Happy Soul Food Friday!
The most important story is the story you tell yourself, about yourself!
Warning- Adult Content
This Poem was shared with me recently-
This Be the Verse by Philip Larkin:
While I appreciated the sentiment, I also felt a compelling urge to offer up a counter-narrative, and composed this alternative rejoinder in about 10 minutes:
This Be The OTHER Verse
(Philip Larkin In Reverse)
We all have a mum and dad.
You would not be here if they weren’t.
Generations survived when others died.
Paranoid, hoarders, but yes they thrived.
With their history comes some baggage.
It’s inevitable, like rotten cabbage.
That over time will surely decay.
But it’s what we make of it on the way.
Take the good. Improve the bad.
Pass it forward or pass it back.
Evolution means we change.
For the better- not victims of the deranged.
We all have a story, a script, and a state.
Change your story or own your fate.
Turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones
Warrior mind in ancient bones.
Women passes on life to all.
Each one special, large or small.
Make every moment count and matter.
For better pancakes use better batter!
Yes some will try to “fuck you up”.
Choose your mindset, say enough!
Then Philip Larkin will eat his words.
And cast his poem to the birds.
What is the story you tell yourself about yourself?
- Your story is what happened- objectively
- Your script is how you choose to interpret what happened to you- subjectively
- Your state is what you are doing in this moment, to move you closer to your purpose or alternatively away from it
Manage your state in this moment, and if you don’t like the script that was written for you, rewrite it!
“Don’t Believe Everything You Think!”
Too much pleasure can lead to addiction. How to break the cycle and find balance:
Radical honesty promotes intimacy
Be it sugar, social media or sex, the response in our brain is the same: It produces the “feel-good” neurochemical called dopamine, which brings on feelings of pleasure and motivation. “It may be even more important for motivation than for actual pleasure,” says Dr. Anna Lembke, a Stanford Medical School psychiatrist, researcher and author of the new book, Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence.
When Doing Right Feels Wrong:
Have you ever been in a position where you had to choose between someone you care about and a value that you hold dear? Maybe you had to decide whether to report a friend who was cheating on an exam, or a co-worker who was stealing from the tip jar. This week, we tell the story of a Detroit police officer who found himself in this sort of dilemma, forced to choose between people he loved and the oath he swore to serve his community. What happens in our minds when we have to decide what is right and what is wrong?
At 21 I Have No Regrets: I Just Got An Email From Myself, A Decade Ago…
Finally, Some Naturally Induced Zen:
Here is to you owning your story, script, and state to tell the greatest story ever told- YOURS!
Thanks this week go to Tom S, Aysha S-B, Ron M, Matt N, Chris B, & Mehrad N. for contributing to this week’s content.
Please pay it forward.
“Preach the Gospel at all times. And if you must, use words if necessary.”
– St. Francis of Assisi