Your Soul Food for the week of the Vernal Equinox: Better Living, Better Parenting & a Better Life @ Work as We Move Into Spring!

Happy Soul Food Friday As We Spring Forward!

“Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.


This week:

Better Living, Better Parenting & a Better Life @ Work as We Move Into Spring

HAPPY SPRING EQUINOX!
In the Northern Hemisphere, the March equinox (aka spring equinox or vernal equinox) occurs when the Sun crosses the equator line, heading north in the sky. This event marks the start of spring in the northern half of the globe. After this date, the Northern Hemisphere begins to be tilted more toward the Sun, resulting in increasing daylight hours and warming temperatures.

This year the Spring Equinox occurs on March 20th. May you find rejuvenation as we start a new season.

Better Living-


People Who Adopt This Simple Habit in 2021 Have Very High Emotional Intelligence- Inc:
Call it the ‘Oprah Winfrey rule.’
Parallel versus Convergent…

People Who Adopt This Simple Habit in 2021 Have Very High Emotional Intelligence | Inc.com

Better Parenting-

I Was Constantly Arguing With My Child. Then I Learned the “TEAM” Method of Calmer Parenting- Time:

Three years ago, I sat at the Cancun airport in a state of paralysis. I stared outside, trying to figure out if what I had just witnessed could possibly be true. Could parenting be that effective? Could children be that helpful and respectful? More to the point: Has Western culture forgotten the best way to parent?

How to Be a Calmer Parent And Stop Arguing With Your Kids | Time

Want to Raise Successful Kids? Science Says Make Sure They Are Doing This Right Now-Inc:

Want to Raise Successful Kids? Science Says Make Sure They’re Doing This Right Now | Inc.com

Tough Love Truth for a better life @ work-


9 Things You Should Never Say to Your Boss- Medium:

There are just some things you shouldn’t say to your boss. Even if you do say them, they have to be said in the right setting or they aren’t received the intended way. I’m not sitting on a high horse here — I’ve made all these mistakes myself. I write this to ensure you don’t do the same!

9 Things You Should Never Say to Your Boss | by Max Klein | Mar, 2021 | Medium

“If two men on the same job agree all the time, then one is useless. If they disagree all the time, then both are useless.”- — Darryl F. Zanuck

The 5 Types of Mentors You Need in Your Life:

Everyone can use a mentor. Scratch that — as it turns out, we could all use five mentors.

“The best mentors can help us define and express our inner calling…”

The 5 types of mentors you need in your life | (ted.com)

Make peace and change your life-

My mission is simple. I want to help successful people achieve positive, lasting change in behavior; for themselves, their people, and their teams. I want to help you make your life a little better. Thank you for subscribing! Life is good. Make Peace and Change Your Life! In my walk through life I’ve discovered a number of main themes that require acceptance. These are just facts of life, and we cannot change them.   Marshall Goldsmith Mar 16 Comment Share

Have you ever tried to change your boss? Your partner? The guy on the road who cut you off? How’d that work out for you? Did that person hear, understand, and magically start doing things your way and suddenly all was right with the world again? Or did you become frustrated, irritable, and angry at their lack of attention to your plan for how people, more specifically they themselves, should behave? Think about it for a minute – I’d wager that your episodes of non-acceptance trigger more bad behaviors than the fallout from just about anything else you do.

Here’s an even harder question: have you ever tried to change something about yourself that was out of your control? I have. It was a fruitless and vain attempt, which I’ll tell you now had a happy ending not because I changed what I couldn’t change, but because I made peace with it.

At 26, I was married to my first and only wife, Lyda. I was pursuing a doctorate in organizational behavior at the University of California, Los Angeles. Since high school I had been a folliclly challenged man, but back then I was loath to admit it. Each morning I would spend several minutes in front of the bathroom mirror carefully arranging the wispy blond stands of hair still remaining on the top of my head. I’d smooth the hairs forward from back to front, then curve them to a point in the middle of my forehead, forming a pattern that looked vaguely like a laurel wreath. Then I’d walk out into the world with my ridiculous comb-over, convinced I looked normal like everyone else.

When I visited my barber, I’d give specific instructions on how to cut my hair. One morning I dozed off in the chair, so he trimmed my hair too short, leaving insufficient foliage on the sides to execute my comb-over regimen. I could have panicked and put on a hat for a few weeks, waiting for the strands to grow back. But as I stood in front of the mirror later that day, staring at my reflected image, I said to myself, “Face it, you’re bald. It’s time you accepted it.”

