Your Soul Food for Earth Day 2022 + Navigating Mental Health in the Workplace- “No More Suffering in Silence & Running Away in Shame”!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

The Earth’s Prayer

Champion of the Earth

Mental Health Awareness Month is just a few days away. Let’s do our part to help ourselves and one another

Witticisms

Mission Fed ArtWalk 2022

The Earth’s Prayer for Earth Day- A 21st Century Complement to the Lord’s Prayer (written on a trip to Europe 13 years ago in 2009)

Rather than even attempt to outdo perfection, given a world view that extends beyond Christianity, coupled with current Eco-Consciousness, could one take the essence of the Lord’s Prayer and extend its reach and impact to a larger audience?

Our Mother, who is here on Earth,

Timeless may you reign and may we never take your compassion for granted.

The time is now, your spirit be served, with our full intention and energy to create a Planet Earth as abundant and blessed as Heaven.

Give each person today, their daily grain so no one goes hungry, and affirm our inherent goodness to care for one another,

as we give thanks for those who today in their actions put the collective good ahead of personal self-interest and remind us to do the same.

And inspire us in all things to maximize our potential for the greatest good as we preserve and protect the legacy we leave for future generations.

For this is our planet, with problems and possibilities, to do with what we can in the time we have got.

Now is forever. Aum, Peace, Amen

Champion of the Earth!

Sir David Attenborough has been named a Champion of the Earth by the UN’s Environment Programme

The prestigious award recognises the 95-year-old’s commitment to telling stories about the natural world and climate change.

Accepting the award, Sir David said the world must take action now to protect nature and the planet.

Sir David Attenborough named Champion of the Earth by UN – BBC News

“The greatest threat to our planet is the belief that someone else will save it.”

Mental Health Awareness Month is just a few days away. Let’s do our part to help ourselves and one another

First apologies to all the people experiencing mental health challenges at work.

A global study by Qualtrics found 42% of people have experienced a decline in mental health.

67% of people are experiencing increases in stress while 57% have increased anxiety, and 54% are emotionally exhausted.

53% of people are sad, 50% are irritable, 28% are having trouble concentrating, 20% are taking longer to finish tasks, 15% are having trouble thinking and 12% are challenged to juggle their responsibilities.

Other data suggests that 67% or 7 out of 10 people’s  feel that no one checked up on their mental health in the workplace. This is a travesty and unconscionable…

Using the indigenous wisdom traditions of Polynesia and the Ho’oponopono framework, please accept my apologies. As a system we have failed you!

We are very Sorry

We Love & Value You

Please Forgive Us

Thank You!

Authentically Navigating Mental Health in the Workplace is powerful and very relevant work arguably a meta-competency for 21st century leadership and culture and portends the future of HR Leadership!

In a post pandemic environment, Pandora’s Box is opened and there is no stuffing everything back in. Sunlight is the greatest disinfectant.

This might mark the beginning of the demise of a command and control model of running organizations, with the power imbalances and systemic disenfranchisement that goes along with it.

Hell bloodletting was a best practice for over 1,000 years and we got rid of that. How is this any different? We are sucking the lifeblood out of people just using bigger leeches!

If empathy is the #1 leadership skill according to research Empathy Is The Most Important Leadership Skill According To Research (forbes.com)

and communication is the most powerful socio-emotional learning tool, then it is time for a new model that girths all the work we do in stakeholder-centric systems to meet the moment, as well as to counter the great resignation/great migration with the great rejuvenation.

Note: I use stakeholder not employee because all the people in the ecosystem (not ego-system) matter!

No more “othering”…

This is a systems thinking problem not an individual human capital deficiency. People are disengaged and unwell not because they are bad or sick people, but because we have built maladaptive systems.

Think of all the lost potential in every organization ☹

“At the heart of a learning organization is a shift of mind – from seeing ourselves as separate

from the world to connected to the world, from seeing problems as caused by someone or

something ‘out there’ to seeing how our own actions create the problems we experience. A

learning organization is a place where people are continually discovering how they create their

reality. And how they can change it.” — Dr. Peter Senge

Renormalizing “its ok to not be ok” and destigmatizing stigma and shame around mental health is a cultural and paradigm shift in dire need of an intervention.

The piercing pain of the first arrow is hard enough. We don’t need the second arrow.

The parable of the second arrow is a well-known Buddhist story about dealing with suffering more skillfully.

It is said the Buddha once asked a student,

‘If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful? If the person is struck by a second arrow, is it even more painful?’

He then went on to explain, ‘In life, we can’t always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. This second arrow is optional.’

Let’s equip each other not to create self-inflicting wounds with that darned second arrow!

