Your Soul Food for Friday Oct 10, 2025: Nature is Speaking, Are We Listening?

This week:

On Thursday, I was part of a panel at Cause SD on Doughnut Economics and why are current models are simply not cutting it.

If this work interests you, let me know and we can add you to the list..

Doughnut economics creator Kate Raworth and Janine Benyus – a biologist and leading figure in biomimetic design – discuss how starting from the whole can allow us to build systems and structures that help us to thrive. This conversation was originally presented at Equilibrium.

Equilibrium brought together interdisciplinary artists, campaigners, and thinkers to address questions of environmental justice and the role of culture in creating it, part of Radical Ecology x Back to Earth Live.

In Conversation: Kate Raworth and Janine Benyus│Serpentine

This vid reminds us of the fragility of humans and the steadfastness of mother earth and why we must live in harmony or face the consequences at our own undoing.

Nature Is Speaking – Julia Roberts is Mother Nature | Conservation International (CI)

The world’s biggest iceberg is breaking up : NPR

Designers create incredible tech that can attach to surfboards and kayaks — here’s how it could help solve major problem in our oceans

Selections From the 2025 Audubon Photography Awards Top 100 – The Atlantic

Please pay it forward!

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday October 3, 2025: Science and Technology, Ignorance and Power

This week:

My daughter came home from school and said,

“Mom, you’re not going to believe what happened in history class today.”

Her teacher told the class they were going to play a game.

He walked around the room and whispered to each kid whether they were a witch or just a regular person. Then he gave the instructions:

“Form the biggest group you can without a witch. If your group has even one, you all fail.”

She said the whole room instantly lit up with suspicion.

Everyone started interrogating each other. Are you a witch? How do we know you’re not lying?

Some kids clung to one big group, but most broke off into smaller, exclusive cliques. They turned away anyone who seemed uncertain, nervous, or gave off even the slightest hint of being guilty.

The energy shifted fast. Suddenly everyone was suspicious of everyone.

Whispers. Finger-pointing. Side-eyes. Trust dissolved in minutes.

Finally, when all the groups were formed, the teacher said,

“Alright, time to find out who fails. Witches, raise your hands.”

And not one hand went up.

The whole class exploded. “Wait! You messed up the game!”

And then the teacher dropped the bomb:

“Did I? Were there any actual witches in Salem, or did everyone just believe what they were told?”

My daughter said the room went dead silent.

That’s when it hit them. No witch was ever needed for the damage to happen. Fear had already done its work. Suspicion alone divided the entire class, turning community into chaos.

And isn’t that exactly what we’re seeing today?

Different words, same playbook.

Instead of “witch,” it’s liberal, conservative, vaxxed, unvaxxed, pro-this, anti-that.

The labels shift, but the tactic is the same.

Get people scared. Get them suspicious. Get them divided.

Then sit back while trust crumbles.

The danger was never the witch.

The danger is the rumor. The suspicion. The fear. The planted lies.

Refuse the whisper. Don’t play the game. Because the second we start hunting “witches,” we’ve already lost.

“We’ve arranged a society on science and technology in which
nobody understands anything about science and technology, and
this combustible mixture of ignorance and power sooner or later is
going to blow up in our faces. I mean, who is running the science and
technology in a democracy if the people don’t know anything about
it? Science is more than a body of knowledge; it’s a way of thinking. If
we are not able to ask skeptical questions to interrogate those who tell
us something is true, to be skeptical of those in authority, then we’re
up for grabs for the next charlatan political or religious leader who
comes ambling along. It’s a thing that Jefferson lay great stress on.
It wasn’t enough, he said, to enshrine some rights in the Constitution
and the Bill of Rights, the people had to be educated and they have to
practice their skepticism and their education. Otherwise, we don’t run
the government, the government runs us.
—Carl Sagan”

I’ve spent my entire career studying stress—the No. 1 cure for it might ‘surprise’ you

Ocean Photographer of the Year 2025 Finalists – The Atlantic

Please pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for the Week of Sept 26, 2025: Humanity before Politics and Unity over Divisiveness

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Humanity before Politics
  • Violence is not just Bullets
  • What the World Needs Now is Love Sweet Love-Getting Communities to Eat Together
  • Redefining what it means to be Liberal with Ron Howard
  • Getting Beyond Nationalizing ANY Religion with James Talarico

What the World Needs Now is Love Sweet Love:

#EatTogether Commercial that is Heat-Warming!

#EatTogether Commercial

Ron Howard on What it Means to Be a Liberal:

“I’m a liberal, but that doesn’t mean what a lot of you apparently think it does. Let’s break it down, shall we? Because quite frankly, I’m getting a little tired of being told what I believe and what I stand for. Spoiler alert: not every liberal is the same, though the majority of liberals I know think along roughly these same lines:

1. I believe a country should take care of its weakest members. A country cannot call itself civilized when its children, disabled, sick, and elderly are neglected. PERIOD.

