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Happy Soul Food Friday!

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat,

known suffering, known struggle, known loss and have found their way out of the depths.

These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern.

Beautiful people do not just happen.”

– Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

This week:

A Post Valentine’s Week Love Story from Nature

What Bickering Hummingbirds and Devoted Albatrosses can Teach US About Love

Top 5 Civility Actions

The five best civility traits for business etiquette success. Easier said than done!

Make a Smart Mistake

 WHAT IF…you can learn more from mistakes than successes?

Quotes 4 Hard Times

 There is hope even in difficulty and heart break…

Heartwarming Inter-Species Photos

The Amazing Friendship Between a Dog and an Owl

A Post Valentine’s Week Love Story

What Bickering Hummingbirds and Devoted Albatrosses can Teach US About Love

http://www.zocalopublicsquare.org/2015/02/12/why-do-birds-fall-in-love/ideas/nexus/

Top 5 Civility Actions

The five best civility traits for business etiquette success. Easier said than done!

http://www.emilypost.com/emily-post-business-etiquette-training-top-five-civility-traits

Make a Smart Mistake

WHAT IF…you can learn more from mistakes than successes?

#243 – Make a Smart Mistake

WHAT IF…you can learn more from mistakes than successes?
RESEARCH SAYS: Richard P. Feyman, Nobel Prize-winning physicist, once said, “To develop working ideas efficiently, I try to fail as fast as I can.” 
Successes can be deceptive—when everyone pats you on the back, you conclude that you’ve done something “right.” But mistakes are often a much better gauge. Have you ever followed orders against your better judgment? Have you ever acted greedily, or fearfully, instead of being truthful and patient? Inspect your recent failures. Is there a pattern? Maybe it’s time to change.

Quotes for Hard Times:

There is hope even in difficulty and heart break…

http://www.robinsharma.com/blog/02/great-quotes-for-hard-times/

Heartwarming Inter-Species Photos

The Amazing Friendship Between a Dog and an Owl
http://www.mymodernmet.com/profiles/blogs/tanja-brandt-ingo-dog-poldi-owl

Thanks this week go to Sheldon E, Will M, Robin S, Glenda O and all of us willing to learn from our mistakes without beating ourselves up over them…

 Pay it forward!

Love,

Neville

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”–Benjamin Franklin

Happy Soul Food Friday for Lucky 13 and Valentine’s Day!

This week:

Sensational Sights, Sounds, Secrets, Saying No, Sophisticated Design, & Some Super Smart Ideas to Make Your Life Easier

Paris for Valentines?

Click on photo, wait a couple of seconds and you will be blown away – Voila!

The Joy & Skill of Youth: Flash Mob

Hundreds of Retirees Share Secrets to a Happy Marriage:

http://www.usatoday.com/story/money/personalfinance/2015/01/06/retirees-love-marriage/20648553/

Saying No:

Every time we say yes to a request, we are also saying no to anything else we might accomplish with the time

http://timharford.com/2015/01/the-power-of-saying-no/

Sophisticated design, engineering AND communication

http://www.apple.com/watch/films/#film-design

Super New Ideas: Life Hacks

Hacks

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Isabelle A, Paul S, and Lovers of Life Everywhere!

Pay it Forward

Love,

Neville

“It is we who nourish the Soul of the World,

and the world we live in will be either better or worse,

depending on whether we become better or worse.

And that’s where the power of love comes in.

Because when we love, we always strive to become better than we are.”

–Paulo Coelho

Happy Soul Food Friday

This week:

Restrictive Human Beliefs, Expansive Orbital Perspectives, Staying Young, Chasing Naughty Pets and Learning to Listen like Amazing Musicians

The Psychology Behind Why Some Kids Go Unvaccinated: Collective Action Dilemmas

And what we can learn about Human Beliefs Shaped by Pre-Existing Views in the Tragedy of the Commons

Start from the Heart, not from the Head to Build Relationships & Build Trust and Acknowledge Someone’s Fear

http://www.npr.org/player/v2/mediaPlayer.html?action=1&t=1&islist=false&id=383724467&m=383724468

An Orbital Perspective: I’m Astronaut Ron Garan and This Is How I Work

Perhaps the Challenges Facing the Earth Become More Clear From a Distance…

http://pulse.me/s/3nifbk

Be Bold and Never Leave the Playground:

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=179506128916888

The Thieves Who Live Among Us:

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=10152421607491130&fref=nf

Let me take you out with some righteous music:

Two masters building energy with and from each other and demonstrate why good listening is the key to making great music together:

If you are local:

What do 178,000 San Diegans (enough to fill 3 Qualcomm stadiums) know and experience and a chance to join them…

Refer A Friend

Thanks this week to Ron M, Larry H, Facebook friends sharing Soul-filling content and “heartists” EVERYWHERE
Pay it Forward!

Love,

Neville

“Inspiration does exist, but it must find you working.”
— Pablo Picasso

Happy Soul Food Friday!

