Your Soul Food for Passover, Easter, Ramadan and Earth Month 2023: Languishing or Flourishing, Feast or Famine, Insanity or Immortality, Religious or Secular?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

What ever happened to Peace, Love and Understanding?
What ever happened to Hope, Agency and Dignity?

This Element is Critical to Human Flourishing- Yet Missing from the News:

If you want to be informed about the world, but not bludgeoned into fatalism, looking for alternative resources that curate stories on human cooperation and ingenuity and want to strip bias from your newsfeed, read on…

Opinion | Most news stories are grim. Here’s the first step toward fixing that. – The Washington Post

Let’s Create the Future of Our Dreams Instead of Our Fears!

Some great resources at The Progress Network

Homepage – The Progress Network

5 WAYS TO MAKE TODAY GREAT:

How you see the world determines the world you see.
That’s why it’s especially important to start each day with a positive perspective.
Remember… positivity is like a muscle, the more we exercise it the stronger it gets.

Today let’s:
1) Attack Today with Enthusiasm – If you want an exciting life, get excited about life. Many of us wake up and just go through the motions. Our lives become routine. It doesn’t have to be like that. Remember your WHY today. We don’t get burned out because of what we do. We get burned out because we forget why we do it.  

2) Stay Positive – Instead of focusing on your problems, focus on your purpose. Instead of seeing yourself as a victim, see yourself as a hero. Heroes and victims both get knocked down but heroes get back up, and armed with optimism and a greater purpose they create a positive future.

3) Be Thankful – When you are grateful for the things in your life, big and small, you always seem to find more things to be grateful about.

 4) Replace “Have to” with “Get To” – Live life as a gift, not an obligation. We GET TO, we don’t HAVE TO. This simple shift can have a dramatic impact.

 5) Be a Blessing to Others – We are blessed to be a blessing. This doesn’t have anything to do with material things (although it can). It’s about loving, serving and caring. It’s about choosing to make a difference in the lives of others each and every day.
   

8 Ways to Live Longer You’ve Probably Never Linked to Health:
And no, it’s got nothing to do with drinking more water.

8 Ways To Live Longer You’ve Probably Never Linked To Health | HuffPost UK Life (huffingtonpost.co.uk)

For a Small French Town, this 15,000-egg Omelet is a 50-year Tradition:
In Bessières, and in sister cities around the world, the spirit of generosity and community comes in the form of a giant omelet.

France’s giant omelet festival celebrates 50 years of generosity – The Washington Post

Infographic: Why Pets make us Happy!

Infographic: Why Pets make us Happy! – Katzenworld

Ricochet the Surf Dog:

We lost Ricochet but many found meaning and joy thanks to this amazing creature!

Thanks this week go to Mehrad N, Larry H, and all of you building a better future.

Please pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

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“Out of all-inclusive, unconditional compassion comes the healing of all mankind.”— Dr. David Hawkins

Your Soul Food for Friday March 31, 2023: What’s Love Got to Do with It?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

A musical intervention across the ages and genres to help us stay in the positive, curated just for you.

My Kind by Jason Mraz

Love is the way,
Love is the light,
We light up today,
And today is all right.
Love is the way,
Love will take us higher,
We are aligned,
And we are united.

Jason Mraz – My Kind (Audio) – YouTube

Give Me Love, Give Me Peace On Earth with George Harrison

George captures the essence of his desire to be free of karma and the constant cycle of rebirth; he later described the song as “a prayer and personal statement between me, the Lord, and whoever likes it”.

George Harrison – Give Me Love (Give Me Peace On Earth) (Live) – YouTube

Shambala by Three Dog Night

Shambala- a situation where kindness and cooperation are universal, joy and good fortune abound, and psychological burdens are lifted.

How does your light shine in the halls of Shambala?

Shambala (1975) – Three Dog Night – YouTube

Simple Man by Lynyrd Skynyrd

Forget your lust for the rich man’s gold,
All that you need is in your soul.
And you can do this, oh, baby, if you try,
All that I want for you, my son, is to be satisfied…

Simple Man – Lynyrd Skynyrd – Lyrics HD – YouTube

What the World Needs Now is Love Sweet Love by Burt Bacharach and Hal David, Sung Majestically by Dionne Warwick

What the world needs now is love, sweet love,
It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.
What the world needs now is love, sweet love,
No not just for some, but for everyone!

Dionne Warwick – What The World Needs Now (1966) – YouTube

Thanks this week go to all the musicians and lovers of music, that transform our experience and uplift humanity!

Stay in tune and play it forward with purpose.

