Soul Food for Friday, October 28

Happy Soul Food Friday!

Your soul is calling, are you listening?

Too busy to feed your soul?

Check your priorities…

How self-aware are you about your “divided brain”?

Here’s a wonderful RSAnimate talk about right brain/left brain roles: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=dFs9WO2B8uI#!

Thanks Rex!

Are you a member of the lost generation?

Find out here…

http://youtu.be/42E2fAWM6rA

Thanks
Allison!

Do you listen to your heart?

Watch this clip and it is inevitable…
http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=SkY03n0_sD8&vq=medium


Change your thoughts, change your life!

A Story…

It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking. 

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. 

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. 

His bed was next to the room’s only window. 

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. 

The men talked for hours on end. 

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.. 

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. 

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. 

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. 

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. 

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene. 

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by. 

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. 

Days, weeks and months passed. 

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. 

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. 

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could
be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after
making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. 

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.  He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. 

It faced a blank wall. 

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. 

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. 

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’ 

Epilogue: 

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. 

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. 

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy. 

‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present .’ 

The origin of this letter is unknown. 

Enjoy some local scenes and local flight of delight

http://www.parahawkusa.com/Home.html

Marvel at the wonder of animals?

Experience kittens for lunch with special thanks to Larry for the last four submissions…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ds_p52BTEsg

Pay it forward, you can’t take it with you!

Love,

Neville

Soul Food for Friday Oct 21st 2011: Philosophy, Creativity, Thanks and some Words of Wisdom from the Dalai Lama

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week’s submissions include a Thought Piece on Life, a European commercial that rewards Bravery and models Creativity, an opportunity to extend your thanks and invites others to do the same and some insights from the Dalai Lama to round out the week. Click the links below to view the content.

Philosophy for Old Age: A Thought Piece on Life

European Marketing: Rewarding Bravery

The 4th Annual Thank a Teacher campaign has launched, and this year we’ve gone green—thank you notes can now be submitted online. Click the link below to view the email that Mission Fed members received as a reminder to show appreciation to the teachers that do so much in their mission to educate.

I’m Thankful for My Teacher Because…

To your Well-being…

Love,

Neville

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”– Albert Einstein

Soul Food for Friday Oct 14th 2011: Dollars for Scholars, America’s Changing Job Landscape, Fighting like Cats and Dogs & Wisdom Heart

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This Wednesday I experienced a San Diego educational community double header, first representing Mission Fed at the Dollars for Scholars Scholarship Showcase Reception, which was immediately followed by a UCSD Social Sciences event entitled, “America’s Changing Job Landscape: How Regions Are Reinventing Themselves.”

Dollars for Scholars

First, if you are not familiar with Dollars for Scholars, you must check them out! It is a nationwide program that provides educational scholarships for disadvantaged youth often in foster care or the juvenile court system. It is comprised of  nearly 1,100 locally based, volunteer-driven chapters serving students in nearly 3,500 communities across the country. Last year they raised $42 Million and impacted 41,000 kids in the USA.

More than $2.5 billion have been distributed to more than 1.7 million students through Scholarship America programs since 1958. 

Since 1995, our colleague at Mission Fed, Maurice Chambers has been the treasurer of one of the many local chapters-The San Diego Court Schools Scholarshi,p Foundation, aka Dollars for Scholars, which was created in 1986 to provide scholarships for Juvenile Court and Community Schools (JCCS) students that since their founding in 1986 have distributed an estimated 1,700 scholarships totaling $500,000 to deserving youth. 

We have been supporting them for decades and hearing the stories of the adversity these young people withstand to press on to become some of the first in their families to get to college, often becoming donors or mentors to this very same program for the next generation of kids are downright inspiring!

Wednesday we got to hear from scholarship recipients Sue Fang, Sherry and Andrea that because of Dollars for Scholars are able to go to USD, UCSD and SDSU respectively thanks to the mentorship and scholarship of this organization that does hugely important work right here in our community. The multi-purpose room in the Student Center at UCSD, where the event was held has banners featuring the likes of Einstein, Fulbright, Eleanor Roosevelt, Earl Warren, Thurgood Marshall, Roger Revelle and John Muir. But Wednesday it was Sue, Sherry and Andrea that were the most profound and poignant voices to be heard bringing clarity and definition to “multi” PURPOSE. Thanks to all the individuals and organizations that mentor and financially support this fine group of kids and the outstanding financial aid counseling they get to not go into massive student loan debt-currently over $1 Trillion and collectively higher than credit card debt in this country! 