There are so many grand canyons in our world today…

Some present as vast gaps in inequality, some chasms of understanding, some the difference between knowing and doing, and others just glorious splendor.

Enjoy this week, mind the gap and pay if forward…

Love,

Neville

An important life lesson for all:

How our perceptions change our actions…

http://www.metaspoon.com/fall-homeless-man-experiment/

We can’t rewrite history but we can right history!

Friendship 9 Activists Exonerated 54 Years Later…

http://www.npr.org/player/v2/mediaPlayer.html?action=1&t=1&islist=false&id=382002000&m=382056548

The Real Grand Canyon–like you have never seen it!

 http://www.humfer.net/gcanyon/index.html

Closing the Gap to Smarter Teams

In the final analysis real value is generated not just by the individuals and their talents, performance and competencies, but by the teams they belong to and the culture (system) they operate in. It is BOTH/AND/ALL, forest AND trees!

In the spirit of a better WE not just ME, this New York Times article from just a few days ago is thought provoking:

The smartest teams were distinguished by three characteristics…

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/18/opinion/sunday/why-some-teams-are-smarter-than-others.html

Collective and Emotional Intelligence Said Another Way:

http://doonesbury.washingtonpost.com/strip/archive/2012/07/15

Culture Matters! 7 Cultural Concepts we Don’t Have in the US        

http://www.mnn.com/lifestyle/arts-culture/blogs/7-cultural-concepts-we-dont-have-in-the-us

If you are Local-

 UC San Diego Leadership Day Feb 14^th

Change Your Leadership Lens

http://alumni.ucsd.edu/s/1170/index.aspx?sid=1170&gid=1&pgid=5955&content_id=8186

Close the gap between for profit and nonprofit enterprise with purpose-driven systems on Feb 12^th:

Join The San Diego Nonprofit Association

Making A Difference Every Day

Thanks this week go to Anne S, Larry H, Paul S, Glenda O, Sarah A, Sparky B, and Civic Leaders Everywhere!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

“…I say to you this morning that the first question that the priest asked was the first question that I asked on that Jericho Road in Atlanta known as Simpson Road.  The first question that the Levite asked was, “If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?”  But the good Samaritan came by and he reversed the question.  Not, “What will happen to me if I stop to help this man?” but “What will happen to this man if I do not stop to help him?”  This was why that man was good and great.  He was great because he was willing to take a risk for humanity; he was willing to ask, “What will happen to this man?” not “What will happen to me?” –Dr. MLK

“Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve…

You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.”

– Dr. Martin Luther King

 

This week:

Convention is Clearly in Dire Need of an Intervention and You are Just the One to Provide it!

This week’s Soul Food e-missives provide both a new optic through which to see the world for what it is and some tools to get busy doing work that matters

Stay Soulful…

Escaping the Cult of the Average

One of the best TED talks I have experienced…

The Ultimate Family Guide to MLK Day

Consider creating a day of community service in your ecosystem.

If that sounds like a worthwhile endeavor here is a great resource to inspire a KING!

The Ultimate Family Guide to Martin Luther King Jr Day

32 Facts That Show Just How Far the Human Race Has Come:

It is not all doom and gloom! We all need perspective once in a while. Time to recalibrate wouldn’t you say?

http://news.distractify.com/mark-pygas/human-progress/

An Example of Exemplary Human Achievement- El Capitan Free Climb

“This is not about an effort to conquer, it is about realizing a DREAM”

“For me the Dawn Wall is the perfect venue for some of the most important values I want to show [my son] Fitz,” Caldwell wrote on Instagram alongside a picture of him hugging his son. “Optimism, perseverance, dedication and the importance of dreaming big.”

http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2015/01/150114-climbing-yosemite-caldwell-jorgeson-capitan/

Cool Pics…

I hope the rest of your day is as good as the last few minutes!

Thanks this week go to Isabelle A, Sarah M, Larry H, and every one of us that has a dream and is working on living the dream & manifesting that destiny!

Pay it Forward, Backward, Sideways and Tangentially

It ain’t going with you baby!

Love,
Neville

See the Change You Want to Be in the World

Be the Change You Want to See in the World”

Happy Soul Food Friday!

The events of the past week clearly cry out for more empathy from us all…

“Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other’s eyes for an instant?”– Henry David Thoreau

 Empathy is at the heart of all good design. Without the understanding of what others see, feel, and experience, designing anything is a pointless task. Alternatively, when communicated as in the example below, empathy can be truly inspirational. What the following Cleveland Clinic movie reveals is the true scale and complexity of the challenge of understanding a complex social situation in order to design a system that supports many and various needs.

How do you go about being inspired by empathy?