Love All,

Neville

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Do not move the way fear makes you move.

Move the way love makes you move.”- Osho

Your Soul Food for Friday of the Vernal Equinox 2023: Our Rebirth with Mega Trends, Macro Competencies and Micro Habits

Happy Soul Food Friday for the Vernal Equinox and Persian New Year Nowruz,

Celebrated by Over 300 Million People on the Planet!

Reconnect to Your place in the universe!

And if you are local, read all the way to the bottom…

Do not move the way fear makes you move.

Move the way LOVE makes you move.”

Osho

This week:

It is time to rebirth ourselves, and redefine 21st century leadership as winning both on and off the field!

Mega Trends:

With diseases of despair, the loneliness and mental health epidemics, economic uncertainty, bank failures, war in Ukraine, the hangover from the pandemic, and other VUCA factors (volatile, uncertain, complex, and ambiguous) leaders have an opportunity to lead or get out of the way…

With the great resignation, quiet quitting, etc. we are all questioning the future of work:

What the 5 ‘Great Rs’ mean for the future of work (fastcompany.com)

Of all the great Rs, I prefer the Great Rethink as espoused by Ranjay Gulati at Harvard Business School:

The Great Resignation or the Great Rethink? (hbr.org)

Macro Competencies:

Ranjay has a new book and practice Deep Purpose which is powerful and aligns with this work and orientation.

Deep Purpose 2022 – Deep Purpose

As do some of my dear friends and colleagues doing work in this head/heart space including Steve Farber, Moshe Engelberg and Helice “Grandma Sparky” Bridges:

Love is Just Damn Good Business and is needed now more than ever!

Love is just damn good business (stevefarber.com)

We need The Amare Wave to Uplift Your Business by Putting Love to Work:

Moshe Engelberg, PhD, MPH | The Amare Wave

Let the Young People in Your Life, Know How They Make a Difference with the Blue Ribbon Acknowledgement Ceremony:

BlueRibbons – Blue-Ribbons – 10-Free-Ribbons

Today’s conscious leaders must lead with:

  • Courage to do the right thing, even when no one is watching (the gut)
  • Compassion and Empathy, proved by research as the #1 leadership skill for current times (the heart)
  • Wisdom not just smarts that include discernment and authentic, embodied experience born of lived knowing not just book knowledge (the head)

Or they face the reality that as leaders they have no followers, and as a result are irrelevant, and maybe even obsolete, they just don’t know it yet…

I urge all of us to coach our stakeholders to explore our great re-think (opportunity to reboot) asking “what would our most impactful intervention look like, and what matters most now?”, using an evidence-based model of me-search instead of just research.

These include:

Micro Habits:

Micro-habits/micro-dosing “Small things often”

Picking an accountabuddy to keep you on course and in the positive vibration.

Recognize that self-care is not selfish. Your wellbeing is important.

Attend to Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs, with physical and psychological safety at the base, love and belonging in the middle, and significance and purpose at the apex. When we are in reactive brain our operating system is hijacked, and there is no room for the creative brain to emerge. Too much stress leads to burnout and that affects our mental health and that of our teams.

Let’s all attend to deep personalization and a deep purpose practice, whatever that means to you, all for long term sustainable performance and fulfillment.

Let’s counter the age of distraction for young people with micro- doses of love and affirmation and make this the new social contagion.

You are not a great business leader if your business is thriving, but your family and those who work for you are languishing.

It is time to win both on and off the field!

Why the equinox Ushers in the Arrival of Spring:


Every six months, the equinox splits Earth’s Day almost in half. Here’s how it happens—and why people have celebrated it since ancient times.

Why the equinox ushers in the arrival of spring (nationalgeographic.com)

Celebrating the Vernal Equinox with Billy S:


The spring equinox was on Monday, March 20, 2023 at 2:24 pm PDT 

This moment begins the spring season in the Northern Hemisphere.
Translated literally, equinox means “equal night”.  On the equinox, the length of day and night is nearly equal in all parts of the world. Twelve hours of each, because the sun is positioned above the equator.
It is also known as the vernal equinox, “vernal” means fresh or new, and is from the Latin word for spring, which is “ver.”
On this day, the sun rises precisely due east and sets due west.

The spring equinox signifies a rebirth. The duration of light is about to overtake the darkness.  
After the spring equinox, the days become longer and the air warmer.
The soil becomes fertile, and all hibernating life is re-animated.  It is a time to plant seeds of growth.

