “Sunlight is said to be the best of disinfectants”. These like other values such as fairness and inclusivity are cornerstones of great and healthy cultures.
Access and equity are other important considerations for healthy organizations.
In the same way that the sun shines equally on all of nature without discrimination, we need to ensure everyone has access to their own slice of the American dream, and through their own effort can earn and experience their own social mobility and financial success. The credit union movement was birthed with these aspirations and intentions…
As a double bottom line organization, Mission Fed is focused on both financial performance and social purpose.

Business is evolving and business leaders committed to growing scalable and sustainable enterprise like most of you in this room are taking note.
Instead of capitulating to the status quo, or allowing antiquated industrial age, mechanistic models to drive our designs, thinking and definitions of success, they are consciously choosing to put people and values whole-heartedly at the center of their organizations, and in turn are shifting mind sets, heart sets and skill sets toward a human-centered approach to work and life.
Shift Happens.
These companies know empirically and intuitively that doing well by doing good is enlightened self-interest, with significant positive implications for attracting today’s workforce, connecting more deeply with customers, and making a positive difference of consequence for our communities.
This is a purpose orientation not just a profit orientation.
Strategic purpose drives sustainable profit.

Emile Durkheim, considered the Father of Sociology said that, “ethics is the adherence to the unenforceable”.
He suggested, that behaving ethically because of external factors such as regulatory threat or fear of social ostracizing, or because we don’t want to get busted and blamed and shamed isn’t ethics at all but compliance.
Ethics is not an outside job but an inside one. We behave ethically simply put because it is the right thing to do-even if no one is watching.

Friends,
And I call you friends because I do believe there are no strangers, just friends you have not met yet, and if we haven’t met yet I look forward to meeting you,
If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything!
Thank you for standing up for the values that will help us turn San Diego, not just into America’s Finest City, but America’s Kindest, Most Purposeful and Most Ethical Region.
Let’s stand up for the world we want to leave to the next generation, where our inner climate is as critical to our survival and growth as our outer climate.
Thank you, today, for both seeing the change you want to be in the world, and being the change you want to see in our world-starting right here, right now.

 

Maslow’s Human Needs from Primal to Profound:
Humans need food, sleep, safety, love and purpose.
Maslow ordered our needs into a hierarchy and this TED series explore the spectrum of need from primal to profound…
Enjoy just one, or experience them all:

How did Abraham Maslow change Psychology?
Why do we need sleep?
What does it take to feel secure?
How does war teach soldiers about love?
What defines a person’s sense of self?
What makes a life worth living?

https://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/399796647/maslows-human-needs

 

Who Needs Humans?
If you are a bit jaded with the human experience…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GA3RtttbP1Y

 

SAVE THE DATE!
Getting to the Heart of Business

THE AMARE WAVE IS HERE! Business Love Part 2

Join us on Friday, 7-10 pm, November 15, for a truly remarkable celebration. What’s up? A huge and positive wave of change is already well underway in San Diego. We aim to celebrate and grow it together, at our next big event on Friday evening November 15.

San Diego is helping lead the way to encourage the heart, exemplified with the latest work of two local authors, Moshe Engelberg and Steve Farber, and convened by local organizations including the Chamber of Purpose San Diego.

You’re invited to the official San Diego book launch party for The Amare Wave: Uplifting Business by Putting Love to Work  by our own Moshe Engelberg and the building of this new turning tide! No one of us is as powerful as all of us and there is no bystanding! We’re inviting you to co-lead this momentous wave bringing the power of love to the forefront of successful business. This is way more than just a launch party; this is a sea change to an entirely new future for all of us.

“Work is love made visible.”
–Kahlil Gibran

Join us on Friday, November 15 from 7-10 PM at Corporate Alliance of San Diego. There’ll be food, mingling with kindred spirits and great collective energy. Easy parking too. And bonus- great live music from a surprise “Amare” band! And we’ll have other nourishment and sustenance for your heart and soul too. Formal invitation forthcoming.

Love,
Neville and Moshe and Steve

 

Thanks this week go to all of you living your values even when no one is watching.
Please pay it forward!
Love,
Neville

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“I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change.
I am changing the things I cannot accept.”
–Angela Davis

“I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change.
I am changing the things I cannot accept.”
–Angela Davis

This week:

A Maverick Futurist’s Vision, Things You Wish You Knew When You Were Younger, Dealing with Naysayers, & Creating The LoveBiz Revolution

A MAVERICK FUTURIST’S VISION with John Renesch (5 minutes)
A gripping, powerful, timely, purposeful call to action for conscious leaders everywhere!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lkwG4adj-xk&feature=youtu.beC:%5CUsers%5CJohn%5CDropbox%5CMyData%5C8x8+Network+Monitoring+Tool+DataC:%5CUsers%5CJohn%5CDropbox%5CMyData%5C8x8+Network+Monitoring+Tool+Data

THINGS I WISH I KNEW WHEN I WAS YOUNGER by Simon Sinek: (20 minutes)
Gems to Live By

1. Stay focused on the outcome not the obstacles.
2. Perspective matters. One person’s stress is another person’s excitement.
3. The highest performing team leaders are those that give to each other selflessly, especially under stress.
4. Universally regarded great leaders listen first and speak later tom make sure others feel that they are heard.
5. Serve those who serve others, and you will live a life of joy and fulfillment.
   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p9gzGmyDJvc&t=98s

 

7 WAYS TO DEAL WITH NAYSAYERS with Jon G:

Anyone who has ever pursued a goal or dream, attempted to start a new business, worked on an innovative project, shared a new idea, strived to be a champion or tried to change the world has faced naysayers along the way.