9 Points to Ponder on the Paris Shooting and Charlie Hebdo

http://www.onbeing.org/blog/9-points-to-ponder-on-the-paris-shooting-and-charlie-hebdo/7193

‘Everything Is Cyclical’: Christian McBride Looks At 2015 In Jazz

Some gems to soothe your soul…

http://www.npr.org/player/v2/mediaPlayer.html?action=1&t=1&islist=false&id=377224137&m=377267082

Make Friends with Structure:

WHAT IF…”going with the flow” could actually disrupt your flow?
RESEARCH SAYS: Creativity and structure actually work together. When you’re trying to rise to the next level, sticking to a schedule and setting goals isn’t a drag—it helps your brain focus and gain traction.

TRY THIS: Think of one creative goal you’d like to accomplish this year–redecorating a room in your house, streamlining a system at work, finishing that secret novel hiding in your desk drawer. Now make a structure for just this week that helps you work on it. Tell us how you feel at the end of the week. How much closer did you get to your goal than if the structure wasn’t there?
Recent Tips:

#230 – The Secret to a Successful Marriage

#231 – Hey Leaders, Mindfulness Matters!

#232 – Balancing Negative and Positive Feedback

Past Popular Tips:

#96 – Why a Vision is Better Than a Plan

#109 – Nobody’s Perfect

#215 – Positive Pleasure

Read Will’s latest leadership/career blog post:

Do You Feel Your Infinite Value?

Connect with Will on LinkedIn to be up to date on his latest leadership knowledge and insight.

Phenomenal Pictures

Thanks this week go to Paul S, Tim B, Dan S, Will M, Larry H & Improvisers Everywhere!
Pay it Forward!

Love,

Neville

“You rise by lifting others.” –Robert Green Ingersoll

 

 

If you are like the rest of us, you’ve probably gained a few pounds, hopefully got to sleep a few extra rounds, and might have caught a movie or dug some new sounds…

Now many of us get back to the routinization of life with both its promises and perils.

In 2015 are you ready for WE not Me?

If it is to be, it is up to WE!

What’s YOUR Social Mission?

As Social Mission is important both to my organization and to me personally, I am honored to invest my energy in advancing the mission of the non-profit community, and serve on the Board of the San Diego Non Profits Association (SDNA) and other local organizations. Here are some factoids about the local social sector that might surprise you…

 Local Non Profits:

In San Diego there are:

9,364 Nonprofits of which 3,700 account for $19.77B in total assets and 2,140 have paid employees that generated $5.2B in wages- making the social sector a large contributor to the local economy.

Volunteerism:

Even though strategic volunteering is valued nationally at over $1B per year, more San Diegans donate their treasure rather than their time or talent. Volunteering locally ranges from a high of 37% to an all-time low of 30% in Q4 of 2013. What is up with that?

Over the past three years, every year I have invested 450 hours a year in strategic volunteering and social mission, with a strong ROSI (return on Social investment) both for the stakeholder groups and for myself.

Please don’t underestimate the impact of your time and talent! You can transform lives, so get out there and get re-engaged in 2015!

Public Confidence:

Has remained stable in San Diego over the past 3 years with 85% to 89% expressing confidence in San Diego’s Non Profit Community.

Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

Put Your Money Where Other People’s Mouths Are:

In the first full week of 2015 our Membership & Marketing team kept the holiday spirit alive, and started the year right by volunteering our time at the San Diego Food Bank.

Hunger remains a big issue in our community and every bit helps.

Hunger and Poverty Right Here In San Diego County:

Of San Diego County’s 3.1 million residents, did you know that 462,269 people live in poverty – that’s 15.1% of the population of San Diego County.

To make matters worse, 137,084 are children.

Our neighbors face “food insecurity” which means that little or no food is available at home and often they will not know how they will get their next meal.

The SD Food Bank feeds 320,000 people per month in partnership with 330 nonprofit community partners including: food pantries, soup kitchens, shelters, low-income daycare centers, senior centers, churches, schools, and day centers for the elderly and disabled.

The Food Bank’s nonprofit partners collect food from its 72,000 sq. ft. warehouse in Miramar and distribute the food directly to people in need in their local communities. By acting as a central distribution point and through its own direct distributions the Food Bank and its nonprofit partners provide food to communities throughout the county’s 4,200 square mile radius.

In the fiscal year 2012 – 2013, the Food Bank distributed nearly 20 million pounds of food – the equivalent of 16.6 million meals.

As a barometer of the county’s economic health, Food Bank’s distribution increases illustrate the impact of the economy on local families.

In 2008 the Food Bank provided food to more than 200,000 people per month. This year the Food Bank is feeding 320,000 people every month.

How you can help:

There are many ways you can help the Food Bank.

• Donate food – Host a food drive at your school, business or religious organization. (We do several times a year)
• Donate time – The Food Bank relies on volunteers to sort and package tons of food every day. Visit our website and sign up to volunteer using our online registration system: http://sandiegofoodbank.org/volunteer-2/ (Take your kids and spend an hour. It will give them perspective)
• Donate money – Monetary donations help supplement the “lottery” of food drive donations. For every $1 donated, the Food Bank can provide five meals. $1 = 5 meals.