That’s the moment when I decided to shave the few remaining hairs on the top of my head and live my life as a bald man. It wasn’t a complicated decision and it didn’t take great effort to accomplish. A short trim at the barber from then on. But in many ways, it is still the most liberating change I’ve made as an adult. It made me happy, at peace with my appearance.

I’m not sure what triggered my acceptance of a new way of self-grooming. Perhaps I was horrified at the prospect of starting every day with this routine forever. Or maybe it was the realization that I wasn’t fooling anyone. The reason doesn’t matter. The real achievement is that I decided to make peace with what is. And it instantly made my life better!

In my walk through life I’ve discovered a number of main themes that require acceptance. These are just facts of life, and we cannot change them. Here are just a few, so you can get the idea:

1. Our physical body – height, hair growth, body type (there’s always plastic surgery, but you get the idea)
2. The weather
3. Traffic
4. Other people
5. The fact that decision makers have the power to make decisions – and we are not always the decision makers!
6. The fact that change requires consistent effort; it is a process, not an overnight event. If we don’t put in the effort, we won’t change.
7. That misfortunes are often the result of fate or bad luck, they are not because that we are bad people or that someone is trying to “get us”.

There are many, many more things about life that we need to accept if we’re going to be happy. Take a moment to think about it. Can you name some for yourself? What are they? Make a list, take a breath, and let them go. And remember, change requires consistent effort, so don’t be surprised if you have to do this again tomorrow!

Thank you for reading! I hope this is helpful to you and those around you.

Life is good. Marshall.      

The Hippopotamus and the Tortoise
Much of life can never be explained but only witnessed

NAIROBI (AFP) – A baby hippopotamus that survived the
tsunami waves on the Kenyan coast has formed a bond
with a giant male century-old tortoise in an
animal facility in the port city of Mombasa , officials said

The hippopotamus, nicknamed Owen and weighing about
300 kilograms (650 pounds), was swept down Sabaki
River into the Indian Ocean , then forced back to shore

when tsunami waves struck the Kenyan coast on
December 26, before wildlife rangers rescued him.
“It is incredible. A-less-than- a-year-old hippo has adopted a
male tortoise, about a century old, and the tortoise seems to be
very happy with being a ‘mother’,” ecologist Paula Kahumbu,
who is in charge of Lafarge Park , told AFP.
“After it was swept away and lost its mother, the hippo was traumatized.
It had to look for something to be a surrogate mother.
Fortunately, it landed on the tortoise and established a strong bond.
They swim, eat, and sleep together,” the ecologist added.
“The hippo follows the tortoise exactly the way it followed its mother.
If somebody approaches the tortoise, the hippo becomes aggressive,
as if protecting its biological mother,” Kahumbu added.
“The hippo is a young baby, he was left at a very tender age and
by nature, hippos are social animals that like to stay with
their mother for four years,” he explained
.

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away.”

This is a real story that shows that our differences don’t matter much when we need the comfort of another.
We could all learn a lesson from these two creatures.
“Look beyond the differences and find a way to walk the path together.”


Save the Earth… it’s the only planet with chocolate.

“Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.

NCPC Successful Board Series Wed March 24th 2021:
Click Here for event:

Thanks this week go to David D, Marshall G & Larry H.

Please pay it forward…

Love,

Neville

You must take personal responsibility.

You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” – Jim Rohn

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Your Soul Food for the Week of International Women’s Day 2021: Did You Know…

Happy Soul Food Friday!
This week:

Did you know?

  • Nearly 60 percent of women around the world work in the informal economy, earning less, saving less, and at greater risk of falling into poverty
  • Women earn 23% less than men globally
  • Women occupy only 24% of parliamentary seats worldwide
  • 1 in 3 have experiences physical or sexual violence and 200 M of girls-women have suffered genital mutilation

How might you help forge a gender equal world?

  • Celebrate women’s achievement
  • Raise awareness against bias
  • Take action for equality

International Women’s Day – March 8, 2021
#ChooseToChallenge #IWD2021
International Women’s Day 2021

The Women Are Coming!
The Women Are Coming – YouTube

United Nations Intl. Women’s Day-
Women in Leadership: Achieving an equal future in a COVID-19 world:

Women stand at the front lines of the COVID-19 crisis, as health care workers, caregivers, innovators, community organizers and as some of the most exemplary and effective national leaders in combating the pandemic. The crisis has highlighted both the centrality of their contributions and the disproportionate burdens that women carry.
International Women’s Day | United Nations

Our Organizational Commitment:
The past year has highlighted our country’s history of injustice and inequality, as well as our continued need to invest in underserved and minority communities. The credit union industry has always done what’s best for its members and communities. We grow and become stronger as our community grows and becomes stronger. Community has always been part of Mission Fed’s DNA. Safe, affordable financial services are essential to making a better life for everyone.