The spring equinox is a time of renewal – in nature, the home, and in us. More than just physical activity, “spring cleaning” removes any negative energy accumulated over the dark winter months and resonates with the positive growing energy of spring and summer.
The spring equinox is a time where there is a special quality of energy – to plant, grow and renew our lives. Energy is emerging from the ground where it has been dormant in the earth since the winter solstice.

Wishing you a special day, symbolic of balance in our life and with the environment.

Stay in tune with nature and wellness.

Nowruz, The Persian New Year with Roots in Zoroastrianism

The Oldest Monotheistic Religions on the Planet, and What I Was Born Into on My Father’s Side From a Long Line of Priests:

Celebrated by over 300 million people around the world.

One People. One Sky.

Overheard at National Geographic: Nowruz and the Night Sky on Apple Podcasts

More on Nowruz for those with a global view and perspective transcending person, religion, or belief.

Nowruz – Wikipedia

If You Are Local:

Come join Drivin the Bus this Saturday March 25th from 6 to 9pm, as we usher in a new season of love and joy for celebrating this moment!

Every day is unprecedented. Every day is unrepeatable.

If you need an extra nudge to mash that couch potato, it happens to be just 4 days from my birthday, mid next week, so come celebrate with me/us too… 😊

Carlsbad Landings – Drivin’ The Bus (dtbband.com)

There is no cover, it is a gorgeous outdoor venue, the food is great, you can book a table in advance, and see what The Landings looks like at:

The Landings in Carlsbad | Gastropub and Live Music (carlsbadlandings.com)

Chill out and enjoy the classic jams, or jump in and dance the winter pounds away, as the spirit moves you.

You be you.

Hope to see you there and regardless, here’s to the new seeds of growth you are sprouting this week to ensure you live life to the fullest and help others to do the same.

Stay well, foster your connected to your inner and outer nature, and thanks again for all you do to make our world better…

Can you pay it forward with a micro affirmation to one person today?

Love,

Neville

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“Each morning we are born again.

What we do today is what matters most.”

– Buddha

Your Soul Food for Friday 3/17/23: High Engagement Culture, Leadership Breakdown, and Naatu Naatu!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

How To Foster a High Engagement Workplace Culture:

I was privileged to share some thoughts, and sentiments on fostering high engagement workplace culture that is in dire need of an intervention, with Alliant International University in the last week.

This webinar content begins at the 11-minute mark if you want to jump straight into guts of the topic.

What are you doing to make your place of work relevant, resonant and remarkable?

CSML Speaker Series: How to Foster a High Engagement Workplace Culture – Zoom

From The Great Resignation to The Great Refusal—here’s what the 5 ‘Great Rs’ mean for the future of the work:
We are no longer centered on where we work, but rather where work fits in our lives.

How is your work life going?

What the 5 ‘Great Rs’ mean for the future of work (fastcompany.com)

Leadership Breakdown:

I just finished reading a great new book that I wanted to share with you. It’s called Leadership Breakdown: How Conscious Leaders Generate Breakthroughs that Enhance Business and the World, and it’s definitely worth checking out. See my review below.

My beloved friend and colleague, Eric Kaufmann has a unique perspective on leadership and life, and I have always found his insights to be spot on, practical, and really helpful. While having been exposed to it, I had never heard of what Eric calls “ego-myopia,” and never thought about it in this way, and how it holds leaders back from next level achievements. But after giving it some thought, it really does makes sense. This book is conversational, and full of fresh ideas and strategies that I’m confident will help any student of leadership, and particularly those of us exploring conscious leadership.

I know we’re all busy, but I think this is a book that’s worth making time for. Get your copy today.

Here are my two cents:

“Eric’s lived experience on the razor’s edge of driving business results, while elevating the spirit and potential of the people in the system is steeped in wisdom and authentic embodied experience not just academic knowledge. If you want to grow the next generation of leaders and take them from breakdown to breakthrough to breakout, Eric is one of the best in the world!”

Neville Billimoria, SVP Marketing & Community Relations, Mission Fed

Do You Know Naatu?

This is Uber, Bad A$$ and will launch you into whatever you need next!

Naatu killed it at the Golden Globes and the Oscars this year and will take you to new heights…

Naatu Naatu Full Video Song (Telugu) [4K] | RRR | NTR,Ram Charan | MM Keeravaani | SS Rajamouli – YouTube

Thanks, this week go to the CSML team at Alliant International University, Eric K, Chris B, and all you culture vultures, conscious leaders and artist of life!