The Old model of mental health DSM-5 with all its controversies typically focuses on symptomology and severity

The New model must both look at symptoms (low to high) and languishing v. flourishing on another axis

One can have symptoms of “dis-ease” and still be flourishing.

Most of us have symptoms as the data indicates…

The old model of stress was “can I cope”?
The new model recognizes that when demands exceeds resources we experience stress

Now, more than ever, we need to resource our individuals, teams, and organizations better to meet the deep stack of demands that are thrust upon us.

Note: If your organization is looking to up level your resources and apply real world experience to meet the demands of navigating mental health in the workplace, reach out to:

Deborah Urbanik Co-Founder of D.Whitney Consulting durbanik@dwhitneyconsulting.com;

and Jamie Jacobs Co-Founder of Gig Talent jamie@gogigtalent.com

They expanded my understanding and were powerful positive forces of good for me!

Kevin Hines Survived a Jump Off The Golden Gate Bridge- Now, He Is Helping Others Avoid Suicide:

This suicidal person “needs to hear what I needed to hear. That we care about you, your life does matter, and that all we want is for you to stay,” he says. “If someone had looked at me on that bridge or on that bus and said that to me, I would have begged for help.”

Kevin Hines Jumped Off the Golden Gate Bridge, and Survived (psycom.net)

Note: Anyone struggling now with suicide ideation, before you take that action, please call the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255.

Here are a couple of articles in the news lately that speak to the implications of not attending to employees mental health needs:

Man told employer not to celebrate his birthday. He was awarded $450,000 after unwanted party. (nbcnews.com)

John’s colleague told him he didn’t belong. It was just what he needed to hear : NPR

Self-Care is Not the Solution for Burnout — The Beautiful Truth

And one that speaks to what we can do about it:

Showing That You Care About Employee Wellbeing (gallup.com)

Maybe we can all be “that one person” to borrow from the Kevin Hines story, and all be “psychological safety spreaders” at work and in our community.

“No More Suffering in Silence & Running Away in Shame”!

Love,

Neville

On a Far Lighter Note: Witticisms

These insults are from an era before the English language got boiled down to 4-letter words.

What’s your favorite?

“He had delusions of adequacy ” -Walter Kerr

“He has all the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire.”- Winston Churchill

“I have never killed a man, but I have read many obituaries with great pleasure. – Clarence Darrow

“He has never been known to use a word that might send a reader to the dictionary.”-William Faulkner (about Ernest Hemingway)

“Poor Faulkner. Does he really think big emotions come from big words?”- Ernest Hemingway (about William Faulkner)

“Thank you for sending me a copy of your book; I’ll waste no time reading it.” – Moses Hadas

“I didn’t attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying I approved of it.” – Mark Twain

“He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends.” – Oscar Wilde

“I am enclosing two tickets to the first night of my new play; bring a friend, if you have one.” -George Bernard Shaw to Winston Churchill

“Cannot possibly attend first night, will attend second… if there is one.” – Winston Churchill, in response

“I feel so miserable without you; it’s almost like having you here” – Stephen Bishop

“He is a self-made man and worships his creator.” – John Bright

“I’ve just learned about his illness. Let’s hope it’s nothing trivial.” – Irvin S. Cobb

“He is not only dull himself; he is the cause of dullness in others.” – Samuel Johnson

“He is simply a shiver looking for a spine to run up. – Paul Keating

“He loves nature in spite of what it did to him.” – Forrest Tucker

“Why do you sit there looking like an envelope without any address on it?” – Mark Twain

“His mother should have thrown him away and kept the stork.” – Mae West

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go.” – Oscar Wilde

“He uses statistics as a drunken man uses lamp-posts… for support rather than illumination.” – Andrew Lang (1844-1912)

“He has Van Gogh’s ear for music.” – Billy Wilder

“I’ve had a perfectly wonderful evening. But I’m afraid this wasn’t it.” – Groucho Marx

The exchange between Winston Churchill & Lady Astor: She said, “If you were my husband I’d give you poison.” He said, “If you were my wife, I’d drink it.”

“He can compress the most words into the smallest idea of any man I know.” – Abraham Lincoln

“There’s nothing wrong with you that reincarnation won’t cure.” — Jack E. Leonard

“They never open their mouths without subtracting from the sum of human knowledge.” — Thomas Brackett Reed

“He inherited some good instincts from his Quaker forebears, but by diligent hard work, he overcame them.” — James Reston (about Richard Nixon)

If you are local-

MISSION FED ARTWALK 2022 – CONNECTING CREATIVE COMMUNITIES:
For 38 years, Mission Fed ArtWalk has celebrated both visual and performing arts in San Diego. We believe art has the power to connect communities, cultivate new artistic talent and create a better quality of life for all through cultural enrichment.
On Saturday, April 30 (11am – 6pm) and Sunday, May 1 (10am – 5pm), artwork will fill the Little Italy neighborhood. Attendees come to view and purchase artwork, enjoy music and dance performances, and participate in interactive art experiences.