We also celebrate the accomplishments of many women throughout our San Diego community and history who have voiced the obstacles that women have endured and continue to face in order to fight for a future where gender equity is the norm as well. We need to be just as committed to advocacy as we are to providing financial services. Engagement leads to change.

Thanks this week go to all the amazing women I am blessed to have in my life!
Love All,
Neville

We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.” —Anais Nin

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Your Soul Food for Friday March 5, 2021: Art has not only been in step with history, but has led the way!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:
Art has not only been in step with history, but has led the way!

  • There is a story we have been afraid to see and hear about ourselves- Jane Fonda
  • Norman Lear has held up a mirror to American society and changed the way we look at it. 

The Introspection Illusion
What Do Women – Especially Black women — Bring to Public Safety?
+ History Repeats Itself…

“You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—
with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”
Admiral James Stockdale

Life Imitates Art & Art Imitates Life-

If My Heart is Open and I Look Beneath the Surface, I Feel Kinship
There is a story we have been afraid to see and hear about ourselves…
Jane Fonda Receives the Cecil B. DeMille Award – 2021 Golden Globes – YouTube

Norman Lear Receives the Carol Burnett Award – 2021 Golden Globes
Norman Lear has always been an icon ahead of his time. Lear was among the first seven television pioneers inducted into the Television Academy Hall of Fame in 1984. He received five Emmy Awards (two in 1971, one each in 1972 and 1973, and one in 2019)[39] and two Peabody Awards (a personal award in 1977 and an individual award in 2016). He received the Humanist Arts Award from the American Humanist Association in 1977. He has a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. In 1980, he received the Golden Plate Award of the American Academy of Achievement, and in 1999, President Bill Clinton awarded the National Medal of Arts to Lear, noting, “Norman Lear has held up a mirror to American society and changed the way we look at it.” 
Norman Lear Receives the Carol Burnett Award – 2021 Golden Globes – YouTube

Understanding Ourselves Better-

The Introspection Illusion:
It’s easy to spot bias in other people, especially those with whom we disagree.  But it’s not so easy to recognize our own biases.  Psychologist Emily Pronin says it’s partly because of our brain architecture. This week on Hidden Brain, we explore what Pronin calls the introspection illusion.
The Double Standard – Hidden Brain – Omny.fm

JOIN A CONVERSATION ABOUT GENDER, RACE & VIOLENCE IN AMERICAN POLICING:
What do women – especially Black women — bring to public safety? What are the barriers to recruitment/retention? What are remedies for change?
Women in Blue- Gender, race and violence in American policing. Tickets, Tue, Mar 23, 2021 at 5:30 PM | Eventbrite

Self-care-

We are all the CEO of Our Own Life-Pandemic Self-Care for CEOs: Rituals, Running and Cognitive Restructuring from Harvard Business School
Pandemic Self-Care for CEOs: Rituals, Running, and Cognitive Restructuring – HBS Working Knowledge

History Repeats Itself:

Thanks this week go to Ron M, Larry H & All of you that read this far…

Please pay it forward!
Love,
Neville

“Lean out in your own way to make a difference in your community,
so that others are inspired to stand up or go out on a limb for what matters”–Neville

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Your Soul Food for Friday February 26, 2021: We are All in the Same Storm, but Not in the Same Boat- The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:
We are All in the Same Storm, but Not in the Same Boat

The Good:
Let’s Do Science on Mars with Charles B
Stories for Change- Fostering Equity, Diversity and Inclusion
Claudette Colvin: The woman who refused to give up her bus seat – nine months before Rosa Parks
The Women (Leaders) Are Coming (Here)!

The Bad:
A Proclamation on Remembering the 500,000 Americans Lost to COVID-19
Trying to Honor the Loss
Interactive Map Tracks COVID-19 total cases hardest hit areas in San Diego County

The Ugly:
COVID-19 is affecting Black, Indigenous, Latinx and other People of Color the Most
The Scars of Solitary

Getting Real-

A Proclamation on Remembering the 500,000 Americans Lost to COVID-19

As of this week during the dark winter of the COVID-19 pandemic, more than 500,000 Americans have now died from the virus. That is more Americans who have died in a single year of this pandemic than in World War I, World War II, and the Vietnam War combined. On this solemn occasion, we reflect on their loss and on their loved ones left behind. We, as a Nation, must remember them so we can begin to heal, to unite, and find purpose as one Nation to defeat this pandemic.