Ok so once you have defied the odds and earned that college degree, what do you do with it in today’s economic climate? 

America’s Changing Job Landscape

“America’s Changing Job Landscape: How Regions Are Reinventing Themselves” featured thought leader Mary L. Walshok, PhD with a hard-hitting look at where America’s employment growth will come from, and how we can stimulate the growth our economy sorely needs. Dr. Walshok took us down an intellectually honest journey of the anomalies, paradoxes, contradictions and disconnects between higher education and effective workforce preparation.

Here are some sobering facts:

  • 3.2 million jobs are currently unfilled, even though 14 million people are looking for work.
  • 43% of college enrollees still do not have a degree after 6 years of training.
  • 90% of the new jobs created in this country are in companies that are 5 years old or less.
  • 50% of the companies on the Fortune 500 list were not on that list 30 years ago.
  • 33% of the 47 million jobs we expect to create over the next decade will require a bachelor’s degree and 30% will require a community college or skills certification degree. 

Clearly, there is a mismatch between where jobs are being created, the skills and credentialing that are required, and our current investments in education and training. Sadly, the United States spends less on workforce training than most industrialized countries and values it less!

Here are some realities and limitations of our current public educational system with far reaching consequences if we really want to be competitive on the world stage:

  • No foreign language and global skills requirements.
  • No meaningful work experience.
  • No project-based learning.
  • Rewards individual performance – not team work.
  • Absence of advisors/mentors in either the faculty or
    among practitioners.
  • Disconnect between those who teach and train and those
    who employ and develop.
  • Life-long learning valued only as a source of income,
    not as an educational commitment. 

To equip your 21st century learner, make sure you offset these limitations… 

In her new book with Henry Devries, “Closing America’s Job Gap” Dr. Walshok provides much needed answers after visiting communities all across America in her current research, funded by the U.S. Department of Labor, NSF and private foundations. Dr. Walshok, an industrial sociologist has been inspired and in turn inspires others to explore and learn from the way regions are reinventing themselves: creating pockets of innovation and economic transformation, often in unexpected places. Mary Walshok is associate vice chancellor for public programs and dean of Extension at the UC San Diego (which does provide effective work force training by the way) as well as an Adjunct Professor in the Department of Sociology.  

Tired of our politicians fighting like “cats and dogs”?

I think that is an insult to the animals!

We sometimes denigrate animals with expressions such as fighting like cats and dogs. This next clip makes us reconsider who are the real animals and what are virtues we might want to emulate: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ofpYRITtLSg

 If only I was the person my dog thinks I am… 

In need of a soul food power bar?

My friend and professional colleague Eric Klein has a new (free) eBook- 50 Ways to Leave Your Karma: Freedom, Fear, and the Art of Getting Unstuck.

In 50 short chapters, Eric charms you with practical applications of ancient wisdom practices tailored to everyday life. The integration of personal stories with the latest neuroscience makes this an enjoyable and informative read. And Eric illustrates each point with a quirky dharma doodle that adds a humorous flair.  

This is an e-book so the author also provides links to personal practice that deepen ones understanding.

 You can get a free copy of 50 Ways to Leave Your Karma at:

www.wisdomheart.org/50Ways 

Many of you have heard me talk about paying attention to the all Green Lights in your life, as we tend to take those for granted but are hyper-critical of the Red ones.

Here is a sample chapter in which Eric reminds us to pay attention to the Yellow Lights in our lives as they have something to teach us too… 

How slowing down helps you move faster 

I was riding shotgun – sitting in the passenger seat. Aaron, my 20-year-old son, was driving. He picked me up at the airport and we were now weaving in and out of the afternoon traffic.  

Up ahead, the traffic light went from green to yellow. Aaron gunned the engine and I let out a yelp. 

To me a yellow light means slow down and get ready to stop.

To Aaron a yellow light means speed up and make it through the intersectionbefore you have to stop. We both recognize yellow lights as a warning. But this warning triggers very different behaviors for each of us. 

Yellow lights aren’t only encountered while driving around town. Yellow lights are part of every conversation you have at work and at home. 

Every conversation you have is dotted with conversational yellow lights.