2. I believe healthcare is a right, not a privilege. Somehow that’s interpreted as “I believe Obamacare is the end-all, be-all.” This is not the case. I’m fully aware that the ACA has problems, that a national healthcare system would require everyone to chip in, and that it’s impossible to create one that is devoid of flaws, but I have yet to hear an argument against it that makes “let people die because they can’t afford healthcare” a better alternative. I believe healthcare should be far cheaper than it is, and that everyone should have access to it. And no, I’m not opposed to paying higher taxes in the name of making that happen.

3. I believe education should be affordable. It doesn’t necessarily have to be free (though it works in other countries so I’m mystified as to why it can’t work in the US), but at the end of the day, there is no excuse for students graduating college saddled with five- or six-figure debt.

4. I don’t believe your money should be taken from you and given to people who don’t want to work. I have literally never encountered anyone who believes this. Ever. I just have a massive moral problem with a society where a handful of people can possess the majority of the wealth while there are people literally starving to death, freezing to death, or dying because they can’t afford to go to the doctor. Fair wages, lower housing costs, universal healthcare, affordable education, and the wealthy actually paying their share would go a long way toward alleviating this. Somehow believing that makes me a communist.

5. I don’t throw around “I’m willing to pay higher taxes” lightly. If I’m suggesting something that involves paying more, well, it’s because I’m fine with paying my share as long as it’s actually going to something besides lining corporate pockets or bombing other countries while Americans die without healthcare.

6. I believe companies should be required to pay their employees a decent, livable wage. Somehow this is always interpreted as me wanting burger flippers to be able to afford a penthouse apartment and a Mercedes. What it actually means is that no one should have to work three full-time jobs just to keep their head above water. Restaurant servers should not have to rely on tips, multibillion-dollar companies should not have employees on food stamps, workers shouldn’t have to work themselves into the ground just to barely make ends meet, and minimum wage should be enough for someone to work 40 hours and live.

7. I am not anti-Christian. I have no desire to stop Christians from being Christians, to close churches, to ban the Bible, to forbid prayer in school, etc. (BTW, prayer in school is NOT illegal; *compulsory* prayer in school is – and should be – illegal). All I ask is that Christians recognize *my* right to live according to *my* beliefs. When I get pissed off that a politician is trying to legislate Scripture into law, I’m not “offended by Christianity” — I’m offended that you’re trying to force me to live by your religion’s rules. You know how you get really upset at the thought of Muslims imposing Sharia law on you? That’s how I feel about Christians trying to impose biblical law on me. Be a Christian. Do your thing. Just don’t force it on me or mine.

8. I don’t believe LGBT people should have more rights than you. I just believe they should have the *same* rights as you.

9. I don’t believe illegal immigrants should come to America and have the world at their feet, especially since THIS ISN’T WHAT THEY DO (spoiler: undocumented immigrants are ineligible for all those programs they’re supposed to be abusing, and if they’re “stealing” your job it’s because your employer is hiring illegally). I believe there are far more humane ways to handle undocumented immigration than our current practices (i.e., detaining children, splitting up families, ending DACA, etc.).

10. I don’t believe the government should regulate everything, but since greed is such a driving force in our country, we NEED regulations to prevent cut corners, environmental destruction, tainted food/water, unsafe materials in consumable goods or medical equipment, etc. It’s not that I want the government’s hands in everything — I just don’t trust people trying to make money to ensure that their products/practices/etc. are actually SAFE. Is the government devoid of shadiness? Of course not. But with those regulations in place, consumers have recourse if they’re harmed and companies are liable for medical bills, environmental cleanup, etc. Just kind of seems like common sense when the alternative to government regulation is letting companies bring their bottom line into the equation.

11. I believe our current administration is fascist. Not because I dislike them or because I can’t get over an election, but because I’ve spent too many years reading and learning about the Third Reich to miss the similarities. Not because any administration I dislike must be Nazis, but because things are actually mirroring authoritarian and fascist regimes of the past.

12. I believe the systemic racism and misogyny in our society is much worse than many people think and desperately needs to be addressed. Which means those with privilege — white, straight, male, economic, etc. — need to start listening, even if you don’t like what you’re hearing, so we can start dismantling everything that’s causing people to be marginalized.

13. I am not interested in coming after your blessed guns, nor is anyone serving in government. What I am interested in is the enforcement of present laws and enacting new, common sense gun regulations. Got another opinion? Put it on your page, not mine.