Thanks this week go to Deborah and Haley U, Jamie J, Dan L, and the Mission Fed ArtWalk Team for your contributions!

Please pay it forward and be a Champion of the Earth…

Love,

Neville

“I’ve realized that worry is the product of a future that we cannot guarantee, and guilt is the product of a past we cannot change” – Shailene Woodley

 

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Your Soul Food for Friday April 15, 2022: Finding Zen At Work And Beyond

Happy Soul Food Friday & Happy Easter and Passover!

This week:

Finding Zen At Work

If you can use a little more Zen in your life, register here: https://go.ucsd.edu/3KcFrvn

The Most Important Leadership Skill According to Research:

If you are committed to positive relationships and a compelling organizational culture that drives results, here is the leadership competency that will have a huge bearing on the present and future world of work with constructive effects on:

  • Innovation
  • Engagement
  • Retention
  • Inclusivity
  • Work-Life

The mental health stats cited here from September of ’21 have arguably only got worse in our VUCA (volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous) world.

New conditions call for new responses, in this case maybe just turning up the volume on this important leadership competency.

Empathy Is The Most Important Leadership Skill According To Research (forbes.com)

Why Community Matters So Much- And How To Find Yours:

How are you doing with the 4 criteria of community namely; membership, influence, integration and fulfillment of needs?

How to find your community as an adult — and why it matters – Vox

Harvard Research Finds Serious Red Flag To Watch Out For At Work
If you have a worker that exhibits this trait, you’ll probably agree with the Harvard team’s conclusions

Harvard Research Finds Serious Red Flag To Watch Out For At Work (ladbible.com)

The Case for Taking Naps (Even at Work):

The Autonomy to Decide If and When We Need Rest

The Case for Taking Naps (Even at Work) (hbr.org)

Changing your diet could add up to 13 years to your life, study says
Switching from a typical Westernized diet of red meat and processed foods can add up to 13 years to your life if you start at age 20, but even people in their 60s can add years.

Changing your diet could add up to 13 years to your life, study says – CNN

Plus Advice From Kids-

Press 3 for a pep talk from kindergartners. A new hotline gives you options for joy
What started as an art project at a California elementary school has gone viral. The free hotline offers wise advice and encouraging messages from kids to anyone who calls.

A new hotline offers pep talks from kindergartners : NPR

Thanks this week go to Paula C, Paula T & Marlaine C for your contributions.

If you have inspirational content that makes you think of Soul Food Friday, send it my way!

Please pay it forward and create your own Zen!

Love,

Neville  

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“Do not seek to follow in the footsteps of the wise, seek what they sought” Basho

Your Soul Food for 4/8/’22: From the Great Resignation to the Great Rejuvenation!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Many of us have read the story about 3 people doing what looks like the same job, but when asked what they are doing:

  • One says they are laying bricks
  • The second says he is building a wall
  • And the third says he is creating a masterpiece!

Same identical work, but experienced so differently.

How can this be?

This story was made popular in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The story is actually not by Stephen Covey, but because he sold over 15 million copies of the book it is often attributed to him.

Proper attribution notwithstanding, it does draw attention to our relationship to our world of work and invites us to explore if we experience what we do; simply as a job, part of a career, or a purposeful calling?

When we are able to find meaning and purpose in our work, the mundane can become profound and we can turn the usual into extraordinary, often leaving a legacy that lives on well past our lifetime.

Many today are revisiting their relationship to work.

Perhaps we can learn from history…

The Basilica de la Sagrada Familia, designed by the world famous architect Antoni Gaudi is a UNESCO World Heritage Site and described as, “the most extraordinary personal interpretation of Gothic architecture since the Middle Ages.”

Construction on the Basilica began on March 19, 1882 which is almost exactly 140 years ago.

Less than 25% of the Basilica was finished during Gaudi’s lifetime, and they are still working on it- though it was scheduled to be completed this year but was delayed due to the pandemic.

I am sure those working on it over the century, also viewed themselves as brick layers, wall builders and masterpiece producers- and they were all right.

It is after all all a matter of your frame of reference and your perspective.

What is often missing in the story, is that everyone focuses on the bricks, but people forget the mortar, and the mortar is just as important as the bricks!

The mortar is the social capital or glue that binds us together, when we know we are working together for a common purpose, when we know others have got our backs, when trust and transparency and even vulnerability become critical ingredients in the mix. As Peter Drucker famously reminds us, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast”.