Visit http://sandiegofoodbank.org/donate/

20 Tips for a Positive New Year:

1. Stay Positive. You can listen to the cynics and doubters and believe that success is impossible or you can trust that with faith and an optimistic attitude all things are possible.
2. Take a morning walk of gratitude. I call it a “Thank You Walk.” It will create a fertile mind ready for success.
3. Make your first meal the biggest and your last meal the smallest. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
4. Zoom Focus. Each day when you wake up in the morning ask: “What are the three most important things I need to do today that will help me create the success I desire?” Then tune out all the distractions and focus on these actions.
5. Talk to yourself instead of listen to yourself. Instead of listening to your complaints, fears and doubts, talk to yourself and feed your mind with the words and encouragement you need to keep moving forward.
6. Choose faith instead of fear. Faith turns adversities and dead-ends into detours to a better outcome than you thought possible.
7. Don’t chase dollars or success. Decide to make a difference and build meaningful relationships and success will find you.
8. Get more sleep. You can’t replace sleep with a double latte.
9. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in your purpose, people and the positive present moment.
10. Build your life and career with the 3 greatest success strategies of all. Love, Serve and Care.
11. Every day focus on your purpose. Remember why you do what you do. We don’t get burned out because of what we do. We get burned out because we forget why we do it.
12. Remember there’s no such thing as an overnight success. There’s no substitute for hard work.
13. Believe that everything happens for a reason and expect good things to come out of challenging experiences.
14. Implement the No Complaining Rule. If you are complaining, you’re not leading.
15. Read more books than you did in 2014. I happen to know of a few good ones. : )
16. Don’t seek happiness. Instead decide to live with passion and purpose and happiness will find you.
17. Focus on “Get to” vs “Have to.” Each day focus on what you get to do, not what you have to do. Life is a gift not an obligation.
18. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements:

I am thankful for __________.

Today I accomplished____________.

19. Smile and laugh more. They are natural anti-depressants.
20. Enjoy the ride. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy it.

The Power of Music:

A kid got bored while his parents shopped in Costco until he found this piano.

http://1funny.com/costco-piano-whiz-kid/

This week got you “DOG TIRED”?

Join these guys…

Dog Tired

Thanks this week go to, Sue S and the SDN Board, Larry H, the SD Food Bank, the Mission Fed Volunteer Team, and those that invest their time, treasure and talent in the greater good.

Happy 2015!

Pay it Forward

Love,

Neville

“Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.”

– Confucius: Chinese teacher, editor, politician, and philosopher

 

“Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least.”—Goethe

As we start another trip around the sun…

• Let the Children Have Their Way- Let the Children Play
  • What the Holidays Would Look Like if Kids Were in Charge
• Kids Are the Future
  • 16 Kids That May Have All the Answers in Life
• Put Your Year in Perspective
  • Unhappy, Don’t Like Your Salary, Not Enough Friends, Feel Like Giving Up, Suffering, Society Unfair?
• Simplify Your Life:
  • Complexity is a universal norm, while simplicity in your life is an achievable exception
• I Got Engaged in 2015:
  • Choose wisely. It is only your work life!

Let the Children Have Their Way- Let the Children Play

What the Holidays Would Look Like if Kids Were in Charge

Kids Are the Future- 16 Kids That May Have All the Answers in Life

These are priceless!

http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/Agd1Nw

Put Your Year in Perspective

Unhappy, Don’t Like Your Salary, Not Enough Friends, Feel Like Giving Up, Suffering, Society Unfair?

BEST email of the Year …meilleur email de l-annee

Simplify Your Life: Dial it Down, Live it Up

Dial it Down, Live it Up

6 Steps to Simplify Your Life
by Jeff Davidson

Have you said to yourself recently… I need to slow down, have more fun, take more time for my family…breathe? Well what you’re really saying is this: I need to simplify my life!

One of my favorite quotes is:

“Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least.”
—Goethe

Well guess what… we’ve all been guilty!

LESS IS MORE!
a brief excerpt from the introduction to Dial It Down… Live It Up

Excerpt from Introduction
From Dial it Down, Live it Up
by Jeff Davidson

To begin, we need to understand that complexity is a universal norm, while simplicity in your life is an achievable exception.

Today, the term simplicity means different things to different people. For some, it is the quest for more control over their time or space, with less to clean or maintain. For others, it’s having less stress, fewer bills to pay, or more leisure time. Many associate simplicity with a peaceful state of mind, often linked with spirituality. Your personal quest for simplicity might encompass one or all of these.

We’ve arrived at the point where technology and information come hurtling towards us; we’re pummeled by innumerable rules, instructions, and laws that we are expected to know and heed. It’s no wonder that we feel overwhelmed and exhausted.

Not surprisingly, more people are reassessing how they work and live in order to achieve a simpler, more effective lifestyle which doesn’t sacrifice what matters to them. That’s what Dial It Down, Live It Up is all about.

Get Engaged in 2015: What the Heck is Employee Engagement?