Love,

Neville

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“If you turn it over to the universe, you will be
surprised and dazzled by what is delivered to you.
This is where magic and miracles happen.”– Joe Vitale

Your Soul Food for the Week of International Women’s Day 2023: Celebrating the Women in Our Lives

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Celebrating International Women’s Day

Personalized Women’s Self-Defense Workshop:

As part of her lifetime commitment to empowering women with competence and confidence, my wife Barbara is starting another 8-week session of personalized women’s self-defense, 10 people max, on Saturdays- starting March 18 thru May 6th from 3:15 to 4:45pm in Encinitas.

Here are a couple of testimonials from women that just finished the most recent session, along with an article from last week in the news, about the importance of being informed, equipped, and fighting back.

The stats are informative and, in some cases, surprising, and the techniques (mindset and skill sets) work.

Seeing the change in the participants with respect to confidence and agency by the end of the session is both humbling and inspiring!

Do share this with the women you love in your life!

I have thought about taking a class like this for years and am so happy that I signed up!  

At the beginning of the course, Barbara Sedgwick-Billimoria discusses the statistics and misinformation on the topic, which were very surprising.  

This class will give you knowledge, power and help your build confidence for your own safety in this crazy world we live in.

The lessons you will learn will help protect yourself in the event of an attempted sexual assault. 

The moves are simple and easy for any age group, if I can do it at 56, anyone can do it.

If I had a daughter, I would insist she go through this program!

I highly recommend this class and am grateful to Barbara and the extraordinary women I met thought the process!

-Andrea L

This class was so empowering!

 I do a lot of solo hiking and I’ve been afraid of being attacked on the trail.

In this class, I learned how to defend myself against an attack by striking the vital points on the body to incapacitate the attacker.

Each week builds on the last, with plenty of hands-on practice.

Barb is a gifted teacher, weaving compassion, humor, and strength into all the lessons.

I would recommend this course to anyone who wants to feel more prepared to defend themselves when facing the threat of a physical assault.

-Sharon S

Women aren’t always safe, even in gyms. But fear is a good way of reining them in:


A lone female fights off her attacker. Is it inspiring or proof of inherent danger? Well, maybe it’s both.

“I was confident I had the strength and mentality to fight back,” Alma later said, for all the world like a victorious footballer at a press conference. “I would tell every woman always to keep fighting, never give up.”

Women aren’t always safe, even in gyms. But fear is a good way of reining them in | Martha Gill | The Guardian

Personalized Women’s Self-Defense

When: Saturday Afternoons- starting March 18 thru May 6th from 3:15 to 4:45pm

Where: North County Dance, North Coast Business Park 535 Encinitas Blvd, Suite 103, Encinitas CA 92024

Whom: 16 years and older as mature content is covered

Topics Covered: Local and National Statistics, Myths of Sexual Assault, Awareness and Assertiveness Training, Understanding Physical and Psychological Boundaries, Self Defense Blocks, Strikes and Releases, Ground Fighting, Safety in the Car and in the Home

Cost: $175 with the class limited to 10 people. Payment due at registration. Venmo or Credit Cards accepted.

About the Instructor: Barb is a 5th degree black belt and traditional karate Sensei with more than 40 years of experience, with a master’s degree in counseling and is sensitive to the emotional responses of participants. She is dedicated to mitigating violence against women and sexual assault through education and awareness.

To Register: Please call (760) 815-6363

Barbara Sedgwick-Billimoria can be reached at launchpadcc@gmail.com, should you have any questions.

Stay safe everyone!

Better to know it and not need it, than to need it and not know it…

Love,

Neville

How to Find ‘Microjoys’ When Everything Is Bad and You’re Not OK:


The simplest things might get you through.

How to Find ‘Microjoys’ When Everything Is Bad and You’re Not OK | SELF

This 7-Minute Daily Hack Can Train Your Brain To Experience More Joy:


We’ll take all the help we can get.

This 7-Minute Daily Hack Can Train Your Brain To Experience More Joy | HuffPost UK Life (huffingtonpost.co.uk)

Fish loves to greet his favorite diver and bring her gifts:

This friendly fish developed a unique bond with a diver over several years. Watch their adorable interaction.

Fish Loves To Greet His Favorite Diver And Bring Her Gifts | The Dodo Soulmates – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Barb S-B, Chris B, and all the nurturing and empowering women in our lives.

Please pay it forward with presence.

Love,

Neville

“Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop.”

— Usman B. Asif

Your Soul Food for Friday 3, 3, 2023: Play, Lead, Stay Safe, Partner

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Play!