In a time when our relationship to our work is being seriously revisited, let’s take the time to both find meaning and purpose in our work, as well as, build our bench strength, grow our franchise value, and make sure we are playing together not playing each other by strengthening the glue that binds us.

Turns out the Great Resignation may be followed by the Great Regret as many employees that jumped ship, quickly realized that “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, the grass is greener where you water it!

So today, let’s all attend to our purpose, invest in our social capital and let’s keep serving our stakeholders with care and consideration.

Here is to the Great Rejuvenation

Live, Love, Learn, Laugh & Leave a Legacy!

Love All,

Neville

Enlightened Self Interest-

How to Handle Stress Situations Better Than Will Smith
Use the S.O.S. method when triggered for better outcomes.

How to Handle Stress Situations Better Than Will Smith | Inc.com

Etiquette expert says we’ve overlooked Lady Gaga’s great kindness toward Liza Minnelli
While Will Smith’s shocking slap of Chris Rock during the Oscars broadcast last Sunday has been big news, one etiquette expert says far too many people missed a beautiful gesture shown on stage that same night by Lady Gaga toward a visibly flustered Liza Minnelli.

Etiquette expert says we’ve overlooked Lady Gaga’s great kindness toward Liza Minnelli | Fox News

Try Something New for 30 Days: (3 minutes)

Is there something you’ve always meant to do, wanted to do, but just … haven’t?

Matt Cutts suggests: Try it for 30 days.

This short, lighthearted talk offers a neat way to think about setting and achieving goals.

Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days | TED Talk

How Gratitude Rewires the Brain: (10 minutes)

When a psychologist who studies well-being ends up with a brain tumor, what happens when she puts her own research into practice? Christina Costa goes beyond the “fight” narrative of cancer — or any formidable personal journey — to highlight the brain benefits of an empowering alternative to fostering resilience in the face of unexpected challenges: gratitude.

Christina Costa: How gratitude rewires your brain | TED Talk

Protect Our Planet-

The deceptively simple plan to replenish California’s groundwater
The state pumps too much groundwater, especially during droughts. Now, it’s learning to refill the overdrawn bucket. “It’s the simplest math in the world,” says one scientist.

The deceptively simple plan to replenish California’s groundwater (nationalgeographic.com)

1,000-year-old oaks used to create ‘super forest’
Could an experimental forest hold the answers to meeting the UK’s big tree planting ambitions?

1,000-year-old oaks used to create ‘super forest’ – BBC News

Eight Endangered Places We Can Still Save
Half a degree Celsius will make all the difference for these famous and far-flung destinations.

8 Endangered Places We Can Still Save From Climate Change | GQ

The Silver Years:

My doctor asked if anyone in my family suffered from mental illness and I said, “No, we all seem to enjoy it.”

Just once, I want a username and password prompt to say, “Close enough.”

Being an adult is the dumbest thing I have ever done.

I’m a multitasker. I can listen, ignore and forget all at the same time!

Retirement to do list: Wake up. -I Nailed it!

People who wonder if the glass is half empty or half full miss the point. The glass is refillable.

I don’t have grey hair. I have wisdom highlights.

Sometimes it takes me all day to get nothing done.

I don’t trip, I do random gravity checks.

One minute you’re young and fun. Next, you’re turning down the car stereo to see better.

I’d grow my own food if only I could find bacon seeds.

Some people are like clouds, once they disappear it’s a beautiful day.

Some people you’re glad to see coming; some people you’re glad to see going.

Common sense is not a gift. It’s a punishment because you have to deal with everyone who doesn’t have it.

I came. I saw. I forgot what I was doing. Retraced my steps. Got lost on the way back. Now I have no idea what’s going on.

If you can’t think of a word, say “I forgot the English word for it.” That way people will think you’re bilingual instead of an idiot.

I’m at a place in my life where errands are starting to count as going out.

I don’t always go the extra mile, but when I do it’s because I missed my exit.

I don’t mean to brag, but I finished my 14-day diet food supply in 3 hours and 20 minutes.

I may not be that funny or athletic or good looking or smart or talented. … I forgot where I was going with this.

Having plans sounds like a good idea until you have to put on clothes and leave the house.

It’s weird being the same age as old people.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be older… This is not what I expected.

Life is like a helicopter. I don’t know how to operate a helicopter either.

It’s probably my age that tricks people into thinking I’m an adult.

Never sing in the shower! Singing leads to dancing, dancing leads to slipping, and slipping leads to paramedics seeing you naked.  So, remember… don’t sing!

I see people my age mountain climbing. I feel good just getting my leg through my underwear without losing my balance.

We all get heavier as we get older, because there’s a lot more information in our heads. That’s my story anyway.