14. I believe in so-called political correctness. I prefer to think it’s social politeness. If I call you Chuck and you say you prefer to be called Charles, I’ll call you Charles. It’s the polite thing to do. Not because everyone is a delicate snowflake, but because as Maya Angelou put it, when we know better, we do better. When someone tells you that a term or phrase is more accurate/less hurtful than the one you’re using, you now know better. So why not do better? How does it hurt you to NOT hurt another person?

15. I believe in funding sustainable energy, including offering education to people currently working in coal or oil so they can change jobs. There are too many sustainable options available for us to continue with coal and oil. Sorry, billionaires. Maybe try investing in something else.

16. I believe that women should not be treated as a separate class of human. They should be paid the same as men who do the same work, should have the same rights as men and should be free from abuse. Why on earth shouldn’t they be?

I think that about covers it. Bottom line is that I’m a liberal because I think we should take care of each other. That doesn’t mean you should work 80 hours a week so your lazy neighbor can get all your money. It just means I don’t believe there is any scenario in which preventable suffering is an acceptable outcome as long as money is saved.”

Ron Howard

James Talarico Delivers Sermon Against Christian Nationalism:

A powerful sermon that remains true now more than even though it was shared two years ago…

James Talarico Delivers Sermon Against Christian Nationalism

Thanks To Sandra A and Ron M for sharing this week’s missives.

Please pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday Sept 19, 2025: The Price of Power without Principles

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Apologies: You Have Reached the End of Your Free-Trial Period of America!
Want rule of law? That’s premium.

Apologies: You Have Reached the End of Your Free-Trial Period of America! – The Atlantic

Shutdown of Corp. for Public Broadcasting, recipient of Governors Award, elicits boos at Emmys:

CPB was conceived “as a means for the federal government to wield the power of television for the enrichment of all Americans.”

This corporation has come under fire many times, facing its first existential threat a mere two years after its inception in 1969,” “And yet, it survived with its full funding with a great intercessor who appealed directly to Congress — an appeal predicated on endowing the nation’s children with what he called a meaningful expression of care. That great intercessor was none other than Fred Rogers. A man, as you well know, of impeccable character and the spiritual embodiment of the Public Broadcasting Service. Where have you gone, Fred Rogers, when we needed you most?

Corp. for Public Broadcasting, Emmys Governors Award recipient, is recognized – Los Angeles Times

The Implications of Public Universities Under Siege:

 

  OFFICE OF THE CHANCELLOR   September 15, 2025   Alternate text         Dear UC community, I know that many of you are closely following the federal administration’s actions against UCLA — including the suspension of critical research funding this summer and a demand that the university pay the federal government over $1 billion. Today, the LA Times published a story summarizing some of the administration’s demands. As we consider the unprecedented action against UCLA, it is important to keep in mind that the federal government is also pursuing investigations and actions in various stages against all 10 UC campuses. So, while we are first focused on the direct-action involving UCLA, we must also consider the implications of expanded federal action. This represents one of the gravest threats to the University of California in our 157-year history. Losses of significant research and other federal funding would devastate UC and inflict real, long-term harm on our students, our faculty and staff, our patients, and all Californians. It would also end life-saving research from which all Americans benefit. Let me provide a little more context about what’s at stake. The University of California receives more than $17 billion each year in federal support. That includes $9.9 billion in Medicare and Medicaid funding, $5.7 billion for research and program support, and $1.7 billion in student financial aid. The funds at risk support the doctors and nurses who care for millions of Californians each year, the researchers working to find new cures and make important technological discoveries, and the financial aid that keeps UC accessible for students of all backgrounds. A substantial loss of this federal funding would be devastating for our mission and for the people who depend on us most. It will mean fewer classes and student services, reduced access to health care, tens of thousands of lost jobs across the state, and an exodus of world-class faculty and researchers to other states or countries. Many of our campuses have already experienced layoffs and other negative impacts in recent months because of cuts to federal research funding and other financial pressures.  But this is minor in comparison to the threat that looms. As the state’s second-largest employer, with a presence in every county in California, these reductions would have a detrimental ripple effect across the entire state economy. The work happening across UC saves lives, drives economic growth and creates opportunity for families in every community. Far too many people depend on us for the University to retreat from its mission. We must do all we can to avoid the harmful possibilities I’ve outlined. That’s why we are working with elected officials in Sacramento and Washington, D.C., to evaluate every option to resolve this conflict to continue serving communities across the state.  The University of California has weathered many challenges since its founding. We will do so again — but it will undoubtedly be a difficult process for our community. The fact is that we are in uncharted waters. Our top priority now is protecting this institution — its resources, its mission and its values — for the sake of everyone we serve. I ask all of you to come together as a community — in support of our students, our patients and one another — as we navigate what lies ahead. It will take all of us working together to protect UC, the greatest public university in the nation. With deep gratitude,   James B. Milliken
President
  University of California San Diego, 9500 Gilman Drive, La Jolla, CA, 92093    

Trump administration to end funding for Hispanic-Serving Institutions, affecting many California colleges:
In California, there are 167 Hispanic-Serving Institutions, which have received more than $600 million in HSI grants over the past 30 years.

