Happy Soul Food Friday As We Spring Forward!
“Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.“
Better Living, Better Parenting & a Better Life @ Work as We Move Into Spring
HAPPY SPRING EQUINOX!
In the Northern Hemisphere, the March equinox (aka spring equinox or vernal equinox) occurs when the Sun crosses the equator line, heading north in the sky. This event marks the start of spring in the northern half of the globe. After this date, the Northern Hemisphere begins to be tilted more toward the Sun, resulting in increasing daylight hours and warming temperatures.
This year the Spring Equinox occurs on March 20th. May you find rejuvenation as we start a new season.
People Who Adopt This Simple Habit in 2021 Have Very High Emotional Intelligence- Inc:
Call it the ‘Oprah Winfrey rule.’
Parallel versus Convergent…
I Was Constantly Arguing With My Child. Then I Learned the “TEAM” Method of Calmer Parenting- Time:
Three years ago, I sat at the Cancun airport in a state of paralysis. I stared outside, trying to figure out if what I had just witnessed could possibly be true. Could parenting be that effective? Could children be that helpful and respectful? More to the point: Has Western culture forgotten the best way to parent?
Want to Raise Successful Kids? Science Says Make Sure They Are Doing This Right Now-Inc:
Tough Love Truth for a better life @ work-
9 Things You Should Never Say to Your Boss- Medium:
There are just some things you shouldn’t say to your boss. Even if you do say them, they have to be said in the right setting or they aren’t received the intended way. I’m not sitting on a high horse here — I’ve made all these mistakes myself. I write this to ensure you don’t do the same!
“If two men on the same job agree all the time, then one is useless. If they disagree all the time, then both are useless.”- — Darryl F. Zanuck
The 5 Types of Mentors You Need in Your Life:
Everyone can use a mentor. Scratch that — as it turns out, we could all use five mentors.
“The best mentors can help us define and express our inner calling…”
Make peace and change your life-
| My mission is simple. I want to help successful people achieve positive, lasting change in behavior; for themselves, their people, and their teams. I want to help you make your life a little better. Thank you for subscribing! Life is good. Make Peace and Change Your Life! In my walk through life I’ve discovered a number of main themes that require acceptance. These are just facts of life, and we cannot change them. Marshall Goldsmith Mar 16 |
Have you ever tried to change your boss? Your partner? The guy on the road who cut you off? How’d that work out for you? Did that person hear, understand, and magically start doing things your way and suddenly all was right with the world again? Or did you become frustrated, irritable, and angry at their lack of attention to your plan for how people, more specifically they themselves, should behave? Think about it for a minute – I’d wager that your episodes of non-acceptance trigger more bad behaviors than the fallout from just about anything else you do.
Here’s an even harder question: have you ever tried to change something about yourself that was out of your control? I have. It was a fruitless and vain attempt, which I’ll tell you now had a happy ending not because I changed what I couldn’t change, but because I made peace with it.
At 26, I was married to my first and only wife, Lyda. I was pursuing a doctorate in organizational behavior at the University of California, Los Angeles. Since high school I had been a folliclly challenged man, but back then I was loath to admit it. Each morning I would spend several minutes in front of the bathroom mirror carefully arranging the wispy blond stands of hair still remaining on the top of my head. I’d smooth the hairs forward from back to front, then curve them to a point in the middle of my forehead, forming a pattern that looked vaguely like a laurel wreath. Then I’d walk out into the world with my ridiculous comb-over, convinced I looked normal like everyone else.
When I visited my barber, I’d give specific instructions on how to cut my hair. One morning I dozed off in the chair, so he trimmed my hair too short, leaving insufficient foliage on the sides to execute my comb-over regimen. I could have panicked and put on a hat for a few weeks, waiting for the strands to grow back. But as I stood in front of the mirror later that day, staring at my reflected image, I said to myself, “Face it, you’re bald. It’s time you accepted it.”
That’s the moment when I decided to shave the few remaining hairs on the top of my head and live my life as a bald man. It wasn’t a complicated decision and it didn’t take great effort to accomplish. A short trim at the barber from then on. But in many ways, it is still the most liberating change I’ve made as an adult. It made me happy, at peace with my appearance.
I’m not sure what triggered my acceptance of a new way of self-grooming. Perhaps I was horrified at the prospect of starting every day with this routine forever. Or maybe it was the realization that I wasn’t fooling anyone. The reason doesn’t matter. The real achievement is that I decided to make peace with what is. And it instantly made my life better!
In my walk through life I’ve discovered a number of main themes that require acceptance. These are just facts of life, and we cannot change them. Here are just a few, so you can get the idea:
1. Our physical body – height, hair growth, body type (there’s always plastic surgery, but you get the idea)
2. The weather
4. Other people
5. The fact that decision makers have the power to make decisions – and we are not always the decision makers!
6. The fact that change requires consistent effort; it is a process, not an overnight event. If we don’t put in the effort, we won’t change.
7. That misfortunes are often the result of fate or bad luck, they are not because that we are bad people or that someone is trying to “get us”.
There are many, many more things about life that we need to accept if we’re going to be happy. Take a moment to think about it. Can you name some for yourself? What are they? Make a list, take a breath, and let them go. And remember, change requires consistent effort, so don’t be surprised if you have to do this again tomorrow!
Thank you for reading! I hope this is helpful to you and those around you.
Life is good. Marshall.
The Hippopotamus and the Tortoise
Much of life can never be explained but only witnessed
NCPC Successful Board Series Wed March 24th 2021:
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Thanks this week go to David D, Marshall G & Larry H.
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“You must take personal responsibility.
You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” – Jim Rohn