In their memory, the First Lady and I will be joined by the Vice President and the Second Gentleman for a moment of silence at the White House this evening. I ask all Americans to join us as we remember the more than 500,000 of our fellow Americans lost to COVID-19 and to observe a moment of silence at sunset. I also hereby order, by the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, that the flag of the United States shall be flown at half-staff at the White House and on all public buildings and grounds, at all military posts and naval stations, and on all naval vessels of the Federal Government in the District of Columbia and throughout the United States and its Territories and possessions until sunset February 26, 2021. I also direct that the flag shall be flown at half-staff for the same period at all United States embassies, legations, consular offices, and other facilities abroad, including all military facilities and naval vessels and stations. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty-second day of February, in the year of our Lord two thousand twenty-one, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and forty-fifth.      -JOSEPH R. BIDEN JR.

Remembering 500,000 And Trying to Honor the Loss:
More than 500,000 Americans dead from Covid. More than 500,000 lives cut short by a pandemic the rest of us will never forget.
Journalists are stretching for words and illustrations and imagery to meet the magnitude of the moment.
Why CNN aired a national memorial service for 500,000 lives lost from Covid-19 – CNN

COVID-19 is affecting Black, Indigenous, Latinx and other People of Color the Most:
Nationwide, Black people have died at 1.4 times the rate of white people
The COVID Racial Data Tracker is a collaboration between the Covid Tracking Project and the Boston University Center for Antiracist Research
The COVID Racial Data Tracker | The COVID Tracking Project

Locally…
Interactive Map Tracks COVID-19 total cases, hardest hit areas in San Diego County:
Vaccine Inequity holds true locally as well as nationally
HEAT MAP: Interactive map tracks COVID-19 total cases, hardest hit areas in San Diego County (10news.com)

Stories for Change-
Fostering Equity, Diversity and Inclusion
Stories for Change (10news.com)

Claudette Colvin: the woman who refused to give up her bus seat – nine months before Rosa Parks:
It was 2 March 1955, and an unusually humid spring day when students at Booker T Washington high school, a segregated school in the heart of the Jim Crow south, had been let off early to make their way home. A group boarded a segregated public bus, which wound through segregated neighborhoods gradually filling up with passengers.
A 15-year-old gifted Black student, with aspirations to become a civil rights attorney, took a window seat near the exit door. She gazed outdoors until the white driver instructed her to give up her seat for a white passenger standing nearby. Claudette Colvin refused…
Claudette Colvin: the woman who refused to give up her bus seat – nine months before Rosa Parks | Society | The Guardian

Feeling Sequestered and Quarantined? Try 44 Years in a Concrete Cell-
The Scars of Solitary:
Woodfox was a member of the Angola 3, a group of men wrongfully accused of murder. Now he marks his 5th anniversary of his freedom.
Five years on from his release, he might chuckle a little to himself at the irony of today. This may be his birthday and the anniversary of his freedom, but he will spend the day in physical isolation along with most Americans who, courtesy of Covid, have spent the past year getting a tiny taste of what life in solitary really means…
The scars of solitary: Albert Woodfox on freedom after 44 years in a concrete cell | World news | The Guardian

Meanwhile, On a Positive Note and Tribute to Innovation & Teamwork-
Let’s Do Science on Mars with Charles B.!

Author’s note: I started the Qualcomm robotics program.  Our goal was to use a cell phone chip for flight control in a commercial drone.
JPL saw our drone demonstration at a CES trade show and asked if they could use our board for a helicopter on Mars.  I thought it was a crank call – until they sent a link to a video of a test rotor lifting a weight in their vacuum chamber. A few years, and a bunch of testing later, that board is now on Mars.
Neville asked me to share my thoughts on the landing