Unfortunately, the world is filled with far too many unfinished projects, unrealized goals, broken dreams, half written books, untapped potential and wounded hearts pierced by the words of a naysayer.

I know this well because early on I asked a woman who worked in the speaking business to come see me speak. She told my friend I wasn’t very good, that I would never make it and should do something else. She was actually right about one thing. I wasn’t very good. But she didn’t share my vision for the future. She didn’t know how hard I would work to improve and grow. She couldn’t see the plan God had for me. The naysayer was focused on what I was, not what I was becoming. Thankfully I didn’t let the naysayer stop me and hopefully you won’t let naysayers stop you.

In this spirit I want to share 7 Ways to Deal with Naysayers to help you create your future.

1. Ignore them – Simply ignore what they are saying. Tune them out. Of course, you want to receive feedback that will make you better but you want to ignore people and words that seek to derail you from your goal.
2. Hear them and know their words have no power over you – This is what I did with the woman who said I would never make it. I heard the words but knew they had no power over me. The power inside you is much greater than the words of a naysayer.
3. Remember Gandhi’s advice “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” – Knowing you have the power inside you to overcome the negativity in the world means you won’t let the opinion of others define you or your destiny.
4. Remind yourself that history doesn’t remember the critic. History remembers the one who withstood criticism to accomplish something great. – In order to create something new, achieve your goal and change the world you will have to overcome negativity, adversity and naysayers. While the naysayer says words few will remember, you will leave a legacy many won’t forget. Critics write words but they don’t write the future. You do with your faith, belief and actions.
5. Your faith and belief must be greater than all the negativity and doubt – You must expect criticism but have an even greater expectation that you will overcome it. Your positivity must be greater than all the negativity. It may sound cliché but you must stay positive each day as you work to improve and create your future.
6. Don’t let anyone walk through your mind with their DIRTY TWEET – This is a great spin on the Gandhi quote because with social media you will have more fans and critics than ever. Don’t let praise go to your head or let critics in your head. Utilize tips 2-5 to overcome the naysayers who have access to you online that would never say anything to your face.

7. Decide to work harder and get better. – We can allow negative comments to weaken us or fuel us. I don’t believe in trying to prove people wrong. But I do believe in working hard to become the best you can be. So consider each negative comment as a nudge to work harder and get better. You can’t control what people say but you can control the actions you take to improve. Utilize both the praise and the criticism to get better.

If you are interested in The LoveBiz Revolution…
A Friendly Follow up from Farber, Moshe and Moi:

Steve:

Thank you, thank you, thank you for joining us for the launch of Love Is Just Damn Good Business!
I was deeply moved by the love you brought and by our collective desire to make San Diego the epicenter for the Love-In-Business movement.
I’ve attached a couple of pics from the evening. May they be a reminder of what we can accomplish together when we put our hearts into it.
As you may recall, I challenged you to go back to work and ask this question:
“How can we show our colleagues, employees, customers, stakeholders, community, etc. that we love them?”
If you’d be willing, hit “reply” to this email and share your experience in answering (or attempting to answer) this question. You can shoot a quick video, record an audio, type something, or use a stone tablet and chisel—your choice.
I’m getting goosebumps just thinking about what you have to say.
Stay tuned for news on our next get-together!
With Love,
Steve

Neville:
I would like to extend my deep gratitude to the nearly 100 of you that attended our gathering last Friday, putting people squarely at the heart of enterprise and together setting the intention to stand up a LoveBiz movement in San Diego and beyond!
If we had a chance to connect personally, I hope we can deepen that connection and relationship in the coming months.
If we didn’t get to meet yet, I hope to be blessed to get to know you better!

• Our shared vision is aspirational– to shift our community to a love-centered approach to work and life
• Our mission is inspirational– to put these principles into practice and help each other stay the course
• Our values are perspirational– we have to behave into them even when others are pushing back or when no one is watching

We are planning a facilitated group experience to continue this important work within the next month, and in November we will regroup to celebrate the launch of Moshe’s book, The Amare Wave so stay tuned for details…
Finally, so we can stay connected, please join us and invite other kindred spirits to participate and become part of our emerging community at  www.ChamberofPurpose.org  There’s a Join Us button prominent featured on the landing page and a form at the bottom of every page.
If you would like to promote your Purpose-oriented events completing the Submit An Event section on our Events-Calendar page and we will help you get the word out as well.
Love,
Neville

Moshe:
Moshe here, author of The Amare Wave: Uplifting Business by Putting Love to Work, due out in November. I’m sorry I wasn’t able to join in the festivities in person, but rest assured I was there in spirit!
I’m so glad we are all joining together to grow this mighty wave, and propel our organizations away from the fear-based “business as war” fighting paradigm, toward a fresh, love-centered approach that lets us prosper greatly.
There’s nothing stronger than the energy of love. Let’s put it work! Please join me next month to celebrate the release of my book and the momentum of us in this together.
Stay tuned for details!

Love,
Moshe

If you are local…

Awaken the Leader Within: LIVE Nov 14-16 2019 in San Diego with Stacey Ellen

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Trust your intuition and to take inspired action now while they last. It’s time for you to Awaken Your Power and Create More Impact from A Soulful Place. 🙏🏻👊🏻
Click here to find out more and to book your tickets: https://events.staceyellen.com
If there are still concerns if this is a good fit, you can also shoot an email to Stacey’s team and she will hop on a call with you.
Email: support@staceyellen.com

Thanks this week go to:

Mehrad N and all my conscious leader brothers
Malcolm A and all our conscious capitalism brothers and sisters
Larry H & Stacey E
and Steve S and everyone in our Chamber of Purpose LoveBiz family!

Please consciously pay it forward…
Love,
Neville

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