Thanks this week go to Alan D, Jack A and TedX SD, Marlaine C and Parenting 2.0, Larry H,  and Rejuvenators Everywhere!

Please Pay it Forward

Love,

Neville

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“Talent hits a target no one else can hit.

Genius hits a target no one else can see.”

–Arthur Schopenhauer

Your Soul Food for April 1st 2022: YOUR Purpose Is No Joke

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

T.H.I.N.K

Before we speak let your words pass through these 5 gates

Is it True?

Is it Helpful?

Is it Inspiring?

Is it Necessary?
Is it KIND?

Jail Break Leadership:

Here is a recent podcast of me with my friend and colleague Jeff Blanton a pioneer and thought leader in the Conscious Capitalism space. Unlike the rest of us, when Jeff’s deep self-reflection recognized a “smoldering discontent” he decided to do something about it, changing his life and changing the world! If you are doing purpose work or need to operational it in your world of work, talk to Jeff!

The Soul of Business – Neville Billimoria – Jailbreak Leadership

Navigating Tradeoffs: How Purpose Becomes a Company’s ‘Lighthouse in the Storm’

Navigating Tradeoffs: How Purpose Becomes a Company’s ‘Lighthouse in the Storm’ – HBS Working Knowledge

Larry Fink’s Annual 2022 Letter to CEOs:

In today’s globally interconnected world, a company must create value for and be valued by its full range of stakeholders in order to deliver long-term value for its shareholders.

Larry Fink’s Annual 2022 Letter to CEOs | BlackRock

4 Principles of Purpose-Driven Board Leadership:

The Four Principles of Purpose-Driven Board Leadership (ssir.org)

On a lighter note-

Watch as the crowd reacts when a blind basketball player makes a free throw
High school junior Jules Hoogland wowed the crowd at a home game this week.

Watch as the crowd reacts when a blind basketball player makes a free throw | GMA (goodmorningamerica.com)

WATCH: Paraplegic Golfer Sinks Hole-In-One For the Ages at Torrey Pines
Most golf fans would say Tiger Woods’ playoff-clinching putt on the 72nd hole of the 2008 U.S. Open is the greatest shot of all time at Torrey Pines Golf Course. That’s because they haven’t seen this one-armed ace from Abdul Nevarez.

Paraplegic Golfer Sinks Hole-In-One For the Ages at Torrey Pines – NBC 7 San Diego (nbcsandiego.com)

Limbo Roller-Skating??

Check out the unbelievable strength of these limbo roller skaters. I’m quite surprised this is humanly possible…

 (Click here to view

Thanks this week go to Chris B for the limbo skaters vid, to all you Kind and Conscious Leaders Everywhere!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Talent hits a target no one else can hit.

Genius hits a target no one else can see.”

–Arthur Schopenhauer

Happy Soul Food Friday for a Vernal Equinox, Persian New Year & Spring Variety Pack 2022!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Remembering a Legend!

Madeleine Albright- The highest ranking women in the history of American government of her time

Madeleine Albright was a force. She defied convention and broke barriers again and again. She was an immigrant fleeing persecution. A refugee in need of safe haven. And like so many before her — and after — she was proudly American.

As the devoted mother of three beloved daughters, she worked tirelessly raising them while earning her doctorate degree and starting her career in American diplomacy. She took her talents first to the Senate as a staffer for Senator Edmund Muskie followed by the National Security Council under President Carter. And then to the United Nations where she served as United States Ambassador, and ultimately, made history as our first woman Secretary of State, appointed by President Clinton. A scholar, teacher, bestselling author, and later accomplished business woman, she always believed America was the indispensable Nation, and inspired the next generation of public servants to follow her lead, including countless women leaders around the world. Madeleine was always a force for goodness, grace, and decency — and for freedom.

Madeleine Albright, First Woman to Serve as Secretary of State, Dies at 84 – The New York Times (nytimes.com)

What a Doll and What an Example!

Opinion | Why Dolly Parton was right to turn down the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame
At this point, the country music icon’s personal standards may be higher than the Hall of Fame’s.

Dolly Parton’s Rock & Roll Hall of Fame tweet got it right (nbcnews.com)

Self-Care-

The Surprising “Disinhibition” Technique Is a Powerful Way to Stop Overthinking, According to Harvard Research
Sometimes, data-based decision-making can derail you. Maybe it’s time to trust your gut.

The Surprising Disinhibition Technique Is a Powerful Way to Stop Overthinking, According to Harvard Research | Inc.com

We Love Our Pets!

American Kennel Club names U.S.’s favorite dog breed
The not-for-profit organization announced the results of its annual survey of dog breeds.