Here is a podcast I was interviewed on recently about the power of play

Featuring CEOs, executive coaches, and other business leaders, the “Lead with a dash of Play” podcast explores what “play” can look like in professional spaces, its impact on us and our organizations, and how to integrate a little play ourselves to build more compassionate and creative workplaces. The most recent segment “Play as Disruption” includes Mission Fed’s SVP of Marketing and Membership, Neville Billimoria, and shares how play helps us collectively build an innovative economy, and the ways play supports creativity and well-being. Listen to the episode at:

 https://lead-with-a-dash-of-play.captivate.fm/episode/play-as-disruption

Lead-

Are you committed to creating a high engagement culture whatever your role at work?

As companies search for new ways to manage their teams in a post-Covid world, creating a positive workplace culture is crucial for their success. In partnership with the California School of Management & Leadership (CSML) at Alliant International University, please join us on March 8 at 12 pm as Neville Billimoria, Mission Fed SVP of Membership/Marketing, presents “How to Foster a High Engagement Workplace Culture.” This virtual event will share insights on team culture, leadership fundamentals, conscious enterprise principles, and more.

Register here: Webinar Registration – Zoom

Stay Safe-

Green Willow Karate Presents:

Women’s Self-Defense

An 8 Week Sexual Assault Prevention Course for Beginners

Dates: Each Saturday Starting March 18th through May 6th

Time: 3:15 pm to 4:45 pm

Where: North County Dance Located at: North Coast Business Park

535 Encinitas Blvd., Suite 103

Encinitas, CA 92024 Cost: $175

Class Limited to 10 people.

Topics Covered:

San Diego Statistics – Sexual Assault

National Statistics – Sexual Assault

Myths of Sexual Assault

Awareness Training

Assertiveness Training

Physical and Psychological Boundaries

Self-Defense Strikes

Self-Defense Blocks

Self-Defense Releases

Ground Fighting

Online Safety

Safety in the Car

Safety in the Home

About the Instructor: Barbara Sedgwick-Billimoria M.Ed. is a 5th degree Black Belt and Karate Sensei with Green Willow Karate. With more than 40 years of experience in the martial arts and self-defense, Barbara has taken the underlying tenants of karate and condensed them into an 8-week self-defense program. Barbara has taught this course to hundreds of students at UCSD. In addition, Barbara holds a Master’s degree in counseling and is sensitive to the needs and emotional response of her students. She is dedicated to mitigating sexual assault through education and awareness.

To Register or for Questions:
Please call 760-815-6363. Payment is due at time of registration. Venmo or credit card accepted. Class limited to individuals 16 and older. Mature content will be discussed.

Partner-

Dolphin Saves a Terrified Little Dog from Drowning in a Florida Canal:

Animals are incredibly loving and kind.

Let’s be more like them!

Thanks this week go to Mary H and Barb S-B

Please pay it forward with purpose!

Love,

Neville

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The future is not the result of choices among alternative paths offered by the present, but a place that is created – created first in the mind and will and created next in activity.

The future is not some place we are going to, but one we are creating.

The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them changes both the maker and the destination.” –John Scharr

Your Soul Food for Valentines Day through Presidents Day 2023: What Will Matter? What Matters Most?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

WHAT WILL MATTER by Michael Josephson

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.

There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours, or days.

All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame, and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.

It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.

So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.

It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.

It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.

Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?
What will matter is not what you bought but what you built; not what you got but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success but your significance.

What will matter is not what you learned but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage,

or sacrifice that enriched, empowered, or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence but your character.

What will matter is not how many people you knew but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.

What will matter is not your memories but the memories of those who loved you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom, and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.

It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.

Are You Committed to Fostering a High Engagement Workplace Culture?

Join me and the California School of Management and Leadership team at Alliant International University for a virtual event on March 8th from noon to 1 Pacific time:

Love Is All You Need-

What The World Needs Now:

Thanks Burt and Dionne…

Dionne Warwick – What The World Needs Now (1966) – YouTube

I Say a Little Prayer for You Burt-

Burt Bacharach, prolific composer of pop hits, dies at 94
“I Say a Little Prayer,” “Do You Know the Way to San Jose,” “Raindrops Keep Fallin’ on My Head,” were among dozens of his chart-summiting songs.

Burt Bacharach, prolific composer of pop hits, dies at 94 – The Washington Post

If It’s a Skill, You Can Develop It-

How To Become More Empathetic—Because, Yes, Empathy Is a Quality You Can Grow
Empaths aren’t the only ones with the capacity to see the world from others’ perspectives.