Choose wisely. It is only your work life!

 

Thanks to all of you for a Soul Filled Year and Best Wishes for a New One!

To keep soul-filled here are some good sites to curate your own content, light your fuse and feed your community…

StumbleUpon, http://www.stumbleupon.com/

SoulPancake, http://soulpancake.com/

The Daily Good, http://www.dailygood.org/

Simple Truths, http://www.simpletruths.com/

Thanks this week go to George G, Larry H, the Mission Fed team that supports Soul Food Friday, Family near and far & Friends and Fellow Community Members on this little blue planet…

Pay it Forward!

Love,

Neville

Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become.

Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.
~ James Allen

Happy Soul Food Friday!

It is better to give than receive…

Enjoy this link sharing holiday cheer and your SFF for the end of this year

This week:

Humor: UPS Pilots and Maintenance

Obsolescence: Ten Things That Will Eventually Disappear In Our Lifetime

Aspiration: Can we Hold Ourselves to a Higher Standard Than Self-Interest?

Perspective: Putting America’s 16 Trillion Dollar Economy in Global Perspective:

Freedom: Flying with Hawks at Torrey Pines:

Wonder: It’s An Amazing World

Humor: UPS Pilots and Maintenance

After every flight, UPS pilots fill out a form, called a  ‘gripe sheet,’
which tells mechanics about problems with the aircraft.

The mechanics correct the problems, document their repairs
on the form, and then pilots review the gripe sheets before the
next flight.
Never let it be said that ground crews lack a sense of
humor. Here are some actual maintenance complaints submitted by UPS pilots
(marked with a P) and the solutions recorded (marked with an S) by maintenance engineers.

P: Left inside main tire almost needs replacement.
S: Almost replaced left inside main tire.

P: Test flight OK, except auto-land very rough.
S: Auto-land not installed on this aircraft.

P: Something loose in cockpit
S: Something tightened in cockpit

P: Dead bugs on windshield.
S: Live bugs on back-order.

P: Autopilot in altitude-hold mode produces a 200 feet per minute descent
S: Cannot reproduce problem on ground.

P: Evidence of leak on right main landing gear.
S: Evidence removed.

P: DME volume unbelievably loud.
S: DME volume set to more believable level.

P: Friction locks cause throttle levers to stick.
S: That’s what friction locks are for.

P: IFF inoperative in OFF mode
S: IFF always inoperative in OFF mode.

P: Suspected crack in windshield.
S: Suspect you’re right.

P: Number 3 engine missing.
S: Engine found on right wing after brief search

P: Aircraft handles funny.
S: Aircraft warned to straighten up, fly right and be serious.

P: Target radar hums.
S: Reprogrammed target radar with lyrics.

P: Mouse in cockpit.
S: Cat installed.

And the best one for last

P: Noise coming from under instrument panel. Sounds like a
midget pounding on something with a hammer.
S: Took hammer away from the midget.

Obsolescence: Ten Things That Will Eventually Disappear In Our Lifetime

Whether these changes are good or bad depends in part on how we adapt to them.