Let’s Do Science on Mars:
Humans want to go to Mars and do incredible science, looking for signs of past life.  So, we find a way to pack a lab full of scientific equipment into a one-ton rover.
The trip to Mars is 480 million kilometers, and we only have enough fuel for small course corrections, so we find a way to measure the exact position of Mars for a precise launch.
When we get to Mars, we are going twenty thousand kilometers per hour as we enter the atmosphere, and need to slow down while still guiding the vehicle, so we build a heat shield that can survive the intense temperatures of atmospheric braking while providing directional lift by changing its angle to the atmosphere, allowing us to control our entry path.
Atmospheric braking will not slow us down enough, so we invent a parachute that can deploy at supersonic speeds in the Martian atmosphere.
Communication from Earth to Mars takes 12 minutes, so the vehicle is on its own to find a place to land.  We want to land near an ancient lake, but it has multiple treacherous obstacles, so we design a new guidance system that performs a “divert maneuver”, comparing camera images to preloaded maps and autonomously selecting a good place to land.
We can’t afford the weight of landing gear and ramps, so invent a “jetpack” that hovers over the surface and lowers the rover gently to the ground via cables in a “skycrane maneuver”.
We have a little unused space, so create a small, four-pound helicopter that can fly autonomously on Mars.  It will spin its twin 1.2m blades at 2400 rpm to provide lift in a Martian atmosphere that is only 0.6% the density of that on Earth.  It will be the first heavier-than-air flight on another planet, a “Kitty Hawk” moment.  We need the lightest computer possible, so take a cell phone chip used in Earthbound drones and find a way to make it survive the trip and work on Mars.    The helicopter is a marvel of engineering.   We call the helicopter Ingenuity.
The rover, a product of the human desire for exploration and scientific knowledge, is a testament to our ability to overcome problems when we work together.   We call the rover Perseverance. 

For more information about Perseverance and Ingenuity, please see: https://mars.nasa.gov/mars2020/
To see landing video from Perseverance which is time-aligned with NASA commentary see link
For an article about the Qualcomm chip controlling Ingenuity, see link

The Women Are Coming!
A great vid showing us all the amazing women leaders around the world
The Women Are Coming – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Charles B, ABC 10 News, Larry H, Ron M & Ken D.

Please pay it forward this week
Love,
Neville

“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it” – Rumi

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Your Soul Food Friday for February 19 2021: Being the Change We Want to See

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Being the change we want to see-
Healing the Political Divide- A Path Forward with Arthur C Brooks and the National Conflict Resolution Center
If you are done with the partisan politics and polarization, and want to be part of a path forward for our community and nation, this is a must see, and super thoughtful approach to getting beyond our divisiveness and polarization!
A Path Forward: Healing the Political Divide with Arthur Brooks – YouTube

Texas Man Helps Over 140 Stranded Drivers During Winter Storm Uri: ‘Put Yourself in Their Shoes’
“If I was in that spot, I would beg and hope that somebody would help me, so that’s what I’m doing,” Ryan Sivley said of his kind actions
Texas Man Helps Hundreds of Stranded Drivers During Winter Storm Uri | PEOPLE.com

Village Teacher Wins $1 Million Prize For World’s Most ‘Exceptional’ Educator
Ranjitsinh Disale from India has been honored for finding ways to educate girls whose parents don’t want them to come to school.
An amazing story, particularly with what he chooses to do with the prize money!
What an example…
World’s Most ‘Exceptional’ Teacher Gets $1 Million Prize : Goats and Soda : NPR

    Hey 19! I was way too self-centered at 19 to even consider this Congrats Aysha and thanks for leading with your heart! So proud of you…     Aysha invited you to her fundraiser  
     Aysha’s birthday fundraiser for St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital Fundraiser by Aysha Billimoria for St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital       About the Fundraiser For my birthday this year, I’m asking for donations to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. I’ve chosen this nonprofit because their mission means a lot to me, and I hope you’ll consider contributing as a way to celebrate with me. Every little bit will help me reach my goal. I’ve included information about St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital below. Families never receive a bill from St. Jude for treatment, travel, housing or food – because all a family should worry about is helping their child live. Treatments invented at St. Jude have helped push the overall childhood cancer survival rate from 20% to more than 80% since it opened more than 50 years ago. St. Jude is working to drive the overall survival rate for childhood cancer to 90%, and we won’t stop until no child dies from cancer. St. Jude freely shares the discoveries we make, and every child saved at St. Jude means doctors and scientists worldwide can use that knowledge to save thousands more children. #StJude 100% of your donation goes directly to the nonprofit.   How much would you like to donate?     $5       $20       $50       $100       Other         About the Nonprofit   St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital EIN 62-0646012 Visit Guidestar Page   Families never receive a bill from St. Jude for treatment, travel, housing or food – because all a family should worry about is helping their child live. Treatments invented at St. Jude have helped push the overall childhood cancer survival rate from 20% to more than 80% since it opened more than 50 years ago. St. Jude is working to drive the overall survival rate for childhood cancer to 90%, and we won’t stop until no child dies from cancer. St. Jude freely shares the discoveries we make, and every child saved at St. Jude means doctors and scientists worldwide can use that knowledge to save thousands more children. #StJude  

The Yann Arthus-Bertrand Project: “Earth Seen from the Sky”:
Amazing pictures from all over the world that make you go Aaaah…

Thanks this week go to Steve D, Arthur B, Aysha S-B and Chris B.

