The Dynamic Tension Between Your Fears and Your Dreams is Your Life! Are You Taking Yourself For Granted?

Happy Soul Food Monday!
After nearly a decade of Soul Food Fridays, I missed last Friday’s deadline (no excuses) so here it is on a Monday instead… 

Are You Taking Yourself For Granted? 

“Things are Way to Urgent to Rush”…
If we are intellectually honest with ourselves, reconciling the urgency of now, with a focus on long-term fundamental and systemic issues is both a challenge and an opportunity that is brutally tough to reconcile.
This piece from the Hopi Elders captures this inherent tension with timeless wisdom and a call for action:

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The Dynamic Tension Between Your Fears and Your Dreams is Your Life!

Our fear and sorrow, left untreated pull us down toward entropy and negative energy, changing the set point for how we experience life.
Our dreams, on the other hand pull us up towards our highest potentiality and greatest gift, changing the frame and by extension shift our capacity to foster generative change.
We live on this pendulum, swinging between these two states and ways of being.
But what is moving the pendulum?

If you created a continuum of ones baseline state, do you find your default setting closer to the Fear-based side, or is top dead center more towards your Dreams/Aspirations/Vision?

Fear/Sorrow
______________________+______________________Dreams/Aspirations/Vision

If all we do is react to problems.
And if we react well to problems.
The best we have is no problems.
But is that the best you deserve out of life?

If emotional management Is a predictive variable (there are others) and your ability to recruit your emotional energy to shift from a fear-based model to a vision-inspired model is a key factor, are you able to harness those emotions to serve your greatest and highest need and that of those around you?

Orienting to what we want to create in life, rather than what problems we are trying to address or eliminate is a fundamental shift in attention, intention and attitude.
Hacking your own life success might well be as much about this internal condition -which we do control- and less about the external conditions over which we don’t have nearly as much control or influence.

Shift happens.
With this systems shift it might even be possible to transmute our deepest wound into our greatest gift?

Spending several days this week with Peter Senge,  http://infed.org/mobi/peter-senge-and-the-learning-organization/ and his talented group including Mette and Roger, as part of a collective impact effort we are doing on the Oceanside Promise has been illuminating as we explored systems thinking models and archetypes, and challenged our implicit beliefs and biases about our world in general and education in particular.

Challenging orthodoxy after all is counter-conventional as Parker Palmer reminds us.

Going deep might be difficult and not the norm.
But perhaps that is where our deepest learning opportunities reside…

The Indo-European root of “to lead” leith, literally means to step across a threshold- and to let go of whatever might limit stepping forward.
Are you ready to take that step?

Here are two pieces to help us navigate this continuum, and yes by popular demand the second link is a repeat from last week, as so many reacted favorably to it and not everyone digests every Soul Food missive.

The first link is a powerful example of transmuting deepest wounds into meaningful gifts for ourselves and others:
The 10 commandments of grief are a powerful counter-cultural antidote to getting bogged down in a problem orientation
https://www.kpbs.org/news/2018/jul/26/san-diego-rabbi-explores-blessing-sorrow-new-book/

The second link reminds us of the power of our Dreams/Aspirations/Vision:
https://www.facemp4.com/video/1732996373400094

Both examples confront reality but elevate humanity!

Thanks this week go to Duane C, Nicole M, and the entire team at the Oceanside Promise as well as Peter S, Mette B and Roger B for their gifted shepherding of the process.

We ARE the ones we have been waiting for
Pay it forward with purpose!
Love,
Neville

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“If you want to change how a person thinks, give up. You cannot change how another thinks.

Give them a tool, the use of which will gradually cause them over time to think differently.” – Buckminster Fuller

Inspiration, Targeted Universalism & the Myth of the Model Minority

This week:

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Happy 100th Birthday Nelson Mandela!

Hope You Took a Moment to Celebrate Mandela Day

“He was just a particularly fine example of humanity. The principles by which he lived his life are universal principles of love, fairness and respect for others.”
—Bishop Tutu

From Convocation to Commencement, from Back to School to Back to Work, Everyone Can Use a Little inspiration:
A lot of school district leaders are calling on me to help set the tone for the start of the school year with everything from keynotes for entire teams to small group sessions.
If I can serve you locally, just reach out to be at: nevilleb@missionfed.com

This is One Great and Inspiring 9 Minute Speech:
Courtesy of Dr. DeRoche at USD
https://www.facemp4.com/video/1732996373400094

Working with the Leadership team of the Oceanside Promise…
We were exposed to a video about Targeted Universalism produced by the Haas Institute at UC Berkeley and then discussed how it fit into what we are trying to accomplish through the Oceanside Promise.
I thought you might find it thought provoking:
https://haasinstitute.berkeley.edu/targeteduniversalism.

Breaking the Myth of the “Model Minority”
Pew Center Study shows Asians Surpass African-American and Latinos in Income Inequality:
Dis-aggregating equity shows the gap between rich and poor in Asian communities & might surprise you…
https://www.wnycstudios.org/story/asians-surpass-african-americans-and-latinos-income-inequality

Thanks this week go to Dr. DeRoche, Nicole M and all the change leaders with the Oceanside Promise & The Takeaway

Set the intention and then create your own future on purpose!
Be the Legacy…

Love,
Neville

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“Difference- The Only thing we have in Common”

Summertime and the Living is Easy…If something’s not to your liking, change your liking!

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We just got back from a family holiday in Greece, the birthplace of democracy and mathematics, medicine and literature, theatre and astronomy, mythology and philosophy:

  • walking in the steps of Socrates at the Acropolis and Agora in Athens
  • visiting the oldest western archeological sites & civilization of the Minoans in Knossos on Crete (at least 1,300 years and some believe civilizations flourished there 7,000 years BEFORE Christ)
  • sailing around Santorini
  • chasing Rhodes scholars
  • exploring Hydra and Mykonos
  • and marveling in natural wonder
  • with a bonus of running into my best friend from college Ricky and his family who live in Missouri and happened to be in Mykonos at the same time we were!