Trump administration to end funding for Hispanic-Serving Institutions, affecting many California colleges

A Blueprint for Military Takeovers:
How the president could normalize military presence in American cities

A Blueprint for Military Takeovers – The Atlantic

Trump claims Chicago is ‘world’s most dangerous city’. The four most violent ones are all in red states:
Jackson, Birmingham, St Louis and Memphis had the highest murder rates in 2024 – all are Republican-led states

Trump claims Chicago is ‘world’s most dangerous city’. The four most violent ones are all in red states | US crime | The Guardian

On a more positive note…

Stephen Colbert Challenges Americans to Lead with Love:

Stephen Colbert’s Emmys speech delivers a poignant message America needed
What we need right now are examples of people who understand the strength in empathy, and the power of fair and even-keeled discussion.

Stephen Colbert’s Emmys speech reminded us what America is missing right now

If you are local-

An invitation to the Saturday, September 27th “Healing the Grieving Heart Workshop” for Grieving Dad’s:

Dear Family, Friends, Neighbors, Community Members and Colleagues,

I’ll be giving a “Healing the Grieving Heart Workshop” for bereaved Dads who have experienced the loss of a son or daughter on

Saturday, September 27th in Del Mar, California.

If you, or a dad you care about, might benefit from a day like this, the flier attached to this e mail explains the program and how to register. 

I join the dads who have registered in thanking you for helping us get the word out to others,

Ken

Ken Druck, Ph.D.

(858) 863-7825 office

HOME – Dr Ken Druck

Be the Change you want to see in this world and please practice power with principles!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday September 12, 2025: The Heliotropic Effect and Self Care Tips for Your Wellbeing

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • A Link to “Small Thinks Often”: A Self Care Webinar I Lead Recently
  • Happy People Procrastinate the ‘right’ way, says Harvard researcher—Here’s How
  • The #1 Daily Habit to Do for Longevity, According to Experts
  • The 7 Types of Rest You Need—and How to Get Enough of Each

Link to Small Thinks Often: A Self Care Webinar I Lead Recently:

Many of us are blessed to do work guided by purpose and fueled by passion.  While this can be incredibly rewarding, long hours, demanding workloads, and challenging budgetary realities can leave us at risk of burnout in service of the mission.

You can’t give away what you don’t have — whether that’s time, energy, or attention, so if your aim is sustainability and resilience with the primary goal of helping others, avoiding burnout is critical!

How do you cultivate and model the personal and professional resilience practices needed to serve our community?

Here is a link to a recent webinar I lead, where we explore:

  • The symptoms signaling why we can inadvertently drift toward burnout
  • How to identify stress patterns and practice coping techniques
  • Easy and actionable ways to reduce reactivity to stress while building resilience personally and professionally
  • Addressing stress in promoting an inclusive workplace and attending to talent equity

Even the heart pumps blood to itself first. As leaders and practitioners, we often invest substantial energy in serving others, and as a result don’t always attend to our own needs.

Here are some simple and proven energetic techniques- supported by both western science and eastern wisdom traditions- that reduce chronic stress and upskill resilience and fortitude, particularly in times of challenge.

https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/share/YyDalboKLngEQhT151Rn7IDTWJkOF5gaax6p9OWrI8ln6uREt-ZYZBy0emi1KayP.rxkw8ZW2YYg4ieqw?startTime=1756926136000

Use Passcode: jS@nsMa6

Happy people procrastinate the ‘right’ way, says Harvard researcher—here’s how:
Procrastination can be used to your benefit with the correct approach. Here’s how happiness expert Arthur Brooks suggests using it the right way.

Arthur C Brooks: How to make procrastination work for—not against—you

Life Span or Health Span?

The #1 Daily Habit to Do for Longevity, According to Experts:
Longevity is living a long life beyond the average lifespan. Many people believe genetics are the primary factor determining how long you live, but your genes account for only about 25% of your longevity. This means your daily choices and lifestyle habits influence the remaining 75%.

The #1 Daily Habit To Do for Longevity, According to Experts

The 7 Types of Rest You Need—and How to Get Enough of Each:
Rest is more than just getting eight hours of sleep—it’s about knowing when your mind, emotions, creative energy, or social battery are tapped out and giving them a break.

The 7 Types of Rest You Need—and How to Get Enough of Each

Thanks, this week go to Dr. Danny Friedland for introducing me to the heliotropic effect, and to all of you out there practicing self-care as well as caring for one another.