How To Become More Empathetic (Yes, It’s a Skill) | Well+Good (wellandgood.com)

Karma is Real-

Five-year-old who emptied piggybank to donate to charity wins $48 million lottery 13 years later
Juliette won with the first ticket she’d ever bought

Five-year-old who emptied piggybank to donate to charity wins $48 million lottery 13 years later (ladbible.com)

The Secret to a Happy Life-

An 85-year Harvard study found the No. 1 thing that makes us happy in life: It helps us ‘live longer’
In 1938, Harvard researchers embarked on a decades-long study to find out: What is the secret to a happy life? Contrary to what think, it’s not career achievement, money, exercise, or a healthy diet.

An 85-year Harvard study found the No. 1 thing that makes us happy in life: It helps us ‘live longer’ (cnbc.com)

Use It or Lose It-

How exercise can help you build resilience at any age
Stressing our bodies through exercise can make us more resilient to a variety of stressors.

How exercise can help you build resilience at any age – The Washington Post

Go Nutty!

Woodpeckers went nuts, stashing 700 pounds of acorns in the wall of a California home
Exterminator Nick Castro found the massive stash of acorns after being called to a home with a worm problem. “Bird was a bit of a hoarder,” he joked on social media.

Woodpeckers stashed 700 pounds of acorns in the wall of a California home : NPR

Thanks this week go to Luisa C for the poem, & Lovers of Life Everywhere.

Happy Birthday Barb and Aysha!

Love,

Neville

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“Love is misunderstood to be an emotion;
actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of
being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.”

–Dr. David Hawkins

Soul Food for Feb 10th 2023: My Visit to San Quentin- Justice AND Mercy

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: My Visit to San Quentin- Justice AND Mercy

My Visit to San Quentin

Last Thursday I spent an extraordinary day up at San Quentin prison in the Bay Area.

Thanks to a dear friend Matt, who has visited and volunteered at San Quentin several times over the years- as well as, donated uniforms for their sports teams so in those moments of suiting up the inmates can feel human- four of us friends and tennis buddies were afforded the opportunity to get a 4.5 hour tour of the facility and then played tennis with the inmates for 2 hours.

We happened to be on the tour with the Mayor of Hercules California, Mayor Alexander Walker-Griffin a dynamic 25-year-old African American man whose civil service is squarely focused on social justice and equity, and whose presence really added to the experience as most of the men incarcerated were Black or Hispanic, and the mayor represented a level of leadership and hope that spoke to them and also really resonated for me!

If you don’t believe systematic racism exists, then a proximal visit to any institution of incarceration will reset your ill-informed belief system.

Judges need to visit, and some do, but often anonymously.

Politicians writing regs need to visit and see the impact of their decisions.

Anyone who believes equity is bottom-up healing could really benefit from a visit- it will cure your “othering” and open your head and heart to the 2 million people in America that are incarcerated.

At San Quentin two people are restricted to a room that you can reach across end to end with your fingertips. The SPCA guidelines for dogs requires larger more humane facilities!

A tour of the dungeon gives you a flavor for what pre 1943 solitary confinement looked like with up to men in a tiny room with no light or heat or toilet. Just 3 buckets. One with water in it.

Basic human dignity were by the wayside in the name of justice.

This is not just about incarceration. This is big business… (read the article on women prisoners moved to a labor camp below)

Hurt People Hurt People-

The proportion of incarcerated in no way resembles the demography of our country.

In many cases, the backstory of their lived experience created disadvantaged conditions, whether access to opportunity, poverty, pay equality, education, emotional intelligence etc. that lead to bad choices and decisions that ended them up in prison.

Growing up in abusive families, locked away in rooms for days with only a bucket and if the bucket overflows you get beaten harder…

Robbing to get food for your teenage family and the armed robbery going south.

Story after story of hardship where demography IS determining your destiny were shared, heard and felt…

Once arrested, the experience is not equitable either.

Many only meet their public defender for the first time in court, and often have no clue about how the legal system operates, what their rights are, and end up pleading out so as not to make bad even worse. Take 6 years rather than get sentenced to 25.

Many public defenders, that often make less than half the pay of their counterparts in the private sector, are quitting in droves so they won’t be guilty of malpractice due to untenable case load volumes, and the inability to represent their clients’ best interests.

I am not saying many of the men in San Quentin did not deserve to be there.

Some humans simply can’t be out in the real world and need to remain incarcerated to protect society.

Many however, deserve a second chance, particularly if they are actively working a program of reform and have demonstrated years of model citizenship, accountability, and sincere remorse for their crimes.