But, ready or not, here they come…

1. The Post Office
   Get ready to imagine a world without the post office. They are so deeply in
   financial trouble that there is probably no way to sustain it long term. Email,
   FedEx, and UPS have just about wiped out the minimum revenue needed to
   keep the post office alive. Most of your mail every day is junk mail and bills.
2. The Check
   Britain is already laying the groundwork to do away with check by 2018. It
   costs the financial system billions of dollars a year to process checks. Plastic
   cards and online transactions will lead to the eventual demise of the check.
   This plays right into the death of the post office. If you never paid your bills
   by mail and never received them by mail, the post office would absolutely
   go out of business.
3. The Newspaper
   The younger generation simply doesn’t read the newspaper. They certainly
   don’t subscribe to a daily delivered print edition. That may go the way of the
   milkman and the laundry man. As for reading the paper online, get ready to
   pay for it. The rise in mobile Internet devices and e-readers has caused all
   the newspaper and magazine publishers to form an alliance. They have met
   with Apple, Amazon, and the major cell phone companies to develop a model
   for paid subscription services.
4. The Book
   You say you will never give up the physical book that you hold in your hand
   and turn the literal pages I said the same thing about downloading music from
   iTunes. I wanted my hard copy CD. But I quickly changed my mind when I
   discovered that I could get albums for half the price without ever leaving home
   to get the latest music. The same thing will happen with books. You can browse
   a bookstore online and even read a preview chapter before you buy. And the
   price is less than half that of a real book. And think of the convenience! Once
   you start flicking your fingers on the screen instead of the book, you find that
   you are lost in the story, can’t wait to see what happens next, and you forget
   that you’re holding a gadget instead of a book.
5. The Land Line Telephone
   Unless you have a large family and make a lot of local calls, you don’t need it
   anymore. Most people keep it simply because they’ve always had it. But you
   are paying double charges for that extra service. All the cell phone companies
   will let you call customers using the same cell provider for no charge against
   your minutes.
6. Music
   This is one of the saddest parts of the change story. The music industry is
   dying a slow death. Not just because of illegal downloading. It’s the lack of
   innovative new music being given a chance to get to the people who would
   like to hear it. Greed and corruption is the problem. The record labels and
   the radio conglomerates are simply self-destructing. Over 40% of the music
   purchased today is “catalogue items,” meaning traditional music that the public
   is familiar with. Older established artists. This is also true on the live concert
   circuit. To explore this fascinating and disturbing topic further, check out the
   book, “Appetite for Self-Destruction” by Steve Knopper, and the video
   documentary, “Before the Music Dies.”
7. Television Revenues
   To the networks are down dramatically. Not just because of the economy.
   People are watching TV and movies streamed from their computers. And
   they’re playing games and doing lots of other things that take up the time
   that used to be spent watching TV. Prime time shows have degenerated down
   to lower than the lowest common denominator. Cable rates are skyrocketing
   and commercials run about every 4 minutes and 30 seconds. I say good
   riddance to most of it. It’s time for the cable companies to be put out of
   our misery. Let the people choose what they want to watch online and
   through Netflix.
8. The “Things” That You Own
   Many of the very possessions that we used to own are still in our lives, but
   we may not actually own them in the future. They may simply reside in
   “the cloud.” Today your computer has a hard drive and you store your
   pictures, music, movies, and documents. Your software is on a CD or DVD,
   and you can always re-install it if need be. But all of that is changing.
   Apple, Microsoft, and Google are all finishing up their latest “cloud services.”
   That means that when you turn on a computer, the Internet will be built into
   the operating system. So, Windows, Google, and the Mac OS will be tied
   straight into the Internet. If you click an icon, it will open something in the
   Internet cloud. If you save something, it will be saved to the cloud. And you
   may pay a monthly subscription fee to the cloud provider. In this virtual world,
   you can access your music or your books, or your whatever from any laptop
   or handheld device. That’s the good news. But, will you actually own any of
   this “stuff” or will it all be able to disappear at any moment in a big “Poof?”
   Will most of the things in our lives be disposable and whimsical? It makes
   you want to run to the closet and pull out that photo album, grab a book from
   the shelf, or open up a CD case and pull out the insert.
9. Joined Handwriting (Cursive Writing) 
   Once called Penmanship. Already gone in some schools who no longer teach
   “joined handwriting” because nearly everything is done now on computers or
   keyboards of some type (pun not intended)
10. Privacy
    If there ever was a concept that we can look back on nostalgically, it would
    be privacy. That’s gone. It’s been gone for a long time anyway.. There are
    cameras on the street, in most of the buildings, and even built into your
    computer and cell phone. But you can be sure that 24/7, “They” know who
    you are and where you are, right down to the GPS coordinates, and the
    Google Street View. If you buy something, your habit is put into a zillion
    profiles, and your ads will change to reflect those habits.. “They” will try
    to get you to buy something else. Again and again and again.

All we will have left that which can’t be changed… are our “Memories” and even these are selective…

Can we Hold Ourselves to a Higher Standard Than Self-Interest?