Pay it forward so we don’t go backward!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday September 5, 2025: Kindness Heals Us All!

This week:

Though you’ve tried

to fit into

a thousand

small boxes,

perhaps comes

the day when

you’re opened

by grief or by

love, and your

thoughts unstitch

from what you knew,

and your mind

begins to rhyme

with sky, becomes

spacious enough

whole flocks

of bluebirds

can fly right

through, and

for a time you

stop trying

to make sense

of things, you

simply yield

to being

a home for

the ecstasy

of wings.

—Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

Harvard expert Arthur Brooks: Top tip for happier, more successful life

Queen’s ‘Bohemian Rhapsody’ gets its first translation — into Zulu : NPR

Wildlife Photographer of the Year 2025: Highly Commended – The Atlantic

Thanks Marlaine C for the Kindness Quote

Now, let’s all pay it forward with kindness!

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday August 29, 2025: “Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” + Free Self Care Webinar from Me c/o NCPC Sept 3 at Noon

Happy Soul Food Friday,

This week:

If you could use some Self Care- Take Care of Yourself and Take Care of Others!

On Wednesday September 3rd from Noon to 1pm with NCPC and San Diego Gives; I am running a self-care webinar.

Small Things Often: Micro Habits that Foster Macro Competencies

An authentic embodied great reset- in self-compassion and self-care- for conscious leaders and culture transformers

 Even the heart pumps blood to itself first. As leaders and practitioners, we often invest substantial energy in serving others, and as a result don’t always attend to our own needs. Here is an opportunity to provide you, and by extension those in your community, with simple and proven energetic techniques- supported by both western science and eastern wisdom traditions- that reduce chronic stress and upskill resilience and fortitude, particularly in times of challenge and uncertainty.  

What you may not know about Me:

The wellness of business. The business of wellness.

Neville who was born in India and has invested his lifetime in bridging the east/west divide and synergizing the best of both cultures, brings over 40 years of practicing and teaching the wisdom traditions, including traditional martial arts, yoga, and meditation to this session.

He has been applying these principles in the world of work with conscious leaders as well as deep purpose driven cultures that value all stakeholders in the ecosystem, and are committed to wellness, wholeness, and purpose not just profit. This includes leading and coaching businesses, nonprofit organizations, as well as K-12 and institutions of higher education, while serving in his executive role at Mission Fed. Additionally, he serves on a variety of boards and volunteers his time to uplift those furthest from opportunity in our San Diego community.

Neville, and NCPC are honored to bring these micro habits to the San Diego community with “Small things often!”

If you are interested, please register here and you can get the recording even if you can’t make the actual event and do share with your network please!

“DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN.”

The little boy came to our table of leather-clad bikers and slammed down a paper that said, “DADDY’S FUNERAL – NEED SCARY MEN.”

His tiny fingers were still stained with marker ink, and his Superman cape was on backwards. The diner went dead silent as fifteen members of the Iron Wolves MC stared at this kid who couldn’t have weighed forty pounds soaking wet.

“My mom said I can’t ask you,” he announced, his chin jutting out defiantly. “But she’s crying all the time and the mean boys at school said daddy won’t go to heaven without scary men to protect him.”

Big Tom, who’d done two tours in Afghanistan and had a skull tattooed on his neck, carefully picked up the paper. It was a child’s drawing of stick figures on motorcycles surrounding a coffin, with “PLEASE COME” written in backwards letters.

“Where’s your mom, little man?” Tom asked, his voice a low rumble that usually preceded a fight but was now impossibly gentle.

The boy pointed through the window to a beat-up Toyota where a young woman sat with her head in her hands. “She’s scared of you. Everyone’s scared of you. That’s why I need you.”

I’d seen Tom break a man’s jaw for disrespecting his bike. But his hands shook as he read what else was on that paper – a date, tomorrow, and an address for Riverside Cemetery.

“What was your daddy’s name?” someone asked from the back.

“Officer Marcus Rivera,” the boy said proudly. “He was a police officer. A bad man shot him.”

The silence in the diner got heavier, thick enough to choke on. Cops and bikers weren’t exactly natural allies. Most of us had been hassled, profiled, some even beaten by police. And now this cop’s kid was asking us to honor his fallen father.

Tom stood up slowly, his towering frame casting a shadow over the small table. “What’s your name, superman?”

“Miguel. Miguel Rivera.”

“Well, Miguel Rivera,” Tom said, kneeling so he was eye to eye with the boy, a giant meeting a sparrow. “You tell your mom that your daddy’s going to have the biggest, loudest, scariest escort to heaven any police officer ever had.”

The boy’s eyes went wide. “Really? You’ll come?”

“Brother,” Snake spoke up from the corner, and I could hear the conflict in his voice. “He was a cop.”