Healing people heal people-

Unfortunately, many prison systems don’t offer the programs and services like San Quentin to help facilitate reform, unlike the Scandinavian model with is all about restitution and reform, so we should not be surprised when reoffenders after being released repeat old patterns of behavior, having been given no tools or resources to reform their ways.

As one man we met said, “if you take a wild animal out of the wild and put it in a cage for years, then let it out years later, what do you think it is going to do?”

Ironically, San Quentin has both the only death row in CA and one of the most progressive reform programs as well.

I witnessed the best and worst of humanity all in one day.

Some people suck. Some systems suck.

Some people suck because of sucky systems.

It is a way more complex issue than “you do the crime, you do the time” or “lock ‘em up and throw away the key”

Don’t get me wrong. I am not soft on crime. But after this experience I am also hard on shitty and pervasive systems of inequality and injustice, where if you have enough money, you can buy ice cream in hell, and if you have no resources you are relegated to the bottom of the social heap and left to rot.

For the individual, the light bulb has to go off and they need to genuinely want to reform and change

At the same time the system has to evolve and create the conditions for change

Some can’t or won’t change

Some can’t change because of the system

We can do something about the latter…

Want a solution to gun violence in this country? Has anyone actually asked those doing the violence what they think the solutions are? Their responses will enlighten you.

Anyone studying the positive deviants that in spite of horrific circumstances, are doing the reform work and understand the relationship between healing and forgiveness, between self-awareness and accountability? Who is telling this story?

Who is the redeemer?

What is redemption?

What really needs to be reformed?

Some of the guys including Doc and Earl we played tennis with last week

The tennis court is right in the middle of the yard, with different groups engaged in different activities all around you, including playing basketball, lifting weights (including literally pressing a bench, sometimes with another inmate on it), jogging, etc.

You can see the baseball field in the background…

More on the subject-

California’s only death row for men is at San Quentin. The prison was constructed by incarcerated men on the Waban, a ship anchored in San Francisco Bay and is California’s first prison. It houses around 3,776 people and is at 122.5% of capacity.

Mass Incarceration Systems in the US hold almost 2 million people in 1,566 state prisons, 102 federal prisons, 2,850 local jails, 1,510 juvenile correctional facilities, 186 immigration detention facilities, and 82 Indian country jails, as well as in military prisons, civil commitment centers, state psychiatric hospitals, and prisons in the U.S. territories. 

 

Mass Incarceration- The Whole Pie:

Can it really be true that most people in jail are legally innocent? How much of mass incarceration is a result of the war on drugs, or the profit motives of private prisons? How has the COVID-19 pandemic changed decisions about how people are punished when they break the law? These essential questions are harder to answer than you might expect. The various government agencies involved in the criminal legal system collect a lot of data, but very little is designed to help policymakers or the public understand what’s going on. As public support for criminal justice reform continues to build — and as the pandemic raises the stakes higher — it’s more important than ever that we get the facts straight and understand the big picture.

Further complicating matters is the fact that the U.S. doesn’t have one “criminal justice system;” instead, we have thousands of federal, state, local, and tribal systems. Together, these systems hold almost 2 million people in 1,566 state prisons, 102 federal prisons, 2,850 local jails, 1,510 juvenile correctional facilities, 186 immigration detention facilities, and 82 Indian country jails, as well as in military prisons, civil commitment centers, state psychiatric hospitals, and prisons in the U.S. territories. 

This report offers some much-needed clarity by piecing together the data about this country’s disparate systems of confinement. It provides a detailed look at where and why people are locked up in the U.S., and dispels some modern myths to focus attention on the real drivers of mass incarceration and overlooked issues that call for reform.

Mass Incarceration: The Whole Pie 2022 | Prison Policy Initiative

California State Prisons:

The California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation operates 34 adult prisons in CA with a design capacity of 85,000 people:

List of California state prisons – Wikipedia

Ear Hustle:

This is a pretty powerful podcast created entirely within San Quentin, if you want to get a sense for the people and their lived experience

Essential Episodes — Ear Hustle (earhustlesq.com)

Listen to the episode called Looking Out -a man incarcerated at San Quentin who has figured out how to “look out” for dozens of critters around the place.

The System Preying on Women-

The dangerous experiment that moved women prisoners to a farm labor camp
News reports in recent years have exposed a litany of horrors endured by women sentenced to U.S. prisons. Now, in a special investigation, Cosmopolitan reports on another bombshell: During the pandemic, in an unheard-of experiment, incarcerated women were moved to a prison camp on a multimillion-dollar private farm, where dirty, dangerous, meagerly paid work changed their lives forever.