By Will Marre

Business is bad. I am not referring to financial performance but rather moral performance. Capitalism is amoral. It has no intrinsic moral agenda. You can start an enterprise that makes boatloads of money selling cigarettes or selling treatments for the lung cancer it causes.  Actually both these business models are currently thriving. And as far as most Wall Street investors are concerned there is no distinction between a business whose product is designed to kill people and a business whose products are designed to save people. How did we get here?According to the patron saint economist of modern capitalism, Milton Friedman, the purpose of business is to make money as efficiently as possible. And that’s it. According to his doctrine the only ethical obligation a business leader has is to his investors. Friedman proclaimed the glories of amoral self-interest in a series of PBS programs that aired in the 1970s.  His ideas transformed our MBA schools and sanctified the dogma that “greed is good.” So how is this working for us? Obviously some people at the top of the capitalism food-chain are doing spectacularly well. Today’s radically materialistic capitalism  also justifies workplaces in which employees have no job security, no earned retirement, and are continually told to do more with less. Business leaders have harnessed tools of modern technology to keep their employees working from dawn to midnight. We are told that our life-balance has become both silly and irrelevant in our highly competitive economy. So get over it…“do whatever it takes.” Yet many of the same companies make so much money that they literally don’t know what to do with it. So activist investors insist leaders use the profits you gave your nights and weekends for to buy back their company’s stock. This is simply a magic trick to try to temporarily increase the stock price so that short-term investors can cash out. How could this happen? I spent over three decades advising CEOs and executives of large publicly traded corporations. So I believe I have an answer to how it happened. It’s called Hard Power. Here’s how it works. Brain research that correlates personality types with neural networks reveal that the mental model of highly competitive people tends to focus on power, status, control and self-interest.   The areas of the brain that evaluate stimulus and drive action of hard-charging, self-focused people light up when opportunities for personal gain are detected. This focus is a significant advantage in hierarchical organizations. Since hierarchies concentrate power in the few people at the top, people who are power-driven tend to succeed. Put simply, most business organizations are rigged to reward self-centered, status seeking, goal-focused individuals. This is not a criticism. It is a description of reality. The advantage of highly competitive people is their mastery of hard power. Hard power concentrates energy on goal setting and accountability. The most motivating goals are tangible…achievements that can be easily measured. And there is nothing easier to measure than money. As long as we cling to the insane idea that the primary purpose of business is to make money hard power leaders will define our future. I am concerned that the myopia of hard power thinking will make the world more dangerous and less sustainable than it needs to be. Technology is the wildcard. Today, technology allows the destructive forces of what used to take thousands of people to do to be concentrated in the hands of very few. I’m not just referring to terrorism but also the fate of our entire international financial system, energy grid, clean air, plentiful water, healthy oceans and all of the rest that underlie our quality of life. It’s simple. We are more interdependent now than ever before in history and the flaws of hard power and an amoral view of business creates unprecedented personal vulnerability. So, what’s the solution? Well it’s not soft power. Soft power is rooted in co-operation for mutual benefit. It relies on empathy, collaboration, inclusiveness, open-mindedness and an active interest in the well-being of others. Personality studies of soft power oriented people show they are most interested in helping others achieve their goals. They also want to relieve suffering and solve problems.  In most organizations soft power people are found in mid-level management. Hard power people make the goals and soft power people help them achieve them. Soft power people remain stuck in middle management because they are lousy at speaking up, advocating for their self-interest and pressing their agenda. Often they feel victimized and overwhelmed. Many soft power people fall into the trap of “learned helplessness,” mal-adapting to an ever-decaying status quo. It shouldn’t surprise you that developmental brain research indicates that most men are primarily wired to use hard power and that women’s brains are designed to rely on soft power. Although we don’t know for sure, it appears that about midway through gestation a typical male baby’s developing brain becomes bathed in testosterone which pre-wires later cognitive development for linear thinking, competitiveness, self-interest and struggles with impulse control. Female baby’s brains are bathed in estrogen which appears to trigger their brains to develop more holistic thinking patterns, long-term thinking, empathy and collaborative intelligence. (Although this is not settled neuro-science it sure explains a lot.) When you look at the design advantages of a typical female brain; holistic, long-term, empathetic and collaborative, you can immediately recognize the inherent leadership advantages these abilities bring to modern business organizations. Unfortunately, I found that much of the time these advantages go unrewarded. That’s because business organizations are defectively designed to reward hard power and exploit soft power. This is not some ivory tower theory. I’ve been successfully helping women advance into the highest levels of business leadership for over two decades. I usually do this through one-on-one leadership development. But it is not enough. I have a front row seat to the advancing descent of un-inspired business leadership and the frustration of aspiring women leaders who were being told that to be successful they must become like men.  Although Sheryl Sandberg has made a great commercial success of her “Lean In” advice to women which is that they should just ‘man up,’ I have yet to speak to an audience of women who believe it is realistic or desirable. So what we have is confusion. It seems that many women aspire to power not to change things but to succeed in the system that is giving us the world we already have. I am concerned that I do not hear often enough the idea that if women ran things, things would be better. There seems to be a wavering confidence in the unique mindset that women bring to setting higher goals, a balanced work-life and accepting the mantle of moral authority. I believe that we are at a major turning point. The purpose of business can be forever elevated as a means to improve the quality of life of everyone–customers, employees, suppliers and communities.  In a sane and sustainable world, profits should be a byproduct of genuine value creation.  I believe that women are naturally designed to be the new voice of business leadership. Not one that mimics the shortcomings of hard power but rather the amplifier of Smart Power.  Smart Power is the synthesis of the strengths of results-focused hard power and human-focused soft power. So no, I am not advocating for all women leadership teams. The best leadership teams I coach have a healthy balance of strong men and women who respect each other’s values and viewpoints in the pursuit of human-centered innovation…value that matters to people. I am not an unrealistic dreamer.  A great team of women clients and I recently led our first Leadership SPA (Smart Power Academy) for 33 women leaders from major organizations.  It was designed to be visionary and career changing as well as practical and realistic. What happened was something far greater than I anticipated.  The combined energy of these leaders created individual strategic aspirations and career roadmaps far more powerful than anything I could’ve anticipated. This same team of women is getting together in a few days to forge a path forward. I don’t exactly know what the future will bring but what I do know is that as a global society we simply cannot keep doing what we have been doing. And I sincerely believe this. To go in a higher direction we need women leaders to bring their vision forward and insist that we hold ourselves to a higher standard than self-interest. There is no better time than right now. Putting America’s 16 Trillion Dollar Economy in Global Perspective: With 4.4% of the world’s population, the U.S. produced 22.3% of world GDP in 2012. For example, California would tie with Italy as the 9th largest economy in the world, and produces the same economic output with 37% fewer people See a map here: http://www.businessinsider.com/countries-vs-us-states-gdp-map-2014-2?utm_content=buffer3b18f&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Freedom: Flying with Hawks at Torrey Pines: Astounding photography and what an experience. Wonder: It’s An Amazing World Stay Amazed! Mind Blown Enjoy this Holiday Card from all of us at Mission Fed: Thanks this week go to Jeff B, Popeh Z, Larry H, Will M, Brad W, Jehangir J and the Mission Fed team.   Pay it Forward and Happy Holidays! Love, Neville “My mission: “To respectfully understand, passionately inspire, and authentically transform high performance and high fulfillment growth for like-spirited individuals and organizations” –Neville