“He was a father,” Tom said firmly, his gaze never leaving Miguel’s. “And this little warrior just did the bravest thing I’ve seen all year. We ride.”

The next morning, I arrived at the cemetery two hours early. I thought I’d be the only one, a chance to get my head right before the awkwardness and the stares. But then my jaw dropped.

The narrow road leading to the cemetery entrance was already lined with bikes. Not just the fifteen of us from the diner, but our entire chapter. Forty men, standing quietly by their polished Harleys, the morning sun glinting off the chrome. But that wasn’t what stopped my heart. Further down the road, another group was pulling in. The Vipers. Our bitter rivals. And behind them, the Sons of Odin. Word had gotten out. A call had been made for scary men, and the entire goddamn scary underworld had answered.

When the funeral procession finally arrived, the hearse slowed to a stop. I saw Miguel in the car behind it, his small face pressed against the glass. His mother looked up, and her hand flew to her mouth, her expression of fear melting into stunned disbelief.

There were over a hundred of us. A silent army of leather and steel.

At some unseen signal from Tom, a hundred engines roared to life at the exact same instant. The sound was biblical. It wasn’t angry or aggressive; it was a deep, thundering proclamation. We are here. We formed a double line, a guard of honor for the hearse and the family and escorted them through the gates.

At the graveside, a small group of uniformed officers stood stiffly, their honor guard looking tense as we dismounted. They watched us, we watched them. But there was no trouble. We formed a wide, silent circle around the service, our backs to the family, facing outward. We were a wall, protecting their grief from the world.

After the service, as the last of the mourners were leaving, the police chief walked over to Big Tom. He was a hard-looking man I’d seen on the news a dozen times. He stopped, looked at Tom, then at the sea of bikers standing in silent respect.

“I… I don’t have the words,” the chief said, his voice rough. “Officer Rivera was a good man.”

Tom just gave a short, sharp nod. “He had a good son.”

That’s when I saw Miguel, holding his mother’s hand, walking purposefully toward us. He stopped in front of Tom, who immediately knelt again. Miguel wasn’t wearing his cape anymore. He was holding the folded American flag from his father’s coffin.

He held it out. “This is for you,” he said, his voice clear and steady.

Tom gently pushed it back. “No, little man. That’s yours. That’s your daddy’s.”

“My daddy was a hero,” Miguel said, pushing the flag firmly into Tom’s huge, tattooed hand. “He protected people. And today, you protected him.”

Tom stared at the flag in his hand, his jaw working, his whole-body trembling. The man I’d seen walk through a bar fight without flinching was completely undone by a forty-pound superhero. He couldn’t speak. He just nodded, his eyes shining with tears he refused to let fall.

We didn’t ride away with a roar. We left one by one, a quiet rumble that spoke of a respect that went deeper than clubs or colors or the badges on a uniform. We had come because a little boy asked for scary men. But we left knowing we’d just met the bravest one of all.

I’ve studied hundreds of highly successful kids—the No. 1 thing their parents teach early:
Parenting expert Jennifer Breheny Wallace has spent six years studying hundreds of high-achieving kids. Here’s why she says a “mattering mindset” is the secret to their success, and how parents can cultivate it from a young age.

I’ve studied hundreds of highly successful kids—the No. 1 thing their parents teach early

How 9 minutes of daily HIIT may improve kids’ brain function and learning, according to research
Researchers say nine minutes of exercise may be enough to boost children’s mood and cognitive skills.

How 9 minutes of daily HIIT may improve kids’ brain function and learning, according to research | Tom’s Guide

+ A feel good vid

Lion Seeks Forgiveness from Dog Best Friend in Heartwarming Gesture That Gains 30M Views
Friendships in the animal world can be full of surprises, especially when they involve a lion and a dog. While lions are often seen as fierce predators, sometimes they form bonds that defy all expectations.

Lion Seeks Forgiveness from Dog Best Friend in Heartwarming Gesture That Gains 30M Views

Please teach it forward on purpose!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for the week of Friday August 22, 2025: Local Treasures Hidden in Plain Sight

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Through the North County Philanthropy Council (NCPC) where I am currently board president, at the end of this month we are running an 8-month Impact Leadership Accelerator for emerging leaders. Sign up Deadline is August 22nd.

As you probably know when budgets are tight it’s typically marketing and leadership development that get cut, but effective storytelling for impact, and equipping our leaders for this BANI (brittle, anxious, non-linear, and incomprehensible) world is precisely what we need to navigate uncertainty and future proof our organizations.

We are looking for a few sponsors to invest in either orgs they care deeply about and perhaps already support, and/or people they believe in.

The total cost for the program is $550 per person and intentionally designed to be accessible and impactful.