Please pay it forward
Love,
Neville

“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it” – Rumi

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Your Soul Food for Friday February 12 and Valentine’s Day Weekend 2021

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:
“It doesn’t matter who you love, where you love, why you love, when you love, or how you love, it only matters THAT you love!”- John Lennon

I’m So Excited!
This will jump start your Valentine’s Day weekend:
Movie stars dancing to…’I’m So Excited!’ – 1Funny.com

Do You Believe in Love? How to Align Your Life with the Most Powerful Force in the Universe:
Do You Believe in Love? How to Align Your Life with the Most Powerful Force in the Universe (craighamiltonglobal.com)

Love is Love-
What are Personal Pronouns and Why Do They Matter?
Because mis-gendering hurts, and using them properly can literally reduce harm & save lives!

In English, whether we realize it or not, people frequently refer to us using pronouns when speaking about us. Often, when speaking of a singular human in the third person, these pronouns have a gender implied — such as “he” to refer to a man/boy or “she” to refer to a woman/girl. These associations are not always accurate or helpful.

Often, people make assumptions about the gender of another person based on the person’s appearance or name. These assumptions aren’t always correct, and the act of making an assumption (even if correct) sends a potentially harmful message — that people have to look a certain way to demonstrate the gender that they are or are not.

What Are Pronouns? Why Do They Matter? — MyPronouns.org Resources on Personal Pronouns

6 Signs of a Wholesome Relationship:
6 Signs of a Wholesome Relationship | by Shirin | Hello, Love | Jan, 2021 | Medium

All You Need Is Love:
All You Need Is Love (Remastered 2009) – YouTube

Thanks this week go to Bob C, Paul C, Megan T, as well as the inimitable lovesters; John, Paul, George & Ringo!
Play it forward with love,
Neville

“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it” – Rumi

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Your Soul Food for Friday February 5 2021: Gratitude, Judgement, Death as an Organizing Principle, The Secret to Success and 51 Spectacular Photos of Our World

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Gratitude- The Gift We Can Avail Ourselves Of In Every Moment!
This classic and beloved short film will reset your mood and help you drop into this moment…
Gratitude: The Short Film by Louie Schwartzberg – YouTube

You can’t be hateful and grateful at the same time and judgement based on fear can often get in the way

Death as an Organizing Principle for Life:
Dr. Danny and Chip help us make sense of the ineffable
The questions we ask ourselves, “create worlds” of our making.
Do the questions you ask yourself contribute to pain and suffering, or do they contribute to your flourishing abundance?
Death as an Organizing Principle for Life. – YouTube

The Secret to Success:
A perspective on what makes one successful in parable form worth considering
The Secret To Success – an eye opening story – YouTube

51 Spectacular Photos of Our World:
Each picture is a meditation all by itself
51 Spectacular Photos of Landscapes, Culture, and Animals (nationalgeographic.com)

Thanks this week go to Eric K, Barb S-B, Danny B & Chip C.
Please Pay it Forward
Love,
Neville

“The meaning of your life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”- Pablo Picasso

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Your Soul Food for January 29 2021: “Love Your Enemies and You Won’t Have Any…”

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:


Family of Black Doctor Who Delivered Kamala Harris Reflects on His Legacy:
What’s really cool about this story is Brad and I went to college together, and I consider him a dear friend to this day, particularly when he kicks my butt playing tennis!
https://www.ktvu.com/news/family-of-black-doctor-who-delivered-kamala-harris-reflects-on-his-legacy

Love Your Enemies- How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt:
Brooks beholds America’s 21st-century tribal feuds — which on a national scale add up to nothing less than a religious war, a clash of faiths and value systems — with a clear, intelligent eye and a hospitable attitude that is rightly focused on the spiritual dimensions of the problem: Only transcendence can open the way to better solutions down the road. The real swamp just now is in the American mind.
“My point is simple: Love and warm heartedness might not change every heart and mind, but they are always worth trying, and they will always make you better off.”
Healing the Divisions in Our Country – The New York Times (nytimes.com)

Arthur Brooks, Healing the Political Divide.  
Thursday, February 11, 2021, 5:00pm PST
This important event is Free and is sponsored by the National Conflict Resolution Center. 

