This week:
“Replace your “foot on your throat” behavior and self-talk with a transformational “hand on your heart” approach characterized by kindness, self-compassion, understanding, patience, and support.”- Dr. Ken Druck
To learn more about How We Go On by my dear friend Dr. Ken Druck, scroll down to the bottom of this week’s post.
| The Most Expensive Cup of Coffee Ever was Worth It: My wife forgot to get milk for her morning cup of coffee. We were renting a house in the town where I grew up on Long Island, NY for a week and even on vacation I know she likes to have her coffee with milk to kick start her day. So, when I woke up at 7am, I decided I was going to be a super husband and drive to the grocery store and get her milk before going to the gym to workout. We were driving to Boston that morning and I wanted to workout before we left, so getting the milk was an inconvenience that altered my morning plans. While I’m in the checkout line buying the milk, I’m feeling pretty good about myself. I’m even telling myself, “She’s going to love this. She is going to wake up and walk to the fridge, see the new carton of milk and call me Saint Jon.” On my drive back to the house, I’m in such deep thought about how great of a husband I am 🙂 that I didn’t realize I was going over the speed limit. A few minutes later, flashing lights appeared in my rear-view mirror and a police officer pulled me over and gave me a ticket. He said I could pay a fine, take the points and watch my insurance cost increase or appear in traffic court. Appearing in court wasn’t an option since the court date was in December and I live in Florida, not NY. I drove away frustrated that I got a ticket, when I didn’t even think I was speeding. I was frustrated that this happened as the result of me trying to do something nice for my wife. Are you kidding me? No good deed goes unpunished, I thought. With the ticket, fine and insurance cost, it was going to be the most expensive milk I’ve ever bought, to create the most expensive cup of coffee ever. I honestly wasn’t being very positive. But then, I had a positive thought. As the pessimistic optimist I am, I thought this had to have happened for a reason. I don’t know why but I think it’s going to lead to something good. After delivering the priceless milk to my wife for her coffee, I drove to the gym to workout. While working out, a trainer and a woman he was training asked me if I was done with the bench I was using. I said I was and then asked them if they happened to know of a good traffic lawyer in the area because I just got a ticket and perhaps an attorney could appear in traffic court on my behalf. The conversation continued and I learned that the woman’s son had played lacrosse for my rival school and sadly, he passed away from cancer, just a few years ago while still in college. The woman was obviously distraught and cried as she talked about him and his faithful fight and incredible spirit. I was able to tell her and the trainer how I viewed death, dealt with the death of my parents, and shared thoughts and words that comforted her. She said she was looking for a sign and perhaps this was one. I told her it was definitely a sign because if I didn’t get the traffic ticket, I wouldn’t have asked them if they knew of an attorney, and we wouldn’t have had this meaningful conversation. She had felt the presence of her son recently and knew he didn’t want her to be angry and bitter anymore. We agreed this was a big initial step in her healing and moving forward. As I drove away from the gym, I was no longer angry about the ticket. I realized I had to get the ticket in order for this woman to begin healing. The most expensive cup of coffee ever, was worth it. I realized that we are all connected and sometimes we have to be inconvenienced and stressed for someone else to be blessed. I’ve decided that from now on, when something doesn’t work out the way I want it to, I’m going to choose to believe there’s a bigger reason, a bigger lesson and bigger blessing that’s on the way. Have a great week! Hard to Believe! |
Insane Command Performance of Woman and Dog:
Tansu YEĞEN on X: “Incredible performance https://t.co/o88X0sz4Tx” / X (twitter.com)
Extra Point Kick Sailing Into Open Window of Passing Car Is Best Thing You’ll See Today
A Texas high school player kicked an extra point out of play, and it landed perfectly through the window of a passing SUV.
Nebraska volleyball sets world record for women’s-sports attendance:
The crowd at Nebraska’s match against Omaha on Wednesday night at Memorial Stadium set a world record as the largest for a women’s sporting event.
Nebraska volleyball sets world record for women’s sports attendance – ESPN
A kid posed with his pilot dad in an airplane. Almost 30 years later they recreated this photo:
Southwest Captain Ruben Flowers recently flew his retirement flight with his son, First Officer Ruben Flowers, by his side. The two recreated a 1994 photo of the two of them in the cockpit in the process
A kid posed with his pilot dad in an airplane. Almost 30 years later they recreated the photo | CNN
Man risks his life to save a sheep after it became stuck on a cliff
Chris Oxlade-Arnott raced to help the animal on the cliff edge as the ocean’s tide began to rise.
Man risks his life to save a sheep after it became stuck on a cliff (ladbible.com)
Baby gorilla almost died before a zookeeper held him close
In many ways, raising a baby gorilla is very similar to nurturing human newborns, says Chad Staples, a father of four and the director of Mogo Wildlife Park, a small private zoo in the town of the same name on Australia’s southeastern coast.
Baby gorilla almost died before a zookeeper held him close. Now he has a new adoptive mom | CNN
Watch the precious, emotional moment this mama chimp and her baby are finally reunited
This baby chimp spent a night at the vet due to a snake bite. You can feel the relief and joy when he’s finally reunited with his mama.
The 9 Most Stunning Landscapes in the World Romantic, wild, and captivating, these colorful and surreal landscapes invite you to explore nine beautiful corners of the world Stunning Landscapes: The 9 Most Beautiful in the World | Architectural Digest If you are local and navigating a challenge or loss… From my dear brother Dr. Ken Druck: Warwick’s Event Details My dear friend, Dr. Ken Druck, will be hosting a book signing for his latest book, How We Go On: Self-Compassion, Courage, and Gratitude on the Path Forward, at one of our nation’s most treasured books stores, Warwick’s, on Wednesday, Oct 4th at 7:30p PT. The book offers practical advice on resilience, gratitude, and creating a lasting positive impact. It’s an inspiring roadmap for finding joy amidst adversity. Since seating is limited, please reserve your spot with Warwicks by calling (858) 454-8347 or going to https://www.warwicks.com/event/druck-2023 How we manage the defining “What now?” moments in our lives after a loss, change, challenge or opportunity defines what my dear friend, Ken Druck, calls “The Path Forward.” Ken’s new book, How We Go On: Self-Compassion, Courage and Gratitude on the Path Forward is truly “a beacon of light.” How We Go On was recently released in hard cover, paperback, e-book and audio book (read by Ken himself) versions. Replace your “foot on your throat” behavior and self-talk with a transformational “hand on your heart” approach characterized by kindness, self-compassion, understanding, patience, and support. This book is one I’ll keep on my nightstand or bookshelf and reference whenever I need a reminder on how to go on after losses and daily challenges. Readers’ Review 5 Star Rating + Review “A profound guide to navigating life’s challenges, from personal losses to everyday hurdles. Druck leads us into a personal examination of each stage of our lives from childhood, including our defining moments and the choices we have made along the way. Through his heartfelt story of facing inconceivable loss and pain, he shares valuable advice about finding peace and joy again after seasons of feeling lost and uncertain. The book offers practical advice on resilience, gratitude, and creating a lasting positive impact. How We Go On is a broad, incredible work with life-changing lessons about discovering joy when facing hardship. Highly recommended.” Thanks this week go to Larry H for that expensive cup and Ken D for always being a source of light and inspiration, helping people turn their stumbling blocks into stepping stones! Please pay it forward with your time, talent or treasure… Love, Neville Follow me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/NevilleB108 Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nbillimoria “Wonder is the beginning of wisdom.” Greek Proverb |
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