Grant Oliphant, CEO of the Prebys Foundation was our first guest speaker, followed by a Women in Leadership panel featuring Krishna Kabra, Beatrice Palmer, and Idara Ogunsaju.

Links to both these webinars as well as more details are available at the link below:

Impact Leadership Accelerator – North County Philanthropy Council

We have 3 cohorts filled and have just a few more slots in case you know of anyone that could benefit from this program at this critical time, run by our leadership committee, headed up by Jim Ristuccia a Vistage chair, along with several seasoned leaders, in both the business and social sectors.

Unique Benefits of this One-Of-A-Kind Leadership Experience:

  • Exclusive opportunities to hear from renowned subject matter experts in the nonprofit space on topics that are very relevant to the current operating environment, with an eye toward building resiliency and capacity for a strong future.
  • In-depth group discussions of topics facilitated by skilled coaches.
  • Peer-to-peer collaborations for sharing knowledge, experiences, advice, and mutual support of one another in meeting your challenges and opportunities.
  • Access to experienced, conscientious coaches for 1:1 assistance throughout the program.
  • Valuable assessments with personalized feedback and insights to identify strengths and opportunities for growth as a leader.
  • Hands-on Capstone Project: a group mastermind project to help a real, local nonprofit solve a specific challenge.
  • free one year-membership in NCPC upon successful completion of the 8-month experience.
  • Opportunity in subsequent years to maintain connection with your cohort and give back to the program as a coach, committee member, or both.

The kickoff session is Aug 27 from 9 to noon at Mission Fed HQ.

See below and please share with your networks too!

  Accelerate your impact—in your career, your organization, and your community—through a transformative leadership experience that delivers lasting results. Offered exclusively by NCPC.   Welcome to a unique leadership development journey tailored to your individual growth. Whether you’re just stepping into leadership or looking to deepen your influence, this program meets you where you are—and helps you go further, faster.   Here’s why Kristian Browning, a participant in last year’s program, found it so beneficial, in her own words:   The Impact Leadership Accelerator gave me exactly what I was looking for—meaningful connections throughout the county and access to impactful mentors who provided ongoing support even after the program ended. More than just skill-building, it offered validation and a steady stream of energy to continue doing meaningful nonprofit work, while creating lasting relationships with mentors like Jim and Adri who continue to provide guidance, recommendations, and networking opportunities that will be invaluable as I advance in my career.   Kristian Browning, Director of Special Projects and Development, SupplyBank.org   Don’t miss the August 27th kickoff of this 8-month leadership development program tailored to nonprofit professionals with a panel discussion on how to —   FUTURE PROOF YOUR CAREER — Build Skills That Endure in Uncertain Times   This discussion will explore practical steps to strengthen your career—focusing on developing leadership skills, expanding expertise across multiple areas, becoming the go-to person in your organization, and nurturing a strong professional network.   Participants will walk away with strategies to grow their influence and resilience, even in turbulent times.    Meet Our Expert Panel:   Trevor Blair, CEO, Blair Search Partners   Sarah Agee, President, Sterling Search Inc.   Dr. Laura Deitrick, Executive Director of The Nonprofit Institute; Professor of Practice; Department of Leadership Studies Program Director   Moderated by Neville Billimoria, NCPC Board President, & SVP Marketing and Membership at Mission Federal Credit Union     Register for the 8-month program now and join us for Day One of this extraordinary journey.   LEARN MORE AND REGISTER »   Join by 8/22 to receive your DISC personal assessment.

Thanks for your consideration and blessings for all you do to make San Diego America’s Kindest and most Purposeful Region!

Love,

Neville

Do You Deserve Some Time for Self-Care and Self-Compassion?

As leaders and practitioners, we often invest substantial energy in serving others, and as a result don’t always attend to our own needs. Here is an opportunity to provide you, and by extension those in your community, with simple and proven energetic techniques- supported by both western science and eastern wisdom traditions- that reduce chronic stress and upskill resilience and fortitude, particularly in times of challenge.

You can register here: https://secure.ncphilanthropy.org/eventReg.jsp?event=150&

This California City Was Just Named the Best Place in the U.S. to Watch the Sunset:
A new ranking crowned a Southern California destination No. 1 for sunset lovers.

This California City Was Just Named the Best Place in the U.S. to Watch the Sunset

New Data Proves It: You Need to Go to More Parties:
The time Americans spend at parties is down 50 percent. That’s terrible for our happiness, health, and careers. It’s the dog days of summer, so our free time should be packed with backyard barbecues, al fresco dinner parties, or lakeside hangs. But if your own social calendar is looking a little bare this year, you are not alone. As journalist and author Derek Thompson reported on his Substack newsletter recently, new data shows Americans are in the depths of a nationwide party recession.