January is Human Trafficking Awareness Month:
You are encouraged to take the Pledge and join a community of activists working to end human trafficking.
Together we can stop the exploitation of our neighbors, our children, and our community. 

   
A commitment to EDUCATE, EMPOWER, & SUPPORT the fight to combat human trafficking in San Diego County.  
For January’s Human Trafficking Awareness Month we encourage you to take the Pledge and join a community of activists working to end human trafficking. Together we can stop the exploitation of our neighbors, our children, and our community.   

Take the Pledge & Get a FREE Decal Sticker!  
“As we mark Human Trafficking Awareness Month, I am grateful to North County Lifeline’s Project LIFE Program and its indispensable partnership to the San Diego Human Trafficking Task Force…Project LIFE partners with our office, the FBI, the community, and all of law enforcement to fight this modern-day slavery all year long.” 
-San Diego County District Attorney Summer Stephan  

As a pledge participant:
1. You will receive an “Ending Trafficking is Within Reach” Pledge Decal Sticker
2. You will be added to North County Lifeline’s website as part of the coalition committed to combatting human trafficking in San Diego County.
3. You will receive an email with resource links and action items to EDUCATE, EMPOWER, & SUPPORT the fight to combat human trafficking.

How did this Pledge come about?
North County Lifeline and REACH Coalition partners launched an “Ending Human Trafficking is Within Reach” Pledge in an effort to increase human trafficking awareness and prevention efforts for January’s Human Trafficking Awareness Month by providing the local community an opportunity to commit to educate, empower, and support the fight to combat human trafficking in San Diego County. The REACH Coalition was created to help address the tragedy of human trafficking in a collaborative way. REACH stands for Recover, Empower, Advocate, Collaborate, and Heal. This task force works to identify and fill gaps in service provision throughout the County and increase the competency of service providers in the fight to combat human trafficking in our community.
Watch NBC7 Episode Series “Stolen” Documentary Series on the sex trafficking of children in San Diego County

Watch North County Lifeline Project LIFE video on Human Trafficking of Youth During COVID-19
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Mood Lifters-

Everyone Should Have An Elephant:
Everyone Should Have an Elephant – YouTube

Birds CAN Dance!
BIRDS can DANCE! – YouTube

Always try to help a friend in need
Believe in Yourself
Study Hard
Laugh Often
Don’t be overly concerned with your weight,
it’s just a number
Always try to see
the glass half full
Meet new people, even if
they look different to you
Remain calm,
even when it seems hopeless
Take lots of naps
Be weird, whenever you have the chance
Love your friends, no matter who they are
Don’t waste food
Relax
Take an occasional risk
Try to have a little fun each day, it’s important
Share a joke with friends
Fall in love with someone…
…and say ‘I love you’ often
Express yourself creatively
Be conscious of your appearance
Always be up for surprises
Love someone with all of your heart
Share with Friends
Watch your step
It will get better
There is always someone who loves you more than you know
Exercise to keep fit
Live up to your name
Seize the moment
Hold on to good friends;
they are few and far between
Indulge in the things you truly love
Cherish every Sunday
At the end of the day… PRAY

…And close your eyes

And smile at least once a day!

When we choose not to focus on what’s missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present…
we experience heaven on earth.” 

Thanks this week go to Brad D, Carl L, Steve D, Don S, & Larry H.
Please pay it forward!
Love,
Neville

“Love your enemies and you won’t have any…”

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Your Soul Food for Friday January 22 2021: Reputation is What Others Think About You. Integrity is What You Think About Yourself!

“Go to nature with no parti pris.
You should not know what your picture is to look like until it is done.
Just see the picture that is coming.”
—JoaquinSorolla

Happy Soul Food Friday,

This week:
Reputation is What Others Think About You.
Integrity is What You Think About Yourself!



“An individual has not started living
until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns
to the broader concerns of all humanity.”
-Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was born on Jan. 15, 1929, and this week marks his 92nd birthday. Each year, this day offers us a reminder to reflect on the important work to which Dr. King devoted his life.
The dream of Martin Luther King Jr. was for the word “united” in United States to truly exist. Inclusion for all, showing compassion to our fellow neighbor, and appreciation of diversity and love are all ideologies behind his activism.
Amidst the increased attention on diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI) this past year, this Martin Luther King Jr. Day is an opportunity to give thought to DEI progress in our country, our communities and our workplaces – and consider how far we have yet to go…

May the MLK holiday be an opportunity for all of us to remember and reaffirm the values Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. lived his life to inspire in all of us, and may they strengthen the moral framework in our personal lives and in our communities. Martin Luther King Jr. Day may only be one day in the year, however we should not forget to show our compassion and practice these values throughout the year.