“There are only two ways to live your life.
One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle.”— Albert Einstein:

This week:

Your Holiday List: If you are working on the Holiday list, this one should give you some inspiration

 Rady Children’s Holiday of Miracles: Serve our Youth in America’s Finest and Kindest City

 Banks Supporting their Communities-This is Cool

 Wash Me for Cancer:

 Honor Our Elders: Here’s to resilience and a youthful state of mind and the inspiration it brings!

Enjoy this Holiday Card from All of Us at Mission Fed

 Your Holiday List:

If you are working on the Holiday list, this one should give you some inspiration

“The most incredible thing about miracles
is that they happen.”— G.K. Chesterton

Rady Children’s Holiday of Miracles:

Serve our Youth in America’s Finest and Kindest City

In the last week, we were blessed to support the Rady Children’s Holiday of Miracle Campaign for the 5^th year in a row.

I will never forget the day we had to take an ambulance from our pediatrician to Children’s Hospital when our child couldn’t breathe.

In a single breath everything changes…

Every year Rady Children’s provides care to 200,000 kids as the go-to-facility for 88% of the kids in San Diego (and many from Orange and Riverside) county, where more than 50% of the families do not have the wherewithal to pay for their care, yet no one is turned away….

Mission Fed does a matching pledge every year, our staff runs the phone banks, and we get on the air to help create awareness of and support for this important cause which we helped re-imagine and rename 5 years ago.

The day we were in doing the live radio-thon, there were 294 kids in the hospital, 28 for cancer or blood disorders, 66 in the medical/surgical unit, 23 in neonatal intensive care, 33 in critical care to mention just a few, and 270 children had visited the ER in the last 24 hours!

We got to hear Athena’s story about her daughter Eve (pictured below), and as a result of the Mission Fed matching offer a KyXy listener named Geneva made a $1,000 call in pledge, along with so many other generous callers.

Through the collective support of our 5^th Annual Holiday of Miracles Radiothon we raised $284,000, which brings the grand total to more than $1,384,000 in five years!

These funds go to support the highest and greatest needs of the hospital which include patient care, technology, equipment and research.

Thanks to all of you that do great work to help our kids stay safe and well, and to the CBS Radio team that puts energy and passion into amplifying this cause every year.

Examples of partnership like this validate that we are indeed America’s Finest and Kindest City!

If you would like to make a tax deductible contribution, before the campaign ends this week , please visit www.KyXy.com

Ways To Donate: Phone: 1.800.258.0007

www.helpsdkids.org/holidayofmiracles

Banks Supporting their Communities- This is Cool

by Paul Greeley

How do you feel about banks?

I know, not a subject that stirs deep emotion. If you feel anything, it might be irritation every time you have to withdraw your cash and you have to pay that $3 fee when you can’t find your bank’s ATM.

And what about bank advertising? Seen any good bank TV ads lately? Yeah, I know.

But here’s something different from TD Bank. It selected 24 mostly random customers and offered them an average amount of $30,000 each to go out and do something good for their community. Start now and you have 24 hours.

What would you do with the money?

Wash me for Cancer:

(a) WASH ME?  or

(b) Do a  pretty drawing?

THIS is SCOTT WADE. Check out what he does with the

dirty cars by carefully and artfully removing portions of the dirt.

According to his web site, he lives real close to a dirt road in San Marcos , Texas .

Scott Wade Examples

IN  MEMORY . . .

These  are the colors that represent the different cancers. All you are asked  to do is keep this circulating. Even if it’s to one more person. In  memory of anyone you know that has been struck by  cancer.

A Candle Loses Nothing by  Lighting Another Candle
Please Keep This Candle  Going!

Honor Our Elders:

Here’s to resilience a youthful state of mind and the inspiration it brings!

Growing Bolder

Enjoy this Holiday Card from All of Us at Mission Fed

 Thanks this week go to the Mission Fed in Red Crew, the CBS Radio team, the Rady Children’s team, Robin M, Scott D, Larry H, all the youth that keep us young, as well as all our elders that teach us how to live, love, learn and leave a legacy!

Pay it Forward. You Can’t Take it With YOU…

Love,

Neville

“Love your enemies and you won’t have any…”