Conversational yellow lights are warnings – signals that the person you’re talking to is:

  • Not following your reasoning
  • Not accepting your assumptions
  • Not understanding your point of view
  • Not connecting with your message 

How can you tell if you’re approaching a conversational yellow light?

Whenever the person you’re talking to:

  • Disagrees with your opinion
  • Expresses doubt or concern
  • Asks a challenging question
  • Voices an idea that you don’t agree with
  • Sends non-verbal signals of confusion, discomfort, disagreement, or disinterest 

These are all signs that they’re out of synch with what you’re saying. You’re not influencing them in the direction you’re intending.You’re not connecting with them. They’re flashing a conversational yellow light. How you interpret their yellow light will determine what you do next. 

Many people interpret a conversational yellow light as a signal to speed up.

They see the yellow light as a threat to their agenda. They
want to move forward, not lose momentum. They believe that slowing down the
conversation will cause them to lose ground. So when a conversational yellow
light flashes, they:

  • Talk more
  • Argue harder
  • Go into detail
  • Provide more evidence
  • Show more charts and graphs 

They do this because they’re afraid of yellow lights and they recognize that they’re out of synch with the other person. So they try harder and talk more in an attempt to accelerate through the yellow light. 

But here’s the problem. Whenever you blow past a conversational yellow light, you miss the opportunity to make a stronger connection with the other person, understand them better, and have the outcome you want for your conversation. 

When you hit a conversational yellow light – slow down.

Every conversational yellow light is a gift. Every doubt, concern, objection, or question that the other person expresses is a gift. By flashing a conversational yellow light, the other person reveals exactly where they’re stuck, uncertain, and how you’ve lost them.  

Their questions and disagreements tell you precisely what matters most to them.

Their non-verbal signals of confusion, discomfort, disagreement, or disinterest, highlight exactly what you need to understand them more completely.  

When people flash yellow lights, they’re telling you to slow down and shift from being convincing to being curious. When you’re curious, you naturally slow down to learn, investigate, and pay attention. 

A great way to slow down is to ask questions.

Show your interest, respect, and care for the other person by asking questions. And take your time. Ask real questions – questions that you don’t know the answer to. Take more time than feels “natural.” 

The more you slow down and ask questions, the more clearly, precisely, and deeply you’ll be able to address their doubts, concerns, and confusion. Shift your attention from making your point to exploring and understanding their doubts, concerns, and objections. 

Next, time you’re driving your agenda forward – pay attention to those yellow lights.

When you see one, put your foot on the brake, not in your mouth. Slow the conversation down, listen more than talk, ask questions, and deepen your connection with the other person. When you slow down, you’ll reach your destination much more quickly. 

Take a risk, change your life and pay it forward!

Love,
Neville

Soul Food Friday for Oct 7th 2011

Soul Food Friday for Oct 7th 2011. This week: Jobs (heavy), Leadership (light), The Power of Words (inspirational), What do Teachers Make (profound) and Animal Thoughts (downright silly)

On Jobs:

It is hard not be struck by the passing of Steve Jobs this week. Six years ago, Jobs had talked about how a sense of his mortality was a major driver. “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life,” Jobs said during a Stanford commencement ceremony in 2005.”Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”

“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

His thoughts on life… “Your time is limited,” he said, “so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”

His success, he said, was a labor of love. Here is the link to Steve Jobs on His Life, Career and Illness: ‘Find What You Love’ Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish- Don’t Settle

http://finance.yahoo.com/blogs/daily-ticker/steve-jobs-life-career-illness-love-001119381.html

On Leadership:

Leadership is a choice not a position

A powerful rule of human behavior is when two or more people come together, the one(s) more committed to their state of mind, will influence the others.

Tired of the doom and gloom in the media? Click this link for a little sunshine and a smile (give it a few seconds to load)

20 Words to Change your Life:

Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me is flat untrue!
Words are powerful instruments for good or ill.
Here the combination of Words, Quotes, Pictures and Music makes for some inspiration

What Do Teachers Make?

Wednesday Oct 5th was World Teacher’s Day.
This link gets right to the heart of what teachers make and do!

Animal thoughts:
Some fun to start off your weekend…(click on the first image to enlarge it, and then scroll through)

Pay it forward!
Love,
Neville

PS. Special thanks to Billy Jack, Paul, Niki and Barbara for this week’s submissions!

Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected. – Steve Jobs

I want to put a ding in the universe. – Steve Jobs
You did Steve, you did…