There are no accidents
Awe is indeed the beginning of wisdom, especially when you walk on the earth and explore civilizations that are literally thousands of years old!

A newbie by comparison, Abraham Lincoln’s famous speech in 1863 builds on similar democratic principles as ancient Greece developed; “Four score and seven years ago our fathers brought forth on this continent, a new nation, conceived in Liberty, and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal. Now we are engaged in a great civil war, testing whether that nation, or any nation so conceived and so dedicated, can long endure. …”

One of the best known sentences in the English language, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness” girths this nation’s foundation and moral compass yet…

Fast forward to 2018 and we are still engaged in a great and not so civil war, testing whether this nation or any nation can long endure, challenging what it means to be human, and to what degree we feel responsible for preserving and protecting the dignity of all human life, and all life on our tiny blue planet.

To know and not to do, it not to know…

Whether you stay home and open your mind and heart, travel just a few kilometers away from home base, or are blessed to be able to explore life and societies much further away, travel is great to provide perspective and open your mind to a big, wide world out there. It can help us adjust our ethnocentric sense of terminal uniqueness and bring fresh eyes to old challenges.

We are Rick Steves fans and I love his travel philosophy that follows, which you can apply in your own back yard too by the way…

Rick’s Travel Philosophy:

Travel is freedom… one of the last great sources of legal adventure. Travel is intensified living, with maximum thrills per minute. It’s recess, and we need it. Experiencing the real Europe requires catching it by surprise, going casual…

Affording travel is a matter of priorities. (Make do with the old sofa.) You can travel simply, safely, and comfortably anywhere in Europe for $100 a day plus transportation costs. In many ways, spending more money only builds a thicker wall between you and what you came to see. Europe is a cultural carnival, and time after time, you’ll find that its best acts are free and the best seats are the cheap ones.

A tight budget forces you to travel close to the ground, meeting and communicating with the people. Never sacrifice sleep, nutrition, safety, or cleanliness in the name of budget. Simply enjoy the local-style alternatives to expensive hotels and restaurants.

Extroverts have more fun. If your trip is low on magic moments, kick yourself and make things happen. If you don’t enjoy a place, maybe you don’t know enough about it. Seek the truth. Recognize tourist traps. Give a culture the benefit of your open mind. See things as different but not better or worse. Any culture has much to share.

Of course, travel, like the world, is a series of hills and valleys. Be fanatically positive and militantly optimistic. If something’s not to your liking, change your liking. Travel is addicting. It can make you a happier American, as well as a citizen of the world. Our Earth is home to 7.4 billion equally important people. It’s humbling to travel and find that people don’t envy Americans. Europeans like us, but with all due respect, they wouldn’t trade passports.

Globetrotting destroys ethnocentricity. It helps you understand and appreciate different cultures. Travel changes people. It broadens perspectives and teaches new ways to measure quality of life. Many travelers toss aside their hometown blinders. Their prized souvenirs are the strands of different cultures they decide to knit into their own character. The world is a cultural yarn shop. Back Door Travelers are weaving the ultimate tapestry.

Join in!

–Rick Steves

Earth is home to 8.7 million species (plus or minus 1.3 million) with approximately 1 million species living in the world’s oceans and 91% of ocean species are yet to be classified!
Don’t poop where you eat
Our interdependency with our ecosystem should not be underestimated and here is one story that underscores that reality…

Human Health and the Health of Oceans- The Science and Environmental Hazards Behind Fish Oil Supplements:
Paul Greenberg examines the effects supplements are having on fish populations and the ecosystems of our oceans while we try to boost cardiovascular and brain health…
https://www.npr.org/2018/07/09/627229213/the-science-and-environmental-hazards-behind-fish-oil-supplements

Stay adventurous and enjoy your summer wherever you find yourself and keep up the work on finding yourself!
Thanks to my wife Barbara for investing countless hours in curating an incredible family trip. 

Happy 27th Anniversary Barb!

Love,
Neville

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“Difference- The Only thing we have in Common”

What Good is Independence Without Purpose?

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This week:
Working on Purpose
Many of you know I have been working, with a little help from my friends, on blending the art and science of purpose for well over a year; standing up a Chamber of Purpose, co-chairing a Purpose conference, establishing Purpose awards for our community and finding my purpose while helping others find theirs.

This week enjoy some great links to advance your purpose agenda, both personally and professionally…

Purpose is the Ladder between Matter and Spirit:
https://medium.com/@brandonpeele/purpose-is-the-ladder-between-matter-and-spirit-75866bfb0035

BlackRock CEOs Annual Letter -from the Largest Hedge Fund on the Planet!
https://www.blackrock.com/corporate/investor-relations/larry-fink-ceo-letter

If we were to be a Purpose Sentinel City…
http://www.ensouled.life/sentinel-city-project.html

The Power of Purpose Driven Companies
https://bit.ly/2z5k6na

Purpose Metrics Matter
https://bit.ly/2EGLR3d

Threads of a New American Identity:
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/threads-new-american-identity-brandon-peele/?published=t

Why Doing Good Is Good for Your Design Business https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-doing-good-your-design-business-justin-ahrens

And for our kids
5 Reasons NOT to Find Your Purpose in Your 20’s:
https://medium.com/@brandonpeele/five-reasons-not-to-find-your-purpose-in-your-20s-7d42d33eaa4

Stay purpose-filled and pay it forward!

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Love,
Neville

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“There comes a time when the mind
takes a higher plane of knowledge
but can never prove how it got there”
Albert Einstein