American Kennel Club names US’s favorite dog breed | Fox Business

If you are local-

TEDx San Diego is Back!

TedX San Diego is happening this Sunday both in person and live streamed, at the Preby’s in La Jolla after 2 years of hiatus due to the pandemic. In person is already sold out, but do join the live stream

The speakers and topics are fantastic!

Mission Fed is proud to support this year’s TedX San Diego event and if you are interested in the livestream experience, sign up. You will really enjoy the content!

Connect. Engage. Transform. TEDxSanDiego Tickets, Sun, Mar 27, 2022 at 1:00 PM | Eventbrite

Thanks this week go to all women leaders, the Mission Fed Community Relations team, Jack A for holding the space for TEDx for all these years, and all of you doing good work in our world!

We need you now more than ever.

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Start by doing what’s necessary;

then do what’s possible;

and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”

-St. Francis of Assisi

Your Soul Food for 3/18/22: Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Self Care, Ukraine, Spring Has Sprung, Daylight Savings and Cute Nat Geo Photos

Which Wolf Will You Feed?

An elderly Cherokee Brave was teaching his grandson about life.

He said, “A battle is raging inside me…it is a terrible fight between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The old man looked at the child with a firm stare. “This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute, and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The elderly Cherokee replied: “The one you feed.”

Make sure to feed the right wolf this week! 

Ukraine- No Bystanding!

Ready to Die? Why Most People Flunk the Zelenskyy Test.
Tyranny has triumphed in recent years because real courage is rare.

Ready to Die? Why Most People Flunk the Zelenskyy Test. – POLITICO

Opinion | Stop buying from these companies. They’re funding Putin’s war.
Ukraine’s Zelensky is right: Peace should matter more than profit.

Opinion | Koch, Halliburton, Subway, others fund Putin’s Ukraine war. Boycott them. – The Washington Post

“They’re lying to you”: Russian TV employee interrupts news broadcast
Marina Ovsyannikova ran on to the set of the Channel One transmission shouting: ‘Stop the war. No to war’

‘They’re lying to you’: Russian TV employee interrupts news broadcast | Russia | The Guardian

The Ukrainian girl who sang ‘Let It Go’ from a bomb shelter gave us all hope
Every person fighting for Ukraine, every family ripped apart by this war – they grieve because they love. This is the language we all speak.

Russia and Ukraine: Ukrainian girl sings ‘Let it Go’ for all of us (usatoday.com)

The power of the dog and how pets are helping Ukrainians cope with war
Hundreds of thousands of pets are estimated to have crossed into countries neighboring Ukraine since the war began.

Pets have provided Ukrainian owners with crucial emotional and physical support : NPR

Spring is Here & Daylight Savings-

Happy Newroz, Nawroz, Navroz!

Spring is Here So Soak Up the Sun

THIS WEEK: SOAK UP THE SUN – Every Monday Matters

Sleep experts say Senate has it wrong: Standard time, not daylight saving, should be permanent
The Senate voted unanimously Tuesday to make daylight saving time permanent, but many sleep experts argue that the U.S. should adopt year-round standard time.

Permanent standard time is better than daylight saving, sleep experts say – The Washington Post

Bonus!

28 tender photos from the Nat Geo archives that will bring a smile to your face
See a selection of some of the marvelous images stored in our historic photography collection.

28 tender photos from the Nat Geo archives that will bring a smile to your face (nationalgeographic.com)

Thanks this week go to Angelica G-W, Every Monday Matters, & Conscious Leaders that model courage, compassion, and wisdom everywhere!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it”- Rumi

Your Soul Food for 3/11/22: Green Lights, Strong Backs, Soft Fronts & Critical Foundations

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Did You Notice The Green Lights?

Whether it is the global pandemic, the war in Ukraine, or other challenges that seem to keep rearing their ugly heads, it sure seems tough to stay in a positive frame of mind.

I am telling you, if it’s not one thing, it’s another…

Now that traffic has picked up, have you noticed that if you are running late and trying to get to your destination on time, every red light can get in your head and make you stressed?

You feel your pulse racing, anxiety rising, frustration building…

Now replay the tape…

If you think back, how many of the green lights did you notice?

If you are like most of us, we have a form of attentional blindness to the green lights and seem to miss all of them, while we perseverate on all the red ones.

Humans brains seem to be wired to be velcro for the bad stuff and teflon for the good stuff.

Just recognizing this default setting, and choosing to attend to the green lights, both literally and figuratively can be a powerful tool in dealing with the day to day challenges we all face.

So here is a thought for the week:

Take some time everyday to focus on the green lights in your life.

When you find yourself thinking about all the things you don’t have, consider all the things you don’t have that you don’t want!