New Data Proves It: You Need to Go to More Parties

The 10 most expensive U.S. metro areas to buy a home–half are in California:
By median price, San Jose, California, is the most expensive metro area for U.S. homebuyers for the second year in a row, per a report from SmartAsset.

The 10 most expensive U.S. metro areas to buy a home

And if that stressed you out…

Why protecting your vagus nerve is key to optimal mental health:
It’s the body’s information superhighway that tells your organs how to rest. What is the vagus nerve? Your brain is connected to your body through a set of 12 crucial nerve networks that descend through your spine and branch out into your body. Of these, the vagus nerve is probably one of the most important. Its tendrils influence digestion, your heart, your reflexes and your breathing. So you can see why scientists are so interested in what the vagus nerve does – especially when you consider how all the above affects your mood.

The vagus nerve: Everything you need to know | BBC Science Focus Magazine

Enjoy more sunsets, have more parties and play it forward!

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday August 15, 2025: To Your Spiritual Wellbeing

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Developing a purpose in life.
  • Having the ability to spend reflective time alone.
  • Taking time to reflect on the meaning of events in life.
  • Having a clear sense of right and wrong, and acting accordingly.
  • Having the ability to explain why you believe what you believe.

The Connection Between Spirituality and Mental Health | TIME

The Japanese art of ‘forest bathing’ can improve focus, lower stress

Feeling Overwhelmed? This Nutrient Improves Your HRV & Reduces Anxiety

Love,

Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday August 8, 2025: The Difference Between Nice and Kind, the Difference Between Stress and Anxiety and Treating Them Both

Happy Soul Food Friday

This week:

There’s A Huge Difference Between Being ‘Nice’ And Being ‘Kind’:
These words are often used interchangeably, but experts say one is much better quality than the other.

Nice vs. Kind: The Difference Is Significant | HuffPost Life

Niceness vs. Kindness: What’s the Difference?

The Difference Between Stress and Anxiety:
Stress and anxiety share many symptoms, but they’re not the same thing.

The Difference Between Stress and Anxiety | TIME

Financial stress can damage your mental health. These steps may help:
With people losing their jobs and the stock market rocky, there’s a lot of financial anxiety right now. Research shows how you approach it can be key to protecting your mental and physical health.

Financial stress can impact health. Here are steps that help : NPR

The Hidden Toll of Stress on Men’s Health + How Real Men Heal Addresses It with Greg Snaer:

For centuries, men have been conditioned to internalize stress rather than process it – with profound consequences for physical and mental health. The research is clear: unaddressed stress impacts men differently than women, affecting everything from heart health to cognitive function.  
The Science of Male Stress Patterns   Research shows that men typically experience stress through: Physical manifestations (muscle tension, sleep disruption) Decreased emotional awareness Work performance anxiety Isolation from support systems Difficulty asking for help As Dr. Mark Jesinoski, clinical psychologist and Real Men Heal facilitator, explains:   “Men often don’t recognize stress until it manifests as physical symptoms or relationship challenges. Creating space for men to identify and address stress proactively is essential for long-term wellbeing.”  
How Real Men Heal Addresses These Patterns   Our retreat is specifically designed to address male stress patterns through:
Physical Reconnection – Morning movement practices and nature immersion to release tension
Emotional Intelligence – Workshops that develop awareness of emotional states Communal Support – Structured experiences that normalize asking for and receiving help Herbal Wisdom – Ancient practices adapted for modern men’s stress management Practical Tools – Take-home practices that integrate easily into daily life   What stress patterns have you observed in yourself or the men in your life?  
To collective healing, Greg  

Easy Ways to Regulate Your Cortisol Levels in the Morning and Have a Stress-Free Day:
Good morning! As you probably already know, cortisol is the big hype of 2025.

Easy Ways To Regulate Your Cortisol Levels in the Morning and Have a Stress-Free Day | Vogue

Doing this for 20 seconds a day can Relieve Stress and Anxiety:

Doing this for 20 seconds a day can relieve stress and anxiety | CNN

Ice facials: is submerging your face in a bowl of ice water really an effective way to manage stress and anxiety?
‘Ice facials’ for stress and anxiety are all over social media – but do they work? We asked an expert to weigh in.

The TIPP technique – which stands for temperature, intense exercise, paced breathing and progressive muscle relaxation provides a good framework.

Are ice facials effective for managing stress and anxiety?

This 60-Second Breathing Hack Instantly Lowers Stress:
Stress is unavoidable. Work, relationships, and daily responsibilities create tension. While stress is natural, too much can harm your health. Elevated cortisol levels lead to fatigue, anxiety, and trouble sleeping.

This 60-Second Breathing Hack Instantly Lowers Stress — Eat This Not That

Be kind, be well and pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

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