What Happened to the Women Prisoners at Hickman’s Farms (magzter.com)

When Things Fall Apart:

Climate change, political unrest, random violence – Western society can often feel like what the filmmaker Warner Herzog calls, “a thin layer of ice on top of an ocean of chaos and darkness.” In the United States, polls indicate that many people believe that law and order is the only thing protecting us from the savagery of our neighbors, that the fundamental nature of humanity is competition and struggle. This idea is often called “veneer theory.” But is this idea rooted in historical reality? Is this actually what happens when societies face disasters? Are we always on the cusp of brutality?

When Things Fall Apart: Throughline : NPR

A Global Issue-

World’s biggest prison built in murder capital of the world claims to be ‘inescapable’
El Salvador has a problem with gang violence and the prison population is on the rise, so they’ve built a ‘terrorist confinement centre’

‘World’s biggest’ prison built in murder capital claims to be ‘inescapable’ – Daily Star

What you can do about it-

Just Mercy- A Story of Justice and Redemption

Both the book and movie tell the powerful story of the Equal Justice Initiative and the importance for all of us of confronting injustice. You can learn more here:

Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption (eji.org)

Thanks this week go to Matt L, Peter D and Greg C for being my fellow travelers on this heart-wrenching, eye-opening, soul-searching experience and to all the staff and inmates at San Quinn that shared their stories with us!

Please pay it forward with justice AND mercy for all.

Love,

Neville

Twitter: @NevilleB108
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nbillimoria

“Justice is what Love looks like in Public

Your Soul Food for Friday Feb 3rd, 2023: “Text Without Context Is Pretext”

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week, I was afforded the once in a lifetime opportunity to invest a day of my life, visiting San Quentin prison, getting a 4.5-hour tour of the facility including “Death Row’s” exercise area, the yard, the infirmary, the dungeon and so much more, and then having the opportunity to play tennis with the inmates for several hours.

Hurt people hurt people

Healing people heal people

More on this life-changing visit next week, once I have had a chance to digest, process, and synthesize the totality of this experience…

Meanwhile here is a bit on me, as what follows next week is informed by what life experience preceded this, over more than 60 years of living multi-culturally in this crazy world.

Text, without context is pretext:

Neville Billimoria | Senior Vice President of Membership & Community Relations, Mission Federal Credit Union | The Gap Minders

Thanks this week go to my conscious leader brothers, and Nancy S and Jose C, for a fun and meaningful interview on The Gap Minders

Please don’t take your health, or your freedom to choose in this moment, for granted.

Love,

Neville

Twitter: @NevilleB108
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nbillimoria

“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor” – Archbishop Desmond Tutu:

Your Soul Food for Friday Jan 27, 2023: Staying in the Positive

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Taking care of yourself-

Getting Out of a Funk:

These Quick Hacks Can Snap You Out of a Bad Mood


You can’t expect to be in a good mood all the time, but there are things you can do to feel better when you’re down.

How To Get Out of a Bad Mood, According to Experts | HuffPost Life

Warning signs you’re in self-destruct mode, and how to get out of it


It can be tricky to recognize when you’re getting in your own way.

Signs you’re in self-destruct mode, and how to get out of it (stylist.co.uk)

Practicing Regular Self-Care:

7 Tips for How to Feel More Present, Mentally and Physically | Well+Good (wellandgood.com)

Taking care of others-

Trauma-Informed and Healing Centered Engagement and Leadership:

Are you meeting people where they are at?

Are you sure?

How to be a trauma-informed leader (fastcompany.com)

The Future of Healing: Shifting from Trauma Informed Care to Healing Centered Engagement | by Shawn Ginwright | Medium

Heart Warmers-

These dogs ride a bus like humans ‘and now the internet is in love’


“The puppy bus just took off,” said Mo Thompson, who runs a dog walking business in Skagway, Alaska.

Dogs in Alaska ride a bus like humans with Mo Mountain Mutts – The Washington Post

Photo of Delta flight attendant goes viral. See why


Floyd Dean-Shannon, a Delta flight attendant, joins “CNN This Morning” to discuss a viral photo of him comforting a nervous passenger mid-flight.

Video: Photo of Delta flight attendant goes viral. See why | CNN Business

Thanks for reading and sharing and staying in the positive.

The grass is greener where you water it!

Stay hydrated and pay it forward.

Love,

Neville

Twitter: @NevilleB108

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nbillimoria

‘Ring the bells (ring the bells) that still can ring.
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything (there is a crack in everything)
That’s how the light gets in”—
Leonard Cohen