Think about a way, no matter how small, to be kind to one another and help someone — make a friend laugh, show appreciation to a stranger, pick up trash on the street instead of ignoring it. As Martin Luther King Jr. represented, one person can make a difference.

35th Annual Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Human Dignity Breakfast Keynote with My Dear Friend & Professor Emeritus Starla Lewis:
“See yourself. Be yourself. Be your own self validation”
35th Annual Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Human Dignity Breakfast – YouTube

What If, Instead of Calling People Out, We Called Them In?
Professor Ross tells students when they enroll: “If you need a trigger warning or a safe space, I urge you to drop this class.” “I think we overuse that word ‘trigger’ when really we mean discomfort,” she said. “And we should be able to have uncomfortable conversations.”
What if Instead of Calling People Out, We Called Them In? – The New York Times (nytimes.com)

Want to go deeper?
Ten Percent Happier Podcast with Dan Harris
How to Call People In (Instead of Calling Them Out) with Lorretta Ross
Podcast with Dan Harris — Ten Percent Happier

Thanks this week go to Team Mission Fed, Marcy M, Starla L, & Peter D.
Stay Grace Full!
Love,
Neville

“Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve…
You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.”
– Dr. Martin Luther King

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Your Soul Food for Friday January 15 2020: The Cure for What Divides Us

Happy Soul Food Friday!
This week:

The Cure for What Divides Us with Jon G:

I remember as a child, when my parents were having problems in their marriage, I asked my mom if they were getting divorced. She said, “No because we love each other and when there is love you find a way to work it out.”

Given the horrific events that have happened last week and especially over the last few years, it appears that our country could be headed for a great divorce. A division of irreconcilable differences based on opinions, political views, color, hate and anger. 

But when my son asked me the other day if our country was going to fall apart I said no because I believe deep down love will find a way to overcome all this hate and division. 

Sure, from all the hate spewing on television and social media you might think I’m just being idealistic. But actually it’s not idealism that guides me but truth. I admit that I’m a pessimistic optimist. At first I allow negative events to really affect me but then I have this eternal hope because I know deep down love is all that is, all that we are and all that remains in the end.

Everything else fades away but love endures. 

If love is all that is and all that endures then why is there so much anger and hate? Why do things appear so hopeless? 

Because we live in a world of duality. There is night and day, positive and negative, good and evil, and the ultimate battle between love and fear. 

Right now fear is causing people to look OUTSIDE where they see political and ideological differences and “us” and “them.” This leads to a feeling of separateness which leads to division.

But if we look INSIDE to the soul we realize the truth that we are one. There’s no “us” and “them.” Love is all that is and this leads to a feeling of oneness which leads to healing and unity. 

This is why teams and organizations that love each other also thrive. And teams and organization that are fueled by fear eventually crumble. Fear is draining and love is sustaining.

Fear divides and love unites. 

The fear that is currently dividing our country is the same fear that sabotages marriages, careers, teams and organizations. 

The antidote is the same for all of it and it is love. 

Love is truth. 

Fear (False Evidence Appearing Real) is an allusion, a big lie. 

We can look outside and believe the lie or look inside and know the truth. 

We can allow the lie to continue to divide us over time or we can let the truth inspire us to unite. 

When my mom passed away 14 years ago at the age of 59 her last words were love, love, love. I think in the end we know it’s all that matters. 

But let’s not wait until the end to say it or live it. 

Let’s start today. 

Love, Love, Love!
Jon

Everyone Should Have An Elephant:

Something to warm your heart!

Everyone Should Have an Elephant – YouTube

Colt Clark and the Quarantine Kids Play “Gimme Shelter”:

Simply Adorable

Colt Clark and the Quarantine Kids play “Gimme Shelter” – YouTube

Jewish Music- The Genesis Prize Foundation produced “Jews in Music” to honor outstanding achievements by Jewish individuals in music throughout history:

So Many Greats!

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Guxqt8hLY0vlms0z2VkdXF3pEF7GdU9X/view?pli=1

Mission Fed Holiday Giving Results and Check Presentation to Our Nonprofit Partners:

Thank you San Diego for your generosity of spirit, and co-missioning with us!

https://youtu.be/P5Juda_GkdI

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Louis L & Team Mission Fed
Please pay it forward with civility!
Love,
Neville

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we have learned
here. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and
the acceptance of love back into our hearts.”

— Marianne Williamson

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