Focusing on the green lights is a form of practicing an attitude of gratitude.

It is hard to be hateful and grateful at the same time.

May you have a week filled with green lights both personally and professionally, and maybe share your evergreen attitude with others.

Joy shared is doubled. Misery shared is halved…

You’ve got this!

Love,

Neville

Celebrating International Women’s Day Week:

International Women’s Day is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural, and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating women’s equality.

“Imagine a gender equal world. A world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination. A world that is diverse, equitable, and inclusive. A world where difference is valued and celebrated. Together we can forge women’s equality. Collectively we can all #BreakTheBias.”

Strike the Pose!

IWD: IWD 2022 campaign theme: #BreakTheBias (internationalwomensday.com)

200 classical musicians join London orchestral flashmob in solidarity with Ukraine
Musicians took part in a flashmob in London’s Trafalgar Square, to show solidarity with Ukraine.

With no rehearsal time, the musicians gathered for an outdoor flashmob described as “spine-tingling” by spectators walking past the square.

200 classical musicians join for London orchestral flashmob in solidarity with… – Classic FM

Compassion IT-

We need to keep a “strong back and a soft front”

Yes pay attention to what is happening in Ukraine, but also pay attention to what is happening within you…

How can you ‘compassion it’ for Ukraine? (mailchi.mp)

5 Simple Acts Of Kindness Giving Ukrainians (And The World) Some Hope
The world is coming together to help Ukrainians – on the borders and at home.

5 Simple Acts Of Kindness Giving Ukrainians (And The World) Some Hope | HuffPost UK Life (huffingtonpost.co.uk)

CRITICAL FOUNDATIONS: The Thirty Questions Anyone Must Answer to Build a Meaningful Life:

 By Scott Schimmel

What are the step-by-step ingredients someone needs to build a meaningful life?
The current school system is a sprint to gain the knowledge necessary to pass tests and be ready for the academic challenges in college. There’s little room for reflection, integration, or building relevant self-awareness.

Through years of research and work with tens of thousands of students, educators, transitioning veterans, and parents, we’ve developed a keen perspective- a meaningful life has to be intentionally constructed. It doesn’t work to give answers—you have to ask questions. You have to create the circumstances for people to discover their own answers to life’s most critical questions.

In this book, Scott walks through each one of the thirty critical questions—why they’re so essential and how to go about answering them. With vulnerable storytelling, these foundational concepts become accessible and relatable to someone of any age. The second half of the book delves into common sense skills to help guide young people to find their answers to these critical questions.

Get the book on Amazon

Thanks this week go to Sara S, Scott S, Trailblazing, Game Changing Women everywhere, and You for being Soul-filled!

Please pay it forward

Love,

Neville

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“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world;

indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”— Margaret Mead

Your Soul Food for Friday March 4 2022: Autocracy v. Democracy & Staying Sane Even As The World Seems Mad

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Autocracy v. Democracy & Staying Sane Even As The World Seems Mad

Different Perspectives on the World-

The Bad Guys Are Winning
If the 20th century was the story of slow, uneven progress toward the victory of liberal democracy over other ideologies—communism, fascism, virulent nationalism—the 21st century is, so far, a story of the reverse.

Autocracy Is Winning – The Atlantic

Opinion | Why Should Americans Care About Ukraine? It’s Not Complicated.
The Russia-Ukraine conflict is geographically distant, but the consequences of Putin’s aggression could have ripple effects beyond Eastern Europe.

Jeff McCausland: Why Putin and Russia’s Ukraine war should matter to America (nbcnews.com)

Putin Accidentally Revitalized the West’s Liberal Order
The Russian president thought he sensed an opportunity to take advantage of a disunited West. He has been proved wrong.

Putin Accidentally Revitalized the West’s Liberal Order – The Atlantic

Staying in the Positive-

3 Science-Backed Ways to Better Deal With Stress and Be More Focused, Productive, and Successful
Totally avoid stress? Impossible. Better deal with stress? Surprisingly simple.

3 Science-Backed Ways to Better Deal With Stress and Be More Focused, Productive, and Successful | Inc.com

The Secret to Happiness, According to This Harvard Professor: A Reverse Bucket List
If you want to be truly happy, don’t just think about what to add to your life, but about what to take away.

The Secret to Happiness, According to This Harvard Professor: A Reverse Bucket List | Inc.com

Study Finds Having Pets May Have Positive Impact on Brain Power
“Prior studies have suggested that the human-animal bond may have health benefits like decreasing blood pressure and stress,” Dr. Tiffany Braley of the University of Michigan Medical Center shared, adding that the “results suggest pet ownership may also be protective against cognitive decline.”

