Your Soul Food for Friday May 22nd 2015: On Perspective, Character, Design, Trust, Positivity, Non Violence & the Lighter Side

Happy Soul Food Friday!


This week:

On Perspective:

Five Important Lessons

On Character:

The Other Sacred Thing Tom Brady Squashed by Frank Deford

On Designing Workspaces:

How a Bigger Lunch Table Can Boost Productivity

On Trust:

Building Reputational Capital in the Collaboration Economy:

On Positivity:


On Non Violence:

June 2 is National Gun Violence Awareness Day: Wear Orange

On the Lighter Side:

Alternative Parking

1 – First Important Lesson – Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor

Gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student

And had breezed through the questions until I read

The last one:

“What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?”

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the

Cleaning woman several times. She was tall,

Dark-haired and in her 50’s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question

Blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if

The last question would count toward our quiz grade.

“Absolutely, ” said the professor. “In your careers,

You will meet many people.  All are significant…They

Deserve your attention and care, even if all you do

Is smile and say “hello.”

I’ve never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her

Name was Dorothy.

2. – Second Important Lesson – Pickup in the Rain

One night at 11:30 p.m., an older African American

Woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway

Trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had

Broken down and she desperately needed a ride.

Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.

A young white man stopped to help her, generally

Unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960’s. The man

Took her to safety, helped her get assistance and

Put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his

Address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a

Knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a

Giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A

Special note was attached.

It read:

“Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway

The other night. The rain drenched not only my

Clothes, but also my spirits.  Then you came along.

Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying

Husband’s’ bedside just before he passed away…God

Bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving



Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3 – Third Important Lesson – Always remember those

Who serve.

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less,

A 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and

Sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in

Front of him.

“How much is an ice cream sundae?” he asked.

“Fifty cents,” replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and

Studied the coins in it.

“Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?” he inquired.

By now more people were waiting for a table and the

Waitress was growing impatient.

“Thirty-five cents,” she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins.

“I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on

The table and walked away. The boy finished the ice

Cream, paid the cashier and left.  When the waitress

Came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the

Table.  There, placed neatly beside the empty dish,

Were two nickels and five pennies.

You see,  he couldn’t  have the sundae, because he had

To have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 – Fourth Important Lesson.. – The obstacle in Our Path.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a

Roadway.  Then he hid himself and watched to see if

Anyone would remove the huge rock.  Some of the

King’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by

And simply walked around it.  Many loudly blamed the

King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did

Anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of

Vegetables.  Upon approaching the boulder, the

peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the

stone to the side of the road.  After much pushing

and straining, he finally succeeded. After the

peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed

a purse lying in the road where the boulder had

been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note

from the King indicating that the gold was for the

person who removed the boulder from the roadway.  The

peasant learned what many of us never understand!

Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve

our condition.

5 – Fifth Important Lesson – Giving When it Counts…

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a

hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who

was suffering from a rare & serious disease.  Her only

chance of recovery appeared to be a blood

transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had

miraculously survived the same disease and had

developed the antibodies needed to combat the

illness.  The doctor explained the situation to her

little brother, and asked the little boy if he would

be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a

deep breath and saying, “Yes I’ll do it if it will save

her.”  As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed

next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing

the color returning to her cheek. Then his face

grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a

trembling voice, “Will I start to die right away”.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the

doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his

sister all of his blood in order to save her.

Now you have choices.

1 Delete this email, or
2. Forward it other people.

I hope that you will choose No. 2 and remember,
Most importantly….

Live with no regrets, Treat people the way you want to be treated, Work like you don’t need the money,

Love like you’ve never been hurt, and Dance like you do when nobody’s watching.

Pass It On…
You never know how or when you’ll be paid!

The Other Sacred Thing Tom Brady Squashed by Frank Deford

How a Bigger Lunch Table Can Boost Productivity

Building Reputational Capital in the Collaboration Economy:

In the growing “collaboration economy” (think Air BnB) trust and one’s reputation is critical.  An addition to the idea of social capital is “reputational capital” where your ability to be highly trusted and deliver in a social context is of high value.

Rachel Botsman: The currency of the new economy is trust

#MadeYouSmileMovement by Dante Brooks

“We are Oceanside, being from here is a gift that is often overlooked or tainted with a bad reputation. I call this city my home. I’ve seen the roses that grow from the cracks in our concrete, they stand the strongest. It’s time for us to show off our roses. It’s time for us to show the world that Oceanside’s future is filled with compassion and love. Please watch and share this video on as many social media outlets that you have available so these students can go viral. Let us put Oceanside, CA on the map!”

Think Positive

June 2 is National Gun Violence Awareness Day: Wear Orange

Pledge to wear orange on June 2 and show that you’re one of the millions of Americans who believes we must do more to end gun violence in our country.

 On the Lighter Side:

Here is a different way to park your car if you live in Singapore.


Thanks this week go to Larry H, Alan D, Dante B,, and civic activists of character everywhere!

Pay it Forward!



“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” — Leonardo da Vinci

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