Study Finds Having Pets May Have Positive Impact on Brain Power | Complex

These Adorable Animal Pictures Will Bring a Smile to Your Face
Bored Panda has collected pictures from around the world to create this adorable gallery, featuring sweet animals who will bring a smile to your face.

These adorable animal pictures will bring a smile to your face | Daily Mail Online

Thanks to those courageous souls who are willing to stand up for their values even in the most difficult of circumstances!

Please pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

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“To live is the rarest thing in the world.
Most people exist, that is all.”–
Oscar Wilde

Your Soul Food for Friday Feb 25 2022: Are You A “RAKtivist”?

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:
Feb 17 was Random Acts of Kindness Day but we should practice this amazing heart-set all year long!

Kindness Pledge

The Health Benefits of a Random Act of Kindness
Random Acts of Kindness Day doesn’t have to be limited to one day a year. A simple act of kindness does much more than help the receiver, studies show, and any kindness you give to others is also a gift to yourself.

Random Acts of Kindness Day 2022: It’s good for your health – CNN

Random Acts of Kindness Day: 6 unique gestures of goodness
Everyday people around the world show how acts of kindness can change lives.

6 inspirational videos to mark Random Acts of Kindness Day (usatoday.com)

Dog Saves Dog After Lab Alerts Owner to Golden Retriever Trapped in Sinkhole for Nearly a Day
Wrigley, a chocolate Labrador retriever, located the other dog stuck inside a hole at Marilla Park on Saturday, according to Streator Animal Control

Labrador Alerts Owner to Golden Retriever Trapped in Sinkhole | PEOPLE.com

Birds are Remarkable and Beautiful Animals – and They’re Disappearing from Our World
In the past half century, North America has lost a fourth of its birds. Earth is now a coalmine, and every wild bird is a canary

Birds are remarkable and beautiful animals – and they’re disappearing from our world | Kim Heacox | The Guardian

Kindness by Mark Twain

Thanks this week go to RAKtivists Everywhere!

Please pay it forward…

Love,

Neville

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“Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.”

– King Solomon

Your Soul Food Friday for Feb 18, 2022: Lovers of Humanity Come in Many Flavors!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week: Lovers of Humanity Come in Many Flavors!

“I’m no longer interested in any forms of spirituality, self-mastery programs, success mentors, coaches, healers, spiritual thinkers,

or activists that don’t ultimately lead their communities back to responsible association to tending the Earth.

The never ending quest for self-realization, personal brand mastery, self-success “soul”-preneurship all strike me as bypasses

 that have only served to keep us disassociated from what’s actually going on here.

Which requires us to exit the cult of individual success, whether seen through foggy spiritualized goggles or not,

and get our hands dirty in the immediacy of our grounded environmental issues around us.

The world dies while we buy in to yet another charismatic voice telling us how to heal some yet unmastered part of ourselves even more deeply into narcissistic individual “success.”

The world dies while charismatics make millions on their self-help platforms.

Sure.. and for that matter, Please: do your personal healing.

But if my healing only keeps looping back to myself, and doesn’t ultimately lead to reassociation with the Earth and my work to be part Of It,

then I’m just a casualty of healing-themed consumerism.

And still contributing to the problems that are destroying the planet.”

– Adrianne Tamar

All Are One

This man’s dying words changed my life:
After he was stabbed and lay dying on a train, Taliesin Myrddin Namkai-Meche said, ‘tell everyone on this train I love them.’ I will never forget his words

‘Tell everyone on this train I love them’: the meaning of a hero’s final words | Maeve Higgins | The Guardian

Here’s the story behind Black History Month — and why it’s celebrated in February
Black History Month grew from a weeklong celebration that started nearly 100 years ago — and it’s not random that it’s in February.

The story behind Black History Month — and why it’s celebrated in February : NPR

Albert Cleage: Founder of The Shrine of the Black Madonna:

Albert Cleage: Founder The Shrine of The Black Madonna – Black Mail Blog (blackmail4u.com)

A Nazi officer’s housekeeper hid 12 Jews in the basement. All of them made it out alive.
“Without her, I wouldn’t be alive,” said Roman Haller, who was conceived while his parents were in hiding.

A Nazi officer’s housekeeper hid 12 Jews in the basement. All of them made it out alive. (nbcnews.com)

These vintage photos show the timeless allure of travel
Find inspiration for your next journey in these images from National Geographic’s archives.

These vintage photos show the timeless allure of travel (nationalgeographic.com)

Thanks this week go Kurt C, for the Adrianne Tamar quote, Manuelita B for the Albert Cleage link, and to lovers of humanity everywhere.

Please pay it forward with love!

Love,

Neville

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“Love is misunderstood to be an emotion;
actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of
being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.”

–Dr. David Hawkins